I haveoften heard that those we love hurt us deeper than anyone else. Especially our spouse. I had felt it can’t be that bad.
This world is full of hurtful people. I think the hurt is deeper when in marriage you hurt yourselves and keep on hunting yourselves unless you made up your mind not to hurt.
Hurt is a decision. It is not based on your feeling. You have to make a conscious effort and decision against hurt. Some people have been hurt most years of their life.
That is what the devil wants. He is busy having a nice time stealing joy, peace, life, compassion, unity and love from families.
The point is, people, your spouse, and those you hold dear to you will not stop hurting you but you have to make up your mind you won’t allow the hurt get at you.
Hurtful words spoken are like the cutting of the sword especially if your spouse is a choleric. You cannot prevent people from misunderstanding you, people judging you falsely, lying about you etc.
There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. Proverbs 12:18 KJV
From this scripture, you can pray for your spouse or of its a God ordained relationship or a relationship you can’t avoid. Pray that their tongues become the tongue of the wise that brings healing.
Hurt is like drinking poison and hoping your neighbour dies. That’s not going to happen. Hurts make you bitter. You can be bitter all your life if care is not taken. You will just see that 60 years of your life is gone without achieving much because of hurt and bitterness.
Let receive Grace from the Lord. Jesus was hated, misunderstood, lied against, misjudged, criticised, yet none of this affected him.
He choose to be immune against hurt. He kept His vision before His eyes. He choose between being powerful or being pitiful. He couldn’t possibly have died for humanity if He hated humanity. If he didn’t forgive on time, He couldn’t go to the cross.
Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. Luke 10:19 KJV
Jesus knew we will be faced with hurt and made provision for it. We have to walk in our authority over hurts.
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord , and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord . Isaiah 54:17 KJV
You have to take charge of your emotions. Not even your feelings should be strong enough to stop you from fulfilling your purpose. You are only answerable to one. The one who died on the cross for you. When you face to face before Him on the judgement day, you will have no excuse to offer. Jesus passed through the same and was victorious. He overcame and gave you the victory. He gave the blood of Jesus, the Word, the shield of faith, communion etc.
You have to take the shield of faith which is the Word of God. Anytime words are spoken to you that are hurtful, lies, etc remind yourself and confession out loud and use it against the wile of the enemy.
Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. Ephesians 6:16 KJV
Remember protect yourself against hurt and every negative emotions.
Protect yourself Gods way. There are negative ways of dealing with hurts. I will talk about that later.
Today’s Focus: Prayers For Remembrance and Promotion
Thanksgiving
Thank God for His guidance in your life.
Psalm 16:7, KJV I will bless the LORD, who hath given me counsel: my reins also instruct me in the night seasons.
Nation/Church
Pray for remembrance and promotion for your nation and the church in line with leadership.
Deuteronomy 7:9, AMPC Know, recognize, and understand therefore that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God, Who keeps covenant and steadfast love and mercy with those who love Him and keep His commandments, to a thousand generations,
Pastors/Parents/Mentors
Pray for God to remember your pastors, parents and mentors
Esther 6:10, CEV The king replied, “Hurry and do just what you have said! Don’t forget a thing. Get the robe and the horse for Mordecai the Jew, who is on duty at the palace gate!”
Finance
Pray for the grace of remembrance and promotion to come upon your life.
Philippians 4:19, ERV My God will use his glorious riches to give you everything you need. He will do this through Christ Jesus.
Family
Pray that the men destined to help you will have no rest till they do.
Esther 6:1, GWT That night the king could not sleep. So he told a servant to bring the official daily records, and they were read to the king.
Warfare
Declare that through the grace of remembrance and promotion working in your life, you are vindicated from your enemies.
Esther 7:9, ERV One of the eunuchs who served the king was named Harbona. He said, “A hanging post 75 feet tall has been built near Haman’s house. Haman had it made so that he could hang Mordecai on it. Mordecai is the man who helped you when he told about the evil plans to kill you.” The king said, “Hang Haman on that post!”
Desire for the Month
Pray for your desires this month
Esther 9:1, ERV On the 13th day of the twelfth month (Adar), the people were supposed to obey the king’s command. This was the day the enemies of the Jews hoped to defeat them, but now things had changed. The Jews were stronger than their enemies who hated them.
