The Reluctance to Change In Marriage. In marriage, you only have to choose once. Circumstances emerge that present an opportunity to choose again, and even again, but those experiences are not what you pray for, and they usually come with unpleasant accomplices. Nobody prays for the loss of a spouse, separation, or divorce.
Ideally, you are stuck in a marriage with that fellow. You better choose wisely if you are still single.
And if you have chosen, decide to make it work and go the long haul.
Marriage is not designed with reverse gear except in very extreme cases.
The Reluctance to Change In Marriage
I am over fifty, and my wife is almost fifty, and we have not really changed. We only become “mature” in our tendencies.
It’s as simple as that. I am still as playful and funny as I used to be. She is still as “reserved’ as she used to be.
Yes, she borrows my playfulness a few times, as occasions demand, but she is essentially who she is. Reserved.
I borrow her reservation, a couple of times, but inside me, in the midst of the reservation, I am still as naughty as ever.
Playfulness and reservation in all excellencies!
The Reluctance to Change In Marriage
That difference was what attracted us.
Then that same difference irritated and repelled us when we got married. And then we wanted to change one another. Frustrating attempts.
Then we had to learn how to manage the differences to have peace at home.
Then the differences we didn’t want in our spouse, which cause quarrels and endless tantrums, become what you smile and laugh over. That is maturity!
That point is where you must get to and then life becomes peaceful and enjoyable.
The differences to live with do not include bad habits and sinful dispositions. Those are to be prayerfully and lovingly confronted and refused for the health of the marriage and the upbringing of the children.
That is how it works.
Those that are still single, don’t get lost in the ice cream or in the movie halls. Don’t enter his inner chamber yet! Choose wisely. Dig dip and pray well, the first thing is not sex! Never! That confuses the soul! Sex should be reserved till after marriage!
Good morning!
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