8 Reasons To Stop Stressing and Start Living. Bro. Zeru went on his knees without warning, smiling.
He slowly, romantically, took out a ring and proposed.
“Are you willing to marry me?
Sister Sube closed her eyes for a moment before landing a deafening slap on the poor brother’s face!
Sister Sube began.
“What have you been doing all this time? For all the endless vigils I had praying for a husband, for all the times I fasted, including dry fasts, for all the nights of desperation and depression wondering why God abandoned me, for all the times I thought I would never marry again because something was wrong with me, for all the times I nearly ended up with an unbeliever out of desperation, for all the times I thought I was not beautiful and something was wrong with me, for all the times I thought there was a generational curse and a warped lineage, take one more,” and with that, she gave him one more deafening slap!
Then she smiled. “My answer is Yes, I will marry you!”
By this time, Bro. Zeru didn’t know what to make of it, whether to cry or laugh.
Sister Sube pulled him up and gave him a hug. I love you too and I will marry you!”
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That story is humorous, but it also illustrates what waiting singles go through in their bid to get married.
But I want to tell you something this morning: Stop worrying!
Actually, when you worry, you are out of faith! That is why Jesus said
“Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met. “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.” (Mat 6:33-34, MSG)
Here are eight reasons why you should stop worrying as singles and couples
8 Reasons To Stop Stressing and Start Living
1. Your spouse is alive, breathing, and probably praying to meet you as well. It is not as if he or she is just about to be born. Rest in God’s arms, that He will cause your paths to cross.
Couples, stop worrying about how things will turn out. You are now married. God has you covered.
2. Your marriage is in the future, but it is in God’s past. In God, it already happened. It is a live match for you, but for God, it is a replay! It has happened. Have faith in its manifestation and stop worrying.
Couples, God provided before you began. Learn to stay in faith and enter into rest in Him.
3. Worry adds nothing to you except anxiety, depression and doubt in God’s promises. So don’t weary yourself unnecessarily.
Couples, enjoy your marriage rather than endure one another.
4. No matter how many weddings take place daily, nobody can marry your spouse! That is the reality! So, relax in God’s promise. It will happen!
Couples, stay faithful to one another. Trust God to keep you together.
5. In God, your wedding is never late, it actually becomes the latest in town. When you are in God’s season and timing, you are never late because God has a purpose for everything.
6. The Lord is your shepherd. He will not lead you wrong. A sheep never worries. Not once! He only follows!
And even after the wedding, you keep following Him. He has the blueprint!
7. God will not bring you to the place of birth and not cause you to bring forth. In the same way, God will not bring you to the place of marriage and not cause a spouse to show up! Believe that!
And God will not bring you together and deny you of fruitfulness. He has it all figured out!
8. God is more concerned than you are concerned. It is just your ability to key into that faith and judge God faithful over your marital life.
The same goes for those who are already married.
Whatever you are trusting God for, business breakthroughs, the fruit of the womb, and more, they are in God’s past. They are already done!
I want you to stop worrying and step into faith. Faith is a realm of possibilities. Great things happen there! Trust God for the best.
8 Reasons To Stop Stressing and Start Living
He has not left you nor abandoned you. The devil wants you to believe that, but the devil is always a liar.
God has you in mind. He has it all planned out!
Let me conclude with this scripture:
“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” (Jer 29:11, MSG)
God knows what He is doing. The man may be confused, but believe me, God is not confused about your life. God knows what He is doing! He has it all planned out!
Rest in that. No more worries! Rest in His plan. Something great is working out for you. Believe it and you will see its manifestation! It is well with you!
I see God bringing you into the reality of His plans for you. I see God bringing speed into your life. I see a new day for you! Believe it and you will see the hand of the Lord!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married Let’s talk to the singles first! Flee Fornication! To flee means “to run away as in terror!” Where God asked you to run, don’t say “Let’s reason together! Run for your dear life!
It doesn’t matter if you are the head of the Prayer unit, that thing doesn’t respect your anointing! Just run. Before sex happens, you will always know, at least five minutes before. The voice is changing to bedroom voice, the room is becoming romantic, and you are all alone, staring into your eyes as if you have never seen each other before, you are smiling at each other sheepishly when nothing is funny, you are holding hands and goose pimples are appearing, and you are still sitting there saying you are in control? Dear son, dear daughter, you are already out of control. Things are about to fall apart where the center can no longer hold, and the next thing will be the arrow of God! So run!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Why would you visit him to spend the night? What were you thinking? Is his house a place for Night Vigils? or did he say his place is now a hotel?
The Scripture advises that you should not wake these hormones that are sleeping on their own!
Son 2:7 (KJV) I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.
