How Comparison Affects Your Marriage

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Comparing your spouse or anything you have or don’t have in marriage is actually a trap. It leaves you unsatisfied and ungrateful.

The comparison trap as defined in the dictionary is the habit of measuring your life against others and is one of the most toxic behaviors we can engage in. The idea “the grass is greener” is a wild misconception fueled by jealous evaluation, and often leads to stress and anxiety.

Marriage should be lived with the two couples fully into themselves. Whatever they are or whatever they have should be celebrated by the couples. Little can become much if both can focus on what they have.

In marriage, both couples strengths are multiplied to achieve even greater results. Rather than wasting their energies in comparing and preferring another persons spouse to their God given spouse.

Every marriage is unique and has a unique purpose. No two marriages are the same, will go through the same exact path, experience the same things and have the same seasons.

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Each marriage is to celebrate their own uniqueness.
They are to find joy and happiness in being themselves and in going through their journey.

What comparison does is to stifle the joy in doing life together. Life comes with its own challenges, ups and downs. The strength that God gives, trusting in His word, relying on the Holy Spirit for help, and being on the same page with one another will make the journey sweeter.

Comparing your spouse with the other person deprive your spouse the opportunity of working together with your gifting and talents to achieve the common goal.

Most wives easily fall prey to comparison trap. It is not only in terms of finances is your spouse compared, but in very many ways. From looks, to mannerisms, to gestures, to emotional and mental attributes, to spirituality, intelligence, to material things.

No two people are the same and no two people will go through life in the same way. So give your spouse to grow and become who God says they should be.

This doesn’t mean we should be satisfied with the status quo, No. We are to push ourselves and press on to becoming better. While improving ourselves, we should go through life encouraging our spouse not comparing them.

We may not be satisfy at where our spouse are but we cannot change them, we can only encourage, pray for and trust God for them to become better.

The Lord will help us all in Jesus name.

God bless our marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am wise. I will not compare my spouse with another.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Oh Lord, make me satisfied with my spouse.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
2 Corinthians 10:12 For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Stop comparing your spouse

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
2 Cor 10