Today’s devotional is not only targeted at educating men but also at helping women know what types of men to avoid.
There are three kinds of men.
1. The Hunters
2. The Predators
3. The farmers
Married couples can also greatly benefit from this article because they can work towards being a better version of themselves.
For the singles, it becomes a guiding light to recognize and be able to know guys who are wolves in sheep’s clothing and to be able to avoid them.
Let’s dive into it.
1. The Hunters:
These are guys who recognize the good virtues in ladies, they have high taste and only desire the best of the ladies. They are very strategic and skillful. They usually don’t give up until they get their target.
It will interest you to know that this is the nature of all men whether single or married.
Married women should be careful of such married men who go about chasing married women. Please honor your marriage vows, and give them no attention.
These men are very skillful, looking for ways to warm their ways into undiscerning women’s hearts. They want to eventually use such women for their own selfish interests or gains. To satisfy their rush of adrenaline or for financial benefits. They are in the habit of leading ladies on, only to eventually marry someone else or marry them to brag about their conquest.
2. The Predators
These guys prey on their targets, which are usually weak ladies. These ladies may be financially strong but emotionally weak or vulnerable.
They are also very skillful and strategic in their approach. They are the sweet or sugar-coated talkers.
They have no interest in helping the weak but have an interest in preying on them. They usually leave their victims worse off. Their relationship most often ends in tears. Such guys move on to other ladies after they feel they have succeeded in milking their victims.
Ladies, whether married or Singles must stay clear of such guys. To avoid stories that touch the heart.
3. The farmers
These are the nurturers. They nurture the ladies they come in contact with. Their focus is to bring out the best in them. They are usually helpers with no ulterior motives. They are patient until they have nurtured the lady to a remarkable stage.
These guys never leave any lady the same way they meet them. The ladies are better, stronger, more emotionally stronger, richer, more spiritually mature, more knowledgeable, wise,r and better in every aspect of their lives.
Every woman or lady needs a ‘farmer’ in their life, one who will nurture God’s gifts in them. God desires every man to be a ‘farmer’ to His daughters. Jesus brought healing to every woman he had contact with and left them better than he met them.
Every man must pray to possess the qualities of a ‘Farmer’.
Time doesn’t really make things better; what happens IN time is what has the power to change the course of actions.
So, if the enemy has stolen from your life, marriage, family, and career last year, he will come to take another this year. Don’t think that the passage of time from 2024 to 2025 will stop him from taking another. He will come for another!
“Then he killed James the brother of John with the sword. And because he saw that it pleased the Jews, he proceeded further to seize Peter also. Now it was during the Days of Unleavened Bread.”Acts 12:2-3 [NKJV]
Herod had killed James, and you would think that was enough and that time would make him stop. It didn’t. When he was done with James, he went for Peter! And had he been able to deal with Peter, he would have gone for another. And then another. And another… until there was none left.
“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy…” John 10:10 [NKJV]
But the church stopped that from happening—they stopped the enemy from taking another. How?
“Peter therefore was kept in prison: but prayer was made without ceasing of the church unto God for him. Acts 12:5 [KJV]
Prayer was made without ceasing. What changed the narrative was what the church did in time—they made constant prayers.
In this season, things will spiral into more mess if you don’t step in and stop the flow. The enemy will take another if you don’t step in and stop the flow. More things will go wrong in your marriage if you don’t step in and stop the flow. Your life will get worse if you don’t arise and stop the flow.
It’s that year that we arise and declare, “No more!”
I intend to share with you one of the scriptures that God revealed to me as a young Christian this morning.
Praying this scripture opened me up to the supernatural. As if the curtains of the heavens were drawn, I became aware of many things, including His direction for my life and His specific desires for me at each moment.
Here is the scripture.
Jer 33:3 (KJV) Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.
You know what I love about this? It’s the fact that God promised to answer your prayers immediately, without any delay.
Call upon me, and I will answer you…
Notice that He didn’t promise to fulfill your request, but He simply said He would answer your call!
He will respond! How will he respond?
He is going to reveal things to you!
Great Things! Mighty Things!
Which you don’t know.
The reality is that what you don’t know is more than what you know. Yet, what you know determines your progress in life.