Don’t indulge in oral sex either! How do you hold that thing in your mouth on Friday and still come to hold the Microphone on Sunday? Ha, fear God o! Stop poking at Grace!
I have said all of these to tell you, get back to God and consecrate your life all over gain. Get that fire back that you have lost in the place of compromise!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Now, to the couples. Can you imagine? We are telling the couples, to do this thing o! We are telling singles, don’t do it! God will help us!
God desires that you have sexual pleasure as married couples! As in, have the most fun in that area! Some people believe they are more spiritual than God!
Let’s see what the scripture says!
“Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” Pro 5:19 (KJV)
Solomon is advising us in God’s word! That is, concentrate on your wife’s breasts rather than another man’s! When another woman’s breasts start winking at you, you’re moving toward adultery!
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe. Where? On the bed! Be thou ravished with her love! It means you should be in love with her.
Another translation can be found here.
“She is beautiful and graceful, just like a deer; you should be attracted to her and stay deeply in love.” Pro 5:19 (CEV)
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Stay deeply in love with each other and keep your attention on each other. Stop letting unnecessary demonic squabbles ruin your sexual life! It is not safe for a man to be sexually starved due to quarrels, nor is it acceptable for a woman to be sexually neglected due to childish tantrums.
Forgive each other quickly and have fun sexually!
It is a decision you should make as a couple!
Do not use sex to punish your husband, dear wife. It’s not going to work.
Do not ignore your wife in order to punish her, dear husband.
Make a decision to enjoy each other!
Have sex first, then settle your differences later. Singles, stop using sex to end quarrels! There will be too many quarrels, deliberately! If you know, you know!
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is? I attended Sanni Luba Nursery and Primary School. I can still remember our school Bus picking me up every morning, back in the seventies. The last four seats at the back of the Bus were a no-go area for us, we have been seriously warned by the grandma who accompanied the driver to pick students up. Why? There was a hole/opening on the floor of that bus at the back, and you could literally see the road beneath the bus and it sped off on the road. I remember taking a look at that hole and wondering as a four-year-old what would happen if somebody jumped inside the hole while the bus was speeding!
My little mind simply imagined that if I jumped inside, I would cry and then they will quickly pick me up. I imagined that every day while summoning courage to do it one day! Thank God there was no opportunity to try that. The grandma sat just before the hole in the bus, preventing any adventurous kid from experimenting.
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
One of the foremost lullabies we learned in school is Twinkle twinkle little star by Jane Taylor.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star, How I wonder what you are Up above the world so high, Like a diamond in the sky Twinkle, twinkle little star, How I wonder what you are
To many of us, God is like the twinkle, twinkle little star. We take a look at our situation and we simply wondered if God existed.
Up above the sky so high, I know you are there, but then I wonder who you are to me! We are not exactly mouthing this song, but our thought seems to be recapping the song in our hearts when we survey our situation.
How can God be there, and I am still single? As if singleness is a disease o! How can God be there and my spouse is treating me like this? Where is my spouse? Where is God? Where is my financial breakthrough? Where is God? Where is my admission to that school? Where is God? When will my wedding take place? Where is God?
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Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
Oh God, I really want to know you. Show yourself to me in my situation. Touch me, heal me, strengthen me, mend my broken heart, let me just know you are with me!
Well, if we are looking for God to show up in our situation, we don’t need to look too far away. Jesus Christ said, if you see me, you have seen God!
In other words, God is no longer like the mysterious twinkle, twinkle little star, He is no longer far away, He has shown Himself to us in the person of Jesus. Jesus is God personified.
Then, the next question of course is, where is Jesus Christ? He lived on earth about 2000 years ago, he was crucified, resurrected on the third day, and went back to heaven!
Back to square one! Jesus is as far away as God Himself! How do you beat that?
But we know Jesus is the Word! The Word is Jesus. How far away is Jesus? He is as far as His word. How far away is His word? It is as far as my heart and my mouth!
“But what saith it? The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach;” (Rom 10:8, KJV)
In a more pragmatic sense, I only need to locate Jesus by locating His word, and boom, I have God with me!
The word of God read regularly is like interfacing with divinity. It is knowing the mind of God for your relationship or marriage.
That word will give you wisdom. That word will give you direction. That word will fortify you and shield you. That word will keep you in the right direction. That word will keep you away from evil men and froward men who speak frowardly. That word will keep you safe from strange women who flatter with their mouths. That word will keep your relationship. That word will preserve your marriage.
Never be far from it. Let it be your companion. Let it be in your heart and then it will be in your mouth.
