60 Years of Love: The Hagins’ Marriage Secrets. Kenneth Hagin, a well-known Christian minister, author, and founder of Rhema Bible Training College, wrote extensively about marriage and relationships. He and his wife, Oretha, were married for over 60 years. They often shared the stage together and traveled the world spreading the word of God.
One of their most famous stories is the testimony of how they met. According to Kenneth, he had a vision of his future wife and knew that she was the one for him. He then started to pray for her and asked God to bring her into his life. A few months later, he met Oretha at a church meeting and knew that she was the woman from his vision. They got married a few months later.
60 Years of Love: The Hagins’ Marriage Secrets.
Here are a few things they taught about relationships and marriage
1. Understanding: Hagin emphasized the importance of understanding the biblical definition of marriage as a union between one man and one woman, and the role of the husband as the head of the household.
2. Love: He taught that love is the foundation of a successful marriage and that couples should work to cultivate love and respect for one another. He and his wife Oretha had a strong bond of love, and it was evident in their public and private life
3. Communication: He emphasized the importance of open and honest communication between husband and wife, stating that couples should be willing to share their thoughts and feelings with one another in a respectful and loving way. He and his wife Oretha regularly made it a point to have a conversation every day and talk about the things that were on their hearts.
4. Faith: He taught that faith in God is essential for a successful marriage and that couples should strive to grow in their faith together. How does faith come? By God’s word!
5. Forgiveness: Hagin stressed the importance of forgiveness in marriage, and taught that couples should be willing to extend grace and forgiveness to one another when mistakes are made.
60 Years of Love: The Hagins’ Marriage Secrets.
6. Prayer: He believed that prayer is an important aspect of marriage and that couples should pray together and for each other on a regular basis.
7. Husbands: Hagin taught that the husband is the head of the household and that he should lead his family in a Godly way, being responsible and taking care of their needs.
8. Wives: Hagin taught that the wife’s role is to submit to and respect her husband, and to support him in his role as head of the household.
9. Intimacy: He taught that physical intimacy is an important aspect of marriage and should be honored and protected.
10. Working together: He emphasized the importance of working together as a team in marriage, stating that couples should be willing to make sacrifices for one another and to work together to achieve their goals. He and his wife Oretha had a strong bond of unity, they were known to finish each other sentences and had a deep understanding of one another.
Take a look at these elements and apply them to your life. See if any is missing, then work at restoring them back into your relationship and marriage!
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies. The story of King Henry VIII of England and his second wife, Anne Boleyn is a historical example of a secretive spouse that ended in a bad way Henry VIII was known for his secrecy and his tendency to keep things from his wives. He kept secret his desire to divorce his first wife, Catherine of Aragon, and his infatuation with Anne Boleyn. He also kept secret the fact that he was having an affair with Anne’s lady-in-waiting, Jane Seymour, even as Anne was pregnant with his child. Eventually, Anne was falsely accused of adultery and treason, and she was executed. Henry VIII’s secrecy and infidelity ultimately led to the downfall of his marriage to Anne and the upheaval of the entire English monarchy. A few secrets here and there resulted in many woes and agonies that are generational shifting! But this morning, let’s consider some biblical strategies!
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies
What do you do with a secretive spouse? This will apply to both singles who are in relationships and those married.
Pray for your spouse
Pray for your spouse’s heart to be open and for their willingness, to be honest with you. Pray for the strength and guidance to handle the situation in a godly manner.
In Genesis 18:16-33, Abraham intercedes for his wife Sarah, asking God to bless her and make her fertile, despite her old age. Through his prayer, God fulfilled his promise and Sarah gave birth to Isaac. God answers prayers!
Communicate openly
Talk to your spouse about your concerns and feelings in a respectful and loving way. Ask them to be open and honest with you and to share their struggles.
In the story of Adam and Eve in Genesis 3:6-13, we see the consequences of not communicating openly and honestly with one another.
Seek accountability
Encourage your spouse to seek accountability from a trusted friend, mentor, or counselor.
The story of David and Nathan in 2 Samuel 12:1-14 illustrates the importance of accountability. God sent Nathan all the way so David can have the opportunity to repent!
Practice forgiveness
Forgive your spouse for their secrecy and be willing to extend grace to them. Without forgiveness, you won’t be able to help.
The story of the prodigal son shows that forgiveness is powerful.
Colossians 3:13 “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Read the Bible together
This may sound simplistic, but it is life-giving! Spend time reading the Bible and praying together. This will help to strengthen your relationship and build trust between you.
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies
Attend church together
Make it a priority to attend church services together and to grow in your faith together. That will afford you a common ground for open discussions.
Hebrews 10:25 “Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
Seek help
Consider seeking the help of a counselor or therapist to work through any issues that may be affecting your relationship if you are unable to move forward. Do not keep quiet!
