I Thought I Knew What Love Was

I Thought I Knew What Love Was

by | Apr 25, 2025 | Singles and Married

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I thought love was constant communication: texting every hour, long late-night calls, never giving a breathing space.

But then I learned—love is not obsession. It breathes. It gives space. It respects boundaries.

Communication is vital in love, but love doesn’t choke each other.

I thought love was fireworks. You know, butterflies. That head-over-heels, can’t-eat, can’t-sleep feeling. Uhhhhh, my God! That kind that elicits “God, when o?” “Am I a spoon?” from friends.

But then I realised—feelings can fade. Real love shows up when the butterflies are gone; commitment is the only thing standing.

Yes, love elicits butterflies, but if love is not founded on commitment, it’s never gonna last. Never!

I thought love was someone finally choosing me, so I’d feel valuable. Ehm, don’t blame me. The blame is on low self-esteem. I was immersed in it from the experiences I had in childhood. Well… I sought love to feel valuable.

But then I understood—love doesn’t prove your worth. It recognises it. You don’t need love to feel valuable. You need value to love well.  

I thought love meant never arguing, always agreeing, always smiling.  

But I discovered—love isn’t the absence of conflict, it’s the presence of grace. It’s knowing how to “disagree to agree,” how to apologise sincerely, and how to grow together. It’s learning that I am on the same team as the one I love.

I thought I knew what love was.  

Now I’m unlearning and relearning with God as my teacher.

I’m chasing wholeness. Wisdom. Purpose.  

Because I want a love that looks like Christ—selfless, kind, consistent, and strong.

Not necessarily perfect, but real.

Not loud, but lasting.

Not rushed, but rooted.

How about you?

A Letter to the One Who’s Tired of Love

A Letter to the One Who’s Tired of Love

by | Apr 11, 2025 | Singles and Married

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Hey, you. Yes, you—the one who’s tired of love talks.

Tired of hearing “wait on God.”

Tired of trying to make your marriage work.

Tired of hoping someone will choose you and stay.

Tired of feeling like love is for everyone else… except you.

Can I be honest with you? Love can be exhausting—when it’s done in your strength, when you’re doing all the bending, adjusting, forgiving, praying, and hoping… while the other person barely notices. When you feel like you’ve been faithful, but love hasn’t been kind in return.

But here’s what you need to know:  

God sees you. He hasn’t forgotten. He isn’t late. And no, you’re not too broken, too difficult, or too anything to be loved right.

You were never created to chase love. You were created to carry it. To be full of it. To walk in it—with or without a ring, a title, or romantic gestures. Your value doesn’t increase because someone texts you “good morning” or posts your photo. You are loved now. Completely. Unconditionally. Eternally.

So, take a breath. Stop striving. Let God love you into wholeness before anyone else tries to hold your heart. Or before the one holding your heart (your spouse) learns to hold it well.

And when love comes, it won’t make you beg, drain, or confuse you. It will honour what God has already healed.

You’re not hard to love. You’re just waiting to be loved right.

— From someone who understands,

And from a God who never stops loving you.