Top 10 Best Relationship Advice No One Ever Told You
Marriage and relationships are a beautiful adventure, but they can also be unpredictable. While many of us have received advice on how to navigate these waters, there are some lesser-known gems that can make a significant difference. Here are the top 10 best relationship and marriage advice no one ever told you, along with relevant scriptures to guide us.
1. Love is a choice, not just a feeling.
Remember that love is a conscious decision, not just a fleeting emotion. Choose to love your partner every day, even when it’s hard.
“We love because he first loved us.” – 1 John 4:19
Love is not just a feeling, but a choice we make every day. When we choose to love, we open ourselves up to the possibility of hurt, but also to the possibility of deep connection and growth.
2. Marriage is a journey, not a destination.
Marriage is a continuous process of growth, learning, and evolution. It is not a hundred meter dash, it is a marathon! Embrace the journey and don’t expect to arrive at a perfect destination. James 1:2-4
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
Marriage is not a destination we arrive at, but a journey we embark on together. It requires effort, patience, and perseverance to navigate the ups and downs of life. Before you enter the marital road, ask yourself whether you are ready to go the along haul.
3. Marriage is a union of two quick forgivers.
No one is perfect, and mistakes will be made. Practice forgiveness and create a safe space for your partner to do the same. Ephesians 4:32
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
Forgiveness is not always easy, but it’s essential in building a healthy and thriving relationship. When we forgive, we release the burden of resentment and create space for healing and growth. You know what I often advice? Practice advance forgiveness!
4. Communicate with intention, not just habit.
Communication is key, but make sure you’re communicating with intention and purpose, not just out of habit or obligation. Proverbs 15:28
“The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.” – Proverbs 15:28
Effective communication requires intention and purpose. Take the time to listen, understand, and respond thoughtfully, rather than just going through the motions. Marriage is never. Play where you serve it hot without considering where it is landing. It is a place where you intentional speak with love.
5. Embrace the seasons of love.
Relationships go through different seasons, just like life. Embrace the ups and downs, and don’t expect perpetual sunshine.
Apostle Paul said he knew what it was to abound and what it was to be abased.
Each season brings its own unique challenges and opportunities for growth. Decide to navigate these seasons with joy and not with unnecessary bickering and animosity. It is a choice you have to make.
6. Sex is not just some fun, it is a covenant between you and your spouse.
It is deeply spiritual. Intimacy is more than just physical; prioritize emotional and spiritual connection with your partner. And this is why we also tell singles to abstain from sex before wedding. The Bible frowns at that and it is important you understand this.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
You are to honour God with your body by enjoying sex in marriage with your spouse and by abstaining from sex as singles!
7. Respect is the foundation, not just love.
Love is essential, but respect is the foundation on which a healthy relationship is built. Prioritize respect and kindness.
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33
Love is essential, but respect is the foundation on which a healthy relationship is built. Prioritize respect and kindness, and build a strong foundation for your relationship. I tell ladies all the time, do not marry a man you cannot respect!
8. Take responsibility for your own joy.
Your partner can’t make you happy; that’s your job. Take ownership of your happiness and well-being.
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” – Galatians 6:2. Two miserable couples would soon bring an end to the marriage.
While it’s wonderful to have a supportive partner, ultimately, your joy is your responsibility. Focus on building a fulfilling life, and your relationship will benefit as a result. Decide to keep your joy.
9. Don’t expect your partner to be a magician.
Your partner has no special love potion they have taken. Your partner will be as human as they can be. Do not expect a perfect person, they only exist in novels and movies. Happily every after is only in movies. There will be additional troubles that come as a result of getting married. Your maturity is loving despite all these troubles that come as result of male-female differences.
1Co 7:28 (MSG) But there’s certainly no sin in getting married, whether you’re a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible.
10. Laugh together, often.
Laughter is the best medicine, especially in relationships. Make time to laugh together and find the humor in life’s challenges.