Psalm 91 Declaration
Psalm 91:2 AMPC I will say of the Lord, He is my Refuge and my Fortress, my God; on Him I lean and rely, and in Him I [confidently] trust!
Blood Declaration
By the Blood of Jesus the Spirit of remembrance and promotion is working in my life
Hebrews 9:14, TPT Yet how much more will the sacred blood of the Messiah thoroughly cleanse our consciences! For by the power of the eternal Spirit he has offered himself to God as the perfect Sacrifice that now frees us from our dead works[c] to worship and serve the living God.
Hebrews 4:16 AMPC Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].
Healing
Declare healing over that sickness
Jeremiah 17:14, NLT O Lord, if you heal me, I will be truly healed; if you save me, I will be truly saved. My praises are for you alone!
Favour/Mercy Today
Declare that the grace for remembrance and promotion is working in your life through the mercies of God.
Psalms 102:13 KJV Thou shalt arise, and have mercy upon Zion: for the time to favour her, yea, the set time, is come.
Whether you want to believe it or not, angels are real. That is one of the reasons you are still alive today!
There are demonic beings and principalities all over the place that you cannot see with your physical eyes who are looking for every opportunity to carry out their master’s mandate which is steal your joy, to kill your destiny, and to destroy your relationship with God, and ultimately, end your life, if the opportunity arises.
No wonder the scripture says that the devil is come down with a great wrath. He knows his time is short. He is a like a roaring lion looking for whom he can devour.
But you also need to know that there are angels all over the place that you cannot see with your physical eyes as well! They are mighty massive beings that are constantly watching out for the plans of the enemy and thwarting them!
When we pray to God, God sends His angels to us. When we are careless and we have not prayed, God still sends His angels. Otherwise, some little loophole and the devil would have struck, but God’s mighty angels would not allow.
Let’s look at a few scriptures
1. They are committed to keeping us!
For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. (Psalms 91:11 KJV)
God has given His angels charge to ensure that we are kept! Glory to God. In these days of palpable fear of Covid-19 and terrorism, we are kept! We are kept by His power. We are surrounded. We are not left alone. You need to have that consciousness!
The angel of the Lord encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them. (Psalms 34:7 KJV)
2. We have individual angels guarding us!
Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven. (Matthew 18:10 KJV)
Kenneth Hagin of blessed memory once had an open vision where He saw Jesus Christ and a mighty being standing nearby. In the course of their conversation, Kenneth Hagin asked Jesus Christ, “who is that fellow?” and Jesus Christ answered “That is your angel! He referred him to the scripture above and told him that our angels don’t leave us when we grow up! They are still protecting us! Glory to God!
3. Angels are not to be worshipped.
Are they not all ministering spirits, sent forth to minister for them who shall be heirs of salvation? (Hebrews 1:14 KJV)
Angels are not to be worshipped; only Jesus is to be worshipped! That is why when an angel appears to a human in their fullness and on a supernatural level, the first thing they say is “Fear not!” and they will not allow you to worship them!
Why? They are ministering spirits! The nearest word is “waiters!” They are waiting on us who are heirs of salvation! Glory to God, I am not alone! You are not alone! There is a fellow, a mighty being, a supernatural being, guarding you!
4. To activate their ministry in your relationship, fill yourself with God’s word!
Bless the Lord, ye his angels, that excel in strength, that do his commandments, hearkening unto the voice of his word. (Psalms 103:20 KJV)
Here, the scripture tells us that they excel in strength. They are mighty beings. They do the commandments of God and listen; they hearken to the VOICE of His WORD! It is the voice of God’s word.
When your utterances are aligned to God’s plan for your life, you release the ministry of angels to come to bear for you.
In order words, stay in God’s plan and speak His word constantly. In order to speak His word constantly, you have to study that word regularly.
5. Don’t make negative utterances!
When you make negative statements, you deactivate their ministries.
Suffer not thy mouth to cause thy flesh to sin; neither say thou before the angel, that it was an error: wherefore should God be angry at thy voice, and destroy the work of thine hands? (Ecclesiastes 5:6 KJV)
Negative words attack your faith and bring fear. Only speak God’s word in any situation you find yourself. Stop speaking facts, speak the truth!
