I’m sure you’ve seen the phrase where the mind goes and the man follows before. You’ve probably heard it and similar expressions a lot.
These are excellent phrases. We’re going to look at how crucial it is to gird your mental loins. How to accept responsibility and regain control of your mind.
Our scripture will be taken from
I kg 18:46 KJV And the hand of the Lord was on Elijah; and he girded up his loins, and ran before Ahab to the entrance of Jezreel.
Girding Your Mind’s Loins in Marriage
God was preparing to grant Elijah incredible speed, but he had to gird his loins.
It was something the Holy Spirit would not do on his behalf. You must accept responsibility for your own thoughts.
Negative thoughts can obstruct God’s operation in your life and marriage.
Girding your loins, as Elijah did, meant tying up all the loose ends of his garment so he could run freely with nothing impeding his movement.
We, too, should gird our loins like Elijah. Don’t just let any notions into your mind. You may not be able to stop the thoughts from entering your head, but you should not welcome them. You have a choice; make good use of it.
Make decisions that will help you progress.
Examine every thought. The Bible instructed us on what thoughts we should tolerate in our minds.
Girding Your Mind’s Loins in Marriage
Phil 4:8 KJV Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Any idea that contradicts anything on this list should be destroyed, dragged down, or cast down.
2Cor 10:4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.
You cannot have impure thoughts about your spouse and expect God’s blessing on your marriage.
You can’t be full of sexual thoughts and expect to come up with novel ideas.
Allow God’s thoughts to take over your mind.
In Jesus’ name, I pray that the Holy Spirit will give us strength, and that we will use the strength already accessible in the Holy Spirit to gird our minds.
What do you mean, Pastor? I received a phone call from a lady a few years ago. On the phone, she began to bemoan God’s failure to answer her prayers for a suitor and marriage. She went on and on about how she sought God’s face but received no response. She stated that she had been on a seven-day fast even as we spoke, with no success.
Then she threw in a sentence that exposed her folly and ignorance. “Even this man I’m with now hasn’t said anything about marriage!” she exclaimed.
“Which man?” I inquired, curious. “I’m in his house now, and he’s just sleeping with me; he hasn’t said anything about the wedding!” she explained.
Wow! She is fasting and praying, and yet she is sleeping with a married man! God will not be mocked! That is nothing but adultery! God frowns upon it!
Don’t Frolic With Married Folks
God expects you to dedicate your life to Him. You can’t locate the correct person if you’ve already found the wrong one. You cannot consistently pray for God’s guidance while engaging in sexual sin.
Rom 6:14 (KJV) For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.
See it in another way:
Rom 6:14 (TPT) Remember this: sin will not conquer you, for God already has! You are not governed by law but governed by the reign of the grace of God.
Consider how the Good News Bible puts it:
Rom 6:14 (GNB) Sin must not be your master; for you do not live under law but under God’s grace.
Let me simply mention two things concerning sexual offenses, particularly adultery.
Don’t Frolic With Married Folks
An adulterous affair is a form of cheating on your destiny.
Why is this the case? It is a clear breach of God’s values, and as a result, you do not have God’s backing and favor in your life. It’s not worthwhile. Why would you deprive another person of something that is truly theirs while hoping for the best for yourself?
Adultery is a bad idea.
That was said by God, not me. I’m simply repeating what God stated.
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. (Proverbs 6:32 KJV)
This is also true for the lady in question. Now look at that in Message translation because the KJV appears to be really nice there.
Adultery is a brainless act, soul–destroying, self–destructive; (Proverbs 6:32 Message)
Brainless! That is not good, but it is the truth!
The passage is saying that if we can think profoundly, we would not engage in adultery for everything in this world.
We can see the connotation of adultery right there.
Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good. For jealousy detonates rage in a cheated husband; wild for revenge, he won’t make allowances (Proverbs 6:33-34 Message)
Don’t Frolic With Married Folks
The next time someone tries to convince you into making a compromise, tell them that’s a bad idea.
As a single, avoid overly pleasant married folks because there is usually an objective behind all the presents you are given. Intention manifests and becomes a reality through time.
It is acceptable to communicate your feelings for your fiancée, but you must not allow verbal expression to escalate into romantic antic. You certainly understand what I mean! There is a distinction to be made between expressing love and expressing lust. The former leads to regret and sorrow, whereas the latter leads to healthy partnerships.
For couples, keep expressing love to one another, and don’t let it be during bedroom affairs alone!