“A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22
Laughter is contagious and brings joy to our lives. Make time to laugh together, and find the humor in life’s challenges. Bring humour out of tensed situations and laugh about it.
In conclusion, relationships and marriage are a beautiful adventure, full of twists and turns. When you go along with God’s counsel, it makes the journey more beautiful.
Relationship and Marriage Red Flags! Top 10 Signs You Need Help Part 2
We continue from yesterday.
6. You’re leading separate lives
This another one of the Signs You Need Help. Make a conscious effort to prioritize quality time together. We all need our own space and independence. But when you and your partner start feeling more like roommates than soulmates, that’s a major red flag. It’s like you’re two ships passing in the night, never really connecting or sharing experiences. The Bible hits the nail on the head with Amos 3:3 – “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”
I’ll never forget this one couple I knew. Let’s call them… Sally and Buddy. These two were so wrapped up in their own worlds that they practically needed a translator to communicate. Sally was always off doing her own thing, while Buddy was glued to his video games. Date nights? Forget about it! They were living that separate lives life to the maximum.
But here’s the thing – a relationship is supposed to be a partnership, a journey you take together. When you stop making that quality time for each other a priority, the connection starts to fray. It’s like a plant that doesn’t get enough water – it’ll eventually wither and die.
So, what’s the solution? Well, it’s all about being intentional. Set aside regular date nights, plan little adventures together, or even just snuggle up and watch your favorite movie.
7. Trust has been broken
This is one of the Signs You Need Help. We’re not just talking little white lies here, but the kind that makes you question everything and feel like you’re walking on eggshells.
I had this one friend, we’ll call her Samantha, who went through the ultimate trust betrayal. Her partner of five years had been having an emotional affair, sharing deep thoughts and feelings with someone else behind her back. When she found out, it was like her entire world shattered into a million pieces.
Samantha was devastated. How could someone she trusted so completely violate that sacred bond? She felt like a fool for believing in their partnership.
But here’s the thing – rebuilding trust is possible, but it takes hard work from both parties. It’s a conscious choice to forgive, to be accountable, and to communicate openly, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Trust is precious, my friends. Once it’s been broken, working to repair it is one of the highest callings. It’s about choosing to see the higher road, even when the pain is fresh. It’s about loving bigger than you ever thought possible.
8. You’re feeling unheard or ignored
This is one of the Signs You Need Help. We’ve all been there, right? You try to share something that’s important to you – a frustration at work or an idea for a vacation. But instead of your partner’s full attention, you get the dreaded glazed-over look or one-word responses. It’s the romantic equivalent of talking to a brick wall.
Listen, communication is the lifeblood of any healthy relationship. Without it, that once-blazing connection starts to feel like a dying campfire. The embers are still there, but they’re getting faint and harder to re-ignite with each passing day.
The Bible says in James 1:19, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” Being an active listener, fully present and engaged, is one of the greatest gifts you can give your partner. It’s a way of saying “You matter. Your thoughts and feelings are valuable to me.
So make that conscious choice, every single day, to listen with your whole soul. Put down your phone, turn off the TV, and drink in every word your partner has to say, as if it’s the nectar of the gods. Let them feel that soul-quenching feeling of being truly heard.
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9. You’re not supporting each other’s goals and dreams
Here is another one of the Signs You Need HelpYour relationship should be a dream team – a dynamic duo working together to help each other soar to new heights. When one person’s wings start to falter, the other is there to provide an updraft and keep them aloft.
Not supporting one another is like two planets spinning in opposite directions, never quite aligning. And as Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 remind us, “Two are better than one…If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
Supporting each other’s goals and dreams doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be as simple as listening intently when your partner shares a new idea, asking questions to understand their vision more deeply. It’s celebrating each tiny victory and reassuring them through the setbacks.
10. You’re feeling stuck or stagnant
How do you know if your relationship has veered off that path of joyful partnership and stumbled into a growth-stunting rut? Well, there are a few telltale signs to watch out for:
The conversation well has run dry.
