This Is What To Look For In A Wife. There are different kinds of ladies out there. There are godly ladies and ungodly ladies. There are born-again sisters and those who are not born again. There are those who have given their lives to Jesus at one time and have also collected back the life from Jesus after some time!
There are those who are born again but their minds are not renewed yet, hence, they still do all they used to do before they got born again. There are strange women which the scripture warned about. There are ladies who will genuinely be an addition to you because he that finds a “wife” finds good and obtains favour from the Lord!
Interestingly, you can find all these categories right in church! This morning, I want to tell you a few things to take note of ”
The scripture says “ He that finds a “wife,” not a sister!
So, the indication is that every lady must become a wife before being found! And this talks about your preparation, not relocating to your fiance’s house!
You are not supposed to move into his house before marriage to go and prove anything. That is not what we are talking about here. If he does not trust you enough to love and believe He has been led by God, then it may not be worth it. It is not scriptural for you to move into a guy’s house before marriage to go and cook, wash clothes, boxers, and singlets, nay, that is an affliction!
If a brother insists you should be pregnant before marriage, something is wrong somewhere, because he is more or less telling you to despise God’s commandments.
So if you agree and get pregnant, and then you are preparing for the wedding and it’s just two weeks away, God forbid, if there is a miscarriage, what happens? He will postpone the wedding? God has not called you into such sexual experiments, which translates to disobedience to God! That way, you risk losing God’s favour and support!
If you already made that mistake, it’s okay, don’t allow the devil to plummet you with agonizing guilt, ask for forgiveness and move on with your life. But if you are about to do such things, I stand as God’s mouthpiece and servant to let you know that it is not God’s plan for your life!
And you know what? You will have the greatest level of result and fulfillment when you are in God’s plan!
This Is What To Look For In A Wife
1. She is a genuine child of God, born again and spirit filled with the evidence of speaking in tongues.
Pastor, why speak in tongues? That is the power of Christianity! Without it, Christianity will be a bore. You have been configured to survive as a child of God with the help of the Holy Spirit, not without Him. He is the one that will help you live above sin!
Listen to me, there are certain things you will just not understand when you are not filled with the Holy Spirit! Do you know the Holy Spirit is the one that will help you identify the right spouse and warn you against wrong relationships? As a wife, do you know you need the help of the Holy Spirit to submit to your husband fully? This Is What To Look For In A Wife
I will conclude this tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have God’s wisdom to do the right thing
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I resist every sinful lifestyle in Jesus’ name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. (Romans 6:14 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to stop all sinful lifestyles
Practical Ways To Stop That Thing! Sandy has been locked in the intricacies of sexual sins for a while. The more she tried to stop, the more she plunged further into the abyss of sexual misadventures.
Her story seemed unfortunate, but there she was. She found that out she has been entwined in the duo of sexual perversion and mammon spirit.
Would she ever be able to stop this misadventure?She doubted herself.
In a few years of counseling singles and married couples, never has there been any problem or issue as intense as sexual sins.
Almost akin to a mountain, it stands tall in the life of any one who has dabbled into sexual sins. The person becomes completely intertwined and entangled, like an ant caught in a giant spider’s web!
In the early years of Kisses and Huggs Club, I was as frustrated as the ones I was counseling when I see that most of these people would go back to their vomit, even after counseling sessions and prayers.
Both the counselor and the counselee were at a loss on what to do. Until God opened my eyes to see that sexual sins are spiritual! Then God graced me to be able to deal with the spirit of perversion and deception which is largely behind most sexual compromises including homosexuality! Then I saw people set free supernaturally!
I have seen people weep in repentance only to go back into sexual sins. I have had to counsel pastors who just preached about sexual compromise only to find them locked up in sexual embrace afterward!
I have been called on the phone concerning a Bishop that was asking out a member right on the altar on the prayer line in one of his branch churches.
I have seen people who fasted forty days to deal with sexual sins only to be back in bed with another man on the fortieth day!
vractical Ways To Stop That Thing!
1. You see, the first thing you need to realize is that the scripture says emphatically:
For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. (Romans 6:14 KJV)
Yes, no matter your experiences, the scripture shall not be broken. Jesus already dealt with the sin issue. The power of iniquity is broken! That was a major reason Jesus Christ died for you and me.
In the Old Testament, our sins were atoned for. It means they were kind of covered by the blood of goats!
In the New Testament, the blood of Jesus, because of its superiority and holiness, did not just cover our sins; it wiped them away with no trace of remembrance! In God, when you embrace redemption, you were reconfigured back to who you were before you ever sinned! As much as that sounds difficult to grasp, that is what happened. You see, the things of God cannot be grasped with our natural understanding!
2. The second thing you need after this understanding is to go to God and ask Him to forgive you of all misdeeds and mistakes. And you know what? He will forgive you! When He forgives you, He will also forget!
Listen to me dear, God does not condemn you! Do you remember what He told that woman caught in adultery, whose destiny would have been truncated by stoning, Jesus Christ told her, I do not condemn you, BUT, go and sin no more!
