Marriage, like any living thing, must be kept alive by taking certain actions on a regular basis. It has to be regular because consistency is necessary if we will make a success of our marriage. We have to learn to pay attention to it. Whatever we pay attention to grows and increases.
We see and hear of successful couples who have been happily married for 30years or more doing the same things over and over again.
It is not the big things we do that makes our marriage great but it is the little things we have learnt to do on a consistent basis that makes our marriage work and become better and more intimate.
Here are 3 simple things we can do as a matter of routine.
1. Play
Couples should learn to play together. Marriage grows stale and monotonous if we don’t take time to play. We could as well be a house or flatmate. One out of the two spouses will be more playful. Please be responsive whenever your playful spouse makes advances, even when you don’t feel like. There is nothing as frustrating as been giving a cold treatment each time a spouse what’s to play.
For the serious or not so playful mate, you can always learn to play. The benefits of playing are so much. You look and feel younger and it is a good therapy against worry.
2. Pray
It is true that whosoever you pray for and play with every day, you love more and get to be fond of more.
Let every couple take time daily to pray for each other. Even if you cannot pray together, maybe because of different schedules, you should pray for each other.
Each of us has twenty-four hours. Let us take some moment out every day to thank God for our spouses and then pray.
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If we have a scripture we pray on a daily basis for our spouses, the better. We can be sure that they are saved from the hands of the enemy daily.
Imagine you praying every day for your spouse for 20 years. How beautiful will it be? When you pray for your spouse, you are saying that you know your spouse is weak but divine intervention will help them.
3. Pay
Let being married to your spouse cost you something. Don’t let their birthdays pass you without you spending money to celebrate and appreciate them. Make every day special. Buy little stuff for your spouse. Pay their bills. Don’t be married and yet your purse is not. Let your purse know that you are married.
Being married means you can’t buy things only for yourself. You can’t pay for your food at the restaurant, it has to be for at least two.
As a husband, when you see something on any lady you admire, buy it for your wife also.
I believe if we can do these 3 things on a daily basis, our marriage will improve.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will work at making my marriage the best
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to pray for my spouse daily
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
Best Ways To Fall In Love Again As Couples – Part 3. This is the conclusion of our discussion in the last three days.
8. Respect each other’s space
You have to respect each other’s space. Let your spouse be. Sometimes back, my husband was quite busy putting our services online and doing other ministry stuff to meet a particular schedule. Then he finished his work and all the tension seem to have disappeared, so he wanted to play.
It was however a wrong time for me to play. I was praying and studying. He did play for some time but he respected my time to study and pray. We respected each other’s space and were willing to understand and help each other grow.
9. Be each other’s friend
Being each other’s friend has to do with everything including being gist partners, cheerleader, number 1 fan, critic, prayer partner, jester, teaser, confidant, gossip, gist partner, teacher, mentor, leader, you just name it.
Just focus on each other. Do things that please each other. Love each other. Follow the guiding words of 1 Corinthians 13. Love each other genuinely.
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10. Be your unique self
Your uniqueness remains your best selling point that endears you to your spouse. Of cause, try to be an improvement of who you are but don’t lose your flavor. Your flavor is the taste your spouse can never get anywhere else.
Do things that your spouse can remember with only you. Avoid nagging, being unfriendly, cold, harsh, or abusive. Try also not to be lazy because it takes hard work to build a marriage.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I refuse to be a lazy spouse
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Pray for a closer bonding with your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out time to bond with your spouse
You were born in one day! Nobody is born in days or weeks. That is why it is birthdays that are celebrated and not birth week or birth month.
You started school in one day. You matriculated into a higher institution in one day. You will graduate in one day.
One day, you will propose. One day, you will give or get an answer.
The processes may take weeks and even months, even years but the crescendo, the actual happenstance is one day!
You will have your wedding in one day. It is called wedding day!
Heaven was created in one day. The earth was fashioned in one day.
The man was made in one day. Eve became a reality in one day.
Jesus was birthed in one day. He was crucified in one day. He rose up in one day. He ascended in one day.
Death comes once and takes one day! Life comes in one day when you received Jesus into your life.
I am here to tell you this morning, that all you have gone through, what has made you cry, what has messed you up, the past that seems to have dragged for years, the delay in marriage that seems would not end, all will be sorted out in one day!
Sometimes, the issues we face seem so gargantuan that we conclude it cannot be solved in one day! But in one day, God will turn things around for you.
