How To Fall In Love Again With Your Spouse. During the pandemic, it was recorded that in some places in China, there were more divorce cases than ever before.
Why was this? Husbands and wives were not used to being at home together. They were simply flat or roommates who just shared the house and essential commodities together.
The truth is that we may be used to our own space, being alone doing our own things, and being in control of our own time. It may first of all be awkward being home with the kids and your spouse, not just for a few hours but for weeks, so you have to learn to be very patient and determined to enjoy the time spent with your spouse.
When both spouses are at home with the kids, it is also a good time to bond well, so I am pointing out few ways to bond with your spouse and kids.
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1. Depending on what age your kids are, the younger ones will do well with playing around. Be creative and invent plays, do hide and seek, trust God for strength to roll on the carpet with them.
2. Cartoons are good. You can unwind with them watching and enjoying their world with them. Don’t let the cartoons be too much.
3. Do some intellectual talks and ask personal questions about their friends and special friends. Attend to their many questions.
4. Take time to teach your girls new dishes. For the boys, let them use their energy to help out in the house.
5. Play games with the whole family and it is the best time for drawing the quiet ones from their shell.
6. Be happy and content with what you have. Create fun out of what you have. Do a lot of teasing and rough plays. Never allow any member of the family to be moody
7. Be pleasant to your spouse and don’t do things that will spark up arguments.
8. Make sure you have sex as often as possible. This will keep the bond between you and your spouse. The tension will also reduce between the two of you.
9. Be very patient with your spouse as it may take some time for them to adjust to being with you. Pray for the Holy Spirit to help you and teach you to meet your spouse’s needs.
10. Give attention to your spiritual bonding. Take time to play together and read your bible and have bible discussions together.
11. Ensure finances don’t cause you to get frustrated. I know it’s difficult but please try. Trust in God together for open heavens. Do a lot of cuddling and please help each other do house chores.
I hope these few tips will go a long way to help you bond well with your family.
God bless you family
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a loving spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
Wives ought to respect their husbands as a service to the Lord. That is the order of God. To make something worthwhile of the marriage institution, we have to follow His order.
Only when we follow God’s order do we experience the fullness of God’s blessings.
Husbands are commanded to love their own wives. This commandment does not exclude any husband. You are to take that wife of yours and love her, obeying God.
Love means several things to several women. Husbands are to love their wives based on what the wives see as love. You have to learn and speak your wife’s love language.
For example, you don’t give your wife flowers for her birthday when she loves chocolates. You have to love your wife not based on what love means to you but on what love means to her.
Women have basic needs and it is part of the husband’s responsibility to see to it that he meets these basic needs.
However, we should note that our husbands will never to able to fill the void in our hearts meant to be filled by God.
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God is love and to effectively love your wife, you have to know God. The Bible says those who walk with the wise will be wise and the companion of fools shall be destroyed. So if we walk with God, we are guaranteed wisdom. It will simply rub off on us.
Every husband has a mandate in their life to love that woman. Love her with all your heart and let your love be genuine.
Understand her person and cherish her. You cannot love your wife and maltreat her. You cannot love her and belabor her with house chores without offering a helping hand.
Care for her and be sensitive to her needs and feelings. You also have to correct her because love does not seek your wife’s destruction. As a husband, it is your duty to also forgive her because love covers a multitude of sins.
In fact, 1 Cor 13, the love chapter, should be the manual for all husbands
May God pour the love of God into every husbands’ heart for their wives in a new way in Jesus name
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
Today is Valentine’s day, otherwise known as Lovers day.
The singles seem to celebrate this day more than couples because they are still very much in love. The butterflies are still flying in their bellies. Most couples have allowed the butterflies to die over the years.
This shouldn’t be. Every couple should still have love in their eyes, and they should still make each other’s hearts tingle. We have to learn to keep love alive.
Through the twists, bends, and turns of the married life, God wants to step in and help us live a fulfilling married life. God’s help comes to us by Him giving us instructions to follow.
Like the instructions given to wives we discussed yesterday, the married men have their own instructions to follow.
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I believe if both wives and husbands can be devoted to obeying these instructions, we will see the love of God manifest in our marriages.
In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.] -1Pe 3:7 (AMP)
The key things to note here are:
1. Married men should live considerately with their own wives.
2. Intelligent recognition of the marriage relation
3. Honoring the woman (wife)
4. Physically the weaker.
5. Realizing that you are joint heirs of the grace of life.
6. That your prayers be not hindered and cut off.
7. Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.
Let all men study these instructions meditatively.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
I know that this might not be a popular topic. Some of the women might feel not so pleased with the topic. The feminist will definitely not find this topic interesting as they seek to fight for equality between the husband and the wife.
No matter how much we justify or look at the issue of respect between husbands and wives, God’s order will still stand.
You don’t ask the purpose of a thing from that thing. You ask the purpose from the creator.
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God is the creator of the institution of marriage. There is a purpose behind the creation of it and there is how it will run properly. If the order of operation is not followed, the purpose can never to fully achieved.
God made man first and then woman as his help meet.
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. – Gen 2:18-19
The man was created the head and handed the authority of leadership. That is not to say that men are superior to women. There are always the two extremes and that is the devil trying to pervert the truth that God stands for.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Eph 5:23
Wives, place yourselves under your husbands’ authority as you have placed yourselves under the Lord’s authority. – Eph 5:22 (GW)
So in order for our marriage to fulfill Gods mandate, every wife MUST place herself under the husband’s authority by respecting him, deferring to him and honor him as a service to God.
Sarah, for example, called Abraham lord. She respected him and I believe that was why she could eventually fulfill purpose. She was chosen to be the mother of the promised child.
In the home setting, the order is God first, the husband and then the wife and the children. The wife must obey, respect, honor, defer to, cherish, care for and treat the husband as lord and king. The final authority should rest with the husband. He is to take decisions and the wife must not try to manipulate him in any way.
This is God’s standard.
May God help us to obey Him and reap the reward thereof.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
The Oxford dictionary of English words defines unity as the state of being united or joined as a whole. The state of forming a complete and harmonious whole, especially in an artistic context; A thing for a complete whole.
God is a God of unity. You can see the perfect unity in the Trinity; the three Godhead working together in perfect unity as one – God the father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit, all working together as one, having the same voice, speaking the same language. They are one whole. That is why we say the three in one God.
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God the father, son and the Holy Spirit are different entities with different and distinct assignment, yet they are so much in unity.
That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me. – Joh 17:21-23
God created husband and wife to be one
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one. – Gen 2:24
The original mandate in the heart of God concerning marriage is that they will be the example of the God head here on earth. They are to be one flesh even though they are different individuals with different ideologies, belief systems etc
May God help us that our oneness may be complete in Jesus name.
I will continue tomorrow.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