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
Your husband is in the word. Your wife is in the word. That which you are looking for lies in the word. That great marriage is right in the word. Your job is in the word. Your visa is in the word. Your breakthrough is in the word. Your healing is in the word. Your promotion is in the word.
Hold on to it. Embrace it. Bind it around your neck. Incline your ears unto it. Put it in your heart and fence it around. It will take you up, it will promote you, it will change that situation.
If I were you, I will dive into that word, like a desperate fisherman looking for some big fish, and I will search and search, seek and ponder, mediate and cogitate until I come up with a bounty that will translate to joy unspeakable in my situation! Good morning!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
6. You send out confusing signals to multiple people
You are lying when you pick up your phone and simultaneously send the identical “love” text to seven different people, proclaiming your love. You give the impression that you are evaluating their spiritual condition before dropping the bomb. I’ll give you an illustration.
“Hullo Sister Sube, I hope your time in service today was lovely. I know this because I could see God’s splendor shining on you. I’d want to meet with you whenever it’s convenient for you. Keep in mind that God loves you, and so do I!” Now you send this to about seven sisters and wait for the green lights, this is nothing more than lust!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
REVIVE CONVERSATIONS now holds on ZOOM!Drop all relationship /marital questions, issues, and troubles ANONYMOUSLY, or just vent and pour your heart out. We will respond and judge the situation together by 9.00pm (Tuesdays and Thursdays) – https://khcng.com/vent/
7. You truly hope that God will permit polygamy in your thoughts.
You mull it over and truly wish God will simply approve that clause. Even though David had multiple wives and God still loved him, you may be thinking that it is not a sin. When you think in this way, you are already swimming in lust rather than merely standing on the side of the pool. You should read your Bible more often.
8. You discover that you frequently have sex in your dreams mostly with faceless people
If you frequently have sexual dreams, there may be a connection between those dreams and your current thinking. Actually, there is a demonic problem there that needs to be resolved.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
9. When conversing or given the chance, you love touching people of the opposing gender.
Simply put, you like “tapping current!” That could be a lust problem! As of the last time I looked, speaking should be done with the mouth, not the hands, so stop tapping your fingers constantly!
10. It’s challenging for you to reflect on God’s word.
Finally, you have trouble reflecting or meditating on God’s word. This is due to the fact that you cannot think about two things at once. God’s word is either present or not. In actuality, reflecting on God’s word is one of the quickest ways to clear your mind of bad thoughts. Over time, your mind will be refreshed if you immerse yourself in God’s word.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? This is a good topic to discuss on Valentine day. Lust will be in the air. It will be so easy to compromise, so you want to be careful who you are with today. This is not the day to connect with an ex that you were sexually involved with in the past. This is not the day to attend a poolside party. Keep yourself and do not lose your testimony because of Valentine. The day will come and go!
How do you know if you have a problem with lust as it relates to sexuality? Here are some indications. The list is not exhaustive, but here are some indications garnered from counselling times.
Before I go on, kindly be reminded to drop all relationship and marital issues, questions, vent anonymously on khcng.com/vent
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
1. You always want to preach to the opposite gender
You have been reborn. You are God’s child. You even proclaim the word of God. However, you are always trying to preach to the opposing gender. You will always be discovered with ladies as a guy. It is even more difficult if you are already married. You are never led to men as though the Gospel is unnecessary for them. You may be dealing with lust without realizing it, and the devil is assisting you in covering it up with religion. On the surface, a person is filled with fire and passion to serve God, but beneath the surface, lust is raging and ready to erupt at the slightest provocation.
2. Your whole group of buddies is of the opposite gender.
Another sign is if all of your friends are of the opposite gender. There isn’t a single person that shares your gender as a friend. You should examine your heart and inquire as to why it is this way.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
3. You enjoy romantic films and songs.
You are born again and serve God, but you also enjoy watching romance movies in an addictive manner. You explain yourself by saying, well, it’s not technically pornography, therefore you’re fine. However, those scenes would imprint on your mind and cause major problems later on. When God says to keep your eyes on His word and not on romance movies, He means it! You are simply living the lust vicariously through the characters in the movies.
4. You enjoy reading romance novels.
If you’ve been addicted to romantic novels, you may have a lust issue. Eventually, everything you’ve read will try to overwhelm you with your ideas and even give your life direction. You’ll almost want to go to the beach and wait for that lovely man to materialize out of nowhere, racing towards you in slow motion and sweeping you off your feet! Get up!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
5. You enjoy speaking with others and occasionally disguise yourself.
There is a problem if you have been caught impersonating someone on social media. Impersonation allows you to say whatever you want without being identified as the perpetrator. If you enjoy chatting with attractive women or men and asking them out, you may have a significant lust issue.
