unrequited love

A Letter to the One Who’s Tired of Love

by Ogbonnaya Akpoke | Apr 11, 2025 | Singles and Married

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Hey, you. Yes, you—the one who’s tired of love talks.

Tired of hearing “wait on God.”

Tired of trying to make your marriage work.

Tired of hoping someone will choose you and stay.

Tired of feeling like love is for everyone else… except you.

Can I be honest with you? Love can be exhausting—when it’s done in your strength, when you’re doing all the bending, adjusting, forgiving, praying, and hoping… while the other person barely notices. When you feel like you’ve been faithful, but love hasn’t been kind in return.

But here’s what you need to know:

God sees you. He hasn’t forgotten. He isn’t late. And no, you’re not too broken, too difficult, or too anything to be loved right.

You were never created to chase love. You were created to carry it. To be full of it. To walk in it—with or without a ring, a title, or romantic gestures. Your value doesn’t increase because someone texts you “good morning” or posts your photo. You are loved now. Completely. Unconditionally. Eternally.

So, take a breath. Stop striving. Let God love you into wholeness before anyone else tries to hold your heart. Or before the one holding your heart (your spouse) learns to hold it well.

And when love comes, it won’t make you beg, drain, or confuse you. It will honour what God has already healed.

You’re not hard to love. You’re just waiting to be loved right.

— From someone who understands,

And from a God who never stops loving you.