I want to take a moment to speak to the women this morning.
A woman often senses who her husband is before the man even realizes it himself. It’s part of how God made them. Women are naturally intuitive. There’s a knowing deep within, long before anything is said or done. But even with that inner knowing, it’s not her place to take the lead or make the first move.
On Kisses and Huggs Club, we do not advocate a woman asking a man out, no matter how convinced you are. You can position yourself, present yourself, but not ask out.
This is because God is a God of order, and that order has purpose. When we step outside of it, confusion tends to follow. The man is designed to pursue; the woman is meant to respond.
Genesis 2:23 (ISV): So the man exclaimed, ‘At last! This is bone from my bones and flesh from my flesh. This one will be called “Woman,” because she was taken from Man.’
The first wisdom here is that it was the man who exclaimed. The man who spoke up. Not the woman. Notice that God didn’t even say anything at that moment. He left it all to the man to recognize what was before him and to respond accordingly.
The second wisdom here is that as soon as Adam saw Eve, he spoke. A man who’s serious about you won’t leave you guessing. He’ll be clear from the beginning. So if you’ve been spending time with a man for a while, and he still hasn’t made his intentions known, it’s worth paying attention to that.
He’s been around, but not stepping forward? That silence speaks volumes.
The third wisdom here is this: Adam recognized Eve as his. He said, “bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh.” That kind of recognition and certainty matters. The person you’re meant to spend your life with should know, without hesitation, that you’re the one.
Yes, as a woman, you need to have peace and conviction about him. But he must be just as convinced about you. If he’s not sure, how can he truly leave his father and mother and fully commit?
Have you ever prayed about something and then you imagine exactly how God should answer? Thinking, “He’ll do it this way, at this time, and everything will fall perfectly into place.” But then, nothing happens, or worse, God shows up in a way that feels completely opposite to what you expected. Frustrating, right? That was exactly how Naaman felt.
Naaman’s story teaches a valuable lesson. When prophet Elisha told him to wash in the River Jordan seven times, he was offended. Why? Because it didn’t align with how he thought God would work. Naaman expected a grand display of Elisha calling on God, waving his hand, and instantly healing him. Instead, the solution was simple and humbling.
How often do we do the same? We pray, but deep down, we’ve already imagined how God should answer. Maybe it’s healing, provision, or finding the right partner, and we’ve mapped out exactly how it should happen. Then, when God doesn’t follow our plan, we are disappointed, frustrated, or even offended.
But here is the truth. God’s ways are not ours, and His thoughts are far above ours as recorded in Isaiah 55:8. Like Naaman, we need to let go of our expectations and trust that God knows best. His instructions may seem unconventional, and His timing may stretch our patience, but His plans for us are always good (Jeremiah 29:11).
Are you waiting for God to send the right person, but it feels like the wait is too long? God is asking you to work on your character first. Perhaps in marriage, the journey looks nothing like the dream you envisioned. Whatever the case, always remember that God’s instructions may not always make sense to us, but obedience brings breakthroughs.
Naaman was only healed when he humbled himself and followed God’s word, even though it was not what he expected. In the same way, our blessings often lie on the other side of trust and surrender to God.
So today, let go of the“how” and“when.” Stop trying to control the process. Trust His plan, obey His word, and believe wholeheartedly that He has good things in store for you.
Happy New Year to everyone at Kisses and Huggs Club! This year has been declared our year of supernatural growth, and with this declaration comes the promise of remarkable progress in every area of our lives.
Growth is a natural progression in life. When a single man gets married, it signifies maturity, as marriage is not for the immature. Like we say, ‘marriage is not for boys’. Similarly, when a married woman gives birth, it marks a new level of growth within the family. This year, I encourage you to embrace the promise of supernatural growth and pray for its manifestation in every aspect of your life.
One specific area where I urge you to grow this year is your consistency. Studies have shown that consistency is the key to achieving anything worthwhile. This is not the year to repeat the same patterns and routines of the past. A great scholar once said ‘Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly, but expecting different results.’ You must do things differently if you want a different result this year. This is a year to step into greater maturity and achieve remarkable outcomes through unwavering commitment.
Let’s draw wisdom from the Scriptures:
Luke 18:7 (AMP) And will not [our just] God defend and avenge His elect [His chosen ones] who cry out to Him day and night? Will He delay [in providing justice] on their behalf?
Here, we see the importance of persistent and consistent prayer. God is moved by those who seek Him consistently—day and night—not by those who come to Him sporadically or half-heartedly.
Consider your own prayer life. Are you consistent in seeking God, or do you waver? This year, resolve to pursue Him with steadfast devotion. For instance, as you participate in the GPPS (Global Prayers and Praise Storm) challenge, don’t be haphazard about it. Don’t settle for three days in a week and expect the same results as someone who goes all the way.
My questions to you this morning:
Have you ever been wronged or felt like life has treated you unfairly?
Do you long for God’s justice to intervene in your circumstances?
Are you feeling helpless and in need of the Great Defender to fight on your behalf?
If so, the answer lies in your consistency. Cry out to God both day and night.
