We stated in our devotional yesterday that there are some things that would not just work. As far as we are called ‘wife’ and we want to fulfill our destiny as godly wives, we must stay away from doing such things.
Yes, I agree that some of these things are the normal reactions that women find easy to do. They flow naturally with being women. Naturally, a woman finds it easy to want to disrespect or give the silent treatment when she is not pleased with her husband.
Remember, God has not called us as wives to do what flows with us or comes to our flesh as a natural behavior, but to be spirit controlled and mortify the deeds of the flesh.
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live – Rom 8:13
Yesterday we looked at two out of the five things not to do as a wife. They are
1. Disrespecting your husband
2. The silent treatment
Let’s conclude.
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3. Don’t Usurp Authority
Because women are multitasking, there is a natural tendency for them sometimes to want to fix everything. The mother hood instinct wants everything-to be in order. There is also a tendency in men to want to sit back and relax especially when the wife decides to step in and fix it all. The man is the head and the family should be run as a team work. Each person must have their roles to play and function in it. So as a wife, don’t usurp authority.
Let your husband remain the husband and you the wife. Stay at your duty post, don’t leave your duty and focus on the duties of your husband. If you do, you will end up being overwhelmed.
4. Don’t disobey your husband
This is very crucial. Your husband must be obeyed at every time. That is why every wife should be very prayerful. What prayer does is that it brings God to the affairs of your home to intervene. God has instituted it that the wife is protected in her obedience to her husband. As you pray and are ready to obey your husband, God will intervene in your affairs.
5. Don’t deny your husband Jeru trips
What jeru trip is to a woman is different from what it is to a man. Jeru trip is very necessary for men and guess what, you must be prepared for this task. It is the only task no woman can help you or assist you. Don’t reject him and don’t refuse him for no matter the reason.
So heed my advice now and do as occasions serve you.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
There are certain things that are just not advisable to do if you want to enjoy your marriage. No matter how good it is or seems to be, the laws of marriage are always against them. Whenever as a wife, you engage in such, you are playing foul and a red card will always follow. There are some things every husband detests, no matter how good he is or loving he is.
The male-female differences will just not make him understand. I want to share with us five of those things every wife must avoid.
1. Disrespecting your husband whether publicly or privately.
Respect is a big deal to men. In fact, the number one need of a man is respect. So every wife wants to stay clear of anything that looks like not respecting her husband. Watch out for every form of disrespecting your husband. Abusing, talking down on him, disobeying his instructions, ignoring him to attend to others, etc, you must avoid every form of disrespect in words, actions, or attitudes.
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2. That silent treatment must stop.
This is when the wife decides to keep to herself either by reason of being hurt or angry with the husband. The wife shows her displeasure by not talking to her husband or giving mono-syllabic answers. This will usually breed strife.
I once asked my husband how he sees silent treatment. Of cause, he said it makes him angry, confused and wants to retaliate. Wives should learn to desist from such acts.
We will continue from here tomorrow.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
Time is everything. It can be spent or invested. Everyone has the same twenty-four hours a day
The Bible teaches us that there is a time for everything, that is, the right time to do certain things. Eccl 3:1-11
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: – Eccl 3:1 [ESV]
If there is a right time for things to be done, that means there is also a wrong time and a not too right time.
Knowing the right time to do things requires wisdom. We all need wisdom in our lives; wisdom as married couples, wisdom as a husband, wife, father, or mother, wisdom in all our endeavors.
The Bible teaches us to redeem the time. Make your time count this year. Use time wisely.
Walk in wisdom toward them that are without, redeeming the time. – Col 4:5
Redeeming the time, because the days are evil – Eph 5:16
Champions are known for their daily routines. Ask yourself, what is my routine like? What time do you wake up? What is your day like? Do you do needless things? Do you interject your day with movies, chatting away, viewing Instagram posts, and the likes?
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All these things could be beneficial if you channel them to the right course. Are they making you financially free, are they an investment into the future?
You have to check your daily routine. Is God a vital part of it? Do you spend time worshipping God? Do you listen to hear from him?
You cannot spend all your time watching movies and expect to hear from Him. Yet your success in life hinges on it.
I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. – Psa 32:8
God wants to instruct us, but are you spending time with Him? He wants to teach you the way to go, are you spending time in His classroom.
