Number One Quality To Look Out For. Do you really want to know? Having been married for 24 years, I can tell you that quality is Meekness! It is one quality that will help your relationship last longer! Meekness means being submissive, and teachable. It does not mean being weak or weak-willed; rather, it is strength under control. The dictionary says that meekness can be seen as having or showing a quiet and gentle nature; not wanting to fight or argue with other people.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures: 1Pe 3:3-4 (KJV) Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; [4] But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a MEEK and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Number One Quality To Look Out For
Here the scriptures advise that besides beauty, which is evident in adorning the hair, use of jewelry, and nice wear, let there be an adorning of the heart as well–this is an ornament of MEEKNESS (or being MEEK). You see, we all come into relationships and marriages with baggage–unwanted thoughts and feelings from past emotional upheavals, tensions arising from strained relationships in the past, highly opinionated postures emanating from parental upbringing, warped ideas resulting from emotional, verbal, sexual, and physical abuses.
To be teachable and submissive is the only way to make it in a relationship or marriage. A hard posture and statue-like stance will almost always destroy any relationship or marriage. Flexibility and willingness to adjust and learn new things will go a long way to add spice and fun to your relationship or marriage. Beware of opinionated, stubborn, and unwilling to change-partners!
Even as a child of God, your success is predicated on the continual renewal of your mind with the word of God. This constant transformation has to be taking place. That is why you go to church; that’s why we send you KHC devotional daily; that’s why you should read your Bible daily.
Number One Quality To Look Out For 2Co 3:18 (KJV) But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.
If you are already in a relationship or married, that is one way to start changing. You cannot change your lover or spouse; if you attempt it, you will be frustrated. But with the word of God and its study, anybody can make a change in his or her life.
God loves those who are meek and teachable! Psa 25:9 (KJV) The meek will He guide in judgment: and the meek will He teach his way.
The meek person will always rise to the top in any situation. Psalms 147:6 (KJV) The LORD lifteth up the meek: he casteth the wicked down to the ground.
The point is that you should look out for a meek lover.
Beware of any lover who doesn’t want to be taught, who is not submissive to any authority, and that his or her parents cannot talk to.
One of the saddest statements I have heard in counseling sessions was when a person said their spouse doesn’t listen to anybody, not even their parents!
Do not marry anybody who is not accountable to someone! If you do, you are on your own!
Pay Attention: Don’t Dismiss These Statements. At work, Mrs. Johnson became sidetracked and started falling for another man. Despite her sincere love for God, she was losing ground. She found it hard to believe. Her emotions were like a roller coaster, and her mind was chaotic. Her spouse didn’t understand the delicate predicament she was in despite her repeated attempts to communicate it to him in very subtle ways.
George, who was seeing Sandy, was, however, being sidetracked by another woman. In an effort to combat the new feelings, he tried to obtain Sandy’s attention. However, Sandy was busy, which made him more vulnerable.
The truth is that comments made by married people or single people who are courting frequently reveal the depth of the trap in a marriage or relationship.
Your words can frequently disclose the types of problems you have and need to address, even if you are single and not in a relationship.
There are distractions. There are several types of traps. There are constant psychological and marital assaults.
Demonically planted traps, similar to those used to catch rats, are everywhere. Snares practically everywhere you turn.
There are some comments your partner or sweetheart makes that indicate they are preoccupied and need your attention.
In these situations, you need to be there for your partner since without you, nothing will get better.
What are these statements?
Pay Attention: Don’t Dismiss These Statements
1. You’re too busy to see me again
Your partner is constantly around you, so why does he or she say this? You must pay attention to avoid having someone else emotionally fill your position. This statement is asking you to free up some time so your partner or spouse can receive assurance that will help them cope with their new wave of emotions.
Don’t disregard it!
Stop defending!
Avoid arguing!
Make time to engage in some thought-provoking dialogue.
Let me say something to single people who are not involved in a relationship.
A single friend who says this to you is attempting to express interest while gauging your response to determine whether to pursue or back off. Analyzing the situation!
So you may respond with “no thanks” if you don’t like the individual and aren’t thinking about making any obligations.
The response will either be a green or red light.
