Yesterday, we started this topic. If you missed the devotional, you can read it HERE
What are the three things every husband or wife wants?
1. Prayers
2. Words of affirmation
3. Jeru trip
Lets take these items one by one.
1. Prayers There is so much you can pray for about your spouse. The issue is that you won’t know until you decide to start praying for him/her.
You have to remain prayed up for your spouse. Let no day pass without you bringing them before the throne of Grace and Mercy. Not just a general prayer but specific prayers.
You can have a prayer journal where you follow up on your prayers intelligently. You won’t know how much you are short circuiting God’s favor, mercy, goodness etc until you start praying for each other.
2. Words of affirmation There is no one that doesn’t appreciate some good words. We thrive on words and so some good, encouraging words would help us when we are overwhelmed by life.
Learn to speak into the life of your spouse. Declare Gods words over him/her. Take authority over the devil and any depressive spirit around them.
Encourage your spouse, celebrate him/her when they have done something good, praise and eulogize them. This will encourage them to do better.
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3. Jeru trip This is essential because any marriage lacking in good and intimate Jeru trip has been reduced to a club or association. Intimacy in marriage is achieved when both can be naked and not ashamed, where you can lay bare everything.
Jeru trip in marriage keep couples healthy spirit, soul and body. It releases tension and renews energy and creativity to move on.
Remember, your spouse needs you.
God bless our marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I pray for my spouse and encourage him/her with my words.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me sow good seeds into my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:31. (KJV) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make a decision to do these 3 things
Oh my God, everything is set! The hips, the lips, and the tips! The right statistics are all there! And above all, she is spiritual! I have listened to her tongues, it is the tongues of an angel!
Well, the reality is that you cannot determine a person’s spirituality by how she speaks in tongues.
That was how a particular brother broke his relationship because all the “tongues” of the sister is “sanda, sanda, sanda, sanda…. the brother reasoned, when will she buy shoe?
So, he ended up marrying this other sister whose tongue is full of rich vowels and the tongues sound like a real language.
What he doesn’t know is that you cannot decode anything with physical ears. It is a mystery unto God, not for a brother to use as a measure of spirituality.
So, after marrying this sister whose tongues is all packaged, he found out that she was very lazy. She couldn’t cook any good food successfully. So, who is spiritual?
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Her tongues are all packaged but she cannot cook or change pampers! She is not spiritual.
What the brother failed to realized is that there are sisters, sistos, sis and babes!
She is speaking in tongues while her mum is preparing food she would eat daily and setting table for her! She is not spiritual because she is not honoring her parents.
So, basically, beyond the hips, lips, and tips, there is more to it. Look deeper, beauty can be deceptive.
Thank God for hot legs, the heart nko? The heart should be hot as well!
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Pro 31:30 (KJV)
The only way beauty would not be vain is if it is sitting on a heart that is after God, with a character that speaks of the kingdom lifestyle.
One of the contradictions of our generation is that a beautiful face can conveniently sit on an empty head.
Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful face on an empty head.
Pro 11:22 (MSG)
In the Message Translation of Pro 31:30
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD.
Pro 31:30 (MSG)
She has to fear the Lord! A lady who does not fear the Lord will bring hell rather than help!
A lady who cannot say NO to iniquity, who spreads her legs at the sight of mammon, who compromises and forsakes the guide of her youth is not worth it.
May God guide you as you decide in the area.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will marry rightly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to the right person for me.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 30:21 [KJV] And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.
Every once in a while, every husband and wife needs these three things. It basically takes care of most of the needs we have.
My husband is very busy and I’m sometimes amazed at how he joggles many things together. The mere fact that he never went to any computer school nor had any formal training and he knows so much keeps me amazed.
He designs the KHC website and other sites and manages all our outfit online including our podcasts. Sometimes, he has to research all by himself for days and sometimes burn the night candle to get things done.
