What should come together before the wedding are the souls, in the place of beautiful conversation, healthy chats, romantic exchanges of words, making plans for the future, and envisioning the future together.
Speaking in tongues should not replace speaking loving words to each other.
Both are very important.
The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality
Speaking loving words to your lover should not replace speaking loving words to your creator.
Both are lovers.
God is the lover of your soul, your dear one is the lover of your body!
God loves you to speak loving words to Him.
Your lover craves loving words to be spoken to him or her.
After you have prayed, make sure you also play with your loved one!
There must be a balance of the romantic and the spiritual in order to keep your love life going and in order to make a relationship lead to marriage.
Speaking loving words to each other will keep false assumptions away.
Speaking in tongues will keep demonic influence away.
Speaking loving, romantic words to each other adds strength to your love life.
Speaking in tongues adds strength to your inner man.
With your love life, you fight doubt and insecurities.
With your inner man, you fight and wade off attacks of the enemy.
That is why the scripture emphasizes that romance alone will not deliver.
The Intersection of Romance and Spirituality
Rom 14:17 (KJV) For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
That is, if you want to bring the kingdom of God into your relationship or marriage, it is not in meat and drink alone, it is not in ice cream and cinema outings alone, it is also in right living, in Shalom, and in the Holy Spirit
Do you get it?
That he is handsome alone would not be enough, can he speak in tongues?
That she has hot legs alone would not suffice, does she have a hot heart as well?
I will stop here this morning!
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Do you mean the Bible advises on some form of intoxication? Do you mean I can really get high and still make heaven?
Well, it depends on what is intoxicating you!
The Holy Writ expressly and without mincing words says you should be intoxicated with your wife!
Really?
Go ahead and read it for yourself!
Proverbs 5:18-19 English Standard Version 2016 (ESV) Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.
Be Intoxicated Always!
To be intoxicated means to be drunk or under the influence of drugs.
Just that the drug is now the love for your wife!
Why would God be advising this?
He knows times will come and you will be irritated with your wife for several reasons. Some genuine, some out of ignorance, some out of arrogance, and some just some selfish ego trip.
It becomes even more intense when you are irritated with your wife and getting intoxicated with another! Ha!
That is sitting on a keg of powder! You ready don’t want to do that! I’m just advising you ni o!
So choose your source of intoxication wisely! Be enraptured with her love always! Please take my advice and have peace of mind!
Be Intoxicated Always!
My Birthday Gift For You and Your Loved One!
In another good news, I will be 51 in a few days! What? It’s amazing to realize that it’s been 51 years! I feel 21!
God has been faithful. The faithfulness of God is like a check that you can take to the bank with your full chest!
His faithfulness never fails! Not once!
Has God been faithful to me?
The answer is Yes, a billion times! God has been faithful to me!
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Joy is a serious business of heaven, so says Rev, Mark Hankins
As I was meditating on the phrase, the Holy Spirit whispered in my spirit,
“If joy is the serious business of heaven, then sorrow must be the serious business of hell!
Don’t Let The Devil Steal Your Joy
Sorrow, perpetual guilt, depression, despondency, and regrets are the tools of hell to create a loophole, entry point, and landing place for the cohorts of hell
The devil cannot just access your life, finances, family and so on, with a loophole Such loopholes are created when you lose your joy!
Later today, I will post a message on joy you need to listen to!
Marriage wine can often dry up, turn sour, or simply lose taste. Relationships can lose the spark, the fun, and the glee!
Love can wane, can grow old, and can fast dissipate. Feelings are fickle, never with a forever status.
What do you do when love seems to wane, when the tummy butterflies have all rested their wings, love birds have no more songs, when his or her words evoke no more feelings, and the blushing, the dimples, and the smiles have all gone?
What do you do at such times?
You are in courtship and everything seems intense, but of recently, you are no longer excited.
You don’t even look forward to hearing from each other and yet you still have peace that you are in the right relationship.
You are married, and the marriage bed has gone cold.
Intimacy used to be a trip but right now it is a complete bore. You could almost be reading a novel while you are at it. And yet the Bible unequivocally advises that Pro 5:19 (KJV) Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
What happened?
Here are a few things that could steal the wine off the marriage shelf, that could sap out and zap off every fun in the union.
What To Do When Love Wanes
1. When you allow pressures to stifle the pleasure
There will always be pressures, especially pressures from work. Wise husbands and wives learn to leave office pressures at the office and not bring them home.
For those in courtship, do not allow work pressures to swallow up fun communication times, times of bonding, and times of aligning the souls.
Decide to enjoy your courtship through vibrant communication and unhindered flow irrespective of the pressures that be
What To Do When Love Wanes
2. When you allow the hustles and bustles of life to steal your rest in God
Whether you like it or not, there will always be issues to deal with.
You must have a commitment to each other in a relationship or marriage to put each other first place after God.
3. When you refuse to spend quality time together
Love will wane when you don’t spend time with each other.
Nothing will ever replace quality time spent together enriched with destiny discussions and plans for the future.
Those times of fellowship can never be replaced with any other thing
For singles in courtship, this quality time must not be tainted with sexual sins.
With compromise, quality time will become dangerous time, bringing with it, damnation and guilt.
I’ll be writing to the men today as they are the leaders of the house.
Loving your wife doesn’t sometimes come naturally, especially if you have been married for a while. To love your wife, you have to learn it and practice it from time to time.
Here are practical ways to love your wives as recorded in the scriptures.
Eph 5:25-28 MSG – Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor–since they’re already “one” in marriage.
Strategies for Loving Your Wife Like Never Before
1. Go all out for her: This is the first instruction given in the passage above. Go out of your way. Go all out in your love. Don’t hold back in expressing your love for your wife. Love your wife deeply. Love her with your substance. Love her with your commitments.
Love her genuinely and be interested in her progress, all around. Express that love both in action and in words Do not give your emotional space to any other except for her. Go all out for her even in your emotions!
Be there for her emotionally. This means being there to listen, understand, and comfort her during both the good times and the challenging ones.
Strategies for Loving Your Wife Like Never Before
2. Give, don’t just get: As a husband, let your love be marked by giving, not just by getting. Be a giver. That’s the way things are done. Give your time. Give your attention. Give your love. Give them to your family, not to a strange woman out there. Provide for the family. Go the extra mile to make her happy. Let your family be your priority.
Marriage is sacrifice. Let your wife see your love, commitment, and sacrifice.
Give her your time! Sacrificing time for meaningful, quality moments together is crucial
What else can you give? Thoughtful gestures will go a long way! Surprising her with a treat, leaving romantic notes, or having date nights can make her feel cherished and loved.
Don’t just get intimacy, give her too. Give her a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on, she will need it when she is down