Pay Attention: Don’t Dismiss These Statements
2. You are far from where I am.
Don’t take this statement from your partner lightly. Avoid getting into a battle or a disagreement. Pay attention to what is said and what is not stated.
Even though you may be physically close to the person you love, your emotional distance from them may be great. Couples who share a bed frequently lament their loneliness for this reason. Seems absurd, right? It is the truth!
This person is trying to tell you that the more emotionally distant you are, the larger the void you leave for others to fill.
Prioritize your relationship with your partner, married couples.
There is a twist to this phrase for individuals who are dating but are not yet married. You need to determine whether the statement is sincere or just an invitation to indulge in sex. Here, prudence and tact are required. God bless you!
Two Signs of A Toxic Marriage. Similar to how an ailment can afflict an individual without becoming evident for some time, a marriage can be unhealthy without the obvious manifestation of underlying issues.
Nonetheless, signs are bound to reveal themselves. Although there are numerous warning signs, we shall examine a few this morning.
Two Signs of A Toxic Marriage
1. Lack of a Spiritual Connection
A marriage in which the couple does not have a spiritual connection with God is likely to deteriorate with time.
Building a successful home necessitates the involvement of a higher power.
Psalm 127:1 (KJV) states, “Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.”
It is only through the intervention of God that a house can become a home.
It is not enough to have a passing relationship with God; it must be built and nurtured.
This concept also applies to singles who are preparing to meet or are already in a courtship with their beloved. Falling in love with someone who does not have a profound spiritual connection is ill-advised.
It is effortless to discern whether an individual has a spiritual connection with God or not. His actions, words, choices, and priorities reveal the kind of person he is.
Don’t settle for just a good-looking partner; aim for a spiritually mature and deep individual.
A man who genuinely knows God will not resort to hitting or beating his wife, while a woman who is familiar with God will not be a perpetual source of annoyance to her husband.
Why did I say this is toxic? A person without a deep relationship with God will have no restraint and will eventually mess things up.
Two Signs of A Toxic Marriage
2. Lack of Accountability
An unaccountable couple is perched atop a keg of gunpowder that could detonate at any moment.
Wisdom is the foundation of life, and every error and setback is a manifestation of foolishness lurking within.
Accountability provides a means to learn from older couples and those who have been in your shoes before.
Falling in love with an unaccountable person is the most dangerous thing one can do in life. To those who have ears, hear now!
The saddest part of counseling is often the conversation that goes like this:
“Who is his/her pastor?” “He does not have a pastor.”
“What about his parents?” “His parents cannot speak to him. He won’t listen.”
“Does he listen to any of his friends?” “None of his friends can talk to him.”
“Then who does he listen to?” “He listens to nobody!”
Once an individual has alienated themselves from all authority figures, isolated themselves from any help, and disconnected themselves from those who can provide guidance, the situation becomes complicated.
Therefore, it is prudent to consider only those who are accountable when seeking a partner. For those already married, it is essential to address accountability lovingly and prayerfully.
This is toxic because marriage without accountability will resort to manipulation and the like, with nobody to correct the ignorance and arrogance that come with a life that is not accountable
May God assist us all.
These are two of the warning signs of an unhealthy marriage. I will be concluding here this morning.
Deconstructing the Significance of Saying ‘I Do’. When you said “I do” on your wedding day, something incredible happened. It’s almost crazy to think about it! Your body is no longer just your own; it now belongs to your spouse.
A powerful fusion takes place in the spiritual realm, so intense that even God declared, “let no man put asunder!”
God bears witness to this union, and any attempt to come between it is an attack on God Himself.
Deconstructing the Significance of Saying ‘I Do’
As believers who are rooted and grounded, the devil’s tactics against you are strategic.
If you’re a weak believer with no firm foundation, he can easily tempt you with adultery and infidelity, leading you astray from God.
But even for those who are firmly grounded, the devil still has tricks up his sleeve. His weapon is to keep you divided, to torment you with negative thoughts and perpetual strife.
Even though you may not be committing adultery, your negative thoughts can be just as destructive.
This negativity will infect your whole family because your thoughts have magnetic power and will affect everything around you.