He also has a church to take care of, bills to pay and a family to look after. He also has stay at the cutting edge of ministry which involves a lot of prayers and studying God’s word.
As his wife, I have to provide the most conducive environment for him to function at an ultimate level, avoid strife and be very understanding.
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I most confess here, I do fall short of my responsibilities at times, but thank God for His Spirit and Grace that always helps me.
My husband has to teach me and tell me how important my support is to him.
I also feel we are meant to create the support system our spouses need. Husbands to wives and wives to husbands, we all need these support systems if not, the purpose of marriage is defeated.
Tomorrow, I would share just three of these support we can give each other at any given time.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I pray for my spouse and encourage him/her with my words.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to sow good seeds into my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ephesians 5:31. (KJV) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Register for KHC couples camp meeting
5. Getting married because a pastor or parent said so
Yes, pastors and parents can advise and give a go-ahead. But you also have to be convinced by yourself. Your parent or pastor will not live in the marriage with you. Marry because there is peace, purpose, attraction, and compatibility. Hear God for yourself.
6. Getting married to someone you cannot submit to
Wives are called to ultimately submit to their own husbands. However, submission in marriage is also mutual. Never marry someone you are not ready or willing to submit to.
7. Getting married when you are not ready to love as Christ loves the church
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Christ is the perfect example of love; the God kind of love that is without selfish motive. If you cannot love sacrificially, don’t marry that person.
8. Getting married just because you are from the same tribe or have things in common
You are not marrying because of your tribe or home town. You are marrying that person because you want to fulfill purpose and destiny together.
9. Getting married because people advised or counsel you to do so
People’s advice and counsel can very well be wrong and misleading. Only God leads well and right. God will not ask the people, He will ask you. Be answerable for your own destiny. Don’t marry solely out of people’s advice.
10. Getting married because of the present alone
Don’t marry a person because of his/her present situation alone. Have deep consideration for his/her future too. Is he rich now but on his way to being poor because he lacks the power to sustain and multiply wealth? That is one of the pertinent questions to ask.
Have a great day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will marry rightly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to the right person for me.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 30:21 [KJV] And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.
I was thinking about why they are called magic words. Are they really magical in the use of them or they are merely nursery rhymes, we learnt when growing up?
I believe these words are truly magical. Just as the Bible says that soft answers turn away wrath
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Pro 15:1
In marriage, words are so important because in marriage what we do basically is talk. We express our feeling, our emotions, our thoughts, our insecurities, and all these could either be positive or negative.
Communication is however not complete until what we are saying is understood by the other party. Ninety percent of the quarrels in marriage can and would be avoided if we follow the Bible injunction of using soft answers.
Couples who have mastered the art of speaking in certain ways or using certain phrases in their marriage have been more successful in avoiding strife.
It really works, when my husband and I started saying to ourselves, ‘I cannot fight you, we are one and we are joined together. It helped us better resolve whatever was bothering us.
As insignificant as these words seem, their effects on the hearer work wonders. Remember, God will not come down to help us speak to our spouse. We have to learn the art of being pleasant, speaking calmly, and avoiding harsh words.
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Of course, we are not restricted to just these five words:
1. I am sorry
2. Thank you
3. Please
4. Excuse me
5. Pardon me
We can adapt these words in our different situations. Let learn to stop, calm down before we speak. Don’t let us be rash in our speaking and with our tongue. Let us learn better ways to communicate better.
We can say the same things in several different ways. Let’s also watch our tone and our body language. Respect is important to guys and any form of disrespect, they frown at it immediately.
Dear husband, your wife is an emotional being and they respond to words.
The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.
Psa 55:21
If your words are kind and soft, you will get a better reaction from her. You cannot get the best from your wife if you keep shouting at her and throwing commands at her as though she is your servant.
Make your marriage better by speaking to yourselves more kindly.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I speak with my spouse kindly and respectfully
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive help to bridle my tongue
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Register for KHC Couples’ camp meeting.
