Take a cue from Adam, it was when Adam slept that God was able to perfect the presentation of his wife. You have been too noisy and too mobile, go and sit down somewhere and let God do His work! Think about it, upon all your sweet mouth and relationship skills, where is the loved one?
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; (Genesis 2:21 KJV)
Learn from Adam, and go to sleep.
The responsibility of God is to cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; the responsibility of Adam is to sleep. Adam could say, “No way, I am not sleeping!” But the scripture says he slept!
When he slept, God went to work.
No wonder the scriptures say:
Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. (Psalms 46:10 KJV)
Yes, be still. Stop sampling around! How can one brother propose to seven sisters in the same church? Who is leading you? Each time, you keep saying, “God said..” Are you sure God said?
Be still, then you will see God in your relationship or marriage. Ladies, stop being suggestive and stop spending your money to buy things for him. Let God help you by calming down! How I love the Message Translation:
“Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.” (Psalms 46:10 Message)
Yes, step out of the traffic. Focus on God and you will surely see His salvation in your relationship and marriage!
To married men, you are not only to sleep, you are to die! The Scripture admonishes that you are to love your wife as Christ loves the church. How did Christ love the church? He died for her. In the same way, loving your wife appropriately involves dying to your preferences sometimes, dying to your desires sometimes, and prioritizing her needs! May God give husbands understanding!
Adam named all the animals, from cattle to the fowl of the air and every beast of the field. He became a nomenclature expert.
To succeed in relationship management, you must learn how to give names appropriately to everybody around you.
And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him (Genesis 2:20 KJV)
Your boss is your superior; he is not your lover. Things should not be turned upside down. Especially if he is married. Both singles and couples should know this to avoid stories that touch the heart!
Your lecturer is meant to teach you academics, and not take you to bed for practicals.
Dear Youth Corper, you are meant to teach that young girl Chemistry, not take advantage of her naivety and take her to bed. If you do that, Chemistry will soon become Physics and the law of gravity will take its course. You go down when you trifle with such things!
He is your colleague, not one to discuss your marital challenges lest there be an emotional connection. As couples, you don’t discuss your marital issue with another married fellow of the opposite sex. That will be counterproductive!
Let the cattle remain as cattle and let the fowls remain as fowls.
The scripture above says Adam named every cattle, but there was not found a help met for him.
For Singles, the implication is that not everybody can become your spouse. You cannot be falling in love with everybody that comes your way and keep saying you can’t help it.
There are friends, acquaintances, classmates, and colleagues, yet none qualify as a spouse until the direction issue is settled with God.
Don’t settle with cattle, or fowl, or beast of the field, wait for your Adam or Eve! What would have happened if Adam had looked at the female baboon and said this is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh…you can guess how you will look today!
Finally, for couples, it is important to establish boundaries especially emotionally. Desist from getting emotionally entangled with someone else aside from your spouse. May God help us all.
God’s word has solutions to all problems on earth and in heaven. Nothing else will be done or given to men that will improve upon God’s word. It is the complete counsel of God.
You can find a husband in God’s Word.
You can locate your wife in God’s Word. The scriptures teach us how to have a good home and family life.
The scriptures contain the wisdom required to rule in this world’s affairs. People seek love, husbands, wives, and relationships in all the wrong places.
Online dating sites are not the best place to go! Nightclubs and gatherings are not the locations to look for meaningful connections. Where shall I go, pastor? Go to God’s Word! Your response is waiting for you there.
When you are perplexed, God’s word is available to help you deal with it and fill your heart with light, which will dispel all confusion. When you are depressed, God’s word is available to destroy your depression and replace it with the joy of the Holy Spirit.
When you are hurt, wounded, and offended, God’s word is there to heal every wound and give you recompense of all deeds.
When you are filled with unforgiving tendencies, God’s word is there to give you the inner strength to do the godly and the needful.
This morning, what can Singles and Married Couples learn from Adam and Eve?
