Misconceptions in Relationships and Marriages. It is no secret that there have been numerous misconceptions surrounding relationships and marriages in recent years. These misconceptions have led many astray and caused irreparable damage to relationships. In this devotional, we seek to shed light on some of these misconceptions and correct them with the truth of God’s word.
1. Judging a Person by Their Sexual Performance
One of the most common misconceptions is that a person’s sexual performance is a reliable indicator of their character. This is not only false but also degrading. It reduces a person to the level of a prostitute.
In reality, there are numerous variables that one should consider when determining a person’s character. These variables may include integrity, vision, life principles, and so on. It is essential to evaluate a person as a whole rather than zeroing in on just one aspect of their physical life. Doing so can lead to a complete misconception of who that person truly is.
In marriage, young couples should understand that sex gets better with time. Older wine tastes better. So do not quickly conclude that your spouse is boring in bed. The Bible tells us the Holy Spirit teaches us all things, and that does not exclude the bedroom.
Misconceptions in Relationships and Marriages
2. Pre-Marital Sex as a Means of Securing a Relationship
Another misconception is that engaging in pre-marital sex is a way of consummating a relationship before marriage. However, this is nothing but a compromise. The moment you compromise, you reduce the chances of your getting married because you are no longer going to have God’s support and favor.
God has a standard, and compromising it is not an option. Everyone may be doing it, but it doesn’t make it right. You should not base your resolve to live a righteous life on the people around you but on your faith in God’s word.
Married couples should go beyond bedroom intimacy to 24/7 intimacy, Try non-sexual touches and communicate to your spouse that you want their person and not just the sex.
3. Once is Enough
Another misconception is the belief that engaging in pre-marital sex just once is okay. This is not true, and it is a dangerous mindset to have. Beyond the physical aspect, there is a spiritual influence that keeps you tangled and looking for more.
Once is bad enough, and people don’t die twice. A demonic influence only needs once! This negative spiritual influence can only be truncated by the anointing of God and the renewal of your mind in God’s word. However, note that if you make a mistake, God will forgive you!
Married couples should enjoy themselves and not allow persistent quarrels to tear them apart.
Misconceptions in Relationships and Marriages
4. Your Body is Not Collateral
Your body is not collateral for a relationship or marriage. Giving in to a partner’s desire to secure a relationship is a terrible idea. It is wise to do things God’s way; otherwise, you will keep securing what will never work at the end of the day. The problem is that you keep securing until there is nothing left to secure!
Married couples, your body does not belong to you after the wedding! Take note!
1 Corinthians 7:4 (TPT) Neither the husband nor the wife have exclusive rights to their own bodies, but those rights are to be surrendered to the other.
Sade is head over heels in love with Andy. They were both excited about getting married. But she has reservations in her heart. She had no idea what to do with her doubts.
George and Sandy are having an affair. Sandy is gorgeous to him, but he has this nagging feeling that something isn’t quite right.
Betty and Buddy have gotten married. They had a son, and everyone thought their marriage was beautiful, but they are beginning to wonder if they are destined for each other.
This morning, I want to talk about doubts in marriage. What are you going to do about your doubts?
Conquering Doubts In Your Love Life
When do questions arise in a relationship or marriage? These are some examples.
1 When a connection is not of God and God is attempting to draw your focus to Himself.
2 When a relationship is of God, but the devil wishes to mislead you in order for you to miss God’s will.
3 When your marriage expectations are unrealistic and your expectations are not satisfied.
4 When you engage in sexual sins, turmoil enters the soul because God’s order has been broken. Unless you swiftly ask God for forgiveness and then truly repent, the adversary will take advantage of the circumstance and cause misunderstanding.
5 When you have a distorted view of life and marriage, you will have questions about a relationship or marriage, even if it is God’s purpose.
6 When you begin a relationship or enter into a marriage without first seeking God’s guidance.
7 When the only thing you did before entering a relationship or marriage was seek some prophet or advice without a personal inner conviction.
8 When you start a relationship or get married as an escape from what you’ve recently been through.
9 When every authority figure in your life is opposed to your relationships and marriage. Doubts will occur along the road.
10 When major obstacles emerge and you are unable to handle them appropriately, you will begin to doubt.
Conquering Doubts In Your Love Life
The next question is whether or not doubt can be entirely eradicated.
