I almost can hear someone say, ‘can one really have a model marriage?’ My answer is an absolutely yes. You can have a model marriage, but you have to be willing to work at it. Marriage is work, but God promised that our labor of love will be rewarded.
The work requires the input of both the husband and the wife. It is not supposed to be the sole responsibility of one spouse to do all the laboring. Both should labour for the marriage but in different aspect of the marriage.
Marriage requires hard work, commitment, sacrifice and like someone puts it, you have an appointment with 4 things,
1. Appointment with losing
2. Appointment with dying
3. Appointment with sacrifice
4. Appointment with suffering
All these look negative but in reality, they are just God’s way of developing our faith muscle and causing us to die to the flesh.
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It is not only women who need to lose, die, sacrifice and suffer, but both the husband as well as the wife.
A wife loses her life just to care for her children. So it’s not really losing, dying, sacrificing in terms of punishment but to gain something higher and worthwhile.
So also, you have to die to your own convenient ways or your opinions if things will work out In the marriage.
Tomorrow, I will point out some things the wives can do to have a model marriage.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am supportive of my husband in all areas.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to be a supportive spouse in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:22 For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to look at areas you can give your support and begin to give it.
We stated in our devotional yesterday that there are some things that would not just work. As far as we are called ‘wife’ and we want to fulfill our destiny as godly wives, we must stay away from doing such things.
Yes, I agree that some of these things are the normal reactions that women find easy to do. They flow naturally with being women. Naturally, a woman finds it easy to want to disrespect or give the silent treatment when she is not pleased with her husband.
Remember, God has not called us as wives to do what flows with us or comes to our flesh as a natural behavior, but to be spirit controlled and mortify the deeds of the flesh.
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live – Rom 8:13
Yesterday we looked at two out of the five things not to do as a wife. They are
1. Disrespecting your husband
2. The silent treatment
Let’s conclude.
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3. Don’t Usurp Authority
Because women are multitasking, there is a natural tendency for them sometimes to want to fix everything. The mother hood instinct wants everything-to be in order. There is also a tendency in men to want to sit back and relax especially when the wife decides to step in and fix it all. The man is the head and the family should be run as a team work. Each person must have their roles to play and function in it. So as a wife, don’t usurp authority.
Let your husband remain the husband and you the wife. Stay at your duty post, don’t leave your duty and focus on the duties of your husband. If you do, you will end up being overwhelmed.
4. Don’t disobey your husband
This is very crucial. Your husband must be obeyed at every time. That is why every wife should be very prayerful. What prayer does is that it brings God to the affairs of your home to intervene. God has instituted it that the wife is protected in her obedience to her husband. As you pray and are ready to obey your husband, God will intervene in your affairs.
5. Don’t deny your husband Jeru trips
What jeru trip is to a woman is different from what it is to a man. Jeru trip is very necessary for men and guess what, you must be prepared for this task. It is the only task no woman can help you or assist you. Don’t reject him and don’t refuse him for no matter the reason.
So heed my advice now and do as occasions serve you.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
There are certain things that are just not advisable to do if you want to enjoy your marriage. No matter how good it is or seems to be, the laws of marriage are always against them. Whenever as a wife, you engage in such, you are playing foul and a red card will always follow. There are some things every husband detests, no matter how good he is or loving he is.
The male-female differences will just not make him understand. I want to share with us five of those things every wife must avoid.
1. Disrespecting your husband whether publicly or privately.
Respect is a big deal to men. In fact, the number one need of a man is respect. So every wife wants to stay clear of anything that looks like not respecting her husband. Watch out for every form of disrespecting your husband. Abusing, talking down on him, disobeying his instructions, ignoring him to attend to others, etc, you must avoid every form of disrespect in words, actions, or attitudes.
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2. That silent treatment must stop.
This is when the wife decides to keep to herself either by reason of being hurt or angry with the husband. The wife shows her displeasure by not talking to her husband or giving mono-syllabic answers. This will usually breed strife.
