The Day I Met My Dream Man. The earthquakes going on in their hearts were unprecedented. All it took was the locking of their eyes for a brief moment, less than ten seconds, and sparks flew everywhere. There were no warning tremors. Its magnitude is massive enough to destroy a whole city block. It wasn’t a one-sided spark, it was mutual.
It was a like a movie straight out of Hollywood kind of meeting, everything seemed in place, the lips, tips, and hips matched the six packs, the muscles, and the beards.
Finally, it was looking like God has answered her prayers! What a good God we serve! The night vigils are finally paying off. The fasting can now be put at bay and wow, What a God of suddenly! Can I recover from the suddenness of God? She thought!
As they approached each other for the all-important introduction, her knees shook, and his lips trembled.
It looked like a heavenly written love script, except for one thing!
Their hands locked in a romantic handshake, and the handshake shook them, causing their knees to tremble in response to the “heart-quake!”
The Day I Met My Dream Man.
“Hullo, I am Bode!”
What? The voice! God can be so detailed. She wanted this Bass Voice!
“Pleasure meeting you, I am Sandy!”
Bode smiled and there was the gap tooth she wanted! She knew her testimony would be powerful on Sunday!
“I am married!” Bode said!
The shockwave sent into her interrupted the ‘heart-quakes”
“Ohh…” she said in a voice-laden disappointment, and her facial expression changed from one of ecstasy to that of irritation.
“Excuse me, I will like to use the convenience.”
The Day I Met My Dream Man.
That was her escape! She looked at herself in the mirror, a lone tear emerged and she quickly sent it back through the tear duct before it messed with her makeup!
She wondered how she nearly fell into a trap.
She knew married men is nowhere to go.
“No way, I am not about to mess it all up because of some nonsense feelings. Feelings won’t wreck my journey with God. God has a plan for me.” She affirmed to herself.
As she went home quietly, she thanked God on one side that she wasn’t deceived by that man for she would have fallen into that trap at that moment when all her thinking faculties have been hacked.
She remembered the scripture:
Proverbs 31:30 (KJV) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
It was all looking like favour, but it was a trap wrapped up in favour! The dream nan can be the wrong man!
The ultimate place God wants you to be in any relationship or marriage is that place where you love THE RIGHT towards your spouse and you hate THE WRONG towards your spouse!
What will that do?
It will cause God to anoint you with an oil that will give you leverage and space in your career business, ministry or whatever you do!
Really, Pastor? Do you mean how I treat my spouse has something to do with my productivity? Exactly Yes!
See it in the scripture before you start wondering “What is Pastor teaching again o?
Rights and Wrongs of Relationship and Marriage
Psalms 45:7 (MSG) You love the right and hate the wrong. And that is why God, your very own God, poured fragrant oil on your head, Marking you out as king from among your dear companions.
Do you see what it says right there? If you love the right and hate the wrong towards your lover or spouse, there is a release of fragrant oil on your head! The oil is to make you a KING among your contemporaries!
Wow!
Psalms 45:7 (AMPC) You love righteousness, uprightness, and right standing with God and hate wickedness; therefore God, Your God, has anointed You with the oil of gladness above Your fellows.
King James Version calls it the Oil of gladness.
Rights and Wrongs of Relationship and Marriage
When you are somewhere where your spouse is not and yet you maintain your integrity, you refuse to cheat even when you are pressured or tempted, God sees that, and His justice system will cause oil to flow that will aid you and bring you much profit and result that will propel you above your competitors, colleagues or contemporaries!
Treat your spouse well.
Singles, stop breaking hearts all over the place, thinking that is where it ends! You are literarily refusing the oil of gladness when you do that! May that not be your portion!
Honour your spouse and see money flow into your hands! Stay faithful and see God hear your prayers! Avoid emotional affairs and see how the oil of gladness will flow and give you amazing testimonies!
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love. Love comes with heartbreaks Marital crashes often occur on the high road of romance and love. ! There are those moments when the eyes are red, and the tears flow endlessly and you just couldn’t be consoled enough.
For singles, it could be those times of rejection, when the one you love walks away or you are even the one who needed to walk away. Either way, walking away is not always a pleasant experience.
It could be those times you suddenly feel betrayed when you discover that the one you have been loving all your life is loving another!
