The cornerstone of any enduring relationship is a strong foundation with God. He provides the stability and strength needed to weather life’s challenges.
2. Wisdom in Relationships
Wisdom is essential in every aspect of life, including relationships. Seek wisdom from God’s word, as it holds the key to understanding and sustaining healthy relationships.
3. Timing Matters
Timing is Crucial. Don’t rush into a relationship too hastily. Premature relationships often lead to premature endings. Exercise patience and wait for the right time.
4. Preparation is Key
Let God Prepare You. God often uses experiences and people with similar temperaments of your spouse to prepare you for the relationship you desire. Allow Him to guide you through this preparatory journey.
5. Foundational Values
Respect and Submission are Fundamental Respect, honor, and submission are non-negotiable components of a successful marriage. Embrace these values to nurture a lasting bond with your partner.
If you are not ready to love your wife unconditionally, you are not ready for marriage
If you are not ready to submit and honour him as you head, you are also not ready for marriage.
Rather than attempting to change your partner, focus on being an influential and positive force in their life. Transformation happens through influence, not coercion.
7. The Power of Prayer
Harness the Strength of Prayer. Prayer is vital in maintaining a healthy relationship. Don’t wait for crises to pray; build a foundation of prayer to navigate challenges together.
8. Sacrifices for Love
There has to be a Willingness to Make Sacrifices. Relationships often require sacrifices, both big and small. Be prepared to make these sacrifices to strengthen your bond with your partner.
9. Be Teachable and Meek
Embrace a Teachable Spirit. Approach your relationship with humility and a desire to learn. Recognize that you don’t have all the answers, and God places you in relationships to grow and learn.
10. The Role of Leadership
Understanding Your Partner’s Headship
Comprehend the role of your husband as the head of the relationship. This understanding is key to respecting and nurturing the relationship.
Eph 5:23 (KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
An Abusive Partner is more difficult to deal with in marriage than in courtship. In courtship, there is no legal binding of any sort and that means you can exit at will.
However, it is not so easy in marriage as there is legal bidding, a joining of bodies and the soul, a joining of families, and children born are also involved.
There are various types of abuse in marriage and abuse is at different levels. An abusive partner manipulates his/ her partner to gain control and oppress them.
There are different forms of abuse. There are different forms of emotional abuse like stonewalling, silent treatment, withdrawing love and affection, stalking, financial abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, using sensitive information or secrets to manipulate, blame shift, and the list goes on.
If you have an abusive partner you want to prioritize your safety and mental health. Whatever you do make sure you are not sucked into depression and other health issues as a result of your partner’s behaviour. You want to develop a coping mechanism while a lasting workable solution is being sorted out.
Since you are already married and joined together by covenant, I believe the first option is not to seek divorce but to seek a solution, unless your life is threatened.
You may find some of these tips helpful and applicable to your particular situation.
What if My Spouse Is Abusive?
1. Try to find out and understand why he/she is being abusive. Research through books to find out. Is it pressure, background, character flaws, or mental illness?
2. You want to seek God for wisdom and understanding through prayers and not complaining.
3. You want to develop a mechanism that will make you stronger than his/her abuses. Be strong in your spirit by being joyful and happy, and be financially independent. Let them know that you refuse to be abused.
4. Find a support group or system, for emotional support and know your right.
5. Talk to a counselor, a therapist, or a mentor, someone they respect and can listen to.
6. You want to be sure you are not doing things that will aggravate the situation
7. You want to change your perspective about the situation, that your partner needs help and you are being compassionate rather than being judgemental.
Like I said earlier in all these, your safety comes first. You might have to report to law enforcement agencies if physical abuse and threat to your life is involved.
But essentially, it’s no longer about you alone, it’s now the two of you!
Are You Single Or Married?
2. You must be responsible
Marriage life requires responsibility. It’s a life of being responsible.
You don’t live for yourself alone. You think about your spouse and your family’s well-being.
You think and carry the thoughts of your family everywhere you go.
That will inform your decision at the time. You don’t just wake up one morning and decide to travel for three weeks.
Your life as a married man or woman must reflect responsibility in all areas.
That’s why society frowns at it if a married woman or man dresses seductively because that is not expected of him/her. A married person is expected to be responsible.
God bless you this morning! Have a fantastic day ahead!
Marriage is a lifelong journey and you want to be sure you travel light.
You don’t want to carry unnecessary baggage that will make your journey strenuous and unpleasant.
There are stuff that are anti-blissful marriage.
Someone once said if you want to travel by flight you go light.
That is why your luggage is weighed at the airport before you board the plane.
If the purpose of God for your marriage and home is going to be accomplished, you must decide to let go of certain habits or mindsets.
They may not necessarily be sins but the Bible talks about laying aside the weight that easily beset us.
Heb 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.
Your marriage is the race set before you and you must be prepared to run it with patience. You will not make a shipwreck of your marriage in Jesus’ name.
There are so many things you can do to make your marriage blissful and happy.
But like Jesus told Martha that faithful afternoon, ” One thing is needed and Mary has chosen it and it will not be taken from her.
Luk 10:41-42 (KJV) And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: [42] But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.
Here is God asking you whether you are willing to do what it takes for your marriage to be what it ought to be.
What He will be asking you to do may be different from what He is asking me to do.
We will all be required to do different things at different times.
