One of your roles as a wife is to take care of your husband. In some parts of the country, young ladies preparing for marriage are often taught some of these skills. Others watch their mothers or older women as they perform this all important role of taking care of their husbands.
You can become a wife a moment you sign the wedding register. It takes a minute to earn the title of ‘Mrs’, the moment you sign the dotted line and say ‘I do’. But to function as a wife requires knowledge and skills.
This skill of taking care of one’s husband is fast becoming obsolete. Wives, no longer see it as a priority and responsibility. Our present society is not helping matters. Husbands are left in the hands of maids to take care of while the wives go on in pursuit of their careers.
Some wives don’t know how to take care of their husbands. Meanwhile, taking care of your husband is the key to marital bliss. When you treat your husband like a king, he reciprocates back treating you like his queen. It is honor to take good care of your husband and there are blessings attached to it.
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You take care of your husband in the following ways:
1. Cook him variety of dishes I know most wives are working class women who probably have maids. You can supervise what the maid cooks for him.
2. Serve his food Some wives are not even there to see to what their husband is eating. There is a lot of power in food. And she who feeds your husband is important.
3. Serve him in any and every aspect he requires Be there to assist your husband. Treat him as a king, there are some things you don’t just allow your husband do. Not because he is handicapped, but because you want to show him honor
4. Be involved in what he does Part of being an help meet is showing interest in whatever your husband does. Be it business, career etc. Ask questions about what you don’t know.
5. Be his friend and emotional ally There is nothing a man needs more than a friend. Someone to gist with. Be that friend
6. Meet his sexual needs Jeru trip for your husband is very important. Don’t leave that aspect of your duty unattended to. Satisfy his needs as often as he requires it. Your role is not complete until this aspect is fulfilled.
7. Pray for your husband When you pray for him him you engage the power of divinity to step in, in areas where your humanity can’t reach. You can pray for his protection, provision and whatever he may be dealing with.
If wives can try and fulfill all these, there will be less quarrel in homes and marriages.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive Godly wisdom
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me by your Holy Spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 14:1 (KJV) Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
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Sometimes, husbands want to please or do things that their wives enjoy. They experience frustration in trying to make them happy, especially since their wives are emotional beings.
One moment they are happy, the other moment they are not so happy. Since their emotions are not stable, it becomes difficult for the husbands to know how to meet them at their point of need.
I think there are three areas or ways that any time, a woman will always find enjoyable. A man has to be patient with his wife. An impatient husband will always be seen as a not too caring husband.
If every husband can do these three things there will always be smiles and peace in the marriage.
1. Be Understanding 2. Be tender 3. Buy her things.
1. Be understanding The man is the head and so makes a lot of decisions. A woman does certain things and may not think of the consequences, maybe because she is emotional. The logic of the husband usually corrects all these.
But in correcting, he should try and not be hard. He will be tempted to be hard and harsh in correcting her. But if you don’t yield to temptation it will be good.
There is always gratefulness that every wife expresses to an understanding husband.
It is understanding that makes a husband not flare up and get angry at every provocation. It is understanding that makes a husband read in between the lines and put himself in her shoes.
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2. Be tender Most men are by nature wired to be leaders and could be hard. But for the sake of peace in the home may choose to lead lovingly.
The password of any woman is always being tender to her. The woman does not need the tenderness of any other man but that of her own husband.
The husband must know that he has a responsibility to always meet this need of being tender. Your wife enjoys this more than giving her a million dollars.
3. Buy her gifts There is a chord inside every woman that buying gifts touches. Ladies are known to like anything shiny. A woman can never have enough gifts, there is always room for more.
The gift doesn’t have to be big or expensive. It is the gesture of being remembered and spending money to buy her stuff that matters.
The gifts should be consistent, not once in a while. Some husbands think when they buy her gifts often, she takes them for granted. Not true at all.
How often do you want your wife happy? If your answer is often, then buy her gifts often. Gifts mean taking her out sometimes. Spending time with her and just taking care of her.
Spend your money on her. Don’t be afraid to spend on your wife, God will provide. It is said that when you want to spoil your wife, God will always provide the money.
First, let it be in your heart to do and God will put it in your hands.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not confused.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that every doubt will be destroyed
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Php 4:7, MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY 2 Chronicles 6-7; Psalm 136
The opposite will always attract in marriage. You fell in love with your spouse because he/she is different from you. This is so not to encourage disagreement but to bring a different viewpoint into your covenant relationship.
