We started looking at the topic of what every husband must do to their wives a few days back. We’ll conclude on this topic today…
5. She wants you to know that she expects that you give yourself to her.
This has to do with sacrifice. The husband must be ready and willing to sacrifice for his wife. He must sacrifice emotionally, financially, spiritually, or socially. A wife that sees and knows that she has a sacrificing husband will go to any length to submit to her husband.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; – Eph 5:25 (KJV)
And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself – Eph 5:25 (TPT)
And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage. – Ephesians 5:28 (MSG)
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6. She wants to be sanctified by you
Sanctify – Greek – to make holy, purify or consecrate; to venerate:
A wife needs her husband to sanctify her, to through communication, make her what he wants her to be. She needs the husband to talk to her all of the time because she thrives on his words.
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, – Eph 5:26 (KJV)
Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, – Eph 5:26 (MSG)
All that he does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw. Husbands have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self. – Eph 5:27-28 (TPT)
Let’s ensure we put these points to work.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Being a good husband can be difficult. In today’s society, with more pressures than ever, it’s no wonder that some husbands feel like they don’t know how to be good husbands.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:28 (KJV)
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a partner in life because this will help to fulfill your wife’s needs as well as your own. However, you also need to have respect for yourself. This blog post will give you some practical tips on how to be a better husband and maintain your relationship with your spouse.
Important qualities of a good husband
There are 10 qualities that make a good husband. One of the most important is the ability to make your wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a great partner in life.
How to make your wife feel loved and respected
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. One way you can do this is by creating time for your spouse and making sure that both you and your wife have time to pursue your own interests. Another way to make your wife feel loved is by building up her self-worth. You need to show her that she matters and it’s important for her to be able to talk about any problem she may be facing.
How to be a partner in life
It’s important to be a partner in life for your spouse. This means making sure you’re supporting them through both good times and bad. If your spouse has a problem, help them solve it. Don’t shut them down or tell them they’re wrong.
It’s also important to respect yourself as well as your wife. You want to feel like you have a say in the relationship, too. That way, you’ll both feel more fulfilled and satisfied with how things are going.
Don’t always put your wife first; make sure that your needs are met, too. Your wife should be able to depend on you if something bad happens so she doesn’t have to bear the weight of it alone.
Loving someone is hard work and requires effort on both ends. You’ll need to make an effort at all times if you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
Conclusion
If you have read this blog post and agree with these qualities of a good husband, we ask that you share your thoughts with us.
We are interested in what you think about these qualities and if you agree or disagree with any of them. We would also love to know if you could add any more qualities to this list.
Leave us your thoughts in the comment section below!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord Jesus, help me to put to use what I have learnt
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:23 [TLB] Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be a good husband
We started on this topic of what every husband must do his wife yesterday, I’m sure we’re being blessed and are learning. Let’s continue…
3. Husbands, know that your wife is vital to your success and progress.
She was taken out of you and so provides the other side to make you balanced. The man is logical but the woman is emotional.
She is given to details. When she is part of your success and progress, then the success is well-rounded, not loop-sided.
Your wife is a co-heir of the divine grace of life, she is vital to your destiny.
She is an important entity and her input is relevant in the equation of your life. This is important so that your prayers will not be hindered. Even God recognizes the vital role your wife plays.
Husbands, you have to treat your own wives well according to the scriptures.
Be a friend. Provide a conducive atmosphere for her to communicate and express her innermost thoughts to you.
She is your helper, let her function in her role. If she is not able to function well, the loss is yours, but if she is given the opportunity to function maximally, it is to your benefit.
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4. She wants you to know that she looks forward to your leadership.
God has placed the man in a leadership position over the woman in their relationship. He has been given what it takes to lead the woman because he has the map of their destination.
The woman needs a good head for her to function maximally. She is meant to follow but needs someone to provide that good leadership.
It is important that husbands know that the way they lead their wives matters. You are not to dominate or shout out commands and rules. You are to guide lovingly.