I once asked my husband how he sees silent treatment. Of cause, he said it makes him angry, confused and wants to retaliate. Wives should learn to desist from such acts.
We will continue from here tomorrow.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will respect my husband publicly and privately.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a good man/woman to your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Rom 8:28
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show some respect to your spouse
Time is everything. It can be spent or invested. Everyone has the same twenty-four hours a day
The Bible teaches us that there is a time for everything, that is, the right time to do certain things. Eccl 3:1-11
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: – Eccl 3:1 [ESV]
If there is a right time for things to be done, that means there is also a wrong time and a not too right time.
Knowing the right time to do things requires wisdom. We all need wisdom in our lives; wisdom as married couples, wisdom as a husband, wife, father, or mother, wisdom in all our endeavors.
The Bible teaches us to redeem the time. Make your time count this year. Use time wisely.
Walk in wisdom toward them that are without, redeeming the time. – Col 4:5
Redeeming the time, because the days are evil – Eph 5:16
Champions are known for their daily routines. Ask yourself, what is my routine like? What time do you wake up? What is your day like? Do you do needless things? Do you interject your day with movies, chatting away, viewing Instagram posts, and the likes?
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All these things could be beneficial if you channel them to the right course. Are they making you financially free, are they an investment into the future?
You have to check your daily routine. Is God a vital part of it? Do you spend time worshipping God? Do you listen to hear from him?
You cannot spend all your time watching movies and expect to hear from Him. Yet your success in life hinges on it.
I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. – Psa 32:8
God wants to instruct us, but are you spending time with Him? He wants to teach you the way to go, are you spending time in His classroom.
Plan your time wisely. Whatever you use your time for, the harvest of it is coming
As a husband or wife, invest in your marriage, family, and children. When the harvest comes, you will not regret it.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will spend my time wisely.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray against every time waster sent your way this year
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecclesiastes 3:1[KJV] To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
Words are spiritual and are our connection to the spiritual word. Our destinies are spiritual and so is our marriage.
Words don’t die so also their effects. God has given man the capacity and ability to create, project, and speak things to come to pass.
Now, this could be positive or negative, the same principle applies to both. Words spoken by men whether born again Christians or unbelievers are powerful. These words could be spoken to our detriment or to our advantage.
The effects of words spoken to us are real. They either form limitations in our lives and marriage or make our way easy in life. Careless words are also not left out. Whether the words were spoken consciously or unconsciously, or in a moment of emotional pain, words spoken affect our lives.
Some people don’t wish us well and they are either outrightly wicked or full of the devil. Sometimes, we speak negatively to our spouses and these words stand against them.
Whether character flaws or otherwise, we will do ourselves good speaking what we want to see in our spouse and marriage.
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Negative words from parents, colleagues, friends, and associates can affect us and our spouses.
Rachel was Jacob’s wife whom he loved. But unknown to him, he released the words of death, which eventually worked in the life of Rachel. When she was giving birth to her son, she died.
And so it was, as her soul was departing (for she died), that she called his name Ben-Oni; but his father called him Benjamin. – Gen 35:18 [NKJV]
The best way to nullify the effect of wrong words spoken is by using God’s words to cancel them. The same also happens concerning generational and lineage curses.
Until they are broken, their effect still holds. Sometimes, your spouse could be engaging with issues and problems they don’t know anything about. The good news is that you can begin to nullify the effect. You can cancel the effect of any negative words.
Go into the scriptures and get promises that God has promised. Declare this intentionally over your spouse and begin to see desired changes.
May God grant us more wisdom in Jesus name, amen.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I nullify every negative word spoken to me or against my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Blood of Jesus, erase the effect every of wrong word spoken to me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 6:2 [NKJV] You are snared by the words of your mouth; You are taken by the words of your mouth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Plead the blood of Jesus over your mariage