May God grant us more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The angles of God encamps around me because I fear the Lord
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God’s counsel and will become a reality in your life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And he dreamed, and behold a ladder set up on the earth, and the top of it reached to heaven:and behold the angels of God ascending and descending on it. (Genesis 28:12 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Fill yourself with God’s word
Yesterday we began to look at discipline. Today, we will see how you as a child should accept discipline. The first thing you need to know is that your parents love and want the best for you. It’s only a child that is loved by a parent that is corrected and disciplined. So you need to accept discipline as a show of love.
Think of it like this; why would your parents remind you to brush your teeth every night before going to bed? They are not asking you to brush your teeth or that of your sibling or even theirs. It’s your teeth and you will carry them for the rest of your life in whatever condition you put them in.
So, if you brush them twice daily, you will enjoy perfect dental health in future. And if you don’t listen to their advice, you will have bad dental health as well as reap the consequences of it. The consequences include: a bad self-image, rotten teeth and gums, bad breath and more. You see that? So you need to accept discipline as a show of love.
Your parents discipline you out of the love they have for you, not hate like you would like to think. Just like God telling us not sin because sin in the end has consequences that can never benefit us in any way. It can only harm and destroy us.
“If you do good, I will accept you. But if you do not do good, sin is ready to attack you. Sin wants you. but you must rule over it.” Genesis 4:7 ICB
Also, knowing discipline is done from a place of love (when you accept discipline as a show of love) gives you the power to grow from being a person that doesn’t know how to do something to someone who does now. When you learn how to arrange and keep your clothes well, you have grown into a well-organised person.
“I correct and punish those whom I love. So be eager to do right. Change your heart and lives. Rev. 3:19 ICB.
Reciprocate the love of your parents by releasing yourself to discipline. And by doing so, you are creating for yourself an adult life filled with excellent values that help add to your society and church. Say to yourself right now: I accept discipline as a show of love.
I pray that your heart will be open and ready for discipline. Amen.
Prayer: Lord, help me to see the actions of my parents towards me in light of the love they have for me. Help me to also obey you and receive your discipline because I know you love me too much to see me remain in sin.
Action Plan: How about apologizing to your parents for disobeying them and thanking them for their love for you.
We startedon the topic “These types of couples need urgent help” yesterday, we will continue today
4. Two people who are sentimental
When two people who are sentimental get married, their lives will be devoid of principles that are meant to keep them focused and energetic in their marriage and home. Two sentimental people will always judge a situation from sentimental point of view rather than principles.
In no time, they can ruin themselves because you cannot go very far living and swimming in the ocean of sentiments. They would not be able to achieve much because they would have excuses for their mediocre lifestyles.
5. Two people who are angry
Two angry people in a relationship and marriage cannot go far. See the scriptures:
Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul (Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV)
The scripture here advises that you should not get involved with somebody that has anger problems and who refuses to work at it.
An angry man can take a knife or gun one day and end it all. An angry wife can ruin things in seconds.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious–– don’t get infected (Proverbs 22:24-25 Message)
6. Two people who are deceptive
Another dangerous combo is ‘two people who are deceptive.’ They both operate under delusion of grandeur. They tell themselves lies and refuse to confront each other. They sweep things under the carpet and live under illusions. They deliberately flout God’s principles hoping that somehow things will work out.
Everybody around them wonders why they can’t see the obvious. They are unapproachable and unreachable. But the scripture is very clear:
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. (Galatians 6:7 KJV)
No matter how we pretend, we cannot mock God. You can do all of that with humans, but not with God. At the end of the day, it is not worth it wasting time on what would not work.
7. Two people who are unforgiving
Lastly, two people who refuse to forgive one another easily can block the blessings of God in their marriage, home and life.
Bitterness of heart is a blessing blocker. If one of the couple is forgiving and praying for the other, it can be easier in resolving the issues, but when both parties are hurt and bitter from time to time, they are not helping themselves, they are not helping their home and of course, the inflow of God’s blessings and favour will be truncated.
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; (Hebrews 12:15 KJV)
Root of bitterness in a marriage will eventually spring up and get everybody including children defiled.
The way out
So what do you do? Seek help. Don’t keep quiet and watch things degenerate. Re-connect to God and pray a lot. Seek wisdom from pastors or mentors. Seek to understand your spouse and see how he or she is thinking to have the right perspective.
I pray concerning every storm in your relationship and or marriage this morning, be still in Jesus name! I speak the peace of God, Shalom, not missing, nothing broken over you and yours in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will grow in my relationship with my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV) Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be faithful to your partner
