So yesterday, we looked at how to increase our love walk with each other as couples. I felt we addressed the spiritual aspect more and some people could be asking for something more practical and easy to relate to. At least, not everybody is a pastor.
More practical ways to show or increase in our love walk as couples.
6. Give undivided attention to your spouse
It is disheartening when as couples your spouse gives you little or no attention at all. You feel you don’t matter and your person is not relevant to your spouses’ life. You feel they can do without you and your input doesn’t count.
This is not a good feeling and must be avoided, if your marriage must work. Learn to give your spouse your undivided attention. The best way to do this, is by listening to what they have to say and looking at them eye ball to eye ball.
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7. Take time to recreate together.
My husband is a very busy man and I’m grateful to God for his multidimensional ability in painstakingly using his initiative at his work. It is translating to food on the table. Despite his busyness, he still finds time daily to play and make us laugh.
When you are with someone you love, you should make the atmosphere lively and environment conducive to laugh.
Play, joke, make jests, tell stories that touch the hearts (lol), play games together, etc. Just find something to do together.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I give undivided attention to my spouse
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Pray for a closer bonding with your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out time to bond wit your spouse
The spiritual husband will put the things of God first place. He takes charge of the family in the place of spiritual oversight and knows how to hear from God.
A man that doesn’t know how to hear God can make the whole family suffer because of wrong decisions.
Every day, a man is making decisions, but the consequences of his decisions go beyond him, they affect the whole family.
However, ladies don’t just want a spiritual husband. They also want a romantic husband.
4. The Romantic Husband
If he is spiritual but unromantic, he will be a bore!
Ladies would be like “Is it only Bible reading and speaking in tongues all the time? Going to the movies once in a while nko?
Ladies want a man that knows his onions when it comes to being romantic.
Every wife wants a man that can read the Bible but can also read their moods. They want a man who can interpret tongues and can also interpret non-verbal cues. They want a man who is sensitive to the Holy Spirit and is also sensitive to their needs!
Abi ladies, is that not what you want?
5. The Humorous Husband
Every lady loves her husband who can make her laugh! What is the point of frowning all over the house throughout the day?
Pastor, is it when there is no money that we would be laughing? Well, read your Bible very well.
At destruction and famine thou shalt laugh… – Job 5:22 (KJV)
Laugh about it and stop looking like Lucozade!
Make your wife laugh!
Those times when your wife is not really happy for whatever reasons, sometimes they themselves don’t even know why you should know what chords to strike that will tickle her.
If all you do is make that lady frown and sad, your relationship or marriage is at risk the day one colleague starts making your wife laugh!
You must know her password. You must learn her love language and learn how to deploy the words strategically to get her out of any pit of depression!
Laughter is like medicine! So, husbands, loosen up.
Guys in courtship, all this frowning all over the place because you are trusting God for money to get a house and settle down is not the way out. Get into God’s word, eat them and let it become a joy and rejoicing of your heart!
As you stay joyful, God will give you ideas that will bring more income, will favour you, and cause an in-flow of funds that will position you to experience God’s supernatural supply system!
I pray that God will give you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will go after wisdom. Knowledge is pleasant to my soul. I enjoy reading God’s word. Discretion will preserve me. Understanding will keep me.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, flood my heart with the light of your word.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And here’s why: GOD gives out Wisdom free, is plainspoken in Knowledge and Understanding. (Pro 2:6 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start searching for knowledge of God’s word now.
Best Ways To Fall In Love Again As Couples. I watched a video sent by a friend. It was about a couple having a slight argument. In fairness, the husband was cool and handled the situation well. The wife on the other hand was almost losing it probably out of frustration.
What happened was that the wife was to use a blender and it wasn’t working fine. She asks the husband to come and have a feel of the frustration she goes through in cooking a single meal without his appreciation. He rather gives her a cold shoulder with a complaint that the salt is not enough, the food is too dry, too oily, etc.
The video was very hilarious and I had a good laugh with my husband.
We should always remember and not lose sight of the fact that whatever happens, during the good and the bad times, we are still believers. We do things the word way and have the word result.
A lot of things could be responsible for causing frustrations in couples.
