Marriage is a beautiful journey—but let’s be real, it’s not always easy. It’s not just about the big wedding day or picture-perfect moments. It’s about the everyday choices—the small acts of love, patience, and grace that keep you connected.
Here’s some heartfelt advice for married couples, from one journeying soul to another:
1. Talk… Really Talk
Don’t just talk about the kids or bills. Talk about how you’re really doing. Share your heart, your dreams, your worries. Open communication is like fresh air—it keeps your marriage alive.
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt…” – Colossians 4:6
2. Be Kind, Even on Hard Days
We all have those days where we’re tired or stressed. But remember—your spouse is not the enemy. A kind word or small act of love can soften even the hardest moments.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
3. Say ‘I’m Sorry’ and Mean It
We mess up. We say the wrong thing. We forget to listen. That’s life. But owning your mistakes and choosing to make things right is what keeps the foundation strong.
“Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” – James 5:16
4. Make Time for Just the Two of You
Life gets busy—kids, work, ministry, responsibilities. But your marriage needs attention. Steal those little moments. A quick coffee, a walk after dinner, a chat before bed—it matters.
“There is a time for everything… a time to embrace.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1, 5
5. Pray Together
Prayer keeps you both grounded. It’s not about being super spiritual; it’s about inviting God into your marriage. Even if it’s just a short prayer before sleep, it creates unity.
“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” – Matthew 18:20
6. Stop Comparing Your Marriage to Others
No two marriages are the same. What works for your friend may not work for you. And that’s okay. Focus on your own love story.
“Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else.” – Galatians 6:4
7. Don’t Forget to Laugh
Laughter is medicine. It breaks tension and brings joy. Dance in the living room, make silly jokes, remember your inside stories—these things matter more than we realize.
“A cheerful heart is good medicine…” – Proverbs 17:22
Marriage isn’t about perfection. It’s about two people choosing to love, forgive, and grow—every single day. With God in the center and love as your anchor, you’ll keep weathering the storms and celebrating the sunshine.
Keep choosing love. Keep choosing each other. Take it one day at a time.
There are a few things that add spice into your marriage. Apart from praying and doing all the spiritual aspects, the things you do physically matters too.
We need to remind ourselves of some of these things. They are so simple; in fact, some of us vowed to do these things while single, but life happens to us, and then we get overcome by events.
There is no way you can start doing these things and stay committed to doing them that your marriage will not be better and grow intimately.
Let’s take a look at some of those things.
1. Take time to touch daily
a. Hugs – aim at 3-4 hugs per day for atleast 20sec
b. Hold hands for at least 10 mins per day
c. Cuddles – at least 30 mins everyday
d. Massage – at least 10-15 min per day
e. Intimate touch – kissing, caressing & lovemaking.
Physical touch reduces stress and anxiety. Oxytocin release hormones of bonding. It promotes feelings of attachment, closeness & bonding
2. Find something to laugh about daily
a. Schedule laughing time – Set aside time to see a movie
b. Find the humor, laugh at yourself
c. Be playful – playful activities & games that bring laughter & joy in your relationship
d. Share funny stories: funny stories about your past.
These tips are simple yet practical and profound.
God bless our marriages in Jesus’ mighty name, amen.
Today’s devotional is not only targeted at educating men but also at helping women know what types of men to avoid.
There are three kinds of men.
1. The Hunters
2. The Predators
3. The farmers
Married couples can also greatly benefit from this article because they can work towards being a better version of themselves.
For the singles, it becomes a guiding light to recognize and be able to know guys who are wolves in sheep’s clothing and to be able to avoid them.
Let’s dive into it.
1. The Hunters:
These are guys who recognize the good virtues in ladies, they have high taste and only desire the best of the ladies. They are very strategic and skillful. They usually don’t give up until they get their target.
It will interest you to know that this is the nature of all men whether single or married.
Married women should be careful of such married men who go about chasing married women. Please honor your marriage vows, and give them no attention.
These men are very skillful, looking for ways to warm their ways into undiscerning women’s hearts. They want to eventually use such women for their own selfish interests or gains. To satisfy their rush of adrenaline or for financial benefits. They are in the habit of leading ladies on, only to eventually marry someone else or marry them to brag about their conquest.
2. The Predators
These guys prey on their targets, which are usually weak ladies. These ladies may be financially strong but emotionally weak or vulnerable.