Date night is a distant memory. The core values and interests that once bound you together have drifted in separate directions.
If any of those strike you, fear not! This isn’t an inevitable death sentence for your relationship – it’s a wake-up call to get that growth groove back.
Here’s the truth – a relationship is a living, breathing entity. And like anything alive, it requires the oxygen of growth, progress, and exploration to survive. Stagnation is a slow suffocation.
So go ahead, be bold! Shake up those comfortable patterns. Nurture your evolving partnership with the same devotion and joy that first sparked it into existence.
Choose growth – in all its messy, unpredictable, breathtakingly beautiful forms. That’s what true partnership is all about.
Relationship and Marriage Red Flags! Top 10 Signs You Need Help
Let’s talk about something that’s really important, but can be tough to acknowledge: when our relationship or marriage needs a little or a lot of help. As a married person, you know that relationships take work. And sometimes, despite our best efforts, things can start to feel off. The connection that once felt so strong starts to fade, and you find yourself wondering if everything is okay.
Well, wonder no more! Today, we’re diving into the top 10 signs that your marriage might need a little TLC.
1. You’re barely talking (and when you do, it’s only to argue)
Communication is key in any relationship, but when the only conversations you’re having are heated ones, that’s a red flag. As Ephesians 4:29 in The Message Translation reminds us, “Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.” Make an effort to have meaningful, respectful conversations with your partner. Set aside dedicated time to talk about things that matter, and make a conscious effort to listen actively and respond thoughtfully.
In a healthy relationship, communication should be open, honest, and respectful. If you find yourself avoiding conversations or only talking to argue, it’s time to reassess your communication style. Ask yourself: Are we only talking about surface-level issues, or are we diving deeper into our thoughts, feelings, and desires? Are we actively listening to each other, or are we just waiting for the other person to finish speaking so we can respond?
2. You feel more like roommates than partners
This is another one of Relationship and Marriage Red Flags! Remember when you used to be each other’s rock? If you’re feeling more like cohabitants than soulmates, something’s amiss. As singles in courtship, you are no longer excited or looking forward to your spouse! That is a red flag! As couples, you are emotional disenfranchised from your partner, well, that is a red flag! What do you do? Make time for regular date nights and activities that bring you closer together. Deliberately seek to invest in your relationship or reach out for professional help. On Kisses and Huggs Club, we have several courses designed to rekindle your love as couples!
It’s essential to prioritize quality time together, doing things that bring you joy and closeness. This can be as simple as cooking dinner together, going for a walk, or watching a movie. The key is to make an effort to reconnect and strengthen your bond. Ask yourself: When was the last time we did something fun together? When did we last have a meaningful conversation about our hopes and dreams?
3. Intimacy is a distant memory
Here is another on of This is another one of Relationship and Marriage Red Flags! Physical and emotional intimacy are essential in a healthy marriage. If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner in this way, it’s time to address it. As 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 reminds us, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” The frequency of sex can determine the health of your marriage! Meanwhile, the constancy of sex as singles and unmarried can signal a terrible error in that relationship.
Intimacy is about more than just physical closeness; it’s about emotional connection and vulnerability. If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, it’s essential to address the issue head-on. This might involve having an open and honest conversation about your desires, needs, and boundaries. Ask yourself: When was the last time we had a meaningful, intimate conversation about our desires and needs? Are we prioritizing our emotional and physical connection?
4. You’re feeling resentful or bitter
Unresolved issues can lead to some serious resentment. If you’re feeling like you’re harboring anger or frustration towards your partner, it’s time to talk things through. As James 1:19-20 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” Don’t try to bury resentments, it will only end up becoming like magma within the crust of the earth. One day, there will be volcanic eruption from the bitterness stored within, and that would not always be a pleasant time.
