How should a person love their fiancee or spouse? That is what I will be looking at this morning. Love is an action word and if there are no actions to show you love her, you don’t love her in the real sense. Just like respect is a big deal for the guys and it is God’s order that their fiancee and wife respect them out of honor to God and not necessarily because he deserves it.
The same way, God expects and requires that every man loves his own fiancee.
One of the marks of maturity is when a man has the ability to overlook the weakness of his fiancee and despite all, still love her unconditionally.
Eph 5:25 (MSG)
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not getting.
As husbands-to-be, you are to model Christ. Your leadership role is that of a servant leader. Your headship over her is not an authoritarian rule but one marked with sacrificial love.
One that is patient and kind. One that is meant to nurture and bring out the best in her.
Loving your fiancee begins from the time of your courtship and not when you are married. You start walking by the principle of genuine, God kind of love. This love definitely does not include sleeping with her or dishonoring her body. Any guy who sleeps with a lady before marrying her has shown the highest level of dishonor for the lady. That definitely is not love.
I do not condemn any body because most of these things were done in ignorance. But repentance is needed especially now that you know. Not engaging in pre-maritals is the honor you give to God that the marriage institution is ordained by God.
You are to love her like your own body because she actually is. You begin to learn to treat your fiancee as you would treat yourself. Treat her with dignity, don’t shout on her. Don’t shut her up. Don’t ignore her or her opinions. Don’t compare her to other ladies, don’t put attention on her weak areas.
Learn to celebrate her, appreciate her and hold her in high esteem.
Loving her is every man’s God given assignment. Don’t fail in this assignment.
You know, when I read Ephesians 4:32, it got me thinking about something really important for couples.
Eph 4:32 (KJV) And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
The verse suggests three key things: being kind to one another, having a tender heart, and forgiving each other. I think these are super crucial in marriage and can help iron out a lot of issues, you know?
Imagine having a kind and gentle partner – it’s like having a shield against unnecessary arguments. And being tender-hearted? It’s all about treating each other with the same love and care a mom gives her newborn. What if we could be that tender in our relationships? I bet there would be less yelling and definitely no hurtful words thrown around.
Then, there’s the part about forgiving one another. This one’s powerful. Holding onto bitterness can be toxic, so why not just forgive quickly and completely? I like how The Message translation puts it: “Be gentle with one another, sensitive, and forgive as quickly and thoroughly as God forgave you.”
Taking on this attitude of compassion, understanding, and love can change the game. It can put a stop to shouting matches, violent tendencies, and all the negative stuff. I hope that this understanding and love will seep into your marriage and overcome any challenges that come your way.
I wish you all the best and pray that every obstacle in your marriage gets crushed. Here’s to a blessed and loving marriage journey!
In the realm of matrimony, there exist certain indispensable elements that serve as the lifeblood of every successful union. Let’s dive into the nitty-gritty of what makes a marriage thrive
1. Keep the Chatter Flowing
Picture this: a friend once asked, “What are the three crucial things in marriage?” The reply echoed, “Communication, communication, communication!” Couldn’t agree more, right?
When the art of communication wanes, it’s like opening the door to a host of unwelcome guests—assumptions, suspicions, lies, and deceit. A marriage truly blossoms when both partners can freely articulate their thoughts and feelings. So, let’s make a pact to hear each other out!
Remember, when a man speaks, it’s often for a logical explanation. On the flip side, when a woman shares, it’s not merely an explanation; it’s an emotional release. Silencing her voice stores up tensions, akin to the silent magma beneath the earth’s surface—seemingly calm, but a volcanic eruption could be lurking.
2. Revitalize the Romance
In the marathon of marriage, pit stops are crucial. Take breaks from the daily grind and rediscover the magic that brought you together. Recall those pre-wedding sparks? Reignite them! Besides the spiritual recharge from prayer and Bible reading, spice up your life with moments of relaxation.
3. Seek Counsel
No marriage is an island; it thrives with the wisdom of mentors. Couples married for decades possess a treasure trove of insights. Seeking counsel isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a beacon of wisdom. Let’s drop the facade of self-sufficiency and embrace the humble act of seeking guidance.
