Uncovering the Secrets of the Ultimate Husbands. Who is that ultimate husband? Who is that single man who will be a great husband? How can you even know a man that will be a good husband? Discover the timeless wisdom of three biblical figures who set the bar high when it comes to being a devoted and loving husband. From Boaz’s generosity, and Joseph’s faithfulness, to David’s repentance, these men have valuable lessons to teach us about what it truly means to be a great husband in today’s world.
In this devotional, we will look closely at three men who are considered great husbands. We will explore what made these men good husbands and how their examples can be applied to our lives.
Uncovering Secrets of the Ultimate Husband: Boaz
He is a wealthy landowner in the book of Ruth. He is known for his kindness and generosity towards Ruth, a widowed relative of his, and he ultimately marries her and becomes the father of her son, Obed.
Learn From Boaz:
1. He shows kindness and generosity towards Ruth. Be a kind husband.
2. He is fair and just, as seen in his dealings with his workers. Be an upright husband.
3. He is loyal to his family and kin, as seen in his willingness to marry Ruth. Be a loyal husband.
4. Don’t be overly focused on wealth and material possessions at the expense of your partner.
5. Don’t take advantage of your fiancee or wife.
6. Don’t see your partner as a means to an end
Uncovering Secrets of the Ultimate Husband: Joseph
Joseph is known for his work as a carpenter. Joseph is known for his faithfulness to Mary, his wife, even when she was pregnant with Jesus and he was falsely accused of infidelity. He accepted and cared for his wife, even though her pregnancy would cause him many troubles, and he trusted God’s plan for his life.
Learn From Joseph:
1. He is faithful to his wife Mary. Be faithful.
2. He accepts and cares for his wife and child. Be caring.
3. He trusts God’s plan for his life and tries to do the right thing, as seen in his decision to divorce Mary quietly, rather than make a public scandal. Be a lovely husband.
4. Don’t be quick to jump to conclusions or accuse your wife of wrongdoing.
5. Don’t be unfaithful to your wife
Uncovering Secrets of the Ultimate Husband: David
David is best known for his role as the king of Israel. He is known for his deep love for his wife Bathsheba, despite his infidelity and the complications it caused. He repented of his sins and sought forgiveness, and God forgave him.
Learn From David:
1. He deeply loves his wife Bathsheba
2. He repents of his sins and seeks forgiveness, showing humility
3. Don’t be unfaithful to your wife. It can cause damage to your relationship.
4. Don’t try to hide your mistakes or sins. Be sincere.
5. Don’t let your power and position as head of the home go to your head.
In conclusion, the Bible presents many examples of men who were good husbands, and the examples of Boaz, Joseph, and David are just a few of them. Each of them had their own strengths and weaknesses, but they also shared some common traits that made them good husbands. They were kind and generous, faithful and loving, and they had a strong sense of loyalty and faith. Their examples can be seen as a model of how we should treat our partners and families, and how we can strive to be the best versions of ourselves. By learning from these men and by following Jesus’ example, we can be better husbands!
60 Years of Love: The Hagins’ Marriage Secrets. Kenneth Hagin, a well-known Christian minister, author, and founder of Rhema Bible Training College, wrote extensively about marriage and relationships. He and his wife, Oretha, were married for over 60 years. They often shared the stage together and traveled the world spreading the word of God.
One of their most famous stories is the testimony of how they met. According to Kenneth, he had a vision of his future wife and knew that she was the one for him. He then started to pray for her and asked God to bring her into his life. A few months later, he met Oretha at a church meeting and knew that she was the woman from his vision. They got married a few months later.
60 Years of Love: The Hagins’ Marriage Secrets.
Here are a few things they taught about relationships and marriage
1. Understanding: Hagin emphasized the importance of understanding the biblical definition of marriage as a union between one man and one woman, and the role of the husband as the head of the household.
2. Love: He taught that love is the foundation of a successful marriage and that couples should work to cultivate love and respect for one another. He and his wife Oretha had a strong bond of love, and it was evident in their public and private life
3. Communication: He emphasized the importance of open and honest communication between husband and wife, stating that couples should be willing to share their thoughts and feelings with one another in a respectful and loving way. He and his wife Oretha regularly made it a point to have a conversation every day and talk about the things that were on their hearts.
4. Faith: He taught that faith in God is essential for a successful marriage and that couples should strive to grow in their faith together. How does faith come? By God’s word!