James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
Practice humility
Humble yourself and be willing to admit your own faults and mistakes. It is possible the secrecy of your spouse is fueled by your own attitudes and approach. It takes humility to admit.
James 4:6 “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”
Be patient
Be patient and understand that change takes time. Pray for your spouse and be willing to wait for them to change.
James 5:7-8 “Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains. You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near.”
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies
In conclusion, these nine biblical strategies can help couples confront and overcome secrets in their marriage. By following these principles, couples can work towards building a strong and lasting relationship based on trust, honesty, and transparency. It’s important to remember that marriage is a sacred bond, and by following these biblical strategies, couples can protect their relationship from the devil’s deception.
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage. Lizzie Borden was an American woman who was accused of the 1892 axe murders of her father and stepmother in Fall River, Massachusetts.
Lizzie had kept a number of secrets from her husband, including a secret affair with an actor, and evidence suggested that she had been plotting to kill her father for some time. She also had a very strained relationship with her stepmother and her father, who mistreated her.
The tragic outcome of this case was due to the secrets Lizzie kept from her husband, and the fact that she was not able to confide in him about her problems. Those deaths could have been averted if she opened up to her husband!
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage
Your spouse is a support system God has created to help you out, but how do you get this support when you are secretive and averse to regular communication?
Marriage is a sacred bond between two people, and the foundation of that bond is trust and transparency. In the book of Genesis, we read that “the man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame” (Genesis 2:25).
This passage highlights the importance of being open and honest with one another in a marriage. It is a call for couples to be naked, in the sense of being vulnerable, with each other.
However, in today’s world, many couples find themselves hiding things from one another. Whether it’s a secret phone or an affair, keeping secrets can have a devastating impact on a marriage. The truth is, it takes a lot of effort to keep a secret, and that effort is often directed away from the marriage. The more you hide, the more you are opening the door to the devil to come in and destroy your marriage.
David, the king of Israel, is a prime example of this. He was a man after God’s own heart, yet he fell into the trap of adultery and murder. If he had been open and honest with his wife about his struggles, this tragic event could have been prevented.
Singles, too, should be mindful of this in courtship. If your partner is already hiding things from you, it’s a red flag that should not be ignored. Marriage will not change them, and it’s important to address these issues before taking the next step.
Honesty and transparency are key in any relationship. As a couple, it’s important to make a conscious effort to be open and sincere with each other and to seek help when needed. Remember, the devil’s greatest weapon is deception, and the more you hide, the more vulnerable you become to his attacks. Don’t let the devil come between you and your spouse, work on your relationship and be close to each other.
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage
Here are five steps that one can take to deal with keeping secrets in marriage:
Acknowledge the problem: The first step in dealing with keeping secrets in marriage is to acknowledge that there is a problem. Recognize that secrecy can be harmful to your relationship and that it is important to address it.
Identify the reasons: Identify the reasons why you are keeping secrets from your spouse. Are you afraid of their reaction? Are you ashamed or embarrassed? Understanding the underlying reasons can help you address the problem.
Communicate openly: Talk to your spouse about the secrets you are keeping and why you have been keeping them. Be honest and open about your feelings and concerns. Communication is key to building trust and intimacy in a marriage.
Seek professional help: If you find it difficult to talk to your spouse about the secrets you are keeping or if you need help addressing deeper issues, consider seeking professional counseling or therapy. A therapist can help you work through any issues that may be affecting your relationship.
Take action: Once you have identified the reasons for your secrecy and have communicated openly with your spouse, take action to address the problem. It could be something as simple as changing your behavior or it could involve making more significant changes in your life. The most important thing is to work together with your spouse to find a solution.
May God grant you strength and understanding to do the needful!
Say this Prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come to you today to ask for your protection over our marriage. We know that keeping secrets can be harmful to our relationship. We ask that you would give us the strength and the courage to be open and honest with one another. Help us to identify the reasons why we keep secrets and to address them with love and compassion. Give us the wisdom to seek professional help when needed. Guide us to take action to address the problem and to work together to find a solution. We trust in you and ask that you would protect our marriage from the devil’s attacks. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants. The love between Mr. and Mrs. Johnson has started waning! Butterflies have stopped flapping their wings in their tummies, no more anticipation and goose pimples! What are they missing? Love is the foundation of any relationship, but what does it really take to make a relationship thrive? In this devotional, we will explore the essential wants of couples and how understanding these needs can lead to a fulfilling and long-lasting partnership.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants.
1. Love
1Co 13:13 (GNB) Meanwhile these three remain: faith, hope, and love; and the greatest of these is love.
Love is one of the most important things that couples want from one another, as it is the foundation of any relationship. This kind of love is characterized by patience, kindness, selflessness, and forgiveness.