Deconstructing the Significance of Saying ‘I Do’
How can you pray and agree together when one spouse’s mind is full of doubt, contempt, and dislike for the other?
This is the devil’s work, and it often shows up in small ways. Your spouse may seem happy and engaged when talking to others but then become easily irritated when it’s just the two of you.
The friend you fell in love with during courtship may seem to have disappeared!
Sometimes, this shows up as singles in courtship too. Unexplainable and perpetual irritation from one party could be an indication of deep-seated issues.
If you’re experiencing this, take responsibility for your own actions and ask God for help before blaming your spouse.
Blaming each other is like a General Manager who blames his employees for losses and the employees who blame the Manager for their ineffectiveness. It creates a stalemate!
Stop playing the blame game! It’s a trap from the devil. Instead, humble yourself and seek God’s guidance.
Deconstructing the Significance of Saying ‘I Do’
It is not a prudent use of your time to engage in fruitless endeavors, as there is a plethora of things to do!
What rationale exists for subjecting oneself to a forty-day fast, only to subsequently engage in four days of discordant behavior that serves to discredit one’s previous efforts?
What purpose is served by dedicating years to cultivating the growth of seeds, only to then carelessly uproot them with a thoughtless and egocentric tongue?
Decide to align yourself with a unified front in the face of the adversary that seeks to undermine the well-being of your soul.
From the moment you enter into holy matrimony, the prospect of achieving success through individual means is rendered null and void.
Therefore, it is incumbent upon you to eschew minor disputes and disagreements, and instead adopt a harmonious approach that enables both partners to partake in God’s favor.
For those in the courtship phase of a romantic relationship, the continued indulgence of contentious attitudes represents a gross misapplication of personal power and potential.
May the grace of the Almighty bless your relationships, marriages, and households, now and forevermore.
Unveiling The Hidden Passions Of Every Woman. This morning, I want to enter the shoes of a woman and write as though I am a woman. Are you ready?
Did you know that men and women are wired differently? Yup, we are! So, as a lady, I can tell you that there are some things that we all desire deep down. Here are five of the deepest desires of every woman, expressed in a more relatable manner:
1. Read my body language, babe!
Ladies can be complicated creatures, but that doesn’t mean you can’t try to understand us better! We’re not always the best with words, but we’re experts at non-verbal communication. So, if you really want to make us feel loved and understood, pay attention to our body language and try to pick up on our needs. Trust me, we’ll appreciate it!
Unveiling The Hidden Passions Of Every Woman
2. Slow down and show me some love!
Okay, guys, let me be real with you. Sometimes, you guys can be a bit too quick to get to the good stuff. But us ladies need a little more time to warm up, if you catch my drift. So, slow it down, take your time, and give us some extra attention and affection before we get down to the bedroom business. Trust me, it’ll be worth it!
Singles ladies you don’t need foreplay for anything! You don’t need any play!
Follow this advice here:
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
It is clear from that scripture. Don’t stir anything up. All those making out, kissing, and smooching are nothing other than afflictions.
Unveiling The Hidden Passions Of Every Woman
3. Tell me I’m beautiful, baby!
We all have days where we don’t feel our best, and that’s when we need our man to step up and remind us just how beautiful we are. So, don’t just think it, say it! And don’t just tell us we look pretty, tell us why you think we’re beautiful. It’ll make all the difference, trust me!
For singles in courtship, it is okay to use good words and proclaim what you want to see in your future wife. Words are powerful, so use them to your advantage.
4. Surprise me, sugar!
There’s nothing quite like a surprise to show us how much you care. It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive, just something that shows you were thinking of us. Whether it’s a thoughtful gift or a spontaneous outing, it’ll make us feel special and loved.
Unveiling The Hidden Passions Of Every Woman
5. Pray for me, honey!
Finally, one of the deepest desires of every woman is to feel spiritually connected with her man. So, don’t forget to pray for us, guys! It’s one of the best ways you can show us you care and it’ll fill us with confidence and peace. And trust me, we could all use a little more of that in our lives! How about prophesying into our lives regularly? That can be romantic too!
Singles, pray more than have fun all over the place. The cinemas, the beach visits, the outings, and the Ice creams are all good, but they should not be done at the expense of spiritual exercises like praying!
