God’s word has solutions to all problems on earth and in heaven. Nothing else will be done or given to men that will improve upon God’s word. It is the complete counsel of God.
You can find a husband in God’s Word.
You can locate your wife in God’s Word. The scriptures teach us how to have a good home and family life.
The scriptures contain the wisdom required to rule in this world’s affairs. People seek love, husbands, wives, and relationships in all the wrong places.
Online dating sites are not the best place to go! Nightclubs and gatherings are not the locations to look for meaningful connections. Where shall I go, pastor? Go to God’s Word! Your response is waiting for you there.
When you are perplexed, God’s word is available to help you deal with it and fill your heart with light, which will dispel all confusion. When you are depressed, God’s word is available to destroy your depression and replace it with the joy of the Holy Spirit.
When you are hurt, wounded, and offended, God’s word is there to heal every wound and give you recompense of all deeds.
When you are filled with unforgiving tendencies, God’s word is there to give you the inner strength to do the godly and the needful.
This morning, what can Singles and Married Couples learn from Adam and Eve?
1. Man was made from the breath of God. And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7 KJV)
You will never be able to achieve much in your marital endeavors without God. God is the source of your life; He will also be the sustenance of your relationships and marriage.
You will never be able to achieve much without Him. There is no point wasting your time by ignoring Him or by kicking against His instructions. The earlier you flow with God and not with man, the better!
The earlier you learn to converse with Him on a personal basis and quit looking for some prophet, the better. Most of the so-called prophets are prophets for profit; they will collect your money and tell you lies.
You are the prophet of your own life, so develop a deliberate relationship with God and take charge of your destiny!
God was the one who created Adam in His likeness and image.
Looking at the Godhead, we will know that God created man to be like Him. That is why we have God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. They are in perfect harmony, yet different in personality and functionality.
Genesis 2:18 CEV [18] The Lord God said, “It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.”
Genesis 2:21-22 CEV [21] So the Lord God made him fall into a deep sleep, and he took out one of the man’s ribs. Then after closing the man’s side, [22] the Lord made a woman out of the rib. The Lord God brought her to the man,
God knew perfectly what He had created and knew how best it would function. He knew the man would not be optimally efficient, so He made the woman solely for this purpose. To complement and complete the man.
The woman was custom-made for the man. She is the help needed, fit, suitable, adaptable, meet, right for him, sufficient, complementary, perfect, complement to him, companion he needs, one just right for him, one who balances him, a counterpart who is suitable and complementary to him, companion suitable for helping him, a suitable companion he needs…
All these qualities are what describe the help God provided for Adam.
Can you trust God in all His Almightiness that the helper He has given you, is the best for you?
Can the helper trust God enough to believe she possesses all these qualities? And that God packaged her, with all her gifts to help the man?
Husbands and wives, can you trust God enough that you are fulfilled and complete with each other? That all you will ever need is packaged in your wife.
She may not look like it. He may not look worthy of your companionship.
Your wife was never meant to be exactly like you. Rice and stew are complementary but very different.
Enjoy your wife, she is God’s best for you.
Wives, be satisfied with your husband, that is the one you were sent to.
Let’s begin to trust God afresh.
Dear single guys, every lady around you is to be protected and not violated! An understanding of this will start preparing you to become that man that God wants and can trust!
I will be writing to the couples first and lastly to singles.
Pro 21:19 (KJV) It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
The role of a wife is to give her husband a conducive atmosphere in the home.
A woman can turn a house into a home.
She can make the house serene or too hot to stay in.
When you find your husband coming home late, avoiding conversations with you, and preferring to hang out than hang in with you, you need to be careful that you are not doing anything to resent him.
The scripture says contentions, nagging, anger, uncooperative attitudes, tantrums, and such can make a man relocate!
He would avoid spending time with the lady because he knows all he will get is nagging and complaints.
When a man is confused or doesn’t know the decision to take yet, he keeps quiet.
That is why you discuss some things with him and then he says nothing. As in nothing!
He probably needs to think it through.
A lady makes it worse by nagging and holding him by the neck to say something by force.
However, the last thing that will come out of a man’s mouth is to say “I am confused!” Every man is egocentric!
When he is confused, he keeps quiet!
Give him time to sort, process, and decide, and don’t unwittingly drive him away.