Your love should move from being emotional to being intentional. This is where commitment, maturity, and understanding come to play.
You don’t do marriage because of feelings, you do because of commitment and respect to God who instituted marriage
Emotional love is when you have butterflies in your belly. When your spouse is so nice, loving, caring and he/she is just dope. No faults. No flaws. Everything is just right about them.
But you move to a point of maturity when even though you don’t feel loving towards your spouse because of what they have done or what they have not done, you are intentional and committed to doing those things that keep the love alive.
You don’t kill the embers of the fire of love. You keep on servicing love. Serving and maintenance is an important part of anything we hold dear and anything of value to us that we use.
We maintain our cars, clean up and repair things in our houses so also we should be ready to service our marriage.
Just because things are broken in your car or house doesn’t mean you throw them away. You are committed to spending your money and time fixing whatever needs to be fixed.
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Remember, marriage is till death do us part. You are not going anywhere. You stick with it until you have a breakthrough.
Don’t wait till everything breaks downtown beyond repairs. Just like you don’t wait till your four tyres are flat before repairing and changing them
May God grant us more understanding in Jesus mighty name.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am intentional about my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me wisdom
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NIV)Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a logical conversation with your spouse
Not all homes are Christian homes. They may be born again, tongue-talking, and even bible reading believers. To have a Christian home depicts Christ as the head of the home, being at the center of it all, where He is the head of all decisions.
What does it mean to be the head? It is not just a positional title, it is a functional post.
The head talks about leadership. All other parts look up to it for their roles or actions to take. The head is the seat of power, of sight, thinking, hearing, smelling, mastication, of decision making, and of processing all thoughts for action.
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If Jesus is truly the head of your home, then follow these commandments
1. Thou shall not make any decisions outside of his help concerning any issue in the family without consulting him.
2. Thou shall follow the order in the home hierarchy. That is Christ, the husband, the wife, and the children. At no time should you have to usurp authority.
3. Each member of the family should focus on doing their own part of the deal.
4. Everyone, including the father, shall honor Jesus Christ as the head of the family,
5. All unforgiving spirit, malice, strife, selfishness, unruly behavior, should be completely eradicated from the home.
6. Children are to be completely obedient and well-behaved to their parents.
7. Parents are to be well-understanding to their children.
8. Wives should submit to their own husbands as their head and do what they approve.
God bless your homes
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will honour my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Teach me, Lord, to honour my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 121:2 (KJV) My help cometh from the LORD, which made heaven and earth.
1. Take Care Of Her Needs A lady has many needs; material, emotional and spiritual
Love to a lady is spelled being there for her at such times of need. As a guy who loves her genuinely, you should show empathy for her needs.
Definitely, you will not be expected to meet all her needs especially since you are not her Jehovah Jireh.
However, the husband is expected to show concern and encourage her in those times of need. Don’t just ignore her needs and pretend as if those needs are not important.
Let her know that her needs are important. Let her feel well taken care of. One of the distractions and deception the devil uses for ladies is to make them feel that some other guy can take care of them better.
As a man, don’t let the devil have the opportunity of deceiving her, take care of her well.
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2. Speak Into Her Life Words for a woman are very important. More so, words from her head, her priest, and her crown. Speak kind words to her.
Never lash at her with your words. Never hurt or wound her with your words. Such words go deep into her heart, causing deep emotional pains.
A lady can never be all she has the potential to become if all she hears from her husband are downgrading words. Take up the role of a high priest in her life.
Keep speaking God’s word over her life. The lady is like a vine, which initially looks weak and has to coil around a wall or stake but later develops deep roots and branches and becomes very strong.
3. Listen To Her There is no real love until you pay attention to her when she speaks.
The only way you can truly know a person is to listen when they speak. It’s from their words you understand how they reason, their opinions, and their viewpoints on issues
When your wife talks and you give her undivided attention, you are telling her she is important enough to listen to, that you value what she has to say so much, you want to listen, that she is intelligent enough in her conversation, you want to listen.
What you don’t understand is that when you treat your wife as though she is not intelligent, she notices, it affects her esteem and she begins to believe she is not intelligent and begins to act out what she believes.
May God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my fiance/fiancee with God’s love
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me and teach me how to love and understand my loved one
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 5:18 (MSG) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!