Plan your time wisely. Whatever you use your time for, the harvest of it is coming
As a husband or wife, invest in your marriage, family, and children. When the harvest comes, you will not regret it.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will spend my time wisely.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray against every time waster sent your way this year
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecclesiastes 3:1[KJV] To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
Every once in a while, we always fill in certain gaps in our marriage created consciously or unconsciously. As couples, we are a team and should see ourselves as such.
As a team, our goal must be to work together to achieve a common goal. Every family is unique and we have different desires in our hearts we want to be fulfilled.
We are to complement each other. As a couple, the husband’s strengths should be the place of weakness for the wife and vice versa. That’s why it is good for each one of us to develop our unique strengths.
Let the husband not fight the wife over their strengths but celebrate each other’s differences. Our differences are there to create a balance, like the breaks in a car or the speed breakers are meant to control the speed of a car.
We are meant to fill in the gap created by our spouse without being critical or judgmental. If your spouse does not pray as much as you pray, don’t waste time pointing out his or her weakness. The ideal thing to do is just step in and get the job done.
Well, I know it is not every weakness we should step in and fill. This could breed irresponsibility. Based on the uniqueness of each family, each member should be given a particular task to do. There should be a division of labor and responsibility.
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I don’t subscribe to an individual doing everything in marriage. Each person should have something to bring to the table. But when there are lapses on either part, please let us receive Grace to step in and do the needful and the Lord will help us.
For example, if your husband does not talk that much, you talk without complaining and he will also learn from you. The Bible admonishes us not to be weary in well-doing.
Gal 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
We will only reap if we faint not. Let us always put in mind our harvest. This will keep us from being discouraged.
There are seasons of waiting and it is my prayer that God will strengthen us and keep us from being discouraged in our homes as we keep up the good work in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I step in and fill the gap for my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to fill in the gap for your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gal 6:9 [AMP] And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint.
We started this instructive devotional yesterday. If we will be successful, get it right and gain speed in 2022, we need to take these points seriously.
Not striving to be super couples only slows us down. We move in circles and we achieve very little. Whereas, God’s intention for us is to multiply grace and do ten times our normal capacity.
We looked at the following yesterday:
1. Worship 2. Understand your spouse 3. Excellence
Today, we will continue from where we stopped.
4. Forgiveness
If you can’t forgive, don’t bother getting married. Forgiving in marriage is a compulsory course. You only slow yourselves down if you find it difficult to forgive.
Some couples hold their spouse and refuse to forgive because they feel their spouse doesn’t deserve the luxury of their forgiveness. They want to hold on to wrong because they feel they are punishing their spouse.
How humorous that is. I have always said it. Not forgiving is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. You cannot afford it.
Be like a duck that water doesn’t stay on its back. Let nonforgiveness fall off your back like a duck.
Deal with every form of hurt, malice, bitterness, strife et cetera. These are Satan’s most common arsenal.
Forgive because God says to forgive and trust God to reward you.
And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. – Mat 18:34-35
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5. Fun
Be fun-loving. Don’t be too serious. Have a child-like approach to life and cast all your care upon the Lord once and for all.
Casting your care is like throwing your care on God. Don’t pick it back, drop them and leave them with the Double-breasted one.
Laugh, make jest of yourselves, play like clowns, behave like little children, pull your husband beards, do funny faces, and so on. Be creative with fun. By all means, play.
I know you are busy, but out of no time, create time. If you were told if you don’t play, you will not live past 2 months, you will take playing seriously.
It takes away the boredom and monotony out of your marriage. It even helps you to forgive better. If you have to pray for God to make you playful, do. Some of us are not naturally playful. We need the Holy Spirit’s help.
Fun in marriage is not complete without doses of intercourse. Let it be regular, spontaneous, creative, and pleasurable.
6. Be the best
This is simply being your spouse’s best friend. Remember when you were younger, how you did with your best friend. Bring the same into your marriage.
Cherish your time with your spouse. Talk about everything with the exception of nothing. Talk, talk, talk, and listen, listen and listen. Be concerned and truly care from your heart.
Think of ways to outdo yourself in being kind.
Being the best spouse to your own husband or wife entails looking into your marriage and finding out the ingredients that are missing.
Remember, you cannot change your spouse. Love your spouse without trying to make him/her conform to your own standard. Who told you your standard is the best?
Best friends never attempt to change one another. At best, they seek to lovingly influence the other person.
Do the above things, and you will be on your way to becoming a super couple. It is the doer that God promises to be blessed in his ways. Don’t just read, be a doer.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I get it right in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of excellence
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 6:33 [KJV] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