5. Forgiveness: Hagin stressed the importance of forgiveness in marriage, and taught that couples should be willing to extend grace and forgiveness to one another when mistakes are made.
60 Years of Love: The Hagins’ Marriage Secrets.
6. Prayer: He believed that prayer is an important aspect of marriage and that couples should pray together and for each other on a regular basis.
7. Husbands: Hagin taught that the husband is the head of the household and that he should lead his family in a Godly way, being responsible and taking care of their needs.
8. Wives: Hagin taught that the wife’s role is to submit to and respect her husband, and to support him in his role as head of the household.
9. Intimacy: He taught that physical intimacy is an important aspect of marriage and should be honored and protected.
10. Working together: He emphasized the importance of working together as a team in marriage, stating that couples should be willing to make sacrifices for one another and to work together to achieve their goals. He and his wife Oretha had a strong bond of unity, they were known to finish each other sentences and had a deep understanding of one another.
Take a look at these elements and apply them to your life. See if any is missing, then work at restoring them back into your relationship and marriage!
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies. The story of King Henry VIII of England and his second wife, Anne Boleyn is a historical example of a secretive spouse that ended in a bad way Henry VIII was known for his secrecy and his tendency to keep things from his wives. He kept secret his desire to divorce his first wife, Catherine of Aragon, and his infatuation with Anne Boleyn. He also kept secret the fact that he was having an affair with Anne’s lady-in-waiting, Jane Seymour, even as Anne was pregnant with his child. Eventually, Anne was falsely accused of adultery and treason, and she was executed. Henry VIII’s secrecy and infidelity ultimately led to the downfall of his marriage to Anne and the upheaval of the entire English monarchy. A few secrets here and there resulted in many woes and agonies that are generational shifting! But this morning, let’s consider some biblical strategies!
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies
What do you do with a secretive spouse? This will apply to both singles who are in relationships and those married.
Pray for your spouse
Pray for your spouse’s heart to be open and for their willingness, to be honest with you. Pray for the strength and guidance to handle the situation in a godly manner.
In Genesis 18:16-33, Abraham intercedes for his wife Sarah, asking God to bless her and make her fertile, despite her old age. Through his prayer, God fulfilled his promise and Sarah gave birth to Isaac. God answers prayers!
Communicate openly
Talk to your spouse about your concerns and feelings in a respectful and loving way. Ask them to be open and honest with you and to share their struggles.
In the story of Adam and Eve in Genesis 3:6-13, we see the consequences of not communicating openly and honestly with one another.
Seek accountability
Encourage your spouse to seek accountability from a trusted friend, mentor, or counselor.
The story of David and Nathan in 2 Samuel 12:1-14 illustrates the importance of accountability. God sent Nathan all the way so David can have the opportunity to repent!
Practice forgiveness
Forgive your spouse for their secrecy and be willing to extend grace to them. Without forgiveness, you won’t be able to help.
The story of the prodigal son shows that forgiveness is powerful.
Colossians 3:13 “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Read the Bible together
This may sound simplistic, but it is life-giving! Spend time reading the Bible and praying together. This will help to strengthen your relationship and build trust between you.
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies
Attend church together
Make it a priority to attend church services together and to grow in your faith together. That will afford you a common ground for open discussions.
Hebrews 10:25 “Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
Seek help
Consider seeking the help of a counselor or therapist to work through any issues that may be affecting your relationship if you are unable to move forward. Do not keep quiet!
James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
Practice humility
Humble yourself and be willing to admit your own faults and mistakes. It is possible the secrecy of your spouse is fueled by your own attitudes and approach. It takes humility to admit.
James 4:6 “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”
Be patient
Be patient and understand that change takes time. Pray for your spouse and be willing to wait for them to change.
James 5:7-8 “Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains. You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near.”
Confronting a Secretive Spouse: 9 Strategies
In conclusion, these nine biblical strategies can help couples confront and overcome secrets in their marriage. By following these principles, couples can work towards building a strong and lasting relationship based on trust, honesty, and transparency. It’s important to remember that marriage is a sacred bond, and by following these biblical strategies, couples can protect their relationship from the devil’s deception.
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage. Lizzie Borden was an American woman who was accused of the 1892 axe murders of her father and stepmother in Fall River, Massachusetts.