In the same way, rather than stone the ones caught today, we are to restore them because that is why Jesus died for them!
You also need to understand that not a few are caught in sexual compromise not because they are promiscuous, but like Mephibosheth, they were dropped before they reached the age of accountability!
Some of them were abused by some big cousin, raped by some unsuspecting relative, fingered by some lesson teacher, innocence stolen by some big brother, and such! In hiding these for many years and not being able to open up, that which they were a victim of; found them becoming another victim or even the prey!
I come in the name of the Lord this morning that you don’t have to be under the weak and beggarly elements, under demonic powers again in your sexuality! You don’t have to succumb to every cry of the flesh. You can master your body with the Help of the Holy Spirit and make your destiny a significant one!
Go to God and ask for help. Talk to your father, every help you need can be found in Him. Refuse to cooperate with the devil. These are Practical Ways To Stop That Thing!
We will stop here this morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY Sin shall not have dominion over me!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray and ask God to cleanse you of all sins and give you the grace to forgive all that hurt you many years ago
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Do good, O Lord, unto those that be good, and to them that are upright in their hearts. (Psalms 125:4 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY List everybody you will need to unfriend!
A Checklist For Your Marital Journey. The life of a man is always in seasons. There are three major seasons and milestones in the life of a man. M – Morning A – Afternoon N – Night
The month of October here. These seasons in a man’s life are productive or wasted depending on the habits and activities of the man.
The scriptures says: So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. (Psalms 90:12 KJV)
This morning, I will like to remind you on a few things, though not exhaustive, that you should consider as the month begins. Here is a Checklist For Your Marital Journey
1. Read The Book and at least a book What has knowledge got to do with it? The scripture says a man of knowledge increases strength! The Book is God’s word, it should be read daily and consistently. It is good to read The Book and at least a book! A book could be on any other topic which ensures self development of perhaps on relationships and marriage.
2. Fast and pray at least one day. This is good for you because it helps you to stay tuned spiritually. You see, the success of any believer is dependent on his ability and discipline to connect with God, hear His voice and do His bidding. Fasting and Prayers helps you to hear God more. You can join KHC Global Fasting and Prayer Programme on 3rd to 5th October
3. Walk in love and forgiveness throughout As the month begins, can you truly say, “I have forgiven all?” This is very important. Make sure you don’t begin the month with any kind of offence from previous months or years. Begin the new month in a new way and with a cleansed heart. Let the hurts and the wounds go with past month, so that newness of God’s favour can be yours in Jesus name.
Married Couples who have issues and have not be talking can use the opportunity to end all quarrels and start again. Let love cover a multitude of sins. End all strife and let the healing balm of God work on your soul. The Psalmist said, “He restoreth my soul!” I pray for you this morning, God will restore your soul in Jesus name!
4. Stay away from all sexual compromise and other sins A child of God is never comfortable with habitual sins. Something in him does not agree with a sinful lifestyle. It is possible you have made a mistake or two, but you should be quick to ask God for forgiveness, and then refuse to go back into such sins. Sin shall not have dominion over you, so says the scriptures. Don’t go back into what you already walked away from. It is not fashionable to eat one’s vomits!
2Pe 2:21-22 (MSG) Better not to have started out on the straight road to God than to start out and then turn back, repudiating the experience and the holy command. [22] They prove the point of the proverbs, “A dog goes back to its own vomit,” and, “A scrubbed-up pig heads for the mud.”
5. Talk to your mentor at least once Life is in phases; men are in sizes. You will never come to a place in life where you know it all, you will always need people around you who have done what you are trying to do. Never abuse the gift of access granted you by people above you. Learn to ask questions. You don’t go to the house of your mentor and start watching TV or chatting away. You ask questions, because the wisdom of a man is encapsulated in his words!
6. Save some money It is a good habit to always save some money, however small. As the month begins, can you truly say how much came into your hands, how you expended it and how much you are able to save in the past months? Do you have a money diary? You should, where you keep you transactions to the last Kobo.
7. Honour God with your tithe and seed You already know this if you are a child of God. It is one thing you should never stop doing, and it is one thing you should constantly do. It is the pathway to your financial increase, and as you give, God, gives you more! It is the plan of God that He will prosper you as you give and enable His work to be done on earth. God wants to make you a channel, not a dam.
It is a partnership that God is calling you to. If you never pay your tithe, you wouldn’t know how much you are missing out until you start to honour God. Even in business world, when someone helps you to get a job or deal, you give a certain percentage to that person voluntarily. It is ethical. Has God been good to you in any way? Then it is simple common sense to give back to His work.
8. Serve God with your time This is a powerful principle. Wherever you find yourself, make sure you get busy for God and you know what? God will get busy for you. Service preserves your health and provides for you.
Above is A Checklist For Your Marital Journey
Exo 23:25 (KJV) And ye shall serve the LORD your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will go forward and press forth
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will honour you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Oh! Teach us to live well! Teach us to live wisely and well! (Psalms 90:12 Message)