1. Increase your time of study
We should boost our love walk with each other and much more, with God. Increase your time studying the word. Let the Word dwell in you richly not sparingly.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. Col 3:16
2. We should increase our time of prayer
Pray without ceasing. – 1Th 5:17
3. Meditate on God’s Word
This is different from reading or studying. This is muttering God’s word.
But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. – Psa 1:2-3
4. Sing in psalms and hymns and new song
Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
5. Walking in love and confessing the word
Love is very important. When we walk in love, we are actually the better for it. Our own heavens are opened and God works mightily in our lives.
And if I give all my goods to the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it is of no profit to me. Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride; Love’s ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil; It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true; Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things. – 1Co 13:3-7
It is my prayer that God keep us in His love in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to fall in love again and again.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away. – Song of Solomon 2:10 (KJV)
The Message Translation says:
My lover has arrived and he’s speaking to me! Get up, my dear friend, fair and beautiful lover—come to me! – Song of Solomon 2:10 (MSG)
The voice of your lover! There is always something about that voice!
If your lover is not speaking, something is wrong.
My lover has arrived and he’s speaking to me! So says the Message Translation.
You see, the proof of His arrival is His voice whose rich vocals fill the house.
If you want to really know the lover that has “arrived” with you, his or her voice will be busy. If your lover has arrived in his or her heart, if you are truly on the same page, his voice would not be muted.
The moment you have not heard the voice of the one you called your lover for weeks, he has not arrived! You are not on the same page!
If he or she is always busy, and the vocal cords are tied, and the voice is scarce, then something is wrong somewhere.
When married couples have been silent, rendered incommunicado by trivial quarrels and immaturity, that marriage is not in a good state. After silence comes assumptions and innuendos, and assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge.
Are you really in love? We will know by reason of when you spoke last. We will know if you are talking regularly. We will know if you are just doing surface talks and throwing banters with nothing deep or serious.
We will know if the love is one-sided and lop-sided with only one party doing the calling, the wooing, and the pursuing! We will know if he or she sees your voice as a rant, irritated at your calls, making you look like a nuisance.
That, my dear, is no love!
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not fall in love helplessly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the Grace to recognize the voice of your lover
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY My lover has arrived and he’s speaking to me! Get up, my dear friend, fair and beautiful lover—come to me! – Song of Solomon 2:10 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Are you truly in love? Think about it.
What A Mother Told Her Daughter. An ever-green story was told of a beautiful lady who got tired of her husband and sought the help of her mother to get rid of her spouse. She was however afraid the law of the land will hold her responsible.
I would like to bring back the lessons learned from the advice given by her mother.
Her mother answered:
Yes, my daughter, I can help you, but there is a little task attached.
The daughter asked ‘what task? I am willing and ready to do any task attached to getting rid of him.
Ok, said the mother.
1. You will have to make peace with him so that no one will not suspect when he is dead.
2. You will have to make yourself beautiful in order to look young and attractive to him.
3. You have to take good care of Him and be very nice and appreciative of him.
4. You have to be patient, loving, and less jealous, have more listening ears, be more respectful and obedient.
5. Spend your money for him and don’t get angry even when he doesn’t give you money for whatever.
6. Don’t raise your voice against him but encourage peace and love so that you will never be suspected when he must have died.
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Can you do all these? The mother asked?
Yes, I can, she replied.
She gave a powder to her daughter. Add it to his food daily. It will kill him slowly, she said.
After 30 days of adhering to all the tasks, she came back to her mother and said;
Mother, I have no intention of killing my husband again. As of now, I have grown to love him because he is completely changed. He is now a very sweet husband than I ever imagine.
What can I do to stop the poison from killing him? She asked in a sorrowful tone.
Do not worry my daughter. The powder is only turmeric powder. It is not meant to kill him.
In reality, you were the poison that was slowly killing your husband with tension and dispassion
When you start being nice, respectful, loving, and cherishing your husband, he begins to be nice, caring, and wonderful.
Every woman has a magic wand in her hands to change her marriage and her husband. Your husband will respond to your change.
Ask yourself, if you were in a secret reality show that is willing to offer you $10, 000,000 if you will follow the above task, will you commit to following the task?
If you can do this for riches, how much more for the invaluable, unquantifiable benefits of obeying God and honoring our husbands?
Think about this and may God grant you understanding.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I am a patient and loving spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the wisdom to know how to love my spouse.
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to practice