Lizzie had kept a number of secrets from her husband, including a secret affair with an actor, and evidence suggested that she had been plotting to kill her father for some time. She also had a very strained relationship with her stepmother and her father, who mistreated her.
The tragic outcome of this case was due to the secrets Lizzie kept from her husband, and the fact that she was not able to confide in him about her problems. Those deaths could have been averted if she opened up to her husband!
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage
Your spouse is a support system God has created to help you out, but how do you get this support when you are secretive and averse to regular communication?
Marriage is a sacred bond between two people, and the foundation of that bond is trust and transparency. In the book of Genesis, we read that “the man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame” (Genesis 2:25).
This passage highlights the importance of being open and honest with one another in a marriage. It is a call for couples to be naked, in the sense of being vulnerable, with each other.
However, in today’s world, many couples find themselves hiding things from one another. Whether it’s a secret phone or an affair, keeping secrets can have a devastating impact on a marriage. The truth is, it takes a lot of effort to keep a secret, and that effort is often directed away from the marriage. The more you hide, the more you are opening the door to the devil to come in and destroy your marriage.
David, the king of Israel, is a prime example of this. He was a man after God’s own heart, yet he fell into the trap of adultery and murder. If he had been open and honest with his wife about his struggles, this tragic event could have been prevented.
Singles, too, should be mindful of this in courtship. If your partner is already hiding things from you, it’s a red flag that should not be ignored. Marriage will not change them, and it’s important to address these issues before taking the next step.
Honesty and transparency are key in any relationship. As a couple, it’s important to make a conscious effort to be open and sincere with each other and to seek help when needed. Remember, the devil’s greatest weapon is deception, and the more you hide, the more vulnerable you become to his attacks. Don’t let the devil come between you and your spouse, work on your relationship and be close to each other.
Secrets That Kill: How to Protect Your Marriage
Here are five steps that one can take to deal with keeping secrets in marriage:
Acknowledge the problem: The first step in dealing with keeping secrets in marriage is to acknowledge that there is a problem. Recognize that secrecy can be harmful to your relationship and that it is important to address it.
Identify the reasons: Identify the reasons why you are keeping secrets from your spouse. Are you afraid of their reaction? Are you ashamed or embarrassed? Understanding the underlying reasons can help you address the problem.
Communicate openly: Talk to your spouse about the secrets you are keeping and why you have been keeping them. Be honest and open about your feelings and concerns. Communication is key to building trust and intimacy in a marriage.
Seek professional help: If you find it difficult to talk to your spouse about the secrets you are keeping or if you need help addressing deeper issues, consider seeking professional counseling or therapy. A therapist can help you work through any issues that may be affecting your relationship.
Take action: Once you have identified the reasons for your secrecy and have communicated openly with your spouse, take action to address the problem. It could be something as simple as changing your behavior or it could involve making more significant changes in your life. The most important thing is to work together with your spouse to find a solution.
May God grant you strength and understanding to do the needful!
Say this Prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come to you today to ask for your protection over our marriage. We know that keeping secrets can be harmful to our relationship. We ask that you would give us the strength and the courage to be open and honest with one another. Help us to identify the reasons why we keep secrets and to address them with love and compassion. Give us the wisdom to seek professional help when needed. Guide us to take action to address the problem and to work together to find a solution. We trust in you and ask that you would protect our marriage from the devil’s attacks. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants. The love between Mr. and Mrs. Johnson has started waning! Butterflies have stopped flapping their wings in their tummies, no more anticipation and goose pimples! What are they missing? Love is the foundation of any relationship, but what does it really take to make a relationship thrive? In this devotional, we will explore the essential wants of couples and how understanding these needs can lead to a fulfilling and long-lasting partnership.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants.
1. Love
1Co 13:13 (GNB) Meanwhile these three remain: faith, hope, and love; and the greatest of these is love.
Love is one of the most important things that couples want from one another, as it is the foundation of any relationship. This kind of love is characterized by patience, kindness, selflessness, and forgiveness.
How do you show love?
a. Actions: Examples are cooking a meal for them, doing a household chore, or planning a surprise date. b. Words: Expressing your feelings, and giving compliments deliberately c. Listening: Giving them your full attention, and practicing empathic listening.
2. Respect
Eph 5:33 (GNB) But it also applies to you: every husband must love his wife as himself, and every wife must respect her husband.
