This article is dedicated to those who are single and struggling with the waiting season.
As we move into the last quarter of the year, it’s a season of weddings almost every weekend, but you are not even engaged yet. You may be asking, “God when?” The waiting can be exhausting, and for some, even their patience feels worn out. But before you get overwhelmed, let me remind you of something essential: what you need most in this season is peace.
Now, peace is often misunderstood. It’s not about pretending everything is fine or avoiding challenges. It’s not passivity, indifference, or simply staying calm on the surface. True peace is much deeper.
There are 3 different types of peace I want to share with us this morning.
1. Emotional Peace This is the inner stability that remains even when circumstances look uncertain. It’s that quiet assurance inside that helps you hold steady when life feels unbalanced.
2. Relational Peace This kind of peace shows up in the way we interact with others. It prevents bitterness, jealousy, and lingering resentment, even toward those who may seem to be living the life we’re praying for.
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Romans 12:18 [ESV]
3. Spiritual Peace This is the most important of all. It’s the peace that comes from being reconciled with God through Christ. It’s knowing you’re no longer under condemnation but are secure in God’s love. Without this, you’ll always feel a void, no matter your relationship status.
So why is peace so important for singles? Because it’s part of our inheritance as children of God.
For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. Romans 14:17 [ESV]
Tomorrow, I will walk us through how to walk in peace, perfect peace that comes from God.
Wow! It’s the last day of the month, and as we approach the last quarter of the year, it’s easy to glance back and feel a sting of disappointment. Maybe some goals didn’t happen. Maybe the plans you had seemed too heavy to carry. You might even be tempted to say, “What’s the point of trying again?”
But listen; this is not the end of your story. A date on a calendar doesn’t define your destiny. God’s timing is bigger than deadlines and schedules.
To the Singles out there, don’t settle for less. Keep pushing. Keep growing. Singleness isn’t a punishment. It’s a season. And just like every season, it has a purpose. Sometimes, the temptation is to settle because of pressure from family, friends, or even your heart. But remember, settling for less than God’s best will never give you lasting peace.
The blessing of the Lord makes a person rich, and He adds no sorrow with it. (Proverbs 10:22, NLT)
When the right relationship comes, it won’t drain you. Rather, it will align with God’s blessing. So use this time to grow, explore your purpose, and strengthen your relationship with God. Don’t rush to fit into someone else’s timeline. Delay doesn’t mean denial.
Likewise, to the married, guard against monotony. Marriage is beautiful, but it can slip into routine if left unattended. Work, bills, and responsibilities can dim the spark if you let them. But love is not meant to be on autopilot; it is meant to be nurtured.
That is why the bible says;
Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth.(Proverbs 5:18, ESV)
That word rejoice means to delight, to celebrate, to enjoy. It’s a call to break monotony. Try new things together. Pray together. Laugh more. Surprise one another. The little changes breathe life into love.
Whether single or married, remember this truth: setbacks don’t mean you’ve failed. Every new day is a fresh chance to rise again.
Though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again.” (Proverbs 24:16, NIV)
That means even if this month didn’t look like what you hoped for, rise again. Tomorrow opens a brand-new chapter.
You’re not behind. You’re not forgotten. The God who carried you through this month is the same God waiting to walk with you into the next. Keep pushing, keep believing, and keep your eyes on Him.
Your best days aren’t behind you- they’re unfolding ahead.
Life presents unique seasons. Singleness and marriage are both gifts from God, each carrying its own joys and challenges. Whether single or married, no one can walk faithfully without the help of the Holy Spirit. He is the Comforter, Counselor, and Helper whom Jesus promised to all believers in John 14:26. His guidance ensures that we live wisely, love well, and honor God in every season.
Being single is not a waiting room for marriage but a calling to serve God wholeheartedly. Like Apostle Paul said,
But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 1 Cor 7:32 (NKJV).
This is a season to deepen intimacy with God and grow in purpose. The Holy Spirit helps singles overcome loneliness, guard against distractions, and cultivate godly character. When doubts arise or temptations feel overwhelming, He strengthens with truth and peace.
By listening to His leading, singles can make wise decisions about relationships, careers, and daily life. Yielding to the Spirit keeps the heart pure and hopeful while preparing for whatever future God has in store.
Marriage is a covenant that requires love, humility, and patience. No couple can thrive on their own strength. The Holy Spirit empowers husbands and wives to love each other as Christ commands. He produces the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and self-control in the home.
When disagreements arise, the Spirit softens hearts and reminds each partner of grace. He also equips couples to pray together, raise children in godliness, and face challenges with faith instead of fear. A Spirit-filled marriage becomes a witness of Christ’s love to the world.