God said He would show you!
Let’s take a look at other translations.
Jer 33:3 (MSG) ‘Call to me and I will answer you. I’ll tell you marvellous and wondrous things that you could never figure out on your own.’
Wondrous things and marvelous things that you can’t figure out alone, He said He will show you!
People of God, get ready for God this year to show you marvelous and wondrous things, and you will know it is God showing you because they are things you could not figure out on your own!
This will give you an advantage in life and propel you beyond your contemporaries!
I pray that this year will be a year of revelations and insights that will advance you massively in Jesus’ name!
Shrouded Secrets, Resolute Exploits: The Chronicles of Sola’s Triumph
Sola, a devout and committed member of her village community, met George at a bustling market festival. George, known for his street smarts and charming demeanor, pursued Sola persistently. He often suggested they prove their love through physical intimacy, claiming it was customary in the village. Despite George’s persistent attempts, Sola remained steadfast in her beliefs and commitment to her faith, consistently refusing his exploits and advances.
The village, while vibrant and close-knit, had its share of issues. Families were under stress due to economic hardships and social pressures. Sola’s home life was particularly strained. Her father, a hardworking farmer, struggled with poor harvests, and her mother, who sold handmade crafts, was equally stressed. The constant financial struggles often led to heated arguments between her parents, creating an unbearable atmosphere for Sola. In her search for peace, Sola found herself spending more time with George, seeking solace from the turmoil at home.
George’s early years were marked by constant struggle and hardship. His father left when he was just a toddler, forcing his mother to raise four children alone. Living in a dilapidated hut on the outskirts of the village, basic necessities were often a luxury. George’s mother sold vegetables in the market, but her earnings were meager, and many nights, the family went to bed hungry.
Moreover, Growing up without a father figure, George had to fend for himself, taking on odd jobs around the village. By his teenage years, he had fallen in with a group of young men from troubled backgrounds. They found solace in each other’s company but also engaged in risky behavior to gain respect, and validation and prove their exploits. George, usually at the forefront of these challenges, felt intense peer pressure to prove himself, especially when it came to Sola.
One fateful day, after another intense argument at home, Sola visited George, hoping for respite. George greeted her warmly and offered her freshly tapped palm wine. Trusting George despite her doubts, Sola took a sip, unaware it was drugged. As the drug took effect, Sola felt dizzy and disoriented. George coaxed her to rest, and as her consciousness faded, she was vaguely aware of being moved.
Hours later, Sola awoke in a haze, with George and three other men standing around her. Despite her condition, Sola mustered her strength to fight back, using self-defense techniques taught by her mother, who did exploits in martial arts. However, her strikes were weak and unsteady. Overpowered and outnumbered, Sola realized the men intended to assault her. The vibrant sounds of the village festival outside contrasted cruelly with her plight.
Despite the overwhelming odds, Sola managed to escape the hut, bruised and traumatized. She stumbled back home, where her parents, noticing her disheveled state, immediately embraced her, providing the comfort she desperately needed.
Sola’s story spread quickly through the village, leading the elders to convene a council. George and his accomplices were summoned and faced severe punishment for their actions. This incident sparked a broader discussion about trust, relationships, and the influences of external pressures on the village’s youth.
Amid the turmoil, however, it was revealed that Sola had recently won a dancing competition and was chosen to do more exploits by representing her village in an inter-village competition. This achievement highlighted her resilience and the potential to rise above her challenges.
Lessons Learned
Trust and Values
Sola’s experience serves as a poignant reminder of the consequences of misplaced trust and the importance of upholding personal values despite external pressures. It’s crucial to be discerning about whom you trust and allow into your life, especially when their values and intentions differ from yours.
Avoiding Vulnerable Situations
It’s essential to avoid putting oneself in vulnerable situations. Meeting people in safe, neutral locations can help maintain personal safety and prevent potential harm.
Seeking Healthy Support
Finding healthy outlets for support, such as friends, mentors, or community leaders, can provide the comfort and guidance needed without compromising safety. Sola’s turn to George for solace due to her stressful home environment highlights the importance of seeking support in healthy ways.