This means treating one another with kindness, consideration, and dignity and not belittling or speaking down to each other.
How do you show respect?
a.Words: Use polite language, avoid name-calling, and speak kindly. b. Actions: Ask for their opinions, and value their ideas and feelings. c. Boundaries: Not invading their space during work deadlines or intense studies and being sensitive to special moments.
Love 101: 5 Things What Every Couple Wants.
3. Support
Pro 31:11-12 (MSG) Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. [12] Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.
This means being a source of strength and encouragement, helping each other when needed, and being willing to listen and understand feelings.
How do you give support?
a. Actions: Being there when they needed, helping with tasks, and being a sounding board for ideas and feelings. b. Words: Tell your partner that you believe in them, that you are proud of them, and that you will be there for them. This can be very powerful. c. Active listening: Listening to your partner when they talk, not interrupting, and being understanding.
4. Honesty:
Proverbs 12:22 Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.
Couples want to be in a relationship built on trust, and for them to be honest. This means being truthful in words and actions, and not hiding things or keeping secrets.
How do you show honesty?
a. Words: Being truthful in what you say, not hiding things, and being transparent in your actions. b. Actions: Being consistent in what you say and do, and being accountable for your actions. c. Transparency: Being open about your thoughts, feelings, and actions and being willing to share information with your partner.
5. Faithfulness:
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Everybody wants their partner to be faithful to them. This means remaining committed to the relationship and not engaging in physical or emotional infidelity.
How do you show faithfulness?
a. Words: Tell your partner that you are committed to their relationship and that you will be loyal. b. Actions: Avoid situations that may lead to infidelity, such as spending time alone with someone you are attracted to, and being physically and emotionally intimate only with your spouse. Note that physical intimacy is not for singles! c. Boundaries: Setting clear boundaries for what is and isn’t acceptable in the relationship, and being aware of potential temptations.
I will stop here this morning! I hope you are blessed.
What are the new things you learned? Drop comments and let me know!
Infidelity Types You Might Not Know. I throw families into disarray. I bring chaos and agony into marriages. I alter the trajectory of destines of children within the families. My name is infidelity!
We looked at physical infidelity yesterday. This morning, we take an excursion into Infidelity Types You Might Not Know
Physical Infidelity We already explained this yesterday
Emotional infidelity: Emotional infidelity occurs when a partner forms a deep emotional connection with someone other than their partner. This type of infidelity can be just as damaging as physical infidelity because it involves a betrayal of trust and intimacy.
The scripture equated it with the actual infidelity
Mat 5:28 (KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Cyber infidelity: Cyber infidelity is when a partner engages in online sexual or romantic relationships with someone other than their partner. This can include sexting, messaging, or video chatting with someone they are attracted to.
Most people do this on their phones and it is equally damaging to any marriage
Financial infidelity: Financial infidelity occurs when a partner is dishonest about money matters or engages in financial deception. This can include hiding financial assets or spending money without their partner’s knowledge or consent.
This is so common and people often have different excuses for indulging in this type of infidelity, however, what is wrong is wrong!
Infidelity Types You Might Not Know
Sexual addiction: Sexual addiction is considered as a form of infidelity, where one partner is compulsively seeking sexual gratification outside of the relationship.
This obviously requires no explanation.
Fantasy infidelity: Fantasy infidelity occurs when a partner engages in sexual or romantic fantasies about someone other than their partner. This can include fantasizing about someone they see in real life or online, or engaging in virtual relationships that are not real but still emotionally damaging.
Fantasy infidelity seems safe because it is mostly in the realm of thoughts, but don’t forget we always move in the direction of our most dominant thoughts.
Workplace infidelity: Workplace infidelity occurs when a partner forms a romantic or sexual relationship with someone they work with. This type of infidelity is common and can cause problems both at work and in the relationship.
Pornography addiction: Pornography addiction is also considered as a form of infidelity, where one partner is compulsively seeking sexual gratification through watching pornography, this can lead to emotional disconnection and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
Social media infidelity: Social media infidelity is when a partner engages in romantic or sexual interactions with someone through social media platforms. This can include flirting, sexting, or messaging with someone they are attracted to.
Religious Infidelity: This type of infidelity occurs within a church or mosque. The one being looked upon to care for the souls of men and women decides to desecrate their bodies. A form of manipulation is involved, drawing God’s wrath like no other.