Resentment can build up over time, causing resentment and anger to simmer just below the surface. It’s essential to address these feelings before they boil over. Make an effort to listen to your partner’s perspective, and be willing to apologize and forgive. Ask yourself: What am I holding onto? What do I need to let go of? What do I need to communicate to my partner?
5. You’re not fighting fairly (or at all)
This is another one of This is another one of Relationship and Marriage Red Flags! Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but when you’re not addressing issues or are fighting dirty, it’s a problem. As Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words stir up wrath.” Learn to communicate effectively and respectfully, even in the heat of the moment. Do not demonize your partner. Face the issue, not your partner. Learn to separate the person from the action so that you won’t end up hurting each other.
When conflicts arise, it’s essential to address them in a healthy and constructive way. This means avoiding blame, criticism, and personal attacks. Instead, focus on the issue at hand and work together to find a solution. Make an effort to listen actively, remain calm, and communicate your thoughts and feelings clearly.
Ask yourself: Am I addressing issues as they arise, or am I letting them simmer beneath the surface? Am I fighting fairly, or am I using underhanded tactics to “win” the argument? Am I willing to listen to my partner’s perspective and work together to find a solution?
Remember, relationships take work, and conflicts are an inevitable part of the journey. By learning to communicate effectively, address issues as they arise, and fight fairly, you can build a stronger, healthier relationship that will last a lifetime.
6. Intellectual Stimulation While beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, a woman’s heart is often won through intellectual foreplay. She wants a partner who can engage her mind, challenge her beliefs, and expand her horizons. Discuss thought-provoking topics, share your knowledge, and never stop learning together. Intelligence can be sexy! Women love men who are knowledgeable and can engage in interesting conversations. Psa 49:3 says “My mouth shall speak of wisdom; and the meditation of my heart shall be of understanding.”
So, how can you engage in intellectual foreplay and win a woman’s heart?
Discuss thought-provoking topics. Engage in conversations about a wide range of subjects
Share your knowledge. Be open to sharing your own expertise and experiences, while also being receptive to learning from your partner.
Never stop learning together. Make a habit of exploring new ideas and experiences together.
7. Faithfulness: Standing by Her Side
Faithfulness is a fundamental quality in any successful relationship. A woman wants a man who will stand by her side, through thick and thin. It’s about being dependable, committed, and dedicated to your partner. A dependable man is someone who keeps his promises, supports his partner, and is consistently there when needed. “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy” Proverbs 12:22. One of the ways you can demonstrate faithfulness is by keeping your promises. Always follow through on your commitments, whether they involve grand gestures or small, everyday tasks.
8. Emotional Expression: The Power of Vulnerability
Emotional expression is the ability to express your feelings in a healthy way. It is one of the top ten things a woman wants. A woman wants a man who can be vulnerable, who can show his emotions, and who can be open about his needs. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness. Every woman wants a man that is not secretive. Ability to keep secrets and hide vital information from your spouse is the beginning of adulterous relationships. Adultery is never a good idea. Pro 6:27 says “Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?”
9. Trustworthiness: The Foundation of Any Relationship
Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship. A woman wants a man who is reliable, honest, and faithful. It’s about being transparent, keeping promises, and maintaining integrity. This means being honest about your feelings, intentions, and actions.
As the Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. A trustworthy man keeps his promises, just as God keeps His promises to us Psalm 105:4. When both partners trust each other, they can build a strong and lasting bond.
10. Passion: The Spark that Keeps the Fire Burning
Passion is the spark that keeps the fire burning in any relationship. It is one of the top ten things a woman wants. A woman wants a man who is passionate about life, his interests, and their relationship. It’s about being enthusiastic, spontaneous, and adventurous. A woman wants a man who is romantic and who can satisfy her in the bedroom! A woman wants a man who can connect with her physically and emotionally. Songs of Solomon 2:10 (KJV) My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away. Kindly take note that as singles, a sexual relationship is a No-No! Sexual intimacy should be reserved till after the wedding.! Commitment to purity honors the sacred bond between two people and allows the relationship to grow and flourish in other areas before the ultimate expression of love is shared.