Trusting Instincts
Trusting one’s instincts can often prevent dangerous situations. Sola had initial doubts about George’s intentions but ignored them, leading to her traumatic experience.
Value Alignment in Relationships
Building relationships with individuals who share similar values and beliefs can create a stronger, more supportive network. Sola’s values clashed with George’s, leading to conflict and ultimately, harm.
Conclusion
In conclusion, Sola’s story is a powerful testament to the strength of the human spirit and the importance of maintaining personal integrity in the face of adversity. Moreover, her resilience and ability to overcome such a traumatic experience serve as an inspiration to others, emphasizing the importance of trust, values, and the support of a caring community.
In the heart of the African savanna, where golden grass sways under the warm breeze and the great Mukwa Tree stands tall, lived Naledi and Temba. Their village was one of tradition and community, where life followed the cycles of nature and the wisdom of the elders guided daily living. Naledi, known for her grace and strength, and Temba, a respected hunter, were a celebrated couple. However, as time passed, the harmony in their home began to unravel.
Naledi and Temba: The Early Days
Naledi moved with the agility of a gazelle and possessed a beauty that rivaled the first light of dawn. Temba, strong and brave, provided sustenance and security for their people. Their union had been blessed by the elders, but differences in their upbringings led to growing discord. Temba’s dissatisfaction and Naledi’s confusion and hurt became evident in their interactions.
Contrasting Upbringings
Naledi’s upbringing was marked by strength and self-reliance, traits she learned from her resilient mother. In contrast, Temba was raised in a household filled with love and affection, where his mother ensured that her husband felt cherished every day. These differences created a chasm between Naledi and Temba, leading to frequent arguments and misunderstandings.
The Wisdom of Uncle
Noticing the growing rift, the village elder, Uncle, called Naledi and Temba to his hut. Uncle, a man of great wisdom, shared the story of the warrior and the maiden, who faced similar challenges. He advised Naledi and Temba to learn from each other and respect each other’s ways to bridge their differences and find happiness.
Uncle’s Advice for Naledi
Uncle provided specific advice to Naledi on how to make Temba happy:
1. Respect and Honour: Honor Temba both publicly and privately in words, thoughts, and deeds.
2. Shared Decisions: Share her thoughts and listen to Temba’s, allowing him to make the final decision.
3. Cheerfulness: Maintain a cheerful demeanor and share her joys and sorrows with Temba.
4. Playfulness: Engage in playful activities to ease the pressures of life.
5. Avoid Nagging: Speak with kindness and patience, avoiding constant complaining.
6. Intimacy: Embrace moments of love and maintain a warm connection.
7. Priority: Assure Temba that he is not competing for her love or attention.
8. Prayer: Pray for Temba’s wisdom, strength, and understanding daily.
Trials and Tribulations
Despite Uncle’s guidance, a severe drought struck the village, causing the rivers to dry up and crops to wither. Temba’s hunts were unsuccessful, leading to his frustration and resentment. Naledi, feeling overwhelmed by survival demands, found it hard to maintain cheerfulness. Their arguments intensified, but Uncle reminded them to respect each other’s ways and support each other through the difficult times.
A Lesson in Unity
Inspired by Uncle’s words, Naledi and Temba made a renewed effort to support each other. Naledi involved Temba in decision-making, and Temba began to appreciate Naledi’s hard work and resilience. They found joy in simple pleasures and strengthened their bond through playfulness and emotional connection.
The Return of Prosperity
After many moons, the rains returned, reviving the savanna. The village celebrated with a grand feast. Naledi and Temba’s relationship, now stronger, radiated harmony and joy. Uncle praised their transformation, emphasizing the importance of understanding, respect, and emotional connection in love.
The Legacy of Love
Years later, Naledi and Temba became elders, sharing their wisdom with younger generations. Their story became a cherished part of the village’s folklore, reminding everyone of the power of love and unity. The tale of the warrior and the maiden, and Uncle’s wisdom, continued to guide the villagers.
Conclusion
The story of Naledi and Temba teaches that with understanding, respect, and a willingness to grow together, love can endure and thrive. Their journey through conflict and hardship shows the importance of appreciating each other’s strengths and differences. May their story inspire us to nurture our relationships and find strength in unity, no matter the trials we face.