Mar 9:42 (MSG) “On the other hand, if you give one of these simple, childlike believers a hard time, bullying or taking advantage of their simple trust, you’ll soon wish you hadn’t. You’d be better off dropped in the middle of the lake with a millstone around your neck.
Having identified Infidelity Types You Might Not Know, how does one get out of infidelity?
Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity. Infidelity is a family destroyer. This morning, we begin to attempt to save families by breaking down different kinds of infidelity and then attempting to explain them while also enumerating steps to be taken to stop infidelity.
We begin with physical infidelity. Physical infidelity is when a partner engages in sexual activity with someone other than their partner. This type of infidelity is considered the most traditional and recognizable form of cheating.
Here the line has been crossed and sexual activity is involved. What are the pointers that physical infidelity might be going on?
Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity
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Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity, Here are pointers.
1. Radical changes in behavioral pattern A partner may start to act differently, such as becoming more secretive or distant, if they are engaging in physical infidelity.
2. Changes in physical appearance A partner may start to pay more attention to their physical appearance or dress differently if they are trying to attract someone else. A sharp contrast in general appearance may be a pointer.
3. Unusual spending habits A partner may start to spend money on new clothes, jewelry, or other gifts for someone else if they are engaging in physical infidelity.
4. Unexpected lateness or absconding A partner may start to make excuses for being away from home or stay away longer than usual if they are engaging in physical infidelity.
5. Suspicious phone or computer activity A partner may start to receive more calls or messages than usual or be secretive about their phone or computer activities if they are engaging in physical infidelity. Chats may be deleted and calls may be taken away from partner.
Please note that you cannot just take one or two scenarios and then jump to conclusion that your spouse is involved in infidelity.
Identifying and Overcoming Physical Infidelity. Let’s take a look at a few ways to stop infidelity.
1. Establish trust and intimacy Building trust and intimacy in a relationship can help prevent infidelity from happening.
2. Communicate openly and honestly Communication is key to understanding each other’s needs, feelings, and concerns.
3. Set boundaries Setting clear boundaries and expectations can help both partners understand what is and isn’t acceptable in the relationship.
4. Seek counseling A therapist or counselor can help couples work through underlying issues that may be contributing to infidelity.
5. Work on the relationship It’s important to actively work on the relationship by spending quality time together, understanding each other’s needs and showing appreciation for each other.
6. Be aware of potential temptations Being aware of potential temptations and avoiding situations that may lead to infidelity can also help prevent it from happening.
7. Be willing to forgive and move on If infidelity has occurred, it is important to be willing to forgive and move on.
It’s important to keep in mind that infidelity can be a complex issue and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Each couple’s situation may require different steps, some may take time and effort to rebuild trust and intimacy, while others may need to seek professional help.
All in all, pray a lot and pay attention to your marriage.
The Most Incredible Article About Infidelity You’ll Ever Read. Most homes have been thrown into disarray! Things have fallen apart in most families, and the center could not hold, because a man or woman would not hold their “center” in check!
Sex, which is one of the greatest gifts God has given to man, has been misused, abused, and has become a tool for manipulation, and witchcraft in the quest for man to satisfy his lust.
The Most Incredible Article About Infidelity
The abortion tables remain red, the surgeon’s scalpels active, and most lives snuffed out before seeing the light of day. Destinies wrecked by traumatic sexual encounters and unmentionable types of sexual abuse before the age of accountability! Marriages are in limbo because man has failed to be satiated with their spouses.
Infidelity is as common as humanity but equally as dangerous as it comes! Ever chew gravel before? This is what the Holy writ likens infidelity to!
Pro 20:17 (MSG) Stolen bread tastes sweet, but soon your mouth is full of gravel.
The sweetness of that which lies in the regions of the waist is never denied, but also the pain and agony which is morphed from the sweetness are laid to bare!
This morning, I am not here to judge you in any way! I am not God! But I will attempt to show you types of infidelity in case you are trapped without “knowing”
I want to talk about ten types of infidelity from today and the coming days! The list is not exhaustive, though!
Physical infidelity
Emotional infidelity:
Cyber infidelity
Financial infidelity
Sexual addiction
Fantasy infidelity
Workplace infidelity
Pornography addiction
Social media infidelity
Religious Infidelity
The Most Incredible Article About Infidelity
God actually calls infidelity something “stupid!” Why? I guess because of the chaos, agony, pain, loss of peace, and many more that it brings to your spouse and the children! Yes, it is that intense!
