Overcoming Backwardness In Life. Sally has been experiencing setback after setbacks. It just seems everything she did never prospered! Even though she is still single, you can see lines of frustration on her forehead. She looks lost on what to do. She is losing count of dates and broken engagements. It would all look promising, only for her joy to be shattered.
The Johnsons who are already married are not spared either. They seem to be revolving around a circle. Like the proverbial rocking chair, they are involved in many businesses and activities, but no progress at the end of the day!
Overcoming Backwardness In Life
You see there is such a thing called backwardness. There is a wicked spirit whose assignment is to bring backwardness so that the saints of God can be wearied and assume a position that nothing is really working.
Once on this lane, it becomes impossible to stay in faith as every effort to believe God is frustrated!
See the reality ion backwardness in the scriptures:
Jer 7:24 (KJV) But they hearkened not, nor inclined their ear, but walked in the counsels and in the imagination of their evil heart, and went backward, and not forward.
It is actually possible for a person to go backward and not forward. According to the verse above, the chief cause of this is a refusal to listen to God, but rather choosing to follow one’s own counsel and imagination!
Take a look at other translations:
Jer 7:24 (MSG) “‘But do you think they listened? Not a word of it. They did just what they wanted to do, indulged any and every evil whim and got worse day by day.
The Amplified Version is even more intense:
Jer 7:24 (AMPC) But they would not listen to and obey Me or bend their ear [to Me], but followed the counsels and the stubborn promptings of their own evil hearts and minds, and they turned their backs and went in reverse instead of forward.
I pray for you this morning, you will not go in reverse in Jesus’ name!
Take these prayer points: Overcoming Backwardness In Life
Every satanic investment in my life is wasted, in the name of Jesus.
Every power that swallows divine opportunities, dies, in the name of Jesus.
I enter into my prophetic destiny, in the name of Jesus.
Betty gave her all to that relationship. It was the very fast time she would fall in love, is it meant a lot to her. She saw nothing other than a glorious wedding, a blissful marriage and wonderful children ahead. She fantasized herself being with Bode, loving each other as married couples.
She nearly failed her exam at a time because she was in love. The love was like drugs to her. She thought about nothing other than Bode. Her friends told her to slow down but she told them they were jealous and its because theirs weren’t working!
“Nobody will mess up my romantic story,” she would say.
As time progressed, quarrels reared their heads. The love story began to develop unwanted twists that nearly ended the story abruptly. But she hung on.
The straw that broke the camel’s back was when Betty discovered that Bode was cheating on her with three different ladies, one of them being her best friend.
Her hearts was shattered, scattered and battered.
“All men are scum!” She said.
She went from anger into hurt and then bitterness. From there she entered acute feminism and she was beginning to sing that “marriage is not for me”
Have you ever find yourself in this kind of scenario?
I have a word of the Lord for you this morning.
Even though you are hurting and bitter, God will heal your soul! Yes, He promised that!
Psa 23:3 (KJV) HE RESTORETH MY SOUL: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.
He would not just heal your soul which its battered, He will restore it and reset it! Then He will now lead you into His God’s ordained plan for you maritally.
So when you are hurting, don’t stay in that hurt, Go to God and let God do only what God can do.
For married couples, you have to intentionally forgive. You won’t be able to do much in a state of hurt or bitterness. Will your spouse offend you? Severally? So what do you do? You keep forgiving! You don’t even want anything to block your prayers or render them effective. May our lives not be wasted by unnecessary hurt and bitterness in Jesus name!
I pray for you, healing and restoration will come to your soul in Jesus Name!
Loving more As Singles And Married. There are practical ways to love that special one more whether you are just in a relationship or you are married. There are things you can do to avoid unnecessary quarrels that can lead to break-ups, separation, or even divorce! I will like to explore some of these things with the help of the Holy Spirit. I am sure somebody is out there who will learn something.
So how do you love that special one more? Here we go!
Loving More As Singles And Married
Singles
1. The leading that you cannot do without If you are a child of God, you must be led by Him. That is the best way to love that special one! You are not just in it for fun or for a fling, you are there because there is leading.
