Husbandry Unveiled: Unmissable Trio

Husbandry Unveiled: Unmissable Trio

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1. Express and Articulate Your Love Constantly

This may not really sound as important to menfolk, but I can tell you as a marriage counselor that it is a big deal for ladies.

One woman bitterly complained that the only problem she had with her husband was that he never says “I love you!”

The man went to a recording studio and recorded a seventy-minute audio of his voice repeatedly saying “I love you!”

He took this CD and presented it to his wife.

“Hey dear, my pepperento potatoe, anytime you want to hear me say that, just play this CD!

The wife took it from him, broke it into two, and threw it out of the window.

The man was furious.

The wife said calmly, “I didn’t marry the CD, I married you and I want to hear it from you.”

And that is the way it is.

Dear husbands, your wife needs to hear that every time.

Don’t allow the compliments she gets outside to outweigh your own expressions for her at home.

After childbirth and as they approach midlife, women go through a mix of emotions and they struggle with their appearance, their tummy, and body shape.

That is why mirrors are never far from them.

They need a lot of affirmations from their husbands at this time.

Your affirmations will go a long way in stabilizing their emotions and ultimately make them feel loved.

Husbandry Unveiled: Unmissable Trio

2. Attend Church Together

Very importantly, the husband as the head should ensure he raises a godly family.

Part of doing that is not forsaking the assembly of God’s people.

It is important you keep hearing the same thing.

I do not always subscribe that couples attend church services differently.

Attend the same church and build up yourselves spiritually.

Grow together.

Study together. 

Pray together.

It goes a long way to strengthen the marriage.

As the husband, it is your responsibility to give spiritual leadership and direction.

Husbandry Unveiled: Unmissable Trio

3. Resist the Urge To Lift Your Hands Against Her

Finally, as a husband, you should do all in your care to never lift your hands against your wife, for any reason, whatsoever.

This is what separates the men from the boys.

“Oh Pastor, you don’t know my wife. She is stubborn, rude, annoying, and disrespectful. Before I say “A,” she is by the “Z.”

Well, physically abusing her will not be the way out.

1Pe 3:7  
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Make a covenant that you will never hit her!

As you make up your mind to do this, to honour her, protect her, and take care of her, God will also honour His Word in your life.

I pray that God will honour you indeed, send help to you in your marriage and fulfill all His desires for your life!


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Help We Don’t Understand Each Other

Help We Don’t Understand Each Other

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Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

This is an issue faced by young and old couples alike. You and your spouse are different and this will have different perspectives.

Understanding each other is about getting your spouse to see your viewpoint. It requires effective communication and understanding.

Both of you have to be willing and ready to work at your marriage. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or with the marriage.

Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

Here are some tips to help you convey your perspective:

1. Choose the Right Time: 

Pick a moment when both of you are calm and receptive to discussion.

2. Stay Calm and Respectful: Approach the conversation with a composed demeanor and avoid becoming defensive or confrontational.

3. Active Listening: 

First, listen to your spouse’s viewpoint attentively. Show empathy and understanding towards their thoughts and feelings.

4. Use “I” Statements: 

Express your viewpoint using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, “I feel” or “I think” rather than “You always” or “You never.”

5. Provide Specific Examples: Support your viewpoint with concrete examples and evidence to help your spouse better understand your perspective.

Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

6. Find Common Ground: 

Identify areas where your viewpoints align and build on those shared interests or beliefs.

7. Avoid Blame Game: 

Refrain from blaming or criticizing your spouse during the conversation. Focus on the issue at hand without making it personal.

8. Acknowledge Their Perspective: 

Validate your spouse’s viewpoint, even if you don’t fully agree. Show that you respect their thoughts and feelings.

9. Be Patient: 

Changing viewpoints takes time, so be patient and allow your spouse to process the information.

10. Give Space: 

If the conversation becomes too intense, take breaks if needed, and revisit the discussion when both of you are ready.

Help, We Don’t Understand Each other

11. Collaborate: 

Frame the conversation as a collaborative effort to find a solution that works for both of you.

12. Seek Professional Help: 

If necessary, consider seeking the assistance of a professional therapist or counselor to facilitate the conversation.

Remember, the goal is not necessarily to make your spouse adopt your viewpoint but to foster understanding and find common ground. Respectful communication and empathy are key to productive discussions in any relationship.


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Handsome and Beautiful, That Is All?

Handsome and Beautiful, That Is All?

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Handsome and Beautiful, That Is All?

Let him be tall and handsome. Deep voice. Six-packs. Muscular. Gentle giant.

I want her to be beautiful. Hot legs. Head turner. Bust and behind. The hips and the lips. Slayer.

You write down a list. Great.

As a teenager, do you remember, when you think love, that’s all you wanted?

Fast forward many years after, priorities have changed.

Handsome and Beautiful, That Is All?

Married folk will tell you that some things will not be for life.

Some are great and work at it and they look great for a long time.

But genetics and nature are not really nice to everybody.

So, married people will tell you that the “tall” may be there for life, but the “tall” is no longer straight.

Somewhere along the journey, pot belly showed up. Stubborn and recalcitrant, it refused to go.

