It’s a sad reality today that adultery is right in the church. Professing believers, deacons and even pastors are flagrantly indulging in adulterous escapades, resulting in unnecessary and unprecedented headaches and agony in families.
An affair is more or less a sexual relationship, romantic friendship, or passionate attachment between two people without the knowledge of the other spouse.
Nobody is totally exempt from adultery. This morning, I am going to attempt to identify a few causes why couples often resort to cheating and unfaithfulness. This is not an attempt to justify this obviously sinful act, but to help us identify areas we might need to pay attention to.
1. The Needs of the Couple The couple usually will have different needs. Emotional and sexual needs particularly. When these are not met, the person would indirectly seek to meet those needs outside of matrimony. You see, those needs are valid and every couple should strive to meet their emotional and sexual needs. Meeting sexual needs reduces vulnerability to a large extent.
2. Retaliatory Adultery Some people dabble into adultery simply because they wanted to retaliate or show their spouse that they can sort themselves out. This usually happens as a result of deep-seated offense or bitterness.
The sad part is that the reason for adultery does not extricate the consequences of it. As the scripture noted;
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; [33] Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good. Pro 6:32-33 (MSG)
3. Wounded and Injured Ego The reality is that some men go into adultery just to simply repair or mend an injured or wounded ego!Wives, massage your husband’s ego! This is very important!
This is not to say that wives are responsible for unfaithfulness in men. A man who has a bad heart will cheat, injured ego or not. However, we should not be careless in some of these areas.
God bless you. Have a fantastic day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse the God kind of way
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP)Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make adjustments
All through the Scripture we see that the spirit of fear is not to be allowed to have a place in our lives. Dear children, say no to fear.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1:9 (ESV)
The first thing in that passage says we should be strong and courageous. Strength is needed to do anything in life. Fear is a tool of the devil to weaken our resolve to doing anything.
The Lord is always with us wherever we go. We should not be frightened or afraid of any harm.
Yes, there will be instances where we might be overwhelmed, but the assurance from God’s word is enough to bring us out and place us on top.
We have the assurance of protection from God himself, saying he is with us. It is this assurance that we need to succeed in life.
This means we can do anything because God is with us.
What are those dreams and goals in your heart? What are those aspirations in your heart?
You can do it, only fear not.
As parents, we can build confidence in our children with this scripture.
Furthermore, God tells us he has no plans to leave nor forsake us.
We should train our children to put their trust and hope in God, not in man.
Action Plan: What are the things that make you scared? List them. You can talk to your parents about them too.
Prayer: Lord, help me to trust you. Take away the spirit of fear in me and build my confidence in you. Amen
Declaration: My children know no fear because the Lord is with them always. They are not afraid to do new things because they have assurance from God.
We are here on another day of September To Remember – Day 15. September To Remember Fasting affords you to wait upon the Lord and renew strength among other things.
Scriptures for Today
September To Remember – Day 15
And out of them shall proceed thanksgiving and the voice of them that make merry: and I will multiply them, and they shall not be few; I will also glorify them, and they shall not be small.
Jer 30:19 (KJV)
Their children also shall be as aforetime, and their congregation shall be established before me, and I will punish all that oppress them.
Jer 30:20 (KJV)
Therefore all they that devour thee shall be devoured; and all thine adversaries, every one of them, shall go into captivity; and they that spoil thee shall be a spoil, and all that prey upon thee will I give for a prey.
Jer 30:16 (KJV)
Comfort your hearts, and stablish you in every good word and work.
2Th 2:17 (KJV)
Prayer Points
September To Remember – Day 15
1. Go ahead and thank God for the fifteenth day of the fast.
2. Begin to pray for the miracle of multiplication – in your finances, business, family, ministry, etc.
3. Cry out to God to glorify and beautify you exceedingly; let His glory rise upon you and bring growth to you.
4. Pray that everyone in your family (spiritual and biological) will be established by God through His favour.
5. Begin to pray that God brings you into your place of rest.
6. Pray for the judgement of God to come upon your oppressors.
7. Pray that God will cause all your adversaries that seek to reduce you and make you small to go into captivity and be devoured/spoiled/preyed upon.
8. Pray that God will bring comfort to your soul, and establish you in doing good – both in your words and in your actions.
9. Lift up your voice and raise your request to God.
10. Go ahead and begin to thank the Lord.
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 15
I choose to rejoice. I choose to be joyful. I maintain an atmosphere of joy at all times. My strength will not diminish because my joy will remain intact. God is increasing me on all sides. There is increase in my bank accounts. There is increase in the works of my hands. There is increase in the fruit of my body. God is establishing my business.
God is rebuking the devourer for my sake. God is destroying the destroyer for my sake. Every agenda of the wicked is implemented on themselves. I receive the comfort of the Holy Ghost. I enforce my establishment here on earth.
My children are established. My husband/wife is established. So shall it be in Jesus name.
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There are several beliefs that are so popular and yet very wrong. They are as wrong as they are popular. Believing them is to the detriment of that believer.
This morning, I want to delve into some of them so you can roll them up as they come and throw them in the trash can.
Incidentally, some of them will be fed to us by precious family and friends around us. That is to the extent they know. And that is why we often believe them. However, you need to note, that irrespective of the source of an information, once it is in contradiction to the scriptures, simply throw them away.
Here is one of those beliefs;
Marriage is unnecessary in the real sense, I can just be a baby mama, have a few children and I will be okay.
Well there is nothing okay about the above scenario. It is in total contradiction to the institution of marriage that God Himself established.
Sleeping with a man because he is a celebrity or he has some money is a total departure to the principles and injunctions of the Lord as we know it.
Marriage is necessary. It helps you to contain sexual sins to a large extent.
Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder.
1Co 7:2 (MSG)
Marriage is designed to contain sexual sins. Avoiding marriage while wanting to have children will sentence a person to a lifetime of adultery.
This is why a baby mama can often have children for more than one man. What can be more debilitating than that?
I will stop here this morning. See you tomorrow and have a blessed day.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am decided for Jesus. I do things right.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the spirit of patience even as you keep on believing.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 7:2 (GNT) But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.
Choleric wives are energeticand creative. They never run out of ideas. They are full of boundless energy and they cannot sit in one place. Properly channeled, nurtured, and encouraged, they can fit into the energetic virtuous man described in the book of Proverbs
They are very independent, and they can act like they don’t need their husbands for anything.
She is productive, has the capacity to have several businesses running at the same time and she will usually climb to the zenith of her career if she chooses.
All these can come at a price to pay, however. The husband of the choleric woman is usually calm and cool. He is most probably of the opposite temperament, reserved and extremely laid back, almost translating into laziness.
This makes the choleric wife cranky most time because she can’t understand why her husband is so slow and demotivated.
But in reality, that slow, laid-back husband is often the backbone and encourager of the choleric wife especially when she is down and she cannot meet her goals in time.
The choleric woman is also bossy, almost looking like she is the one running the home in terms of decision-making. She needs to honor and respect her husband in this regard.
The husband of the choleric wife must be secured and allow his wife to function maximally with all her unending ideas that she never seems to run out of.
The husband must always remain calm, a hot-tempered husband cannot survive with a full-blooded choleric wife. That marriage will crash really fast. The husband has to be patient and lovingly teach his wife how to take life easy.
As they grow together lovingly, they will come to even understand themselves the more and understand why they act the way they do.
May God grant you both more understanding in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse passionately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a submissive spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 7:2 (GNT) But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a book on temperaments