It could be those times when you feel neglected and it seems nobody is looking your way. All the guys seemed blind, and they can’t see you unless for those who wanted a ride!
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love
For the married, it could be those times when all your expectations have been disappointed and what you see in marriage is far from what you think it should be.
It could be those times when you feel misunderstood and your spouse isn’t lifting a finger to understand your feelings.
It could be those times when you are so deeply hurt that it reaches to the bone and marrows when the one you love and trust has broken your trust, caught red-handed frolicking with the opposite sex.
Or it could just be any of the days when there are no stars in the sky, and the moody mushy thing envelopes you and you don’t want to talk to anybody including GOD.
It could be times of going through a midlife crisis when all the cruises are gone and all that is left are crashes.
In any of those sad unhappy times, what do you do?
Sing. Rejoice. Dance. Jubilate!
What?
Isa 54:1 (KJV) Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the LORD.
Healing From The Heartbreaks of Love
That is what you do. Do the opposite of what your flesh wants. And then, in an incredible turn of events, you will see God’s intervention and justice system in that situation and you will have victory and rejoice at the last.
Do not grumble. Do not get bitter. Do not fight back.
Leave all the fights to God.
Rom 12:19 (MSG) Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.”
And when you do this, get ready to rejoice, because there is a REJOICING after the rejoicing.
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions. Here are some distinctions between singles and married that will communicate some wisdom to you.
1. The single person is just simply “selfish”
They think of themselves and no other. However, once married, they have to move from that point of “self” to “us’ for the marriage to be successful.
The singles have to train themselves to be selfless, to think of the other people around them, and learn to show some empathy and care because that is what marriage is all about.
In marriage, it’s all about pleasing one another. After pleasing God, the next person you want to please is your spouse!
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions
2. The singles are to stay away from pre-marital sex.
After the wedding, the couple is licensed to have sex. Even if they wanted it ten times a day, the angels will be clapping for them. But for singles involved in pre-marital sex, the angels will flap their wings and escape so that their eyes will not behold evil. Lol.
However what do we have, we are admonishing singles to wait and not be sexually involved, while we are begging married couples to have sex!
This is simply the ploy of the devil. While single, it looks like sex is the ultimate. Not really. Food is even more important than sex. You can’t do without food for a year, but I lived without sex for twenty-seven years. The very first time was after my wedding!
What about those who are already sexually active? Don’t beat yourself hard. Return to God. Let God help you and teach you how to put your body under. You must discipline your body and not respond to lust because a wedding doesn’t solve the lust problem! That is why some married folk cheat on each other!
Singles Versus Married: Some Distinctions
3. Use your season wisely.
As singles, you have all the time in the world to pray, so use that season of your life wisely. As couples, you are not going to have as much time, however the advantage you will have is the power of agreement. You will be able to join hands together and move mountains.
And this is also why you must avoid strife and quarrels like a plague so that you can properly harness the power of agreement.
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love. A true genuine love doesn’t just want to get, it wants to give!
Let’s go even further. A true love doesn’t want to give to get, it just wants to give!
There are men who will give just anything and yet it won’t still be true love!
There are men who will fund girls and yet would refuse to pay their children’s school fees, and yet it is not true love! That is just giving to get and at the height of it, it is still manipulative and unhealthy!
True love is sacrificial. True love wants the best for their lover. They don’t want them hurt in any way. They won’t violate them to fulfill the rush of their adrenaline.
True love considers their partner. True love wants the other person to be happy and joyful.
True love is not a user. True love is not manipulative or controlling.
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love
In marriage, true love wants their spouse to be happy and joyful. True love wants to please their spouse all the time.
True love will never cheat on their spouse! They love their spouse too much to desecrate their marital covenant or jeopardize their precious union.
True love wants the best for one another. Even when there are some quarrels or disagreements, it’s all resolved quickly because true love can’t successfully stay away emotionally from their lover for too long.
True love forgives quickly and rapidly because camaraderie, intimacy, loving communication, and romantic collaboration is priority!
The Unveiling of True Authentic Love
True love is not interested to the point of pursuing another person. True love is focused.
True love believes in the best and prays the best into one another.
True love looks out for one another, solving problems for one another and doing things that make them happy!
True love has the fear of God. The fear of God under guards true love and supplies the strength needed to do the needful and avoid the harmful.
