Imagine you’re at a dinner table, having a deep and meaningful conversation with someone you love. The atmosphere is just right, the emotions are real, and everything feels perfect. But have you ever stopped to ask, Is God even invited to this table?
A lot of people trust God with their careers, finances, health, provision, etc but when it comes to relationships, they like to take matters into their own hands. They pray, “Lord, bless this relationship,” but deep down, they already know they didn’t ask Him before getting into it.
The first relationship in the Bible didn’t start with two people finding each other rather it started with one person walking with God. Before Adam ever met Eve, he had a personal relationship with God (Genesis 2:18-22). That means before you start thinking about who to date or marry, the real question is: Where does God stand in your life?
Not every relationship that feels right is from God. Samson thought Delilah was everything he wanted, but in the end, that love story cost him his strength, his vision, and his purpose (Judges 16). If emotions are leading you instead of God, you might be walking into something that looks good but is quietly pulling you away from Him.
Here’s a reality check: If you have to constantly justify red flags, hide certain things from people who care about you, or feel spiritually drained, that’s not God’s best for you. Relationships built on compromise never stand the test of time.
Ask yourself these questions: Did I really invite God into this relationship, or did I just hope He would go along with my choice? Is this relationship helping me grow in my faith, or is it quietly pulling me away? If I had to stand before God today, would I feel good about how I’ve handled this relationship? Your honest answers will tell you a lot. If you’re drifting further from God instead of getting closer to Him, maybe it’s time to pause, reevaluate, and let Him take the lead.
“Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.” — Revelation 3:20 (NIV)
At the end of the day, marriage is too important to get wrong. A relationship without God is like driving without direction, you might feel like you’re moving forward, but you have no idea where you’ll end up. Before you let someone sit at the table of your heart, make sure God is the One who set the table in the first place. If He’s not in it then it’s not worth it.
There is a level God desires His children to reach, which is a depth of understanding of the things of the Spirit. Growth is not optional; it is essential for where God is taking us.
Meanwhile, no one truly knows the strength within until they step out in faith. In Matthew 25:14-30, we read the parable of the master who entrusted his servants with different talents before going on a journey. He gave five, two, and one talent respectively, and according to their capacity.
The first two servants invested and multiplied what was given to them, while the third buried his talent out of fear. When the master returned, he was pleased with those who had expanded their capacity and entrusted them with even more. But the servant who did nothing lost the one that he had.
God gives according to our ability, but He expects growth. Spiritual capacity is not just for today; it is required for where God is leading us.
As believers, we are called to grow beyond spiritual infancy. 1 Peter 2:2 told us to desire the sincere milk of the Word so we may grow. However, we cannot stay on milk forever.
Hebrews 5:14 states that strong meat belongs to those who are mature, those who, through practice, have trained their senses to discern between good and evil.
The more capacity we build, the more responsibilities God can entrust to us. And the more responsibilities we carry, the greater the supply of power we receive (Luke 12:48).
Building spiritual capacity requires intentionality. It’s means stretching beyond our comfort zones and making room for more of God in our lives. Therefore, we must engage consistently with God’s Word, prayer, fasting, and obedience to divine instructions.
I urge us to increase our spiritual capacity today, positioning ourselves for greater assignments, deeper revelations, and a life of impact in God’s kingdom.
This morning, I want to write to those experiencing one form of delay or the other, especially in marriage.
I’m sure you know the feeling. When it seems as though all your friends are married and doing fine but you are still single, or you are married and are trusting God for the fruit of the womb.
You’ve sent out numerous applications, yet you keep receiving rejection emails.
You’ve prayed, fasted, and done everything you think you should do, but the status quo remains the same. All you are asking for is just one miracle.
Let me announce to you that you are not alone. The children of Israel faced a similar situation years ago.
Ex 32:1 And when the people saw that Moses delayed to come down out of the mount, the people gathered themselves together unto Aaron, and said unto him, Up, make us gods, which shall go before us; for as for this Moses, the man that brought us up out of the land of Egypt, we wot not what is become of him.
When Moses delayed, the Israelites sought another option. It was as though God had been silent all along until they made the golden calf. It was immediately after the five foolish virgins left that the bridegroom appeared.
What is my message this morning? Hold on just a bit more. Your Miracle is closer than you think.
Don’t be a second fiddle out of frustration. God’s plan for you is that you be the head, above always and never beneath.
Trust God completely and you will smile at last, amen.
These tips are applicable not only in the context of relationships and marriage but also in business, careers, and everyday life.
1. Pray First, Not Last
Many people decide who they want and then ask God for God’s blessings. They get emotionally attached first, then pray later, hoping for a divine confirmation that matches their feelings.
When your heart is deeply invested, it’s hard to hear God clearly. Instead of seeking God’s will, you start convincing yourself that what you want is what He wants. At that point, it’s easy to mistake His permissive will (what He allows because of your insistence) for His perfect will (what He truly desires for you).
That’s why discernment begins before emotions get involved. Instead of saying, “God, I really like this person; please make it work,” the prayer should be, “Lord, is this your best for me? Show me what I can’t see.”
God is not silent; He will give you an answer, but God won’t force His will on you. If you truly want His best, seek Him first, not after your heart is already entangled. A relationship led by emotions alone may feel right at the moment, but only God’s perfect will brings lasting peace and purpose.
2. Don’t Ignore Red Flags
Love isn’t meant to blind you. If you notice things like dishonesty, emotional instability, lack of accountability, or controlling behavior, don’t overlook them. What seems small now will only grow bigger in marriage. God’s best will never require you to ignore important issues just to “make it work.”
“The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it.” (Proverbs 22:3)
3. Listen to Wise Counsel
Sometimes, the people around us can see things we’re too emotionally invested to notice. If your trusted, godly friends, mentors, or family members have serious concerns about your relationship, don’t dismiss them. God often uses wise counsel to confirm His direction.
“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14)
4. Give It Time
If something is truly from God, time will reveal it. You don’t have to force, chase, or manipulate anything. Patience allows you to observe a person’s true character and consistency before making a lifelong commitment. If it’s right, time will only make it clearer.
“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.” (Psalm 37:7)
One of the hardest things is waiting when you feel ready for love. But remember, God’s best is worth the wait. Instead of settling for what’s available, trust that He knows what you need and when you need it. A rushed decision may bring short-term happiness, but God’s best brings long-term fulfillment.
How do you know who is truly right for you? With so many voices from family, friends, culture, and even your own emotions, it can be hard to tell the difference between a good option and God’s best. The truth is, not every good person is God’s person for you.
Someone can check all the boxes on paper, but they still may not be the right fit for your purpose. That’s why discernment is so important. It’s not just about what you want, it’s about seeking God’s wisdom and letting Him guide your heart.
What a Relationship from God looks like:
1. It Aligns with God’s Word
God will never bring someone into your life who pulls you away from Him. If a relationship is leading you to compromise your faith, walk in disobedience, or put someone else before God, then it’s not His best. A godly relationship should strengthen your faith, not weaken it.
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
2. It Brings Peace, Not Confusion
You may not have all the answers when something is from God, but you will have peace. This doesn’t mean the relationship will be perfect, but it won’t leave you in constant anxiety or emotional chaos.
“For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” (1 Corinthians 14:33)
3. It’s Rooted in Purpose, Not Just Feelings
Being attracted to your partner is great, but that isn’t enough to sustain a godly relationship. God’s best for you is someone who aligns with your purpose and encourages your growth. A person can be kind, loving, and even a Christian, but if they don’t align with what God has called you to do, they may not be the one.
“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3)