How do you show love?
a. Actions: Examples are cooking a meal for them, doing a household chore, or planning a surprise date. b. Words: Expressing your feelings, and giving compliments deliberately c. Listening: Giving them your full attention, and practicing empathic listening.
2. Respect
Eph 5:33 (GNB) But it also applies to you: every husband must love his wife as himself, and every wife must respect her husband.
This means treating one another with kindness, consideration, and dignity and not belittling or speaking down to each other.
How do you show respect?
a.Words: Use polite language, avoid name-calling, and speak kindly. b. Actions: Ask for their opinions, and value their ideas and feelings. c. Boundaries: Not invading their space during work deadlines or intense studies and being sensitive to special moments.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants.
3. Support
Pro 31:11-12 (MSG) Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. [12] Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.
This means being a source of strength and encouragement, helping each other when needed, and being willing to listen and understand feelings.
How do you give support?
a. Actions: Being there when they needed, helping with tasks, and being a sounding board for ideas and feelings. b. Words: Tell your partner that you believe in them, that you are proud of them, and that you will be there for them. This can be very powerful. c. Active listening: Listening to your partner when they talk, not interrupting, and being understanding.
4. Honesty:
Proverbs 12:22 Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.
Couples want to be in a relationship built on trust, and for them to be honest. This means being truthful in words and actions, and not hiding things or keeping secrets.
How do you show honesty?
a. Words: Being truthful in what you say, not hiding things, and being transparent in your actions. b. Actions: Being consistent in what you say and do, and being accountable for your actions. c. Transparency: Being open about your thoughts, feelings, and actions and being willing to share information with your partner.
5. Faithfulness:
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Everybody wants their partner to be faithful to them. This means remaining committed to the relationship and not engaging in physical or emotional infidelity.
How do you show faithfulness?
a. Words: Tell your partner that you are committed to their relationship and that you will be loyal. b. Actions: Avoid situations that may lead to infidelity, such as spending time alone with someone you are attracted to, and being physically and emotionally intimate only with your spouse. Note that physical intimacy is not for singles! c. Boundaries: Setting clear boundaries for what is and isn’t acceptable in the relationship, and being aware of potential temptations.
I will stop here this morning! I hope you are blessed.
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Infidelity Types You Might Not Know. I throw families into disarray. I bring chaos and agony into marriages. I alter the trajectory of destines of children within the families. My name is infidelity!
We looked at physical infidelity yesterday. This morning, we take an excursion into Infidelity Types You Might Not Know
Physical Infidelity We already explained this yesterday
Emotional infidelity: Emotional infidelity occurs when a partner forms a deep emotional connection with someone other than their partner. This type of infidelity can be just as damaging as physical infidelity because it involves a betrayal of trust and intimacy.
The scripture equated it with the actual infidelity
Mat 5:28 (KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Cyber infidelity: Cyber infidelity is when a partner engages in online sexual or romantic relationships with someone other than their partner. This can include sexting, messaging, or video chatting with someone they are attracted to.
Most people do this on their phones and it is equally damaging to any marriage
Financial infidelity: Financial infidelity occurs when a partner is dishonest about money matters or engages in financial deception. This can include hiding financial assets or spending money without their partner’s knowledge or consent.
This is so common and people often have different excuses for indulging in this type of infidelity, however, what is wrong is wrong!
Infidelity Types You Might Not Know
Sexual addiction: Sexual addiction is considered as a form of infidelity, where one partner is compulsively seeking sexual gratification outside of the relationship.
This obviously requires no explanation.
Fantasy infidelity: Fantasy infidelity occurs when a partner engages in sexual or romantic fantasies about someone other than their partner. This can include fantasizing about someone they see in real life or online, or engaging in virtual relationships that are not real but still emotionally damaging.
Fantasy infidelity seems safe because it is mostly in the realm of thoughts, but don’t forget we always move in the direction of our most dominant thoughts.
Workplace infidelity: Workplace infidelity occurs when a partner forms a romantic or sexual relationship with someone they work with. This type of infidelity is common and can cause problems both at work and in the relationship.
Pornography addiction: Pornography addiction is also considered as a form of infidelity, where one partner is compulsively seeking sexual gratification through watching pornography, this can lead to emotional disconnection and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
Social media infidelity: Social media infidelity is when a partner engages in romantic or sexual interactions with someone through social media platforms. This can include flirting, sexting, or messaging with someone they are attracted to.
Religious Infidelity: This type of infidelity occurs within a church or mosque. The one being looked upon to care for the souls of men and women decides to desecrate their bodies. A form of manipulation is involved, drawing God’s wrath like no other.
Mar 9:42 (MSG) “On the other hand, if you give one of these simple, childlike believers a hard time, bullying or taking advantage of their simple trust, you’ll soon wish you hadn’t. You’d be better off dropped in the middle of the lake with a millstone around your neck.
Having identified Infidelity Types You Might Not Know, how does one get out of infidelity?