4. The Power of Transparency
Sincerity and openness are the glue that holds marriages together. Imagine marriage as an open book club; discuss everything, leaving no room for secrecy. Hiding the plot twists only breeds mistrust. Adultery finds no foothold where transparency and honesty prevail.
As couples, let’s take note of these pillars—communication, rekindled romance, wise counsel, and transparent dialogue. They are the threads that weave a resilient and enduring marital fabric. May our unions be a testament to the beauty of connection and understanding!
In this world full of chaos and hustle, taking a moment to celebrate the ones we hold dear becomes a beacon of light
My husband is my world, my sunshine, the guy who makes everything in my life sparkle. He’s my mentor, pastor, coach, and the one with a crown shining with precious gems. Seriously, he’s more than words can express.
I could go on and on, not just because I’m a writer, but because he deserves all the celebration. Grateful to God for this rare gift.
You know, special moments in our loved ones’ lives are like gold mines. Birthdays, anniversaries, promotions – they’re not to be missed. Once-in-a-lifetime stuff! And, hey, celebrating is not a one-way street. Your boo needs it too; it’s a two-way deal. Today is not his birthday, just celebrating him.
Thinking of celebrating your spouse? Here are five laid-back tips:
Be genuinely happy for your loved one. No fake smiles, please – authenticity is key. Let the joy radiate from within because authenticity is the key to a celebration that truly touches the soul.O
Be thoughtful and intentional. What does this day mean to them? Let your celebration reflect that. Every celebration is an opportunity to deepen your connection. Be intentional; let your actions mirror the depth of your feelings.
Who said celebrations need to break the bank? Get creative! Sometimes, a heartfelt gesture speaks louder than an expensive gift.
Find out what they’d appreciate and make it happen. Discover what makes your loved one’s heart skip a beat. The right gift is not just an object; it’s a symbol of your understanding and appreciation.
Words matter. Express your inner thoughts; our spoken emotions become cherished memories, engraved in the heart forever. Remember, celebrate your lover like there’s no tomorrow. They’re your only one on this planet.
Yesterday I started on this topic and looked at five symptoms of immaturity in your relationship. I will conclude this morning with the remaining five.
Immaturity, though not inherently sinful, serves as a breeding ground for destructive behaviors within the realm of relationships. Our journey takes us through the subtle intricacies that hinder personal growth and consequently erode the foundation of meaningful connections.
Hebrews 12:1 guides us on this expedition: “Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily besets us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.” It’s a call to shed the burdens of immaturity, run the race of growth with endurance.
The Greatest Pitfall: Selfishness
At the heart of immaturity lies selfishness. Relationships thrive on love’s sacrificial essence. An immature connection, clouded by self-centeredness, is destined for turbulence.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6 beautifully outlines the attributes of love, emphasizing its patience, kindness, and aversion to self-aggrandizement. A relationship devoid of these qualities is a ship sailing against the winds of maturity.
More Symptoms of Immaturity:
Neglecting God and His Principles The essence of a relationship is deeply intertwined with divine principles. Failing to prioritize God in the union reflects a lack of maturity. God’s principles are the bedrock, providing stability to the intricate dance of companionship.
Picture this: God, the relationship superhero, swooping in with a cape made of divine principles. Neglecting that? Well, it’s like trying to fight crime without your superhero suit.
Deceit in the Relationship Lies, deceit, and double standards are the hallmarks of immaturity. Sincerity and transparency, on the other hand, signify emotional maturity, paving the way for a relationship rooted in truth.
Financial Instability True financial stability extends beyond material possessions. It’s about self-sufficiency, the ability to meet one’s needs without dependency. A mature partner is not meant to be a financial crutch; instead, both contribute to the relationship’s prosperity.
Low Self-Esteem A mature individual understands their worth, deriving it from an unwavering self-esteem. Insecurity and seeking external approval are hallmarks of immaturity, capable of wreaking havoc and compromising one’s integrity.
Abusive Behavior Any form of abuse, whether verbal, emotional, or physical, is a glaring symptom of immaturity. Relationships are mutual, complementary endeavors where superiority has no place. Abuse dismantles the foundation of shared strength and understanding. Say no to abuse; it’s not in the script!
Shedding the garments of immaturity requires introspection, commitment to growth, and adherence to divine principles. May the journey towards emotional maturity be one guided by self-awareness, compassion, and a relentless pursuit of true love.
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