Whether single or married, maximizing the Spirit’s help requires surrender. This means daily prayer, studying God’s Word, and obeying His promptings. The Holy Spirit does not force His way into our choices; He waits for yielded hearts. When we welcome Him, He supplies wisdom for decisions, comfort in trials, and strength for obedience.
Disagreements are part of every relationship. Whether you are dating, married, or even building close friendships, two people will not always see life the same way. The important thing is not avoiding conflict but learning to handle it in a way that pleases God.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.Ephesians 4:2–3 (NIV)
Here are some biblical steps that can help us deal with conflict in healthy ways:
1. Pause and Pray
When emotions rise, it’s tempting to keep pressing your point. But prayer changes the atmosphere. Stopping to pray softens hearts, calms emotions, and invites God’s wisdom into the situation. Couples can pray together; singles can pray before responding to a friend or partner. In both cases, prayer helps us put love above pride.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.Philippians 4:6 (NKJV)
2. Listen Beyond the Words
Arguments often go in circles because we only hear the words, not the heart behind them. A disagreement about money or chores might really be about feeling unappreciated or unsupported. When we listen with patience, we begin to understand the deeper need. This is true whether you are resolving conflict in marriage, in dating, or even in family life.
The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.Proverbs 20:5 (ESV)
3. Speak with Kindness
Words can either heal or hurt. Instead of saying, “You never listen,” try, “I feel hurt when I don’t feel heard.” Gentle words lower defenses and make space for reconciliation. Whether you’re a husband speaking to a wife, a fiancée to a fiancé, or a friend to another, kind speech builds bridges instead of walls.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
4. Value Unity Over Winning
Sometimes we argue as if we are opponents. But in God’s design, relationships are partnerships. The goal is not to “win” the argument but to protect unity. In marriage, it means remembering that it’s not husband versus wife, but both of you versus the problem. In dating and friendships, it means choosing peace over pride.
And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.Colossians 3:14 (ESV)
5. Seek Wise Counsel When Needed
Some conflicts can be solved between the two of you; others may need the wisdom of a mentor, pastor, or counselor. God places people in our lives to guide us and help us see what we sometimes can’t see on our own. This is true in marriage, courtship, and even friendships.
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.Proverbs 15:22 (NIV)
Final Word
Conflict is not a sign that your relationship is failing. It is a reminder that two imperfect people are learning to love like Christ, with patience, humility, and grace.
When we choose prayer over pride, listening over arguing, and unity over winning, we not only resolve disagreements but also grow stronger together in Christ.
The Dangers of Sexual Sins in a Relationship or Marriage
The bible makes us understand that God created sex as a beautiful gift, meant for reproduction, intimacy, and bonding within the covenant of marriage. Furthermore, we know that our bodies are not our own; they belong to God and are temples of the Holy Spirit.
When we use our bodies in ways that dishonor Him, we grieve His Spirit. Over time, if we normalize sin, our hearts can grow hard, and the consequences are grave.
God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done.Romans 1:28 (NIV)
If you’ve struggled with an addiction for years, it may feel impossible to stop, but Jesus, the Light of the world, can break even the strongest habit.
If you are a believer and find yourself trapped in sexual sin, the enemy will whisper, “It’s normal… everyone does it.” That’s a lie. Your new life in Christ is pure and righteous.
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul (1 Peter 2:11, KJV).
No sexual sin is harmless. It wars against your soul, dulls your spiritual senses, and hinders intimacy with God.
Take a moment to ask honestly: Why do I indulge in sexual sins?
Boredom or idleness? Then fill your time with purposeful activities like Bible study, prayer, service, exercise, or learning new skills.
Pornography or sexual media? If you’re trying to break free from sexual sins, yet consume sexual content, you’re feeding the very habit you’re fighting. Jesus said, “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off”. That means removing triggers without compromise.
Here are practical ways to be free from sexual sins
1. Run to Jesus first: Only He can cleanse, forgive, and give you the strength to walk in purity.
2. Replace bad habits: Read Scripture daily, join a prayer group, serve in your church. Idle hands and minds are the devil’s playground.
3. Remove triggers: Delete sexual content, unfollow tempting accounts, and get rid of romantic/pornographic books and media.
4. Confide in someone mature: Accountability is powerful.
5. Stay persistent in prayer: Victory is often a process. Keep leaning on Jesus daily.
If you are single, you need to guard your mind and eyes, use your single years to grow spiritually and in purpose, not to indulge lust, and above all, learn self-control. It’s the same discipline you’ll need in marriage.
And to the married, understand that sexual intimacy is God’s provision against sexual temptation. If you struggle with sexual sin in marriage, it may signal a deeper intimacy or communication gap. Address it together prayerfully. Also, protect your sexual bond by keeping your desire directed toward your spouse, not self-gratification.
