In today’s world, it’s not uncommon to hear statements like, “I cannot marry a man who doesn’t have a car,” or “He must be rich, otherwise, no wedding!”
These sentiments seem to dominate conversations these days, but it’s essential to pause and reflect on what truly matters in a relationship.
Rethinking Priorities in Marriage
It’s natural to desire a comfortable life and a partner who is financially stable, but it’s vital to remember that your significant other should never be reduced to their financial status. Your life partner should not merely be a source of material wealth but a companion for life’s journey.
Unlocking True Love: His Purse
Love Beyond the Superficial
One common mistake people make is using a person’s financial standing as the primary determinant of their suitability for marriage.
Asking for material possessions like a car as a prerequisite for marriage is an approach that often leads to heartache. What if the car spoils after the wedding?
It’s crucial to differentiate between being in love with the person and being infatuated with their possessions.
Remember, you’re getting married to the man, not his ATM. Don’t let someone’s bank account dictate your decision to marry them or not, as the contents of the purse are not always permanent. Life is full of ups and downs, and wealth can come and go.
In the grand scheme of things, God knows the right person for you. The person He has in mind is part of His best plan for your life. This person won’t leave you as a widow or turn you into a punching bag.
Only God has the insight to find someone who will continue to love and support you even after fifty years of marriage.
It’s only God who can identify a man who can seamlessly balance the roles of a responsible husband and a loving father. He alone knows the potential of a financially struggling man who is destined for wealth and a wealthy man who might face financial setbacks.
Unlocking True Love: His Purse
Embracing God’s Purpose
Instead of allowing material wealth to take the forefront in your decision-making, prioritize God’s purpose for your life.
Remember, purpose outweighs wealth. A fat purse without a sense of purpose in life will eventually lose its significance.
Avoid falling into the trap of making money the central focus of your relationship decisions. Instead, give God the final say. He is the only one who truly knows what the future holds, and He can see things that human eyes cannot.
Before you inquire about someone’s bank account, seek to understand God’s account of that person. By doing so, you’ll make more informed and lasting choices in matters of the heart.
Conclusion
In the quest for true love and a fulfilling marriage, shifting the focus from material possessions to genuine compatibility and shared purpose is vital.
Trust in God’s plan, and you’ll be led to a partner who not only complements your life but also supports your journey toward a brighter future.
May God guide you in finding true love and reveal His plans for your life.
Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties Part 2. We started this yesterday and we will conclude this morning
4. Gifts
Gifts can symbolize a binding agreement within a soul tie. To break free from these ties, it’s necessary to eliminate any special gifts, such as rings, jewelry, or tokens that may carry symbolic significance. Disposing of these items is essential to sever any demonic connections they may represent.
5. Fasting and Prayer
Humbling your soul through fasting can weaken the bonds of soul ties. While fasting, you draw closer to divinity, and your spiritual ties are loosened. Engage in deliberate prayer, mentioning the name of the person involved, and sever all ties while declaring your freedom. Seek the support of a spiritual authority figure, such as a spiritual leader or pastor, to join you in this endeavor.
Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties Part 2
6. Break Vows with a Vow
Making a vow unto God by offering a seed can be a powerful way to break ungodly soul ties. Destroy any vows you’ve made by pledging a financial vow to God and His work. Seek God’s remembrance of your offering and ask for deliverance from all ungodly and demonic strongholds.
Psa 50:14-15 (KJV) Offer unto God thanksgiving; and pay thy vows unto the most High: [15] And call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me.
7. Praise
Consistent praise to God empowers you in the spiritual realm. Praise equips you with a spiritual sword, allowing you to exercise judgment over the works of the devil in your life. Through praise, you can execute the judgment written against all wickedness.
Psa 149:6-9 (KJV) Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a twoedged sword in their hand; [7] To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and punishments upon the people; [8] To bind their kings with chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron; [9] To execute upon them the judgment written: this honour have all his saints. Praise ye the LORD.
In conclusion, I declare, as a servant of the Lord, that every unhealthy soul tie is broken in the name of Jesus.
Through the power of praise and spiritual intervention, you are now free from the snares that once bound you. Be blessed.
Today, we are focusing on how to break free from them. Let’s delve into the steps to break these soul ties.
1. Repentance:
The initial and crucial step in breaking unhealthy soul ties is to repent. This repentance should encompass any sins, iniquities, or disobedience associated with the person you have a soul tie with. It’s essential to recognize that one cannot sever a soul tie while still engaging in any form of sexual sin with that person.
Repentance signifies a genuine desire for freedom and the willingness to let go of sin and disobedience. These negative elements only serve to strengthen the soul ties further.
Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties
2. Forgiveness:
In breaking unhealthy soul ties, forgiveness plays a dual role. Firstly, you need to forgive the other person involved in the soul tie, especially if you’ve discovered that they’ve been deceptive, manipulative, or have disrespected your dignity. Such experiences can be deeply hurtful and may lead to bitterness.