Matthew 7:7: (AMP) “Ask and keep on asking, and it will be given to you; seek and keep on seeking, and you will find; knock and keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”
Notice the recurring theme: persistence. Don’t ask during the day and fall silent at night. Seek Him continuously, knowing that His justice is promised to those who diligently pursue Him.
This year, my desire is that you grow by developing a deeper and more consistent relationship with God. Keep asking. Keep seeking. Keep knocking. This unwavering commitment is the key to unlocking His justice and experiencing supernatural growth in your life.
Life Is All About Change (And That’s a Good Thing!)
Change can feel like a rollercoaster ride you never asked to be on. One minute, you’re cruising through life, and the next, everything’s flipped upside down—new job, new city, new responsibilities, and suddenly, you’re adulting (whether you feel ready or not). But guess what? Change is a part of God’s plan for you, and it’s through these transitions that we grow—both in our faith and in life.
From childhood to adolescence, adulthood, and beyond, each stage of life brings new challenges, fresh opportunities, and growth moments. The secret sauce to thriving? Embracing the change. When you choose to face transitions with an open heart and mind, you’re not just surviving; you’re thriving.
Why Change Feels Like a Big Deal (But Doesn’t Have to Be)
It’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed by change. After all, leaving your comfort zone can feel like stepping into the unknown (yikes!). In childhood, we learn the basics—how to make friends, how to tie our shoes, and how to love peanut butter (or not). Then, adolescence hits, and suddenly, it’s all about figuring out who we are, what we believe in, and where we fit in this world. Oh, and there’s that whole “peer pressure” thing. Fun times, right?
Fast forward to adulthood, and the stakes get even higher—career choices, relationships, and maybe even starting a family. The decisions we make now can shape our future, which sounds intense, but here’s the deal: God equips us to handle it. Each phase of life is an opportunity to trust Him more and discover who He created us to be.
The Real Perks of Embracing Change
Okay, so we know change can be hard, but why should we lean into it? Here are a few reasons embracing change is worth it:
1. You’ll Discover New Strengths
When you’re thrown into unfamiliar territory, you’ll find out just how capable you are. Think of it like spiritual and personal muscle-building. Each challenge is a chance to grow stronger and more resilient. You may even uncover passions or skills you never knew you had. Pretty cool, right?
2. You’ll Build Emotional Resilience
Dealing with change isn’t just about getting through it—it’s about growing through it. The more we adapt, the more emotionally resilient we become. Life will always throw curveballs, but embracing them with faith gives you the tools to bounce back even stronger.
3. Your Relationships Will Get Stronger
Ever notice how going through tough times can bring people closer? When you embrace change, you often find yourself leaning on family, friends, and God. These moments can deepen your relationships, creating bonds that are strong enough to withstand life’s twists and turns.
Let’s Get Real: Why Change Scares Us
Change can be scary, especially when it feels like you’re walking blindfolded. Fear of the unknown is real, but it doesn’t have to paralyze you. Whether it’s anxiety about a new job, fear of moving to a new city, or even just the small day-to-day adjustments, it’s all about mindset. Instead of seeing change as something to fear, see it as an opportunity for growth. Plus, Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us that we don’t have to be anxious about anything when we bring it all to God in prayer.
Supporting Each Other Through Transitions
Here’s a life hack: you don’t have to go through change alone. Leaning on community—whether it’s friends, family, or your church family—can make all the difference. Sharing your struggles, victories, and everything in between with people you trust helps lighten the load.
Remember that time your friend started a new job and was freaking out? Now think about how you were able to offer support and encouragement. That’s what community is all about. We’re called to bear each other’s burdens (Galatians 6:2) and to remind each other of God’s faithfulness, even in the middle of uncertainty.
Practical Tips for Embracing Change (Without Losing Your Mind)
So how do we actually do this? Here are some tried-and-true tips for navigating change like a pro:
Stay Present: Praying and even just breathing exercises can help you stay grounded when things feel chaotic. Jesus tells us not to worry about tomorrow (Matthew 6:34), so focus on today and trust God with the rest.
Set Small Goals: Overwhelmed by change? Break it down. Setting small, achievable goals helps you stay focused and gives you those mini-wins that keep you motivated.
Get a Support System: Surround yourself with people who get it. Whether it’s your best friend, mentor, or small group, having people to talk to makes the journey a lot less lonely.
Flip the Script: Instead of seeing change as something to dread, reframe it as an opportunity for growth. Romans 8:28 reminds us that God works all things together for good, even the tough stuff.
Final Thoughts: Embrace the Journey
Here’s the thing: change is inevitable, but growth is optional. Every life stage brings new challenges and opportunities, and while the road might be bumpy at times, it’s all part of God’s plan for your personal and spiritual growth.
So the next time life throws a curveball, remember: you’ve got this. God’s got this. Embrace the change, lean on your community, and watch how you’ll grow in ways you never imagined. And who knows? You might even end up enjoying the ride.
Stay curious, stay faithful, and trust the process—because God’s not done with you yet.
