In simple terms, capacity building simply means developing your skills and abilities to improve your performance and productivity.
This can be applied to your work or career where you aspire to become a better person.
This can also be applied to your relationship and or marriage where you want to become a better spouse to your loved one.
Building Capacity As Singles and Couples
Now, developing or building capacity can be done in a variety of ways which include sharpening yourself, going back to school, self-study and self-development, and so on.
For example, you can build the capacity to be a better husband or wife by giving yourself to study and research on how to become better and following through on what you learn.
Now, the major question is usually knowing what to do but never doing it for one reason or the other.
You know you should give yourself to self-study but the whole year is almost gone and you can’t point to one book that you have read successfully!
Your diary is filled with all kinds of instructions and wisdom, which you have never put to use. You listen to messages day after day but never have enough impetus to act on what is there!
Building Capacity As Singles and Couples
What is the thing to do? Here it is
Eph 3:14-16 (MSG) My response is to get down on my knees before the Father, [15] this magnificent Father who parcels out all heaven and earth. [16] I ask him to strengthen you by his Spirit—not a brute strength but a glorious inner strength—
You need to ask for strength in your inner man so that you can do the things you have always known you should do, but you are not doing!
I love the word Amplified Bible used
Eph 3:16 (AMPC) May He grant you out of the rich treasury of His glory to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power in the inner man by the [Holy] Spirit [Himself indwelling your innermost being and personality].
You need to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power!
A power that will go deep into your innermost being and personality, alter lazy attitudes, and give you strength to do what needs to be done!
I pray for you, to receive strength in your inner man in Jesus’ name!
Yesterday, while in church, I was getting ready to mount the pulpit when I was led to these verses and it was a spur-of-the-moment revelation. I would like to share this with you this morning. You are going to be blessed!
We have been looking at gratitude and this word only comes to validate it more.
Let’s dive into the river of God’s word!
2Ch 32:24 (MSG) Some time later Hezekiah became deathly sick. He prayed to GOD and was given a reassuring sign.
So this guy was sick and the doctor must have told him he would die. He prayed and God came through for him.
Now see the next verse.
2Ch 32:25 (MSG) But the sign, instead of making Hezekiah grateful, made him arrogant. This made GOD angry, and his anger spilled over on Judah and Jerusalem.
After God reassured him he wouldn’t die, he wasn’t grateful! Rather he was filled with arrogance. He never gave glory to God!
This made God angry towards him and the entire cities he presided over.
How many of us are right on this table, not giving glory to God, prayed for a job and after getting the job, refused to pay tithe, prayed for a spouse, and after the wedding, asking God what kind of marriage the is?
But I like what Hezekiah did.
2Ch 32:26 (MSG) But then Hezekiah, and Jerusalem with him, repented of his arrogance, and GOD withdrew his anger while Hezekiah lived.
God wasn’t pleased at his arrogance! But the guy was smart. He repented and you can do the same. Recent of arrogance and ascribe all gratefulness to God! I wonder what would have happened to him if God didn’t withdraw His anger.
Done Deal: He Will See To It
The next verse will amaze you!
2Ch 32:27 (MSG) Hezekiah ended up very wealthy and much honored. He built treasuries for all his silver, gold, precious stones, spices, shields, and valuables,
Wow! The devil didn’t want this for him when he made him arrogant!
As you give honour to God, you will end up wealthy!
And then check this:
2Ch 32:29 (MSG) He founded royal cities for himself and built up huge stocks of sheep and cattle. God saw to it that he was extravagantly rich.
He found cities! Wow! But that is not even what is tripping me! It’s the last sentence!
God saw to it that he was extravagantly rich.
This morning, as you decide to be grateful always, God will SEE TO IT that you are extravagantly rich!
This message is so vast and deep. Meditate on it. Good morning!
Every woman, regardless of her spiritual inclinations, has certain expectations from her partner. Today, we’ll explore a few of them.
She seeks a companion who knows how to play. Within every woman, there resides an inner child yearning for playful interactions with her partner. In every lady, there is a little girl who always wants to play with the little boy in her lover. In your relationship, remember to engage in playtime. Don’t be overly serious all the time; make her laugh, play games, and enjoy movies together.
She craves a mentor, not a lecturer. Every woman desires guidance rather than lectures. There’s a vast difference between the two. Avoid lecturing or sermonizing her; you’re not her teacher or pastor. Don’t quote scriptures angrily at her, it doesn’t work that way. Instead, mentor her with compassion, as it’s more effective and impactful.
What Every Woman Desires in Her Partner
She values honesty. Honesty is a cornerstone of trust in any relationship. Be truthful, as dishonesty can lead to cheating and heartache. It is the same heart that tells lies that will cheat. With truthfulness, you know you are on safe grounds. Commit to always being honest, as a truthful partner contributes to a truthful family. If he is an impulsive liar, don’t walk down the aisle with him.
