This is the concluding part of the series. I hope it blessed you.
Part 4 – One Flesh, One Purpose
Oneness is not just emotional closeness or physical intimacy — it is purpose alignment. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Marriage is a covenant for a purpose. God doesn’t just pair people because they look good together; He joins them because their destinies align.
Every godly marriage is a partnership for impact. When two people unite under God, their combined strength becomes a force for His kingdom. They are meant to encourage each other’s gifts, nurture each other’s dreams, and serve a divine cause together.
For singles, this is a call to be intentional. Don’t just seek someone who excites you — seek someone who ignites your purpose. Shared faith, values, and direction matter more than fleeting attraction. The person you marry should not pull you away from God’s plan but propel you toward it.
For the married, staying one in purpose means praying together, planning together, and serving together. It means regularly asking, “Are we still walking in the direction God set for us?” Life’s pressures — children, careers, finances — can easily distract couples from their shared mission. But true oneness stays anchored in divine purpose.
When a husband and wife live as one flesh, united in heart and purpose, their marriage becomes a testimony of God’s wisdom and love to the world. It becomes a living sermon — one that says, “This is what God intended from the beginning.”
Marriage is a union of two imperfect people learning daily to love like Christ. It’s not always easy, but grace makes it possible. Colossians 3:12–14 encourages us to “clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” These key virtues don’t come naturally; they grow as we walk closely with God.
Every relationship faces moments of misunderstanding and frustration. In those moments, grace is the oil that keeps love from running dry. Grace says, “I choose to see your effort, not just your flaws.” It is patience that listens, even when the heart feels weary. It’s the quiet strength that forgives before being asked.
Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” That “bearing” is the picture of endurance standing together through differences and disappointments. “Love covers a multitude of sins” 1 Peter 4:8.
Growing in patience and understanding are key virtues that require spiritual maturity. It means inviting the Holy Spirit into every disagreement and allowing His wisdom to guide your words. When grace leads, ego fades, and peace takes its place.
No marriage is perfect, but when two people make grace their lifestyle, they reflect God’s love to one another and to the world. Every day becomes another opportunity to show mercy, extend kindness, and grow deeper in unity.
We started this series last week. If you missed it, you can read it HERE
Part 2 – Leaving and Cleaving
Genesis 2:24 begins with a key phrase — “A man shall leave his father and mother…” Before the union comes the leaving. This leaving isn’t just about moving out of your parents’ home; it’s about a shift of loyalty, priority, and identity.
When a man or woman marries, their primary allegiance changes. The emotional center that once belonged to parents, siblings, or even friends must now be given to their spouse. Many marriages struggle, not because of external enemies, but because the couple never truly left. They are married physically, but still attached emotionally or financially in unhealthy ways.
To “cleave” means to cling tightly — like glue that bonds two surfaces so firmly that separating them would cause damage. That’s the level of commitment God desires in marriage — one that is permanent, exclusive, and deeply loyal.
For singles, understanding this helps you prepare your heart for true partnership. Learn to build healthy boundaries with family and friends. Learn to stand on your own spiritually and emotionally. When you know how to “leave” rightly, you will “cleave” rightly when the time comes.
For the married, leaving and cleaving is a continuous practice. It means protecting your spouse from unnecessary external interference — whether from family, work, or ministry. It means honoring your spouse as your first human priority after God.
One flesh cannot exist where there’s divided loyalty. A man or woman who hasn’t learned to leave cannot cleave. True intimacy is born when both hearts are fully present and free from competing ties.
For the next 4 weeks, we will be looking at what it means to be one flesh. To make it easier, I have made this article into a series, and today, we will start with the first part.
Part 1 – The Mystery of Oneness
When God said in Genesis 2:24, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh,” He wasn’t just talking about physical union or romance. He was revealing a divine mystery — one that reflects His own nature of unity, love, and purpose.
Marriage was God’s idea, not man’s. When He created Eve out of Adam’s rib, it wasn’t because Adam was lonely and needed company. It was because God saw that His creation was incomplete without a counterpart who would complete, not compete. Eve was not another version of Adam — she was the missing piece of his wholeness. Together, they reflected the image of God more fully.
To be one flesh, therefore, is not simply to live together or share responsibilities. It means to be joined in spirit, in purpose, and in destiny. It means that what affects one affects the other. It means there’s no “his” and “hers” — it’s “ours.” Our dreams, our struggles, our wins, our calling.
For singles, this truth invites deep preparation. It’s not enough to desire marriage; it’s important to become the kind of whole person who can merge with another whole person under God’s authority. Emotional maturity, spiritual grounding, and purpose clarity are vital. You cannot merge into one flesh if you are still fragmented within yourself.
For the married, this oneness is a lifelong journey. It doesn’t happen automatically after the wedding; it’s cultivated daily through understanding, forgiveness, communication, and prayer. It’s about consistently choosing unity even when differences arise. One flesh means we win together, we grow together, and we heal together.
Ruth wasn’t scrolling through profiles or waiting for a miracle at midnight. She was busy—serving, gleaning, showing loyalty, and doing the right thing even when life didn’t look fair. And that’s exactly where Boaz found her.
Singles, this is your reminder: purpose attracts purpose. Don’t pause your life waiting for love. Keep becoming who God called you to be. Let your consistency, not your loneliness, define your decisions.
Ruth wasn’t looking for Boaz; she was walking in obedience. Boaz wasn’t chasing attention; he was leading with integrity. Their paths crossed because both were aligned with God.
For couples, the Ruth-and-Boaz story doesn’t end at the wedding. The same qualities that attracted them—kindness, diligence, respect—had to keep showing up in marriage too.
So whether you’re single or married, keep doing right even when no one seems to notice. The right person—or the right version of your spouse—often appears when you stay faithful in the field God planted you in.
Sometimes love doesn’t come looking for those who wait; it comes looking for those who work faithfully.