Take Note of These Facts, Singles
2. In terms of Beauty
Ladies who are not yet in a relationship should recognize that they will not appear attractive to everyone.
If someone thinks you’re ugly, that’s their view. You will be stunning to your spouse! According to the Bible, you are ‘fearfully’ and ‘wonderfully’ constructed. So it is acceptable to feel ‘fearful’ to some people. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
When your spouse sees you, you will be the most beautiful lady on the planet. So don’t stress yourself out unnecessarily.
Take Note of These Facts, Singles
3. Having a Sleepover
Things your parents should not hear and your preacher should not know are primarily inappropriate. It is not the time to spend the night at your fiance’s house cooking and washing singlets and boxers! This is not the goal of courtship. Every sexual compromise leads to confusion of the soul!
Take Note of These Facts, Singles
4. Concerning Group Prayer
Avoid praying together in the middle of the night. Don’t put yourself in a trap. You’re praying together in his room at the evening, and the power goes out, and you’re still looking for a touch light? That is the moment to flee for your life.
It’s not so much that he’s a Christian or a prayer leader as he’s a guy and a human being.
All those prayers you say while wearing something seductive are slowly killing the guy. His eyes are red, his tongues are shifting, and you believe that is because of the anointing? No way, the man is on fire! And the bible states that you cannot carry fire in your bosom without being burned.
For couples, do not stop praying together, especially in the night! Never stop praying!
Everyone experiences depression, moodiness, or despair from time to time. Life, as they say, happens, and singles in courtship and couples are not immune.
In most cases, your partner will not be able to solve your mood swings or sadness, but having someone on whose shoulders you can cry can be quite beneficial.
Furthermore, depending on how long you’ve been married, your spouse may lack the appropriate words or acts to make you feel better.
Being patient with your partner will help here. He or she may be coping with troubles of their own and is simply attempting to be strong for you.
It is impossible to overstate the importance of having a personal relationship with the person of the Holy Spirit. He is the greatest source of solace for our souls. He is our fortified. Our helper and comforter.
Job told his friends:
Job 16:2 (KJV) [2] I have heard many such things: miserable comforters are ye all.
The Holy Spirit is the only true comforter!
He provides and brings us joy, gladness, and help.
However, as a pair, we must continue to support one another.
Here are two good strategies to encourage your spouse during difficult times.
Be An Encouragement To Your Lover
1. Communicate with the Holy Spirit.
It is extremely beneficial to have daily communication with the person of the Holy Spirit. Before you lash out at your spouse for acting in particular ways or conclude that he or she is uncooperative, take the situation to God.
Oh, the things we frequently forego.
Oh, what unnecessary suffering we endure because we do not bring all to God in prayer.
Be An Encouragement To Your Lover
2. Express genuine affection to your spouse
A deep and sincere love for your spouse is one method you might give your spouse in such circumstances. Feel compassion for him or her.
When you take stock of your life, you will see some ups and downs. You will become aware of several difficulties that almost pushed you or your relationship and marriage off balance.
You may have faced health or financial difficulties, emotional difficulties, feelings of neglect and uncared for, and so on.
As we move on this year, whatever has happened in the previous months should not be utilized to predict what will happen in the following month.
Take a look at what God says.
Psa 81:13-14 KJV (13) Oh that my people had hearkened unto me, and Israel had walked in my ways! (14) I should soon have subdued their enemies, and turned my hand against their adversaries.
Follow The Directions On The Map
In the preceding verse, Jesus just asks for two things from you.
to pay attention to him;
to walk in his ways
Let us consider another translation:
Psa 81:13-14 MSG (13) “Oh, dear people, will you listen to me now? Israel, will you follow my map? (14) I’ll make short work of your enemies; give your foes the back of my hand.
Follow The Directions On The Map
Will you stick to the plan? You’ve always done things your way, and all you’ve gotten is grief and heartache.
Make the decision to follow God. Get rid of your own agenda. Allow God to guide your life, relationship and or marriage!
Some of the things God will advise you to do may seem counterintuitive, but they will shape your future!
Isn’t it wise to follow the one who sees today and knows what will happen tomorrow? Isn’t it good to follow the one who has given hundreds of Saints and Patriarchs a map over the previous 6000 years?
I believe this is an excellent moment to make that decision. Make the decision to do things God’s way.
I pray for you that God would give you inner strength today and always. God will honor you as you choose to honor Him in your life and relationships.