Shebi you saw the dad before? Why surprised?

Son will resemble father now?

The deep voice remained, unchanging, but then it came with deep snores. It’s a total package. Melody unto the Lord.

The six packs. Eventually and eventfully collapses into an amusement park. A bald head showed up. Cream would not work.

The gentle giant. The giant remained. Gentle left. Only God knows where.

Oh, the lady?

Ever beautiful. The legs is still somehow hot, but they got bigger. She loves “swallow,” hot swallow, and so the hot swallow swallowed the hot in the legs and left the big legs.

She doesn’t like wearing short skirts again.

Head no longer turn.

Handsome and Beautiful, That Is All?

Bust outline is no longer clear, tummy got bigger, thanks to five bubbling children!

The hips got bigger, and the lips which you think are solely for kissing, now have the capacity to shade somebody! She is no longer a slayer, nobody is ready to die.

I have said all of these to tell you that you should not be rigid with your “list” when it comes to marriage.

Some things will not be forever.

So many factors like genetics, personal discipline, eating habits and so many others determine what a person will look like.

After you hit forty, the body slows down in breaking down food. More fat settle.

God knows the best for you.

Never ever marry someone you loathe or hate, but never ever reject someone God is leading you to because of your strict idiosyncrasies.

God has a marital map for you.

Follow it.

Trash your unrealistic list and find out the heart of God.

Psa 81:13 (MSG)  
“Oh, dear people, will you listen to me now? Israel, will you follow my map?

You want to marry a rich person. Will the person be rich for life? Will you divorce if he gets broke?

There are rich people on their way to being broke! And yes, there are broke people on their way to being rich!

God’s GPS is superior to the one your brain invented.

Cooperate with His leading.

Short people can be nice. And they can be nasty.

Tall people can be brutal. And they can be gentle.

Stop insisting. Start listening to God.

He’s got your back, and He has you in mind!

May God bless your relationship!


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Managing Rejection and Disappointment

Managing Rejection and Disappointment

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Managing Rejection and Disappointment

Loved ones frequently abandon us. Life happens, and relationships fade.

What appears to be promising frequently falls apart.

Wedding arrangements are frequently canceled or shortened.

Jilting stories, abandonment stories, cheating escapades, and infidelity adventures are all common occurrences.

As a result, many leave.

What occurs in such situations?

People may walk away but God will never walk away.

Managing Rejection and Disappointment

Let us delve at the scriptures.

Isa 54:10 (MSG)  
For even if the mountains walk away and the hills fall to pieces, My love won’t walk away from you, my covenant commitment of peace won’t fall apart.” The GOD who has compassion on you says so

Eh! That should be read several times!

My love will not abandon you.

My peace covenant will not be broken.

Whoever wishes to walk away may do so, but as long as God’s love does not walk away, everything will work out for you.

I want you to look disappointment in the eyes and exclaim, “God’s love will not leave me!”

Stop sobbing.

Allow God’s love to heal you.

Managing Rejection and Disappointment

God utilized a nearly impossible scenario to demonstrate the depth of his love.

Mountains, as we all know, do not walk.

We all know that hills don’t just break apart.

But even if the mountain goes for a walk and never returns, and the hills disperse beyond repair, God promises that His love will not go!

Be optimistic.

Take pleasure in that love.

Swim in that ocean of love.

You will discover healing, restoration, and blessings beyond your wildest dreams in that love.

I’ll end here.

May you live long and prosper!


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From A Love Affair Into Marriage

From A Love Affair Into Marriage

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From A Love Affair Into Marriage

Dexterity in asking a lady out is not the victory, getting married to a good woman is. Having a true help-meet in the journey of life is one the sweetest things that can ever happen to you.

Changing your status from single to “Engaged” is not yet anything to rejoice about, getting married to a good faithful, responsible man is where the victory is.

There are men who are very spiritual but are completely unromantic. They don’t know more than to be quoting Bible.

Such men will have Bible study first upon any meeting before they even greet you. It is good. You are a spirit but don’t forget you are living here on earth.

From A Love Affair Into Marriage

It is true that marriage is made in heaven, but it is also a truism that it is lived on earth.

On the other side of the divide, there are those who are very romantic, but their spiritual life is a write-off.

The most beautiful thing then is to have a romantic and spiritual partner!

The first and major step is to become that yourself. Become the kind of person you want to attract.

Relationships don’t work out because you are convinced.

It works out because you work at it.

Relationships don’t work out because you really love the person.

It works out because you first love yourself.

Forgive easily.

Pray.

Work on becoming better.

Keep improving.

Read and study.

Going into relationships and coming out over and over again is not God’s plan for you.

Sit down and find out what went wrong.

From A Love Affair Into Marriage

Learn all you can learn.

Slow down. Don’t rush into a new relationship immediately after a failed one.

If you skip this process, the relationship will soon end as well.

I am praying for you, God will pilot your relationship into marriage in Jesus’ name.

All things will work out together for your good.

God will fill your mouth with laughter.

God will collapse all the wasted years and bring beauty from the ashes.

All will be well with you, this is my prayer for you this day.

Be blessed!


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