More Ways to Tell You Are in Love is a continuation of yesterday’s devotional.
5. You Feel Inspired to Be Better
True love motivates personal growth. When you care deeply for someone, you’re inspired to become the best version of yourself—not out of obligation, but because you genuinely want to honor them.
Philippians 2:3-4 urges us to value others above ourselves, considering their interests as more important than our own. Love fuels transformation, drawing you closer to God’s purpose for your life.
6. You Miss Them When They’re Gone
Even short periods apart feel longer than usual. Missing someone isn’t just about physical presence—it’s missing the sense of wholeness and connection they bring into your life.
Psalm 27:4 speaks of desiring God’s presence continually; similarly, love makes you long for the warmth and fulfillment only they seem to provide.
7. You Pray for Them Regularly
If you find yourself lifting them up in prayer—asking God to bless, protect, and guide them—it’s a clear sign that love has taken hold. Interceding on their behalf demonstrates a depth of care that goes beyond surface-level affection.
James 5:16 reminds us that “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
Loving someone means entrusting them to God’s hands.
Final Thought:
Finding out you are in love is both exhilarating and humbling—a divine reminder of how God designed us for connection, intimacy, and partnership. These tell-tale signs reveal the gradual blossoming of affection, rooted in mutual respect, vulnerability, and shared purpose.
However, it’s essential to ensure that love aligns with biblical principles. Love should reflect Christ’s sacrificial example, honoring God’s design for relationships. As you navigate this journey, pray for discernment and wisdom. Ask yourself: Does this love point me closer to God? Is it built on trust, purity, and commitment?
Remember, love isn’t just a fleeting emotion—it’s a choice to cherish, serve, and grow together under God’s guidance. Whether you’re falling in love now or preparing for it in the future, let your heart remain anchored in His truth. For “love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God” (1 John 4:7).
Loving deeply is one of the most beautiful expressions of our humanity, reflecting God’s unconditional love for us. However, loving others—whether in friendships, family relationships, romantic partnerships, or even as singles navigating life—can sometimes feel messy. We want to give our best, but often stumble along the way. Thankfully, Scripture provides guidance on how to love well without compromising ourselves or harming others. Here are five ways to love deeply while staying grounded in wisdom.
1. Love With Boundaries
Healthy love requires boundaries. Ephesians 4:26 says, “In your anger do not sin.” This reminds us that emotions like frustration and disappointment are natural, but they must be handled with care. Setting clear, respectful limits protects both you and the person you’re loving. For example, saying “no” when someone asks too much of you isn’t unloving—it’s wise. Boundaries ensure that love remains sustainable and doesn’t lead to resentment or burnout.
2. Speak Truth in Love
Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to “speak the truth in love.” Deep love doesn’t mean avoiding hard conversations; it means addressing issues with kindness and grace. Whether pointing out a hurtful behavior or offering constructive feedback, approach the situation prayerfully. Ask yourself: Am I speaking from a place of love or frustration? Will my words build up or tear down? Honest communication strengthens trust and fosters a deeper connection.
3. Practice Patience
Love takes time, and patience is its foundation. 1 Corinthians 13:4 declares, “Love is patient, love is kind.” When we rush relationships or expect perfection, we risk damaging them. Instead, allow space for growth—for yourself and others. Be patient with misunderstandings, mistakes, and differences. Remember, God’s love for us is long-suffering, and He calls us to extend that same grace to those around us.
4. Serve Selflessly
Jesus modeled selfless love by washing His disciples’ feet (John 13:1-17). Loving deeply means putting others’ needs above your own at times—not out of obligation, but out of genuine care. Acts of service don’t have to be grand gestures; small, thoughtful actions speak volumes. Cook a meal, listen attentively, or offer help without being asked. Serving humbly demonstrates Christlike love.
5. Keep Your Identity in Christ
One of the biggest pitfalls in loving deeply is losing sight of who you are in Christ. Galatians 2:20 reminds us, “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.” When your identity is rooted in Him, you won’t seek validation or fulfillment solely through another person. You’ll love freely, knowing your worth comes from God alone. This prevents codependency and allows love to flow naturally.
Loving deeply doesn’t mean perfection—it means pursuing Christ-centered love despite imperfections. By setting boundaries, speaking truth, practicing patience, serving selflessly, and keeping your identity in Christ, you can love boldly and wisely. Let these principles guide you as you reflect God’s heart to the world.
The Song of Songs, a book of love and intimacy, opens with such profound lines that I would love to present to you today.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: For thy LOVE IS BETTER THAN WINE.” Song of Solomon 1:2 KJV
This verse captures a strong intimacy between the bride and her groom. There was an intense desire for one another locked up in the hearts of these lovers. This verse should, however, not just be read with the physical sensual passion in mind, but with the wholistic view of intimacy. You can’t even achieve the highest pleasure on the bed as a couple if you are not intimate outside the bedroom. So intimacy goes beyond the activities in the bedroom.
Intimacy is about how he is thoughtful about you and things concerning you. Intimacy is about how you occupy her heart. Intimacy is in those cares and little acts of kindness. Intimacy is in how nothing else competes with you in his heart, where your love is indeed better than wine. Intimacy is in how you look out for one another. It’s in those random calls to say, “I was just thinking of you.”
My dear couples, do you have this burning intimacy between you and your spouse? No? Then it’s something to begin to strongly desire, pray for, and work toward. Marriage was designed for this kind of beauty.
My dear singles, that one professing love for and to you, do you really weigh in his/her heart? Or are you simply a makeshift? Are you Someone he/she is just settling for because age is no longer a friend? Wash your eyes and marry well, my dear.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: For thy LOVE IS BETTER THAN WINE.”
Kai… I can’t seem to get over this. There is really something strong going on here.
What the bride was simply saying here is: Our love is intoxicating. Our love for each other is better than any other thing.
Their hearts were strongly locked in desire for one another.
Dear couple, don’t settle for less.
Not by constantly nagging your spouse, but by intentionally becoming an intimate partner while gently nudging your spouse. Plant that random kiss. Send that random text message that says “I care,” or “I’m thinking about you.” Be thoughtful and secretly buy that thing for your spouse and gift him/her.
Dear single, don’t settle for less.
Marriage is meant to be beautiful, so don’t settle for someone who doesn’t value you. Become that person who intentionally loves and doesn’t settle for one who is not. The LORD has someone amazing for you too; but if you don’t break up with the one occupying space, how will you receive the one God has for you?
