Your relationship will work out if you decide to stay with God.
It doesn’t matter where you are at right now.
Start from somewhere in God.
Take it up from there.
Focus on your relationship with God.
Let His zeal eat you up.
Be consumed with pleasing Him.
And you will end up beautifying your destiny.
God is never confused about you.
He has it all perfectly planned out.
If you follow His map, you will not get lost.
Yes, sometimes, God leads round, but He will never lead you wrong.
Committed Until It’s Completed
Take a look at this scripture we all know:
Jeremiah 29:11 (KJV) For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
So, God knows the thoughts He is thinking about you. He’s not wiping sweat off His eyebrow over it.
Perhaps, you will understand better in the Message Translation:
Jeremiah 29:11 (MSG) I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.
Hey, God knows what He’s doing!
Think deeply about it.
He has it all planned out!
His plans are to take care of you.
Not to abandon you!
Committed Until It’s Completed
He has plans to give you a beautiful glorious future and that includes a beautiful marriage!
I prophesy unto you, you will find His plan in Jesus’ name!
You will not miss it. You will not stumble.
You will not waste years!
God will restore all that is lost.
That God-ordained relationship will become a reality in Jesus’ name!
I prophesy stability. Wisdom from above. Grace to follow God and obey Him.
As we step into another month, it will be a glorious month for you in Jesus’ name!
One of the greatest successful transition stories in the scripture is the transition of the children of Israel out of Egypt.
Could there be one or two lessons from that story that singles can learn from as they transition from being single to being married?
How did they leave Egypt?
Let’s dive into God’s word.
Hebrews 11:29 (KJV) BY FAITH they passed through the Red sea as by dry land: which the Egyptians assaying to do were drowned.
By faith!
They transited by faith!
Ok so, from being single to being married, you will do it by faith.
The next question then is how did they do it by faith?
What were the practical things they were doing that ensured a successful transition from Egypt?
Now, let’s interpret scripture with scripture.
Psalms 66:6 (KJV) He turned the sea into dry land: they went through the flood on foot: there did we REJOICE in him.
They went through the flood on foot by rejoicing!
That’s how they did it by faith.
Rejoicing!
Indeed, you cannot be in faith without rejoicing.
Embracing the Shift: Single to Married
So, I am saying this morning, that your transition from being single into a great marriage is going to be very smooth when you understand the mystery of rejoicing.
Depression, sadness, bitterness, unforgiving spirit, and the likes are like deep potholes and death traps on the road to marital fulfillment.
However and wherever you find yourself, rejoice!
Be full of praise.
Thank Him for the gift of life.
The dead don’t plan for a wedding.
Those in the grave expect no proposal.
Rejoice every single day!
Now, there is something I am going to tell you.
Every day, dance before the Lord!
Psalms 149:3 (KJV) Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp.
Rehearse your wedding day and dance in His presence every day!
The same principle applies to married couples who want to transition from being a woman to being a mother! Are you waiting on God for the fruit of the womb? Rejoice every day!
Embracing the Shift: Single to Married
Jeremiah 31:13 (GW) Then young women will rejoice and dance along with young men and old men. I will turn their mourning into joy. I will comfort them. I will give them joy in place of their sorrow.
I see every mourning, jilting, and disappointment turned into joy! God will comfort you with a good spouse!
God will have no choice but to facilitate your wedding!
There is something you have to work at as couples and it will save your marriage from unnecessary marital embarrassments.
I was looking at scripture in Genesis and I will like to share it with you! Just two verses!
Genesis 2:24 (KJV) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Here we see, that in marriage, you become one flesh.
The word cleave has so many meanings. But two of them caught my attention.
1. To catch by pursuit.
2. To pursue hard.
Cleaving is not what is done on the wedding day alone, it is what you do all your married life!
You are to keep PURSUING each other in love, looking for ways to satisfy each other, and looking for opportunities to bless each other.
You have to keep working at loving each other more, finding creative ways to love each other more.
This is how to cleave!
How is this cleaving expressed?
It tells us in the next verse!
Genesis 2:25 (KJV) And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Because they are now one flesh, there is nothing to HIDE again!
You cannot hide your flesh from your flesh!
The Bible says you become one flesh, not one spirit.
It means, in all things, things of the flesh, affairs of this world, everyday things, you are to be open to each other!
Do you get it?
Avoiding Marital Embarrassments
Every time a husband or wife hides something from his or her spouse, the devil is attempting to mess up with the one flesh principle instituted by God!
And then this is what the Holy Spirit showed me!
Because they were naked and not ashamed, they will not not see shame!