Who hath heard such a thing? who hath seen such things? Shall the earth be made to bring forth in one day? or shall a nation be born at once? for as soon as Zion travailed, she brought forth her children. – Isaiah 66:8 (KJV)
But it happened in one day!
They have been in servitude and slavery for over four hundred years. Their slavery is not only acute but generational. Grandsons met their grandfathers as slaves and their own children met them there!
If such slavery and bondage has extended for over four centuries, certainly it would take years to dislodge and be free.
But not with God!
In one day, a nation was born. In one day, they left. In one day, they were made free. In one day, their emancipation came.
I want to announce to you this morning that the trans-generational issue is coming to an end in one day.
I say unto prophetically, as of the Lord, that affliction, that delay, that family issue that has been there is over today in Jesus name.
Weeping has endured for a night, now your joy has come!
You have been jobless for years, but your one day is here!
You have been trusting God for the right spouse for years, but today I announce to you, your marriage is born!
Now, how did the children of Israel leave? How did they cross the red sea? How did they transit from over 400 years of servitude into freedom in one day?
Here it is;
He turned the sea into dry land: they went through the flood on foot: there did we rejoice in him. – Psalms 66:6 (KJV)
It was with rejoicing! And that is what I dare you to do.
Keep rejoicing. Laugh at that situation. He that sits in heaven is laughing because your victory is sure.
He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: the Lord shall have them in derision. – Psalms 2:4 (KJV)
And you have to laugh too because you are seated with Him. Glory to God!
Refuse to be depressed. Rejoice at your victory because that one day of yours is here!
I announce to you in the name of the Lord, your one day is here!
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My one day is here! Glory to Go
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, turn things around in my favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 2:4(KJV) He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: the Lord shall have them in derision.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start singing and dancing now.
So yesterday, we looked at how to increase our love walk with each other as couples. I felt we addressed the spiritual aspect more and some people could be asking for something more practical and easy to relate to. At least, not everybody is a pastor.
More practical ways to show or increase in our love walk as couples.
6. Give undivided attention to your spouse
It is disheartening when as couples your spouse gives you little or no attention at all. You feel you don’t matter and your person is not relevant to your spouses’ life. You feel they can do without you and your input doesn’t count.
This is not a good feeling and must be avoided, if your marriage must work. Learn to give your spouse your undivided attention. The best way to do this, is by listening to what they have to say and looking at them eye ball to eye ball.
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7. Take time to recreate together.
My husband is a very busy man and I’m grateful to God for his multidimensional ability in painstakingly using his initiative at his work. It is translating to food on the table. Despite his busyness, he still finds time daily to play and make us laugh.
When you are with someone you love, you should make the atmosphere lively and environment conducive to laugh.
Play, joke, make jests, tell stories that touch the hearts (lol), play games together, etc. Just find something to do together.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I give undivided attention to my spouse
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Pray for a closer bonding with your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out time to bond wit your spouse
Happy New Month to all partners and members of KHC. This month, your dreams shall become a reality.
From the first to the third of March, we will be waiting on God in fasting and prayers. If you are in Ibadan, Nigeria, join us by 6 pm at Shouts of Grace Center, Joke Plaza, beside Trans Amusement park, Bodija-Ui road, Ibadan.
Now, to today’s devotional which is continued from yesterday.
3. Guard your mouth
At this stage also, you begin to verbalize your desire and intention to spend more time with him or her. You no longer hide your compliments. That which has been entrenched in your heart through your thoughts begins to find expression through your mouth because out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
You tell him/her how much you desire him. You both begin to enjoy talks that have to do with sex and how it is not so harmful to have an affair with someone other than your spouse. You both talk about the negatives of your spouses and find comfort in each other. You talk about the good, bad, and the ugly, you simply talk and talk. You talk about anything and everything.
At this stage, light pecks and kisses also begin.
4. Guard your body
Just as the body moves in the direction of our words, you set yourself in the mood for an adulterous affair. Your body begins to respond to your emotional words to each other. Words are that powerful. Actually, the scripture says words are spirits, and you know spirits don’t die!
You may begin with a suggestive then seductive body language and movement. You begin to give expression to what has always been in your heart, a kiss there, a tight hug, holding hands, unguarded touches at sexually stimulating parts of the body, eye contact, etc.
At this stage, jeru trap is just a step away. The day you are alone together (out of reach of other people) then your bodies come together in a sexual affair.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
