When will my relationship stop feeling like a part-time job with no pay?
We say it jokingly… but sometimes, it’s a real cry. A cry for clarity. For companionship. For calm in the chaos that love sometimes brings. For a more blissful marriage.
But let’s be honest—half the time when we pray “God when?”, what we mean is “God hurry!”
Because we don’t just want love—we want it now. Packaged and perfect, especially for the gram.
But here’s the twist: God is not on your timeline. He’s on your transformation.
And while you’re watching everyone else get engaged, post anniversary photos or of romantic gestures by their spouses, or buy their third matching pyjamas set, God is saying,
“Let Me work on your heart before I give it to someone else.”
Or
“Let Me work on your heart first for your spouse.”
Love is beautiful… but it’s also heavy.
It will test your patience, expose your pride, and stretch your capacity to forgive.
And if you’re not ready, you’ll fumble a blessing that was meant to last a lifetime.
And if you are already married, it could be that you are also part of the problem! You may just never know. So, allow God work on your heart.
So yes, pray about love. Long for it. Prepare for it.
But don’t waste your waiting. Don’t idolise what you don’t understand.
And please—stop comparing your journey to someone else’s highlight reel.
God’s timing is perfect.
And when it’s your turn, you won’t have to beg, chase, or shrink to fit.
It’ll be clear. It’ll be God.
And it’ll be worth the wait.
And when God works perfectly on your heart, dear married one, your marriage will get more blissful. Your spouse will also come around!
The Song of Songs, a book of love and intimacy, opens with such profound lines that I would love to present to you today.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: For thy LOVE IS BETTER THAN WINE.” Song of Solomon 1:2 KJV
This verse captures a strong intimacy between the bride and her groom. There was an intense desire for one another locked up in the hearts of these lovers. This verse should, however, not just be read with the physical sensual passion in mind, but with the wholistic view of intimacy. You can’t even achieve the highest pleasure on the bed as a couple if you are not intimate outside the bedroom. So intimacy goes beyond the activities in the bedroom.
Intimacy is about how he is thoughtful about you and things concerning you. Intimacy is about how you occupy her heart. Intimacy is in those cares and little acts of kindness. Intimacy is in how nothing else competes with you in his heart, where your love is indeed better than wine. Intimacy is in how you look out for one another. It’s in those random calls to say, “I was just thinking of you.”
My dear couples, do you have this burning intimacy between you and your spouse? No? Then it’s something to begin to strongly desire, pray for, and work toward. Marriage was designed for this kind of beauty.
My dear singles, that one professing love for and to you, do you really weigh in his/her heart? Or are you simply a makeshift? Are you Someone he/she is just settling for because age is no longer a friend? Wash your eyes and marry well, my dear.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: For thy LOVE IS BETTER THAN WINE.”
Kai… I can’t seem to get over this. There is really something strong going on here.
What the bride was simply saying here is: Our love is intoxicating. Our love for each other is better than any other thing.
Their hearts were strongly locked in desire for one another.
Dear couple, don’t settle for less.
Not by constantly nagging your spouse, but by intentionally becoming an intimate partner while gently nudging your spouse. Plant that random kiss. Send that random text message that says “I care,” or “I’m thinking about you.” Be thoughtful and secretly buy that thing for your spouse and gift him/her.
Dear single, don’t settle for less.
Marriage is meant to be beautiful, so don’t settle for someone who doesn’t value you. Become that person who intentionally loves and doesn’t settle for one who is not. The LORD has someone amazing for you too; but if you don’t break up with the one occupying space, how will you receive the one God has for you?
Hello dear, it’s another time to learn from God’s word.
Today I will be talking to you about Joy and Peace.
I know they are two familiar words, but let me help your memory by giving a simple definition.
Joy is a great feeling of happiness or pleasure; delight.
Peace on the other hand is a state of calmness and order.
These are two amazing things to have all at once.
It’s one of the prayers that can be found in the Bible. A prayer that we as God’s children be filled with Joy and Peace all at once and at the same time.
Let me show you what the Bible says;
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.—Romans 15:13 (NIV)
There is a lot said in this bible verse, let’s pick them one after the other.
God has the capacity to fill you and I with Joy and Peace, if it were not so, we won’t find the request in the bible.
Another thing this verse says is that being filled with Joy and Peace happens as a result of trusting in God. Believing in Jesus his son is a fundamental aspect of this process.
Then it says so that you may overflow with hope. The word overflow means to have something to the extent that it begins to pour out. Like filling a cup with water so much that it begins to pour out.
So the bible is saying it’s possible for you to overflow with hope, overflow with an assurance that God always has your back.
Let’s look at another translation.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing [through the experience of your faith] that by the power of the Holy Spirit you will abound in hope and overflow with confidence in His promises. —Romans 15:13 (AMP)
I like how this translation ends it by saying we overflow with the confidence of God’s promises for us.
