Yesterday, we started looking at the subject of peace in singlehood. I wrote about 3 kinds of peace that exist. If you missed it, read it here.
Today, we will conclude by looking at how to walk in perfect peace.
1. Follow God’s ways. There is no lasting joy outside of God’s design for our lives. His principles are not meant to restrict us but to protect and guide us into wholeness. Whenever we choose to go against His word, it may feel freeing in the moment, but it ultimately leaves us restless and drained. True peace flows from obedience, because it keeps us aligned with the One who knows us best.
2. Receive His forgiveness. Many singles carry unnecessary guilt, believing their current season is a punishment for past mistakes. But God’s forgiveness wipes the slate clean. Once you have repented, He remembers your sins no more—so why should you keep rehearsing them in your mind? Refusing to let go only steals your peace. Accepting His forgiveness means embracing freedom, knowing your singleness is not a curse but an opportunity to grow closer to Him.
3. Stay close to His presence. Peace is strengthened in the presence of God. Through consistent worship, heartfelt praise, and prayer—even in tongues—you create a spiritual atmosphere that no scheme of the enemy can shake. God’s presence calms fears, lifts burdens, and fills you with assurance that you are not alone in this journey. The more you cultivate intimacy with Him, the more unshakable your peace becomes.
4. Trust His plan. Our human perspective is limited. We think we know what’s best, but only God sees the full picture. Often, what we think is good for us may not align with His greater purpose. That’s why trust is essential. Trusting God means surrendering your timeline, your desires, and even your anxieties to Him—believing that all things are working together for your good. His plan is always worth the wait.
5. Ask for His peace. Jesus is the Prince of Peace, and peace is one of His greatest gifts to us. But just like any gift, it must be received. Ask Him daily to fill your heart with His perfect peace—a peace that goes beyond understanding and keeps you steady no matter what life looks like on the outside. The more you ask, the more you’ll experience His peace covering every area of your life.
May God give you strength and fill your heart with peace as you wait.
This article is dedicated to those who are single and struggling with the waiting season.
As we move into the last quarter of the year, it’s a season of weddings almost every weekend, but you are not even engaged yet. You may be asking, “God when?” The waiting can be exhausting, and for some, even their patience feels worn out. But before you get overwhelmed, let me remind you of something essential: what you need most in this season is peace.
Now, peace is often misunderstood. It’s not about pretending everything is fine or avoiding challenges. It’s not passivity, indifference, or simply staying calm on the surface. True peace is much deeper.
There are 3 different types of peace I want to share with us this morning.
1. Emotional Peace This is the inner stability that remains even when circumstances look uncertain. It’s that quiet assurance inside that helps you hold steady when life feels unbalanced.
2. Relational Peace This kind of peace shows up in the way we interact with others. It prevents bitterness, jealousy, and lingering resentment, even toward those who may seem to be living the life we’re praying for.
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Romans 12:18 [ESV]
3. Spiritual Peace This is the most important of all. It’s the peace that comes from being reconciled with God through Christ. It’s knowing you’re no longer under condemnation but are secure in God’s love. Without this, you’ll always feel a void, no matter your relationship status.
So why is peace so important for singles? Because it’s part of our inheritance as children of God.
For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. Romans 14:17 [ESV]
Tomorrow, I will walk us through how to walk in peace, perfect peace that comes from God.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
Rev Dunamis and Sophia Okunowo will also be hosting us. Attendance is free, but registration is required. Kindly register HERE
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There is that space between “I’m working on myself” and “I think I’m ready to love someone,” but you’re also dealing with memories, soul ties, silent temptations, past mistakes, and the fear that you might not get it right.
I used to think I just needed to wait, pray, and stay busy. But healing and wholeness go beyond that. There are layers to it, things you won’t post about. Areas where it’s not about doing devotions or attending programs—it’s more about dealing with the stuff you’ve been ignoring:
That situationship you never fully healed from.
The attention you still crave from people who aren’t serious.
The guilt from compromising, even when you knew better.
That fake confidence you put on to act like this season isn’t hard sometimes.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” — Matthew 5:8
So yes, wholeness before romance. No pretense whatsoever. Rather, you are you, just growing to become the best version of what God has ordained you to be.
Areas of wholeness
Wholeness here means you’re no longer depending on people for validation. It means your heart has been checked, your boundaries are clear, and your peace isn’t easily shaken just because someone left or didn’t choose you. It’s learning how to guard your heart without hardening it, and that takes real growth, not just time.
Spiritually, it’s about more than reading your Bible or showing up to church. This is about whether your life is actually built around God, or if He’s just someone you run to when your plans don’t work out. If your connection with God rises and falls based on your emotions or your relationship status, something’s off. Being spiritually whole means your identity is rooted in what God says about you—not how lonely you feel, who left, or how long you’ve been waiting. You’re not searching for someone to complete you spiritually; you’re learning to walk with God daily, not just when it’s convenient or when life gets hard. That kind of stability matters, especially when emotions get involved.