The answer is emphatically NO! You see, you are still in your flesh, and doubts will try to enter your heart, but once you have heard God, you can simply eliminate the doubt!
Do you remember Jesus Christ? When the agony of what was to come overtook him in the Garden of Gethsemane, doubts began to creep in.
The second issue is, what can I do to avoid doubts?
1 Never take a step until you are certain it is God’s will.
When doubts occur, you will be able to immediately identify the source and deal with it. You will recognize that uncertainty is attempting to pull you away from God’s will, and you will oppose it.
However, when you are doubtful if it was God or not in the first place, and when doubts occur along the way, you are confused about how to address them since inner conviction is lacking.
2. Don’t be too hasty. Don’t fall in love rashly.
3 Listen to all authoritative figures in your life, including pastors, parents, mentors, and so on.
4 Learn to read and study God’s word on a regular basis.
It provides you wisdom, which helps to balance your soul.
The Power of Words in Romantic Relationships. This morning, I’d like to write about something essential. It is a biblical principle that ensures us daily triumph in our daily work, relationships, marriage, and life in general.
On the wedding day, words are exchanged as vows, and those words become the terms of the marital partnership. Constant, loving words must be spoken in marriage or the union will die. That is how significant words can be.
To dedicate your life to Jesus, you must confess a few words, and that’s it! Words are extremely essential in the Spirit realm, and the devil is well aware of this. That is why he tries to feed you unpleasant thoughts so you can express them. When you express them, they become your reality. In Jesus’ name, that will not be your lot.
So this morning’s inquiry is, “What are you saying?”
The Power of Words in Romantic Relationships
According to the Bible, when you keep your mouth, you keep your life! Take care what you say!
Don’t say something like, “I don’t even understand my own life.” (You will never understand it when you keep saying that)
“I’m completely perplexed.” (You just granted the spirit of confusion legal access to your soul.) “I believe there is a curse working against me.” (You just empowered the devil to operate)
Never use inappropriate language. Never say anything hurtful to your fiancée or spouse!
Don’t say something like “You are extremely stupid!”
Do not tell your wife she is slow.
Don’t refer to your husband as an irresponsible man.
Don’t tear your future spouse in half with your lips, dear future Wife. There is a distinction to be made between a wife and a knife!
Don’t injure and wound your future wife-to-be with insensitive words; dear husband-to-be, words mean a lot to them.
Pro 13:2-3 KJV (2) A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence. (3) He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.
The Power of Words in Romantic Relationships
There are parents who refer to their children as “coconut heads!”
How would the child be bright with that prophecy when you know the only thing inside a coconut is water? Or do you not realize that whatever you call your children as parents is a foreshadowing of their future?
Don’t tell your wife, “Fat lazy woman, you were once slim and beautiful when I found you, but now you are…” Guess who made her that way? Rather than saying that, go to the gym and sign her up!
Don’t tell your hubby, “I regret ever knowing you!” Rather than saying that, pray for him since you are one!
If you are a single person who is subjected to verbal abuse on a regular basis, do not close your eyes and walk into a relationship. Seek counseling since he may not change; in fact, he may worsen after marriage because marriage does not transform anyone.
If the lady you want to marry is constantly shutting you down for any reason, it is a flaw; seek assistance and counseling!
Words are extremely crucial! Don’t tell me someone loves you when he or she constantly demotivates and weakens you with words!
5 Life-Altering Choices You Should Consider. Life is about making choices! Consider yesterday and count the number of decisions you took on your own. Your current life is a result of the choices you made in the past. The choices you make now will set the stage for the life you lead tomorrow.
2Sa 8:15 ERV – David ruled over all Israel, and he made good and fair decisions for all of his people.
There are seasons for every MAN. Morning, afternoon, and night, respectively.
The issue is that terrible choices made in the morning of one’s life do not manifest until the evening!
Most likely, you are currently in the afternoon phase of your life. Your morning error should not turn into a nighttime regret you’ll always have.
Strong decisions can alter the way your tomorrow will pan out.
Making decisions is difficult because it forces you to confront your routines and comfort zones, often in a painful way. However, it is the cost you must pay in order to proceed.
You cannot carry on doing things the way you have been doing them if you desire a different outcome in your life.
These are the choices you must make. However, the list is not all-inclusive.