You see, there is such a thing as being led by God. He leads you, He directs you, and He shows you who to hang out with and who to discard. He becomes your shepherd.
Some people actually assume that God is not interested in their relationship or marriage. Probably God is too busy. Who says?
Listen to me, God is more interested in your relationship and marriage than you are! That’s the truth. Do you know that marriage was not a man’s idea? It was originally God’s idea!
That is why I wonder about those who are attempting to redefine marriage. They are trying to alter what they did not initiate. Confusion is bound to be the order of the day!
Be led, my dear people! There are a lot of things attempting to lead you. Your adrenaline will want to lead you. Your emotions will want to lead you. Your environment will want to lead you. Your friends will want to lead you. Your parents will attempt to lead you.
But listen to me, there is no leading like that leading of the Holy Spirit. He can never lead you wrong. His leading will end in joy. His leading is His perfect will for you!
Oh, what peace engulfs you when you are led by God? It is the peace that passes all understanding!
“And God’s peace [ shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace ] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Php 4:7, AMP)
Loving More As Singles And Married. God is the only one that knows the person that will love you now and will still love you in another forty years! He is the only one that knows the person that will be okay with your intelligence, creativity, and sometimes foolishness and stupidity!
You cannot even see beyond your nose. It pays to follow His leading!
How do you know His leading?
It begins with a relationship with God Himself. If you distance yourself from God and His fellowship, you will miss his leading. Then you need to get filled with the Holy Spirit with the evidence of Speaking in tongues. That is very important!
When you do that, He would begin to speak to you through His Holy Spirit. When you are with the wrong person, He will tell you. When somebody is deceiving you, He will tell you! He will warn you against the wicked man and froward man whose mouth speaks perverse things. He will warn you against the strange woman who flatters with her mouth but whose path leads to death!
Make up your mind to be led by Him. That is how to avoid heartaches and unnecessary agony!
Married
Loving More As Singles And Married
If you are already married, make sure you continue in His leading in every other area of your life. That would guarantee unending peace. Your continual seeking of His face brings peace into your marriage. Oh yes, I know there are some of you who are married and you think you are with the wrong person. What do you do? Leave such a person? No! God does not want divorce or separation unless you can no longer help it.
You can go back to God, and God can re-write your history. You can fight for your marriage and home in the place of prayer.
Do you have an erring husband? You can handle him in prayer. Do you have an uncooperative wife? Take it to the Lord in prayer.
A lot of God’s children are no longer conscious of the power they possess, and that is in the place of prayer. When last did you go on your knees concerning your spouse? When last did you besiege the heavens, and the angels of God will have no choice but to move in your favour?
You bought her pieces of jewelry and she is still depressed and you are wondering what happened? It is because you didn’t pray in the morning. Loving More As Singles And Married
Fight for your marriage, not by refusing to cook for him or by ignoring her, but by going into your prayer closet.
I tell you, heaven will hear you, and earth will cooperate with you!
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married. Break ups in relationships or divorce in marriage are not the best things to look forward to or desire to experience. God hates divorce! However, it happens to a few, even though that is not God’s best for His children.
After broken relationships, separation, or divorce, there will definitely be hurt, betrayal, pain, tears, regret, and heartache. But make up your mind to receive God’s help. Who is at fault is not the issue but getting healed from every hurt. In the name of Jesus, He will give you double for your trouble. God will compensate you so much, He will make you forget.
Here are 5 ways to handle your ‘Ex’ so you don’t become a bitter person but a better person.
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married
1. Accept the fact that the relationship has ended Some people may be in denial, hoping and praying something will happen. That something will happen is not your prerogative. It takes two committed people to sustain a relationship.
If your ‘Ex’ is not willing, you can’t change that. Don’t try to put a comma where a full stop already existed. Until you accept this fact you are not ready to move forward. You have to let go of the past so you can enter into the new. Even God had to recognize the death of Moses before Joshua can succeed him.