The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. – Eph 5:23 (MSG)
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Eph 5:23 (KJV)
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 1Co 11:3 (KJV)
In a marriage relationship, there is authority from Christ to husband, and from husband to wife. The authority of Christ is the authority of God. -1Co 11:3 (MSG)
I will stop here and continue tomorrow.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
For the next few days, our devotionals will be centered on showing every husband how God wants him to treat his wife
1. Husbands, treat your wife with tenderness
Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Husbands according to scriptures, you MUST treat your wife with tenderness. It is a requirement for your prayers not to be hindered
What does tenderness mean? It means each husband has to look at his wife and know what tenderness is to her.
Tenderness is a feeling of concern, gentle affection, or warmth. Tenderness is not a general thing in a sense because what I regard as tenderness, another lady may not see it as such.
In a general sense, you are tender to a woman when you are considerate of her and when you are kind and thoughtful of her.
Men have to learn this because men generally are logical beings. You have to be emotional and not stay on the side of logic to be tender.
Some husbands have a hard stance and are very rigid when it comes to showing their ego. To fulfill this instruction, you cannot afford to do that.
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2. Husbands, know that your wife is your feminine partner who deserves to be honoured.
You know every woman and wife deserves in the least to be honored.
God wants each husband to forever celebrate and honor their wives. If for anything, she left her father and mother, changed her last name, and decided to follow you and live with you.
In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.] -1Pe 3:7 (AMPC)
Honour – Greek – value, that is, money paid; esteem (especially of the highest degree), or the dignity itself: One way to honor your wife is to spend money on her and make her feel special, especially on her anniversaries.
Some men didn’t have anything when they got married, yet your wife stayed by you. Your wife deserves to be honored, that is what the Bible says.
Now how do you honor her? That is up to every husband to decide and determine.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to honor my wife in all things
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I nullify every activity of the devil over my family.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1Pe 3:7 (TPT)
Comparing your spouse or anything you have or don’t have in marriage is actually a trap. It leaves you unsatisfied and ungrateful.
The comparison trap as defined in the dictionary is the habit of measuring your life against others and is one of the most toxic behaviors we can engage in. The idea “the grass is greener” is a wild misconception fueled by jealous evaluation, and often leads to stress and anxiety.
Marriage should be lived with the two couples fully into themselves. Whatever they are or whatever they have should be celebrated by the couples. Little can become much if both can focus on what they have.
In marriage, both couples strengths are multiplied to achieve even greater results. Rather than wasting their energies in comparing and preferring another persons spouse to their God given spouse.
Every marriage is unique and has a unique purpose. No two marriages are the same, will go through the same exact path, experience the same things and have the same seasons.
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Each marriage is to celebrate their own uniqueness. They are to find joy and happiness in being themselves and in going through their journey.
What comparison does is to stifle the joy in doing life together. Life comes with its own challenges, ups and downs. The strength that God gives, trusting in His word, relying on the Holy Spirit for help, and being on the same page with one another will make the journey sweeter.
Comparing your spouse with the other person deprive your spouse the opportunity of working together with your gifting and talents to achieve the common goal.
Most wives easily fall prey to comparison trap. It is not only in terms of finances is your spouse compared, but in very many ways. From looks, to mannerisms, to gestures, to emotional and mental attributes, to spirituality, intelligence, to material things.
No two people are the same and no two people will go through life in the same way. So give your spouse to grow and become who God says they should be.
This doesn’t mean we should be satisfied with the status quo, No. We are to push ourselves and press on to becoming better. While improving ourselves, we should go through life encouraging our spouse not comparing them.
We may not be satisfy at where our spouse are but we cannot change them, we can only encourage, pray for and trust God for them to become better.
The Lord will help us all in Jesus name.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise. I will not compare my spouse with another.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, make me satisfied with my spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Corinthians 10:12 For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Stop comparing your spouse
