This is an important topic because every one of us gets angry. Anger is probably the most common vice in every marriage. Every couple, white or black, colored or Asian gets angry at least once in a day.
Whether we get angry or not is not the point here, how we handle our anger is. Some couples have outbursts of anger while others suppress theirs.
Neither one of them is good. The explosive anger is bad because things may have been destroyed sometimes beyond repairs. It is like the effect of a raging fire. It has no time to wait and discern.
The quiet kind of anger, that is suppressed usually comes with withdrawal. It is like rain that eventually causes floods.
It is our responsibility to master it.
Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
God recognizes the fact that being angry is not a sin in itself. But anger has to be controlled not to cross the line of sin.
God gave us permission to get angry but it must be over by end of day. In other words, ‘Do not stay angry’.
As a couple, you will experience your spouse getting angry at most times, because he or she is human, but you have to learn how to forgive him/her quickly.
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It crosses into the devil’s zone when your anger causes bitterness, strife, hatred, and the likes. When you meditate on your anger, you give the devil time and space to expand it.
That is one of the reasons suppressing anger is evil.
Read on how to manage your anger. Seek God’s help and think of methods that work for you that will help you.
Remember, anger not controlled or managed can destroy your marriage or at least steal your unity and oneness.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I master my anger, I dwell with my spouse with understanding
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me understanding and wisdom to master my anger.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
You must learn how to show appreciation. Tobi looked at the money in his hand, glared at his father in unbelief. What will five thousand naira fetch him at school as pocket money? Is this man from another planet, he thought? He murmured a “Thank you” to his father before storming away. I will just put it under my pillow and not go to school, he said to himself. That was exactly what he did.
Tolu, his twin brother, thanked their father profusely, prostrating as he did. He calculated how he was going to spend it to ensure that it lasted him for one month. A business idea even came to his mind. He smiled as he thought of the idea.
This much relates to the story of talents in the bible. We read how each was given an amount, how each spent it, who was praised, and who was punished.
God expects us to be grateful first for everything we have through our parents or others.
He also expects us to keep well everything we have. We should keep our rooms neat and tidy, ensure our clothes are washed and well arranged. We should handle our toys, shoes, books, and all we own well. Whatever we don’t use anymore, we can give out to someone else. He expects us to save our money or put it to good use.
Are you like Tobi and the ungrateful servant? Or you are like Tolu and the two servants who used their talents well?
Each had a reward? Which reward would you like to have?
The good –
“The master said, well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling the small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!”(NLT)
Matt.25:23
The bad –
“To those who use well what they are given, even more will be given, and they will have an abundance. But from those who do nothing, even what little they have will be taken away.” (NLT)
Matt 25:29
Be grateful for all you have and use them well.
Prayer: Lord, thank you for everything I have. I am grateful for my parents and all the people you have used to bless me. Teach me how to take care of my things. Help me make good use of them, in Jesus name. Amen.
Declaration: My children are grateful. They are not like the foolish servant who hid his talents. They make good use of what is given to them.
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Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 162
And we pray that you would be energized with all his explosive power from the realm of his magnificent glory, filling you with great hope.
Col 1:11 (TPT)
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 162
Let’s begin to thank and worship God
2. Lord, energize me in my inner man with your explosive power!
3. I receive the fullness of God’s power in my life in Jesus’ name!
4. I am energized in my finances in Jesus name
5. I am energized for productivity in my business/ ministry/career
6. I receive God’s divine energy in my relationship/marriage in Jesus’ name!
7. Every negative force targeted to dissipate power in my life, I bind you in Jesus’ name!
8. Every spirit causing hopelessness, I bind you in Jesus’ name!
9. I enter into God’s plan for my life by God’s explosive power in Jesus’ name!
10. Let us begin to give His thanks for answered prayers
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 162
In the name of Jesus, I receive God’s explosive power into my life in all areas of my life in Jesus’ name. I advance by this power. I increase by this power. By God’s explosive power, I succeed in all I lay my hands on in Jesus name! Every weakness is subdued, I am energized for productivity in Jesus name.
Friendship is like a foundation of relationship upon which a great marriage is built. Marry your friend! Whoever is not a friend, is not worth a marriage relationship.
Friends love each other. Friends forgive each other. Friends look after one another’s good. Friends talk and play. Friends do not “form” for each other. Friends pray together. Friends easily overlook each other’s mistakes. Friends cover for each other.
If your lover is not a friend, there will be issues.
Do not marry a “father” or a “mother” or an “uncle,” rather marry a friend.
If he or she is not a friend, don’t walk down the aisle.
2. Friends are thoughtful and sensitive
A friend doesn’t just blab, he knows what to say, when to say it and how to say it.
A friend is careful not to get you unnecessarily aggravated. That is the kind of person you need in marriage.
An understanding person. A person on whose shoulder you can lean. A hearing ear, understanding heart, and empathic listener.
The one that will not allow you to say anything while you are courting is already showing you that you will be muted in marriage. And that can be frustrating.
Nothing is as frustrating as unexpressed and bottled up words and feelings.
A friend enjoys your “talk” although you should not resort to nagging.
3. Friends are truthful
Friends would always tell you the truth.
Beware of people who say they are your friends and all they do is to tell you what you want to hear, and flatter you all the time.
A flattering neighbor is up to no good; he’s probably planning to take advantage of you.
Pro 29:5 (MSG)
Marry a friend who can tell you the truth, because you often time get to positions that it is only your spouse that can tell you the truth.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Pro 27:6 (KJV)
The one that is kissing you but will never tell you as it is is not a friend. He or she is not ready to tell you anything that will cause the “kissing” to discontinue. That person is not really a friend.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will get it right in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will lead you to the right person.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship
Signs or symptoms make us pay attention to certain areas of our lives.
There are certain signs or symptoms that our marriage shows that make us know that it is time to pay attention to our marriage.
When you have a headache, it is a sign that you need to pay attention to your body. Something is wrong somewhere. It could be a result of body weakness or something.
Finding out what went wrong is a whole lot of effort on its own
After you find out what is wrong, you then take the right medicine to cure or get rid of the symptoms.
In the same way, our marriage shows certain signs that make us aware of the fact that our marriage needs help.
Here are some of those signs:
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1. Observation from friends and family.
When friends and family begin to ask questions and are worried about the way your marriage is going. When things are obviously wrong and it is visible to your friends. Then you need to retrace your steps and begin paying attention to your marriage.
2. When your children’s attitude begins to change.
There are several ways when things are not cordial between husband and wife, that affect the children.
They may become withdrawn, stubborn, sickly, prone to domestic accidents, lower performance in school. Once you begin to see these signs, then your marriage needs attention.
3. Physical abuse
If there is any kind of abuse in your marriage then that marriage needs attention. Either you visit a marriage counselor, read books, pray, listen to messages, or change your attitude or behavior.
When either of the spouses becomes violet or threatens in the marriage, then your marriage needs attention.
Note that in all these, it is not about who is right or wrong, it’s about quick intervention in the marriage, and proffering solutions to wherever the problem is.
4. Withdrawal
When either of the spouses is withdrawn and no longer enjoys the company of the other spouse, that marriage needs quick intervention. When the couples are nothing but mere bed mate or housemate
When silence becomes the order of the day and you find it difficult to share your thoughts, feelings etc. That marriage needs help. When the new normal is monosyllable questions followed by monosyllable answers, your marriage needs help.
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow by God’s grace.