They are also very skillful and strategic in their approach. They are the sweet or sugar-coated talkers.
They have no interest in helping the weak but have an interest in preying on them. They usually leave their victims worse off. Their relationship most often ends in tears. Such guys move on to other ladies after they feel they have succeeded in milking their victims.
Ladies, whether married or Singles must stay clear of such guys. To avoid stories that touch the heart.
3. The farmers
These are the nurturers. They nurture the ladies they come in contact with. Their focus is to bring out the best in them. They are usually helpers with no ulterior motives. They are patient until they have nurtured the lady to a remarkable stage.
These guys never leave any lady the same way they meet them. The ladies are better, stronger, more emotionally stronger, richer, more spiritually mature, more knowledgeable, wise,r and better in every aspect of their lives.
Every woman or lady needs a ‘farmer’ in their life, one who will nurture God’s gifts in them. God desires every man to be a ‘farmer’ to His daughters. Jesus brought healing to every woman he had contact with and left them better than he met them.
Every man must pray to possess the qualities of a ‘Farmer’.
Beauty and the Beast is a timeless fairy tale that explores themes of love, transformation, and inner beauty. The story follows a young woman named Beauty, who sacrifices her freedom to live in a mysterious castle to save her father from the wrath of a fearsome Beast. Although his appearance is terrifying, Beauty discovers the kindness and sorrow hidden beneath the Beast’s exterior. Through their growing bond, she learns to see beyond his outward form and recognizes the goodness within him. Her love ultimately breaks the curse, transforming the Beast back into a handsome prince.
This heartwarming tale reminds us that true beauty lies not in outward appearances but in the heart.
This story holds profound meaning when applied to our individual lives. Within each of us resides both a “beauty” and a “beast.” The “beauty” represents our spirit—the godly, virtuous nature that reflects the image and likeness of God. It is this divine essence that empowers us to act with love, kindness, forgiveness, and selflessness.
On the other hand, the “beast” symbolizes our flesh—the part of us prone to selfishness, anger, envy, jealousy, unforgiveness, and indulgence. These vices seek to dominate and control us if left unchecked.
The key to personal transformation lies in nurturing the “beauty” within us while weakening the influence of the “beast.” As we strengthen our spiritual nature through prayer, faith, and walking in alignment with God’s Word, we become better versions of ourselves.
Galatians 5:25 (KJV) “If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.”
By yielding to the Spirit, we resist the desires of the flesh and cultivate virtues such as love, joy, peace, patience, and kindness.
Ultimately, there is a “beauty” inside all of us waiting to shine. The more we nurture it, the weaker the “beast” becomes.
Let us embrace the transformative power of love and choose to walk in the Spirit, unlocking the full potential of who God created us to be.
This is one of the most important lessons anyone can learn in life, relationships, and marriage.
Deuteronomy 30:19 [KJV] I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:
Our text today tells us we can choose life. In order to live and enjoy life, we have to choose our lives. We must exercise our power of choice.
For many years, I was led by my feelings and emotions. I must admit I was a very slow learner. Thank God He never gave up on me. I allowed my feelings to direct my moods, feelings, thoughts, actions, and inactions.
This got me into a lot of trouble—troubles I could have avoided. If someone hurt me, my day was literally ruined. I wasted years on this roller coaster of emotions. It was as though I was stuck.
I was where the devil wanted me. A place where my emotions were in control. I didn’t know how to allow my spirit and the word of God to control my life. If I woke up feeling bad or down, my whole day was going to be bad. How many opportunities have we allowed to slip by as a result of not managing our emotions?
But thank God, our God is a restorer. He will restore the year that the caterpillar has eaten and destroyed. We can be in control and in charge of our emotions and say No to the voice of our feelings.
Let the Word of God dwell in you richly. Choose to live above your feelings. When you choose to obey God rather than your feelings, your feelings will catch up with your decisions and eventually line up. As you do this, you will begin to experience the quality of life God has for you.
As women, the fact that we are emotional beings doesn’t mean we should be controlled by our emotions. People can hurt you with their words and actions, but move past it. Forgive, forget, and love on. You get better off for doing this.
Am I saying you will not be hurt? On the contrary, move past it with the help of the Holy Spirit and be in control. Tell yourself you are in charge here.
Experience a richer life by not living by the dictates of your flesh and feelings.