Take a look: Pro 6:32-33 (KJV) [32] But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. [33] A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
Oops! This is is punchy and biting! But it’s the truth!
Look at the choice of words:
Lacks understanding
Destroys his own soul
Wound and Dishonour gift
Persistent reproach!
Sure you don’t want all these!
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Pro 6:32-33 (MSG) 32] Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; [33] Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.
Now, think deeply about this. The word of God has life, so as you think on this, a conviction will set in and when it does, take action!
Quit with the side chick! Stop taking calls from that man! Stop the fantasy journeys of the mind!
Disconnect from that man or woman! Physical or emotional infidelity, God equates them as the same!
Remember, it is soul-destroying! In other words, it’s like a person wants to destroy himself or herself!
Tomorrow and the next few days, I will attempt to show you the types of infidelity that occurs in marriages. Perhaps, you don’t even know it’s infidelity and you are just having fun? Well, jump in from tomorrow! Don’t miss them!
Ensure you use REVIVE prayers below especially if you are dealing with any type of infidelity!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose. There are no two ways to it, you are either a joyful being and you keep winning or you like traversing the land of depression and discouragement and you lose by default!
You will not lose! You have to decide to enjoy this journey while on it and stay joyful!
The regular happenstances seemed to be designed to bring heartaches; jilting experiences, heartbreaks, disappointments, quarrels, betrayals, emotional affairs, full-blown affairs, side chick matters, habitual cheats, and so on…
So you might seem justified to have a lousy day…but listen to me, staying sad will make you lose more, can affect your health, and steal your progress!
Decide to be happy and fun to be with!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose.
You will not lose! We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we will be looking at the last one which is Fun!
Be Joyful To Win Or Stay Sad And Lose.
Even God wants you joyful! You see, that joy is your strength! Looking morose draws tiredness and weariness!
God commands you to get up and be joyful! Take a look:
Isa 60:1 (KJV) Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee.
Now you need to read this in the Amplified version!
Isa 60:1 (AMPC) ARISE [from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you–rise to a new life]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you!
Arise! Yes, you went through this and that! You are not alone in that bracket!
Don’t let the devil push you into a corner of regret where your destiny becomes immobilized!
Decide to enjoy your relationship instead of it being riddled with daily quarrels.
Couples, your own can even be funny! You are married to that guy or lady!
Why build your family home on depression street, sadness avenue?
It just doesn’t make sense!
Have fun in that marriage! It’s a choice!
Forgive quickly, don’t quarrel over everything, don’t be a sadistic person, and don’t allow your past to cripple your present moment!
Learn to draw joy from God’s word!
Learn to dance all by yourself when things seem they are going awry!
Learn to slot in some music and dance all any yourself to your victory!
Stop sulking. Stop murmuring. Stop complaining. Start living! Learn to laugh, dance, and praise God in the midst of crisis! You will come out in victory when you learn to do that!
Pro 5:18 (GNB) So be happy with your wife and find your joy with the woman you married
Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life. Dear husband, when you kneel before that beautiful lady and proposed to her, either literally or otherwise, what do you think you were offering her in totality? It was your commitment!
Dear wife, when you decided to walk down the aisle, forsaking your father’s name and taking another man’s own, joyfully and with indescribable ecstasy, what do you think you were giving him? It was your commitment!
Dear handsome single guy, when you kept wooing that lady and won’t leave her alone, what do you think she is actually looking for? Your commitment!
Dear beurry potato! What do you think you will give him that will bind you together in an unflinching manner? Your commitment!
Today we are talking about commitment in relationships and marriage!
We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Commitment! Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life
Let’s see how commitment makes all the difference in creating a strong married life and some tips on how to stay committed to yourselves.
What Does Commitment Look Like?
When considering what being truly committed looks like in a marriage, one must consider aspects beyond loyalty and love – factors such as trustworthiness; communication; joining each other’s interests; appreciation of family members; standing up for each other during challenging situations; spending quality time together – regardless of routines imposed by society or culture…all of which strengthen bonds within any type of relationship! When couples commit to these principles, they create an atmosphere where differences cease to exist because respect keeps everything from crumbling down.
God wants you and your loved one to be forever committed to each other and warned any intruder from pulling you apart! That is how much God wanted it! You can rightly say that God is committed to your commitment!