Conclusion:
Becoming the ultimate catch is not about changing who you are, but about embracing your authentic self. By incorporating these top ten qualities, you’ll become the most attractive and irresistible man in her eyes. Remember, it’s about being confident, emotionally intelligent, ambitious, and passionate – a true partner in every sense of the word.
Are you tired of feeling like you’re not quite ticking all the right boxes in your romantic relationships? Do you want to know the secrets to making a woman fall deeply in love with you? Look no further! In this article, we’ll dive into the top ten things a woman wants in a man, and how you can become the ultimate catch.
1. Confidence: The Ultimate Aphrodisiac
A woman wants a man who exudes confidence. Not arrogance, but a quiet self-assurance that says, “I’ve got this.” When you own your strengths and weaknesses, you become an unstoppable force. So, work on building your self-esteem, and watch how it transforms your relationships. Gone are the days of pretending to be someone you’re not. A woman wants a man who is confident in his own skin and isn’t afraid to be vulnerable. Be true to yourself, and she’ll love you for who you are. The scriptures says in Eph 5:1a “Be imitators of God in everything you do…”
2. Emotional Intelligence: The Key to Deep Connections
Women crave emotional intelligence in a partner. It’s the ability to understand and validate her feelings, making her feel seen and heard. Develop your active listening skills, and emotional regulation to become the rock she can lean on. . A man who can communicate his feelings, empathize with his partner, and navigate the emotional landscape of a relationship is incredibly attractive. Ecc 10:2 in the Message Translations says “Wise thinking leads to right living; Stupid thinking leads to wrong living.”
3. Vision: A Man with a Purpose
Vision is attractive. It is one of the things a woman wants. A woman wants a man with goals, passions, and a sense of direction. It’s not about being a high-achiever, but about having a clear vision for your life. So, identify your values, set goals, and work towards them – it’s a huge turn-on! Women appreciate a man who is motivated and has a clear vision for his future. This doesn’t necessarily mean financial wealth or status, but rather a passion and determination to pursue his dreams. Col 3:23 says “And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.”
4. Humour: Laughter is the Best Medicine
A good sense of humor can diffuse even the most tense situations. A woman wants a man who can make her laugh, who can find the humor in life’s absurdities. So, don’t take yourself too seriously, and learn to laugh at yourself. No woman wants joy killer! Every woman wants a joy dispenser! Moments of joy remain memorable and source of strength in stormy times. A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones” so says Proverbs 17:22
A woman wants a partner who can lighten the mood, diffuse conflicts with humor, and bring a sense of playfulness to the relationship. This doesn’t mean you have to be a full-time comedian, but cultivating a good sense of humor and the ability to not take yourself too seriously can work wonders. Learn to laugh at your own mistakes and quirks, and encourage your partner to do the same. This shared levity will help you weather any storm that comes your way.
Remember, laughter truly is the language of the heart. By embracing your inner jokester and making your partner giggle, you’ll unlock a level of intimacy and connection that goes beyond mere words. So, don’t be afraid to be the “joy dispenser” in your relationship – it’s an irresistible quality that every woman craves.
5. Emotional Availability: Being Present in the Moment
Emotional availability is about being fully present in the moment, without distractions. It is one of the things a woman wants. A woman wants a man who can engage in deep conversations, who can listen actively, and who can be vulnerable. Put away your phone, make eye contact, and focus on the person in front of you. Be fully engaged in your interactions with her, and prioritize quality time together.
Being emotionally available means being willing to listen and understand your partner’s thoughts and feelings. As James 1:19 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” By being a good listener, you can build trust and intimacy in your relationship.
As the apostle Paul wrote, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2). By being open and honest about your own fears, doubts, and desires, you can create a safe space for your partner to do the same.
Remember, emotional availability is about being fully engaged in the present moment. By putting away distractions, making eye contact, and focusing on your partner, you can build a deeper and more meaningful connection.