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married
2. Reduce all forms of communication to the barest minimum All forms of communication should be reduced totally. This will help you avoid double dating and cheating on your new lover. All visits, calls, chats, and texts should be cut off. Some people don’t want to be committed to you yet want to enjoy your company. Please don’t allow this.
They will only end up wasting your time, get you emotionally vulnerable, and then hurt you more. Don’t keep checking their Facebook status to catch up on what is happening in their lives. Don’t get jealous when you see them with someone else. Let your ‘Ex’ be. Don’t beg to be loved. Some relationships just can’t work.
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married
3. Learn from your past relationship The best revenge you can give the devil is to make up your mind to become better. Don’t let the devil have the last laugh. You might have been cheated or outsmarted, just learn from your past.
It takes two to tangle, so there would have been one or two mistakes you made. Don’t be in a rush to enter another relationship. Don’t try to prove any point.
You are not running a rat race nor are you competing with anyone. Go at God’s pace. Ask questions, what went wrong? What were the wrong choices I made? The questions are not to make you depressed but to make you wiser. Learn human behaviors and tendencies. Learn how not to treat a lover. Learn that ultimately it is only God that keeps and sustains a relationship. Learn that above all God should be top of your priority list.
For people who have been married once, divorce is never the best option for you. God doesn’t want it. But if it has happened, well, you have to trust God to move on, once all hope of reconciliation is out or when there is violence and abuse involved. In addition to what we mentioned above, the key to moving on here is forgiveness. Bitterness will crush you more, so get healed. Don’t use the children to fight back lest you plant bitterness in the heart as well.
I pray God will give you strength in Jesus’ name. Do all you can to fight for your marriage. The consequences of separation and divorce are not what anybody should go through.
I pray that my God will restore that which is lost and fill your mouth with laughter again in Jesus’ name
When God created Adam, the first thing he saw was work. God told him to dress the garden. He bonded with work. Since all humanity was in Adam, we inherited the same disposition. That is why that man around you will always get his fulfillment from work.
When God created Eve, the first thing she saw was a man “toasting” her and staring at her beauty! That is why that woman around you loves to be “toasted,” and gets her fulfillment from home and family.
The man is work oriented and the woman is relationship oriented.
Why Are We So Different?
When a man is out of work or is not working, it affects his self-esteem. When a woman’s love life or family is in disarray, it affects her self-esteem.
When a man meets his friend after many years, the first question is “where do you work now?” When women meet each other after many years, they are showing pictures of the family from their phones!
A man is fulfilled after a good day of work. A woman is fulfilled if she has been loved up with tender loving care since morning!
Why Are We So Different?
Husbands who are workaholics need to be careful. It is a point of quarrel in your home and you may not really know! Ladies who neglect home and care for family need to be careful as well. It will always lead to issues when you fail to care for your home.
Men, leave work at work and don’t bring work home. When you are coming home, think family, think about your wife, be romantic, and your marriage will get better.
Ladies, show interest in your husbands while they work! It will work wonders! Men, go and talk to her while she is getting food ready in the kitchen. She is likely to find that romantic!
There must be balance! Don’t allow her to see your laptop as her rival. Study her love language and speak that language.
Ladies, guys are logical. Be involved in his thoughts. When you are disconnected from him, he gets jealous and he actually begins to think you are someone else!
Keep communication open. Talk about what has been bringing frustration and confront them, rather than sweep them under the carpet.
Why Are We So Different?
Be sincere with each other, and do not hide things from each other. Talk about how you feel, and don’t expect your spouse to be the Holy Spirit that knows all things.
Work like a team and don’t be grouchy over everything. Don’t get hurt by every statement. Be calm, and be patient. Lock the devil out of your home by walking in love with each other and praying for one another.
The same principles work for singles who are in courtship. Make sure there is balance. You can’t say you are busy at work and have not called her in one week! There will be issues. Also, you can’t expect her to be very happy when you are not working and yet you are planning a wedding. What if a man can’t find a job in time? Then find work to do. You may be out of a job, but never be out of work. Simply find something to do and while you are at it, heaven will kiss the earth on your behalf and help will arise for you!