Sexually, it’s not just about whether you’re sleeping with someone or not. You can be physically abstinent and still be struggling. Sexual wholeness has more to do with mindset, discipline, and how you respond to pressure, temptation, and loneliness. Are you having conversations you shouldn’t? Are you feeding thoughts and fantasies that slowly wear you down? Are you excusing small compromises because “it’s not that deep”? This is where honesty matters. Sexual purity isn’t just about rules—it’s about not giving yourself away in pieces because you’re tired of waiting. It’s about choosing discipline even when nobody’s clapping for it, because you know your body is not a bargaining chip—it’s sacred. And even if you’ve messed up before, sexual wholeness is still possible when you let God deal with the root, not just the symptoms.
Before bringing someone else into your life, there are certain areas you have to be honest about. Not because you have to be perfect, but because if you’re not whole in these parts of your life, you may end up carrying confusion, frustration, or even damage into the relationship.
Emotionally, it’s easy to think you’ve moved on, until something small exposes the fact that you haven’t. You may not be dating anyone, but your emotions are still tied to someone you stopped talking to months ago. Or you find yourself getting anxious, overly attached, or shutting down quickly because of unresolved issues from your past.
In conclusion
Wholeness isn’t about getting ready for someone—it’s about finally showing up for yourself. The emptiness you feel isn’t fixed by being chosen; it’s healed by letting God into the parts you’ve avoided. Love won’t save you. But God will. And that’s where real healing begins.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and do you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
Rev Dunamis and Sophia Okunowo will also be hosting us. Attendance is free, but registration is required. Kindly register HERE
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No one talks about how scary it is to fall out of love with someone you thought you’d love forever.
One minute, they’re your answered prayer; the next, you struggle to feel anything. You smile less and withdraw more. The connection that once lit up your world now feels like a flickering flame.
But before you make any rash decisions, pause. Love is a commitment, not an emotion. Feelings fade, but godly love doesn’t. The Bible says, “Love bears, believes, hopes, and endures all things. Love never fails…” (1 Corinthians 13:7–8). So the spark isn’t gone, maybe it’s just buried under disappointment, unmet expectations, or unspoken frustrations.
Falling out of love doesn’t always mean the relationship is over; sometimes, it’s time to rebuild.
Ask yourself:
Have we stopped communicating?
Have we stopped praying together?
Have we grown apart because we’ve stopped growing with God?
Many relationships drift because people stop being intentional. Love can’t thrive where neglect lives.
What if you’ve done all you can and the feeling is still gone? Then you need to be honest with yourself, with them, and with God. Staying in a relationship out of guilt, fear, or obligation is not God’s will. He wants you in a relationship that brings peace, not confusion. “God is not unjust; He will not forget your work and the love you have shown…” (Hebrews 6:10).
If you’re in this space where you’re no longer sure, don’t run, reflect. Also, don’t settle; seek clarity from the One who knows your heart even when you don’t. God is not afraid of your silence, confusion, or breaking point. He specializes in restoring what feels lost. However, He also gives you the grace to walk away when love is no longer aligned with His Will.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
Rev Dunamis and Sophia Okunowo will also be hosting us. Attendance is free, but registration is required. Kindly register HERE
Don’t miss it. Spread the word!
Forgiveness Is Not Amnesia
“Just forgive and forget” sounds great until you’ve been hurt by someone you love. However, it’s important to forgive.
But can we really “forget”? Or what does “forgive and forget” really mean?
Here’s the truth:
Forgiveness is not amnesia. It’s not pretending it didn’t happen. It’s choosing not to weaponise what happened. That’s what “forgive and forget” really means.
Many relationships—friendships, courtships, marriages—break down because one or both parties never learned how to forgive well.
Dear singles, you can’t afford to carry the bitterness of your ex into the world of your future spouse.
You can’t keep your heart locked up and expect intimacy to bloom. Yes, people have hurt you. Lied to you. Played with your heart. But if you don’t forgive well, their offence becomes your prison.
Married couples would have found out, by experience (lol), that forgiveness is not a one-time decision—it’s a daily discipline.
You can’t do life with someone closely and not bump into their weaknesses.
Some days, you’ll need to forgive the tone.
Other days, you’ll need to forgive the forgetfulness.
And sometimes, it’s something deeper.
So here’s what forgiving well looks like—whether in marriage, friendship, or anything in between:
1. You stop replaying the scene to justify your anger.
2. You choose healing over rehearsing.
3. You set boundaries, but not bitterness.
4. You learn to confront with humility, not hostility.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean they were right. It means you’re ready to heal.
It doesn’t always restore the relationship to what it was, but it restores your heart to peace.
You don’t forgive because they deserve it.
You forgive because you deserve freedom.
Relationships only thrive where forgiveness flows freely. Not because we’re perfect, but because we’re learning to love like Jesus.