1. Make the decision to connect with God.
Without this, you will not get far. A slight breeze, like when you blow out a candle, could end your life, and that would be the end of it. Fear Him who made you and has preserved you! Give your life back to Him in thanks for the gift of life!
Mat 10:28 (MSG) “Don’t be bluffed into silence by the threats of bullies. There’s nothing they can do to your soul, your core being. Save your fear for God, who holds your entire life—body and soul—in his hands.
2. Determine to have everyday fellowship with God.
You must experience daily refreshment and rejuvenation otherwise you will quickly grow weary. When fatigue is at its worst, suicidal thoughts may surface. Be sage!
Isa 40:31 (MSG) But those who wait upon GOD get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, They run and don’t get tired, they walk and don’t lag behind.
3. Always ask the Holy Spirit for guidance.
You have been designed as a believer to succeed solely with His assistance. You won’t be able to overcome sin without Him.
Gal 5:16 (KJV) This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
4. Choose to take responsibility.
Live your life responsibly. Get a pastor or mentor to intentionally guide you. In this way, you are kept alive. Get a confidant in your life who you can call whenever you need advice! Maintain contact with them. Grant him. Say a prayer for him. That is how a good protege behaves.
1Ti 4:14 (TPT) Don’t minimize the powerful gift that operates in your life, for it was imparted to you by the laying on of hands of the elders and was activated through the prophecy they spoke over you.
5. Choose not to engage in iniquity
Don’t let your youthful exuberance drive you to shortchange yourself or compromise your future. Zip up! Avoid engaging in any sexual vices. Quit being a boy, be authentic! Women, keep your virtue! Keep your word to your spouse. Never play around with premarital sex!
2Ti 2:19 (KJV) Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity.
Ten Tips For Finding Joy As Single Or Married. Singles and married couples alike are frequently sidetracked by the ups and downs of life. Here’s a reminder of what you should do to each other on a regular basis, as well as how to do it.
1. Please pray your spouse
Allow it to be genuine. This allows you to bring God’s help to bear on your behalf. Genuine prayers for each other will help keep you together. Reduce disagreements and increase prayer periods.
2. Call each other every day.
The problem is not whether you will see each other later in the day; the issue is that communication is the lifeline of any relationship or marriage that can survive. Keep in touch. Send SMS. Use chats.
3. Exchange gifts on a regular basis.
Ten Tips For Finding Joy As Single Or Married
It does not have to be costly! But it must be touching. Take note of what I said: exchange gifts, not gather gifts! Those small actions serve to keep the fire burning in your relationship and marriage.
4. Tell him or her how God is dealing with you through His word.
Whatever God tells you in your devotion or personal walk with God will bless him or her for as long as it blesses you. When you want to do that, you don’t have to make it look like you’re in another service, but you should make it as natural as possible.
5. Be encouraging to one another.
You are his biggest fan. You are her biggest fan. Don’t put each other down. Don’t waste your time and energy on criticism. Because you are the closest person, your opinion counts for a lot.
6. Forgive one another so that your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
You’re not flawless, are you? So, rather than becoming a judge, gently overlook and forget any flaws that are designed to appear.
Ten Tips For Finding Joy As Single Or Married
7. Make corrections with love.
Do you realize that it can take up to nine affirming statements to accommodate and see one critique as it should be seen? But you know what people do? They make nine harshly critical statements and one or none of the affirming statements. That will not have a beneficial outcome.
8. Seek to assist one another in following God’s directions.
You have the most influence. Don’t tempt him or her to sin. Stay on the straight and narrow and assist him or her in resisting temptations.
9. Don’t fuel each other’s flaws.
Instead, you should balance him or her out because you will always be stronger in areas where he or she is weak. Make yourself ready to assist him in standing. Be there to assist her in saying no to evil. Don’t be perceived as an accomplice in crime or wrongdoing. Allow him or her to state, “I believe my loved one; he will never compromise.” Trust one another and keep your trust safe.
10. Make sure you have a mentor with whom you communicate on a regular basis.
Sometimes the most heated disputes and disagreements can be resolved with a few simple comments. That is God’s grace upon our lives and this ministry: to provide positive assistance in crisis-ridden couples and godly advise to those in courtship.
Accountability to others who have done what you are attempting to achieve is really wise. Stay close to these devotionals that have helped many marriages and relationships around the world, discuss it from time to time, and continue to make improvements! So, God help us!