As God’s child, what has he promised you? Be confident in what he has said and it will surely come to pass.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 156. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 156
But Noah found Grace in the eyes of the Lord
Gen 6:8
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 156
1. Let’s begin to thank and worship God
2. Let my life be marked with Grace in Jesus mighty name
3. Oh God, let me find grace in your eyes I every aspect of my life in Jesus mighty name
4. Let Grace not be turned to disgrace eventually in the latter days of my life in Jesus mighty name
5. Father,In the name ofJesus let me always be a student of your grace in Jesus mighty name.
6. Let every distraction in my life preventing me from always looking for your Grace be taking away from my life in Jesus mighty name
7. Let my life be show case the many different dimension of your Grace oh Lord in Jesus name.
8. Grace the makes Great locate my life in every area of my marriage, relationships, career, business, ministry in Jesus mighty name
9. Grace for absolute obedience in the order of Jesus Christ be my portion in Jesus mighty name
10. Let’s begin to thank God for answers to prayers
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 156
I find Grace in the eyes of God
My life is marked with Grace. Every distraction that will not let me be a continual candidate of Grace is taken away from my life. The Grace of God that makes great is locating my life in Jesus mighty name. I will not end up in disgrace in my family, marriage,ministry, over my children in Jesus name. I remain under Grace at every giving time. Gods Grace is multiplied in my life
By nowall marriage folks on KHC know that it is the responsibility of the wife to be her husband’s helper or helpmeet.
The Bible says so. God said, ‘I will make for him a help meet”. Every wife has inside her what it takes to be her husband first ever helper.
She has what it takes to be her husband ‘s helper in such a way that he will not have to look outside the marriage for a helper.
The issue is now positioning yourself to be the helper God created you to be. Functioning in the area of our calling. It’s sometimes difficult knowing how to function per time especially with the different areas of his life he needs help.
First, we need to be strong. It is only the strong that can be a help meet indeed. We need to include it in our prayers daily that God should strengthen us to function in the area of our calling as help meets to our husbands.
Every thing that may want to steal our strength is indirectly stealing our ability to be proper help meet. And the bible says the joy of the Lord is our strength.
So we need to guard our joy. Joy is an attitude. We need to make a concrete decision to stay joyful. We don’t want to depend on people, situation or things for our joy. Despite what is going on around us, you have to make up your mind to be joyful.
Every self pity, self condemnation, victim mentality, approval mentality, low self image, feelings of rejection, being approval addictive and every other emotional problems are all that seek to steal our joy.
It will interest you to know that majorly, ladies are the ones that deal with one or more of such emotional problems.There is a constant battle of the devil with the women so that they will not fulfill their destiny and calling as helpers.
But the devil is a liar over you and your home in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am joyful. I fulfill my destiny.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, strengthen me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 39:21 (KJV) But the LORD was with Joseph, and shewed him mercy, and gave him favour in the sight of the keeper of the prison.
This morning we will be looking at the topic “Dealing With Those Who Cheated, Abused and Used You”
Alexander the coppersmith did me much evil: the Lord reward him according to his works: (2 Timothy 4:14 KJV)
Here wesee Paul extremely hurt by whatever Alexander the coppersmith has done. Judging from Paul’s tone, whatever harm Alexander has done is probably either towards him or towards the church of God.
Paul later said,
Of whom be thou ware also; for he hath greatly withstood our words. (2 Timothy 4:15 KJV)
In Weymouth New Testament translation, it says,
Alexander the metal-worker showed bitter hostility towards me: the Lord will requite him according to his doings.
Now, in life, we will meet with a lot of people that will do us much evil. There will be several metal workers who want to use their metals on you! We will meet with a lot of people that will try to harm us.
We might have experienced deep hurts and wounds from those that jilted us. We might have gone through bitter experiences from people who used us and then dumped us. We might have encountered people that insulted our intelligence and tried to play smart on us. We might have been met people that promised heaven and earth and later abandoned us. We might have experienced the greatest levels of betrayals, wherein, the closest friend of ours betrayed us.
Those kinds of experiences are deep-seated, the hurts are strongly rooted, the bitterness breathes within, live magma, waiting for an opportunity of a volcanic eruption, to cause untold damage and harm.
In all of these, we must learn from Apostle Paul. We must learn to sheath the sword-like Apostle Paul did.
Yes, he was hurt, and he actually verbalized it when he said, “Alexander the coppersmith did me MUCH evil…”
No doubt he was hurt and must have gone through a very painful, heart-wrenching experience…but in all of these, he simply said,
“…the Lord reward him according to his work!”
In as much as this is not what the flesh wants to do, I believe this is the best attitude to take when you have been deeply hurt!
Commit the situation into God’s hands. Let God judge the matter! Let God fight for you. When God fights for you, you have the privilege of dealing with your enemy without lifting a finger and without bitterness, and God also compensates you! That is the beauty of it!
Did you see the classic film, “Woman thou art loosed” by Bishop T.D.Jakes?
That lady that was raped and had her innocence taken away at a tender age still ended in jail because she took laws into her hands by shooting the man that hurt her! The prison experience would probably get her bitter than ever!
But you can choose to let God handle it. When you allow God to judge the matter, you let go of the hurt in your heart and await a compensation that only God can bring.
I want you to hand it all over to God. The guy, the lady, the man, the woman, who did you much evil, hand it over to God. Don’t go on with any hurt! Let God reward them according to the works of their hands. That is when it is sweetest!
As you do that that, you will receive healing for every hurt and wound, and God will compensate you heavily! Were you abandoned? Thank God you knew him or her before marriage! If he didn’t go, how will the right person show up!
I pray for you this morning, God will compensate you heavily for every harm, hurt or evil in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I refuse to be bitter
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to let go and forgive all who have hurt me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. (Luke 6:28 KJV)