Secondly, you must also forgive yourself. Self-forgiveness can be a challenging endeavor, often necessitating the assistance of the Holy Spirit. For instance, victims of traumatic experiences like rape may find forgiveness difficult, yet scriptures affirm that total healing is unattainable until one learns to let go and let God. Holding onto bitterness only tightens the emotional bond between two souls.
Job 21:25 (KJV) And another dieth in the bitterness of his soul, and never eateth with pleasure.
Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties
3. Renunciation:
Soul ties are often established and can also be severed through the spoken word. Your words are powerful, as they are like spirits that never die. However, you can assert authority over these words. If you’ve made covenants, vows, or verbal commitments with the person you have a soul tie with, it’s imperative to renounce them.
Statements such as “I will die with you,” “I will love you forever,” or “I will never love anyone else but you” can be appropriate within a marital context but problematic when made to multiple partners simultaneously.
Pro 6:2 (KJV) Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.
What is that one thing that is also important in considering who to marry? His faith is important.
Mostly because his faith will influence yours.
It is his faith in God, that will cause him to have the fear of God.
If he has the fear of God, he will never cheat on you.
He would rather protect you and care for you.
He would have the wisdom to live with you and raise a godly family because the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.
Never ever get married to a man who has no regard for God.
It would be the greatest mistake ever!
Well, no matter how much you love him, no matter how much preparation you have made, no matter how much has been spent, if he does not have a relationship with God, pick your bags and bolt!
Run for your life.
Preserve your destiny with your choice.
2Co 6:14-15 (MSG) Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? [15] Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands?
In marriage, there is a “knowing” at the highest level as love is consummated.
The husband becomes the cover and the head of the family.
God forbids that the head is sick, for he would only transfer the sickness.
He can only give what he has.
God forbid that the head is foolish, he would only disseminate the foolishness and no more.
He would make foolish decisions and affect the wife and the children, and sometimes, the children’s children!
The mouth of the foolish poureth out foolishness.
Pro 15:2 (KJV) The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Pro 15:2 (MSG) Knowledge flows like spring water from the wise; fools are leaky faucets, dripping nonsense.
May you not have a leaky faucet of a head, dripping nonsense over your destiny!
Knowing Who To Marry
I tell you, as a counselor, that can be frustrating!
How beautiful is it, to have a praying man over your life, to have a man who is faithful to you, who will never cheat on you, not because he doesn’t feel like it but because he fears God!
You wouldn’t need to add the unrest, suspicion, insecurity, disagreements, and bickering that goes with knowing your spouse is cheating on you to your daily pressures.
Go for peace of mind.
If you are already married and have issues, please don’t give up too quickly. Pray and intercede! Go for therapy as well! Don’t keep quiet and watch things degenerate until it becomes too late!
Divorce is not always God’s direction unless life is threatened.
Take time to intercede and trust God for intervention and you will surely see the salvation of the Lord in Jesus name!
An Abusive Partner is more difficult to deal with in marriage than in courtship. In courtship, there is no legal binding of any sort and that means you can exit at will.
However, it is not so easy in marriage as there is legal bidding, a joining of bodies and the soul, a joining of families, and children born are also involved.
There are various types of abuse in marriage and abuse is at different levels. An abusive partner manipulates his/ her partner to gain control and oppress them.
There are different forms of abuse. There are different forms of emotional abuse like stonewalling, silent treatment, withdrawing love and affection, stalking, financial abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, using sensitive information or secrets to manipulate, blame shift, and the list goes on.
If you have an abusive partner you want to prioritize your safety and mental health. Whatever you do make sure you are not sucked into depression and other health issues as a result of your partner’s behaviour. You want to develop a coping mechanism while a lasting workable solution is being sorted out.
Since you are already married and joined together by covenant, I believe the first option is not to seek divorce but to seek a solution, unless your life is threatened.
You may find some of these tips helpful and applicable to your particular situation.
What if My Spouse Is Abusive?
1. Try to find out and understand why he/she is being abusive. Research through books to find out. Is it pressure, background, character flaws, or mental illness?
2. You want to seek God for wisdom and understanding through prayers and not complaining.
3. You want to develop a mechanism that will make you stronger than his/her abuses. Be strong in your spirit by being joyful and happy, and be financially independent. Let them know that you refuse to be abused.
4. Find a support group or system, for emotional support and know your right.
5. Talk to a counselor, a therapist, or a mentor, someone they respect and can listen to.
6. You want to be sure you are not doing things that will aggravate the situation
7. You want to change your perspective about the situation, that your partner needs help and you are being compassionate rather than being judgemental.
Like I said earlier in all these, your safety comes first. You might have to report to law enforcement agencies if physical abuse and threat to your life is involved.