1. Man was made from the breath of God. And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7 KJV)
You will never be able to achieve much in your marital endeavors without God. God is the source of your life; He will also be the sustenance of your relationships and marriage.
You will never be able to achieve much without Him. There is no point wasting your time by ignoring Him or by kicking against His instructions. The earlier you flow with God and not with man, the better!
The earlier you learn to converse with Him on a personal basis and quit looking for some prophet, the better. Most of the so-called prophets are prophets for profit; they will collect your money and tell you lies.
You are the prophet of your own life, so develop a deliberate relationship with God and take charge of your destiny!
This morning, I want to talk to all sisters, ladies, women, and to all guys and men who have ladies in their lives as siblings, wives, or otherwise.
The lady always ends up as the one who is hurt, used, and disadvantaged
She ought to be wiser!
When a relationship breaks or doesn’t work out, who gets hurt the most?
The guy or the lady?
When there is a disappointment concerning the wedding, who cries endlessly for days?
The guy or the lady?
When there is pre-marital sex, who is afraid of getting pregnant?
The guy or the lady?
When pregnancy is anticipated, who starts drowning in pills like a fowl?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes for all kinds of tests in the hospital?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the pain of abortion in the event of that?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the psychological trauma of murdering a life the most?
The guy or the lady?
Who combines psychological trauma with emotional pain and then with physical discomfort?
The guy or the lady?
If there were complications in the abortion process, whose body was affected?
The guy or the lady?
If a complication arises and life is threatened, who loses her life?
The guy or the lady?
If the womb is affected, who won’t be able to conceive eventually?
The guy or the lady?
If the decision is to have the baby, whose tummy protrudes?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the seeming stigma of carrying an unwanted pregnancy?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through all the morning sickness?
The guy or the lady?
Whose body adjusts to the different trimesters with accompanying inconveniences?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through labour pain, at that moment when a lady goes through enough pain that would drown any man and make a grown-up man cry like a baby?
The guy or the lady?
Hours or days before childbirth, who goes through the cramping, the tightening, the pounding, the stabbing, the back pain, the waves, the pressure, the pushing, and the exhaustion?
The guy or the lady?
Who becomes a “single mother?”
The guy or the lady?
Who does the breast-feeding afterward?
The guy or the lady?
I can go on and on….but wait a moment..
Who ought to be wiser? The guy or the lady?
But really, who seems to be unwise? The guy or the lady?
Overcoming Wicked Spirits Operating Through Spouses
First of all, your spouse is not the wicked spirit or the devil or anything like that!
The reality, however, is that you and your spouse can yield to these wicked spirits unknowingly.
This can even happen between two singles who are engaged.
And this is what we are looking at this morning.
A classic example can be found with Job and his wife. Read Job 2:2-10
Let’s pick out one or two verses there.
Job 2:5 (ERV) I swear, if you attack his flesh and bones, he will curse you to your face!”
This is the devil screaming that Job will curse God if his health is touched.
Eventually, God permitted the devil to do all he wanted to do and Job lost everything, all properties but he refused to back out on God.
However, his wife yielded to the wicked spirit and verbalized what the devil suggested to her ears to Job, which of course is designed to crush him further.
Job 2:9 (ERV) His wife said to him, “Are you still holding on to your faith? Why don’t you just curse God and die!”
Was it a coincidence for Job’s wife to say exactly what Satan said earlier? I doubt.
As couples, we must be careful to not yield to the wrong voices from wicked spirits.
For Singles, today is Valentine’s, and a lot of wicked suggestions will come from supposed lovers! Be cautious. You aren’t married, but somebody is telling you, “If you love me, prove it with sex!” We will eventually get married, let’s do it, what difference does it make?
The question is are those voices and suggestions coming from the Holy Spirit?
They are coming from wicked spirits who want to ruin your testimony and pitch you against your maker!
Be sensitive! Pray for one another. Pray for yourself and your spouse that you will not yield to the wrong voices!