For singles, work on your anger. Anger can make men run away! Guys are logical, so in each of your anger episodes, they are thinking about what will happen after the wedding and making up their minds.
That could, on a few occasions, be the reason why some guys just disappear after promising a wedding! They got scared!
I am not asking you to pretend.
I am asking you to work on it.
Read books on anger management.
Read scriptures that talk about anger.
Some of them will humble you.
For example,
Ecc 7:9 (MSG) Don’t be quick to fly off the handle. Anger boomerangs. You can spot a fool by the lumps on his head.
Anger can end relationships
Anger can scatter relationships
Anger can divide a God-ordained relationship!
Gen 49:7 (KJV) Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.
The Message Translation is apt.
Gen 49:7 (MSG) A curse on their uncontrolled anger, on their indiscriminate wrath. I’ll throw them out with the trash; I’ll shred and scatter them like confetti throughout Israel.
Your God-ordained love affair not be shredded!
Your courtship or marriage will not end in the trash!
There are those moments when the eyes are red, and the tears flow endlessly and you just couldn’t be consoled enough.
For the singles, it could be those times of rejection, when the one you love walks away or you are the one who needed to walk away. Either way, the walking away is not always a pleasant experience.
It could be those times you suddenly feel betrayed when you discover that the one you have been loving with all your life is loving another!
It could be those time when you feel neglected and it seems nobody is looking you way.
For the married, it could be those times when all your expectations have been disappointed and what you see in marriage is far from what you think it should be.
It could be those times when you feel misunderstood and your spouse isn’t lifting a finger to understand your feelings.
It could be those times when you are so deeply hurt that it reaches to the bone and marrows, when the one you love most has broken your trust, caught red handed frolicking with the opposite sex.
Or it could just be any of the days when there are no stars and the moody mushy thing envelopes you and you don’t want to talk to anybody including GOD.
It could be times of going through mid life crisis, when all the cruises are gone and all left are crashes.
In any of those sad unhappy times, what do you do?
Sing. Rejoice. Dance. Jubilate!
What?
Isa 54:1 (KJV) Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the LORD.
That is what you do. Do opposite of what your flesh wants. And then, in an incredible turn of events, you will see God’s intervention and justice system in that situation and you will have victory and rejoice at the last.
Do not grumble. Do not get bitter. Do not fight back.
Leave all the fights to God.
Rom 12:19 (MSG) Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.”
And when you do this, get ready to rejoice, because there is a REJOICING after the rejoicing.
This morning, I want to talk to all sisters, ladies, women, and to all guys and men who have ladies in their lives as siblings, wives, or otherwise.
The lady always ends up as the one who is hurt, used, and disadvantaged
She ought to be wiser!
When a relationship breaks or doesn’t work out, who gets hurt the most?
The guy or the lady?
When there is a disappointment concerning the wedding, who cries endlessly for days?
The guy or the lady?
When there is pre-marital sex, who is afraid of getting pregnant?
The guy or the lady?
When pregnancy is anticipated, who starts drowning in pills like a fowl?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes for all kinds of tests in the hospital?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the pain of abortion in the event of that?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the psychological trauma of murdering a life the most?
The guy or the lady?
Who combines psychological trauma with emotional pain and then with physical discomfort?
The guy or the lady?
If there were complications in the abortion process, whose body was affected?
The guy or the lady?
If a complication arises and life is threatened, who loses her life?
The guy or the lady?
If the womb is affected, who won’t be able to conceive eventually?
The guy or the lady?
If the decision is to have the baby, whose tummy protrudes?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the seeming stigma of carrying an unwanted pregnancy?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through all the morning sickness?
The guy or the lady?
Whose body adjusts to the different trimesters with accompanying inconveniences?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through labour pain, at that moment when a lady goes through enough pain that would drown any man and make a grown-up man cry like a baby?
The guy or the lady?
Hours or days before childbirth, who goes through the cramping, the tightening, the pounding, the stabbing, the back pain, the waves, the pressure, the pushing, and the exhaustion?
The guy or the lady?
Who becomes a “single mother?”
The guy or the lady?
Who does the breast-feeding afterward?
The guy or the lady?
I can go on and on….but wait a moment..
Who ought to be wiser? The guy or the lady?
But really, who seems to be unwise? The guy or the lady?
