We have been looking at couple types and we looked at vocal husband and quiet wife. We started looking at quiet husband vocal wife yesterday and we will delve into Part 2 today.
The quiet husband, though inexpressive is like a pillar of strength for the family. He is the definition of strength, without noise. He has this quiet noiseless faith that can get the job done without much noise.
However, his weaknesses also come to the fore because he can be withdrawn, and secretive and can make decisions without informing his spouse.
The quiet husband will often struggle with the need for validation because his quiet nature presents the picture of a weak husband in the light of societal expectations. He has to learn to appreciate his uniqueness while also working on his extreme reservation.
The immediate challenge is that he is married to a wife who is vocal and who enjoys talking chatting, babbling, and everything in between.
His quietude will be seen by his wife as a deliberate neglect of her needs. She is emotional, so she can hardly understand why she can talk and her husband won’t talk.
It becomes even more intense if the husband can get chatty with his friends but won’t talk chattily with his wife.
The husband must learn to talk because his wife will never understand his reservations, The vocal wife must learn to talk less because her husband won’t understand why she can’t keep her mouth shut.
Incidentally, if the husband begins to talk a lot and the wife shuts up too much, we will have even more crises. So, what is needed is actually for them to be balanced in their relationships with one another.
They must love and accept one another’s personalities and then begin to work together to improve their communication. Marriage is a place of sacrifice! So they both need to sacrifice “This-is-me” syndrome and seek to please the other person!
The goal is peace and tranquility without strife in the home and guess what,? It is very possible!
Hello, people of God. We started looking at different couple types and we have seen vocal husband and quiet wife. Today we will quickly look at the quiet husband and the vocal wife. When we have this combination, there are some peculiarities to be expected.
The quiet husband usually has a phlegmatic temperament and because opposite attracts like I always say, he is likely to attract somebody opposite his temperament, maybe a choleric or a Sanguine. So what do we have here?
At any provocation, because the wife is the vocal one she goes into a lot of babbling and rattling which of course the husband doesn’t like.
The vocal wife talks when she’s happy and when she’s unhappy, she talks when she’s friendly and she also talks when she is angry. She draws her fulfillment from talking.
We see a lot of frustration for her because the husband is not the talking type. So most of the time, she has nobody to talk to which makes her unfulfilled.
In this case, we usually see a situation where she becomes a gossip because her husband doesn’t enjoy talking.
The husband has to learn to move away from his quietude and learn to talk to his wife so that there can be some fulfillment for the vocal wife. Also, the wife has to bridle her mouth so that she doesn’t get on his nerves all the time. Of course, we also know that respect is a major issue for a man, and when a wife talks a lot, especially angrily, that comes as disrespect to the man.
The man also has to be careful not to mute his wife completely otherwise there won’t be peace in that particular home. So a lot of balance and maturity are needed in that particular family.
The Vocal husband is the life of the party in the family. If he dares keep quiet, the whole house shuts down. When the vocal husband goes quiet, something is really wrong that needs urgent attention. You see, his default mode is to keep talking.
The Quiet wife is the definition of peace, tranquility, and serenity in the house. If she ever starts talking in anger, there is a real problem.
In order for there to be balance in the family and for the children not to be tilted out of balance in one direction, the couple has to work on their marriage and be on the same page.
Our weaknesses are always strengths turned inward, so what this means is that a weakness is actually within the strength and it has to be managed well so that strength will win.
For example, a husband who talks a lot brings fun to the house, but will equally use strong words at the slightest provocation.
The wife who is on the quiet side seems very peaceful but will continually aggravate the husband with her shell-like withdrawal, her easy tendencies for depression and despondency, her unresponsiveness to her husband’s vibes, and so on and so forth!
The vocal husband must learn to shut up when angry and the quiet wife must learn to express herself when angry.
Interestingly, the vocal husband can easily forgive when he vents, while the quiet wife can be vindictive and unforgiving in her quietude. Note that venting with negative words and abuse is not always the best way to go.
The balance is that they must work together and understand one another while improving their communication skills.
If you are like the couple above and you seem to have done everything possible with no headway, you might want to reach me via WhatsApp for some deep therapeutic steps both of you can take! The issue must be resolved!
We will be looking at more couple combinations in the coming days!
Wow, this looks like Pastor Sophia and I. Interestingly, I used to be quiet growing up. I really don’t know what happened. Any idea?
In the next few days, we are going to be looking at this series on different types of couples.
We are starting with The Vocal Husband and The Quiet Wife.
I have said it over and over again, opposites will always attract. And then after the wedding, as you begin to live together, the very opposites that attracted you will now begin to repel you.
And that is when the job really begins. I am usually amused at singles who say they know each other very well. It’s amusing. I have been married for twenty-four years and I can’t say I know my wife. You may as well go and ask couples who have been married for like forty years, they will tell you the same. This doesn’t mean your spouse is mysterious, it simply means there are different aspects that unfold every day. Several treasures are buried in your spouse that only find expression as time goes on.
Back to our topic, the vocal husband uses conversation as a personal therapy, he enjoys it and is emotionally fulfilled just by talking. The downside is that he also wants to talk when he is angry, sometimes using heavy words that can cause emotional damage to his wife. When he is angry, he vents using words in other to feel okay.
On the flip side, his wife who is on the receiving side, is likely not to enjoy such words when her husband is angry. Because she is a quiet wife, she is sensitive to words. Her therapeutic method is to be quiet and she can be fulfilled not talking.
The husband hates this because he is talking and there are no commensurate responses. When the wife is angry, she easily withdraws into her cocoon, thereby frustrating her husband the more. The drama gets more intense!
In Proverbs 20:6 (KJV), the question echoes through time, resonating with those navigating the complex landscape of relationships: “Most men will proclaim everyone his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?”
The Illusion of Proclamation.
Most men will ‘toast’ you and promise you heaven and earth, but a faithful man who can find? This proclamation of virtue often masks the true essence of fidelity. As we explore this timeless challenge, it’s essential to dissect the layers beneath these surface affirmations.
Decoding ‘Faithful’: Trusty or Trustworthiness. The term ‘faithful’ finds its roots in the Greek word ’emun,’ denoting trustworthiness. Essentially, the question emerges: amidst good toasters, who can be trusted?
The Dilemma Explored.
David, in Psalm 12:1 (KJV), adds another layer to the complexity: “Help, LORD; for the godly man ceaseth; for the faithful fail from among the children of men.”
A Quest for Good Husbands
Are there good husbands in this age? Will one ever find a man that will love God and love his wife as well? The quest for a partner embodying both godliness and spousal devotion raises its head.
Navigating Temptations.
Are there still men who will not compromise and cheat on their wives? The perennial challenge of fidelity in the face of tempting situations emerges. Can one find a man who remains faithful despite the availability of temptations?
Elijah’s Revelation.
Well, there are still faithful men! Elijah’s encounter with God reveals that amidst perceived scarcity, a multitude remains steadfast, refusing to bow to societal pressures. Trust God to lead you and don’t trust your brain and calculations alone!
Shifting Perspectives.
The danger lies in concluding that “all men are evil.” Such a mindset perpetuates a cycle, attracting the very negativity one fears.
Trusting in Divine Guidance.
There are still faithful men, and there is a man that God has for you! Trusting in divine guidance becomes pivotal. When decisions align with God’s plan, the journey to finding a faithful companion becomes clearer.
The Pitfall of Self-Will.
But if you decide to do it your own way, try to buy your way into a man’s heart by offering your body, it usually wouldn’t work out because that is not God’s order. May God grant you more wisdom.