She wants the freedom to express herself. Every woman appreciates the opportunity to express herself. Encourage her to share her thoughts and feelings, even if you don’t always agree. Don’t shut her up. Allowing her to talk is an emotional release, and it’s important not to belittle her or make her feel like an idiot.
What Every Woman Desires in Her Partner
She anticipates financial responsibility. Financial responsibility is a crucial aspect of any partnership. A financially irresponsible partner can lead to stress and frustration. Therefore, strive to be financially responsible, as it will greatly contribute to the well-being of the relationship.
In summary, understanding and respecting these desires can help create a strong relationship and marriage
In the complex realm of relationships, success is far from guaranteed merely because you identify as a child of God. Being able to speak in tongues doesn’t automatically equip you with the wisdom to navigate the intricacies of human connection. This is where self-improvement and the pursuit of knowledge come into play.
Go For Knowledge
If your goal is to tie the knot by the end of this year, ask yourself: how many books on marriage have you diligently perused? You see, being a child of God is a wonderful foundation, but it’s not a substitute for actively seeking wisdom and understanding in the realm of relationships. Your desire to get married should be complemented by a genuine commitment to improving yourself.
For the married, even after wedding, you have to keep studying and developing yourselves to learn more about what marriage is all about
One common misconception is that falling in love with someone automatically implies that God has led you to that person. However, it’s vital to discern whether your emotions align with God’s leading. Feelings alone may not necessarily be a sign of God’s plan for your life. While it’s true that God can guide you through your desires, it’s essential to be certain of His guidance before fully embracing those emotions.
The Challenge of Emotions
Once emotions become entangled in a relationship, deciphering God’s voice becomes a more intricate task. Emotions can cloud our judgment and make it challenging to hear His guidance clearly. It’s advisable to seek His direction before allowing your emotions to run wild.
On the other hand, couples are to be intimately connected emotionally with their spouses. If there is no emotional connection towards your spouse, that marriage can hardly work.
No-Nonsense Advice For Singles and Couples
Time and Emotional Bonds
For singles, spending time with someone has a profound impact on your emotional connection with them. It’s astonishing how feelings can evolve when you invest time with a person. This is a universal truth, and it’s important to be mindful of the company you keep.
The Danger of Inappropriate Connections
For instance, if a single lady declares her disinterest in a man but continues to spend time with him, she’s unknowingly fostering emotional ties. The more time you invest in someone, the deeper the emotional connection becomes. Therefore, it’s crucial to be cautious about the company you keep and avoid engaging in inappropriate relationships, especially with married individuals.
Conversely, couples who are not spending enough time with themselves will have their emotional tank on the low, resulting in several other issues and irritations that can complicate their marriage! Spend time together!
Divine Blessings and Guidance
In conclusion, May God’s favor shine upon you, and His mercy guide your steps. You will break free from the spirit of delay, and may you find the one meant for you. For couples, God’s love is shed aboard in your hearts anew in Jesus’ name!
Marriage is a significant aspect of our lives that is meant to span our entire adult years, an enduring commitment till death do us part. To ensure a happy and fulfilling marriage, we must be content with our spouse and with ourselves. Here, I present two valuable tips to help you achieve this blissful union.
Don’t Miss These Two Crucial Points
1. Let Go of Past Mistakes
In any marriage, challenges are inevitable. We are all a work in progress and bound to face both current and past issues. However, dwelling on past mistakes is akin to unearthing old wounds, and it signals a lack of forgiveness towards your partner.
Forgiveness is a cornerstone of a successful marriage. You cannot move forward or experience happiness if you’re constantly revisiting past grievances. Make an effort to release the past and resist the urge to shame your spouse with reminders of their previous mistakes.
It takes considerable maturity to keep the past where it belongs. Remember, what goes around comes around, and you may need forgiveness in the future. Embrace forgiveness as a divine virtue, and let it permeate your marriage.
`As singles, forgive yourself as well despite your past mistakes. The important thing is not to repeat the same errors. Forgive yourself and love yourself, so that you can be loved appropriately
In today’s fast-paced world, the problem of neglecting one’s spouse has become increasingly prevalent. Many couples find themselves prioritizing others over their life partners, leading to a lack of emotional connection.
To maintain a strong bond with your spouse, it’s crucial to focus on each other with undivided attention. Cultivate a heart-to-heart connection that transcends mere words and draws you closer together.
Resist distractions, emotional affairs, and wandering thoughts that hinder your ability to focus on your spouse. Let your partner continually capture your spirit, soul, and body. After God, the next is your spouse! Regardless of anyone else’s physical attributes, your spouse is your one and only. The key lies in maintaining the integrity of your heart.
As singles in courtship, avoid sexual intimacy in your bid to prioritize each other. Sexual sins will only welcome confusion into the equation.
In conclusion, let us strive for a deeper understanding and stronger bonds in our marriage. May your union be blessed with lasting joy and harmony in the mighty name of Jesus.