Amplified Version says:
Genesis 2:25 (AMPC) And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other’s presence.
Avoiding Marital Embarrassments
Their nakedness to each other eliminated every shame!
The word naked suggests nudity in all senses.
Nudity of thoughts, intents to each other!
Dear husband and wife, be open to each other.
When something is nude, there is no packaging.
Don’t repackage what happened to your spouse. Say it as it is. The truth sets free. Falsehood brings bondage and robs you of your boldness. That is how to enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings in your marriage and avoid unnecessary embarrassments!
I will continue where I stopped two days ago. Previously, I wrote about the fact that God gave every woman the ability and capacity to be a builder.
Our text in Proverbs 14:1 KJ V says,
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands’.
We also talked about how we need to build according to the pattern.
Ex 25:40 And look that thou make them after their pattern, which was shewed thee in the mount.
God is the architect, He gives us the blueprint of what we should build, the material to use in building, and how we should build. It is building according to the pattern that makes us wise women who build our homes.
Today, we will be looking at how we should build our homes and families.
1. We should build with prayers
Jud 1:20-But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost,
Our homes and families have different aspects just like any building has different sections and areas like the sitting room, the bathroom, the bedroom, the kitchen etc. Each of these different component of the building have different functionalities and you cannot replace them with each other. In the same way, the different aspects of our homes and families need to be built up through prayers.
You must build every aspect of your home, marriage, and family with prayers. As a woman, you are not permitted to joke with prayers. Pray for each child. In fact, praying for them starts from conception. And the best way to pray for your children is in tongues as the Holy Spirit grants you utterance. You pray for and about your spouse and every detail of his life. It is an assignment. Your husband’s success should be your prayer burden. Pray for yourself because you are also part of that building. It is full-time work. There are so many aspects of your home and marriage that you build up through prayers.
2. We should build with the Word
Luk 6:47 Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like:
Luk 6:48 He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
The word of God is our only guarantee of a strong and solid foundation for our homes, marriage, and families. The infallible word of God is what ensures that what we are building stands the test of time and can weather the storms of life. So that whatever beats against our family and marriage, we will still be standing.
When we take time to build intentionally with fervent and continuous prayers and the Word of God we are wise. Don’t let us be like the foolish builder in Luke 6:49. Let’s learn to build according to the pattern God has shown us.
It is my prayer that we will be wise indeed and that the Lord will give us strength and Grace to carry on His mandate for our lives as women.
There are ways that look good and yet they are dead ends. There are marital pursuits that look like heaven on earth, yet they end up being hell on earth.
One of the greatest prayers to pray is to ask God to guide your feet and prevent you from stepping into marital errors.
And this, God has done in many ways, but we often think it is a disappointment and that something is wrong somewhere.
Yes, something is actually wrong, and God is often behind some relationships that crashed. God will not look on and allow evil to befall you. He is committed via the covenant.
Securing Your Marital Destination
Take a look at the scripture:
Psalms 119:29 (KJV) Remove from me the way of lying: and grant me thy law graciously.
This is a prayer unto God to stop you from the way that is replete with errors.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Psalms 119:29 (MSG) Barricade the road that goes Nowhere; grace me with your clear revelation.
Wow!
May God barricade every evil way disguised as a romantic adventure!
May you be graced with clear revelation!
There have been barricades, right? God could be behind some of them. In order to protect you!
What’s the point of getting married only to discover surprises that throw you into perpetual despondency?
What’s the point of marrying a lover only to discover that you married an unrepentant cheat?
What is the point of getting married only to discover that it is no different from being sentenced to a marital prison?
God in His sovereignty and benevolence will prevent you from entering into a lifetime of regrets, pain, and agony if you listen to Him.
Securing Your Marital Destination
The next verses are very profound. Read them slowly.
Psalms 119:30-34 (MSG) I choose the true road to Somewhere, I post your road signs at every curve and corner. [31] I grasp and cling to whatever you tell me; GOD, don’t let me down! [32] I’ll run the course you lay out for me if you’ll just show me how. [33] GOD, teach me lessons for living so I can stay the course. [34] Give me insight so I can do what you tell me— my whole life one long, obedient response.
May this be your story in Jesus’ name!
May your errors lead you back to God and into miracles.
I pray for you, God will teach you how to grasp and cling to what He says in Jesus’ name.
For those who are already married, and you are feeling you have made a mistake now because of things you discovered, take to the Lord in prayer. Seek help. Seek Counsel. Go for therapies if needed. Do all in your capacity to salvage your marriage, because if a person failed in marriage, it affects every other thing! May God give you the wisdom and fortitude to do the right and the needful!