Mat 19:4-6 (MSG) [4] He answered, “Haven’t you read in your Bible that the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female? [5] And because of this, a man leaves father and mother and is firmly bonded to his wife, becoming one flesh—no longer two bodies but one. [6] Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate his art by cutting them apart.”
Commitment: A Guide to a Lasting Love Life
Committing fully to your marital partner will significantly improve relationships on many levels including mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
What are Tips For Developing And Maintaining Healthy Marital Commitment
Make time for yourself – It takes energy to remain constantly focused on others so it is important for couples to create intentional “me time for reflection, recreation, and relaxation.
Celebrate small wins. Rejoice with the wife of your youth. Be grateful for who God has given you as a spouse or lover
Stop focusing on the negatives, rather focus on the good things and good qualities of your spouse.
Do not attack one another. Be quick to appreciate yourselves and be slow to criticize yourselves!
Stay faithful and focused. Avoid distractions and do not desecrate your marital covenant knowing that God is the ultimate witness in your marriage!
These tips help in staying committed to one another!
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage. Two people cannot walk together or work together unless they are in agreement, alignment and cooperation! Nobody plows a farm with one ox going forward while the other is going backward. In every facet of life, cooperation is needed to succeed.
We have been looking at ten essential qualities for any marriage to succeed.
Trust Communication Respect Love Affection Honesty Understanding Cooperation Commitment Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Cooperation.
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
Whether married or in a relationship, it’s important for couples to work together as one unit if they want their marriage to last. Here’s how cooperation between you and your partner can help strengthen the bond of your union:
Support Each Other Through Difficult Times
During challenging times, spouses should lean on each other for support rather than competing against each other. Even though couples may sometimes disagree over certain issues, being able to talk things through calmly and rationally is key when trying to get back on the same page after an argument. Supporting each other during difficult times will make any couple stronger in the end.
During difficult times or when you are having challenges, don’t blame each other! You are already going through some difficulties, don’t add more to them but rather harness the power of agreement and pray together! You’ve got to cooperate!
Mat 18:19 (MSG) When two of you get together on anything at all on earth and make a prayer of it, my Father in heaven goes into action.
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
2. Get Involved In Each Other’s Tasks
Couples should collaborate with each other on both domestic tasks like cooking dinner, taking care of children, or doing chores around the house and also spend time enjoying activities together such as going out for date nights every week/month or watching movies/shows that interest them both at home etc. This type of involvement not only shows appreciation toward one another but leads to a better understanding of what matters most for them. You must be deliberate in cooperating with one another and shut out the devil from your marriage!
Cooperation: A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage
3. Set Aside Disagreements For Mutual Goal Accomplishment
Do not allow continuous petty disagreements to mess up your family and financial goals. You don’t have to reply to every statement made by your lover or spouse and you don’t have to answer every question bluntly! Remember what the scripture says about soft answers?
Pro 15:1 (KJV) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Take a look at The Message Translation
Pro 15:1 (MSG) A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
Ensure that your overall goal is not tampered with and that no strife or animosity is retained.
Cooperate together at all times so you that can enjoy yourselves together!
Good morning!
Cooperation is A Key Ingredient for a Happy Marriage. Use REVIVE Day 17 prayers below!
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse. I often wondered which planet my spouse came from after my wedding! Interestingly, there is this thing that tells you before the wedding that you know your loved one through and through! Ha Ha Ha! I laugh in the Holy Ghost. Wait till you are married! Don’t believe that thing o!
I will attempt to address both single and married. The subject of understanding one’s spouse is so key in any relationship or marriage!
Why do you even need to understand one another? It’s simple, you are so different from one another. Opinions, perspectives, leanings, and preferences will be so diverse you will often wonder how your significant other is thinking!
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
When God wanted to stop the progress of super brilliant humans while building the Tower of Babel, of which God Himself testified that they will achieve their goal, He went for their “understanding!”
Gen 11:7 (KJV) Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not UNDERSTAND one another’s speech.
When the devil wants to tinker with your relationship or marriage, he tries to touch your “understanding!”
You must make effort to understand one another!
You need to understand that your lover or spouse wants to be understood. There is a need for everybody to be understood.
Oh yeah, most women don’t even understand themselves, and yet they want their husbands to understand them, is that not unfair?
Well, you need to know that all your wife wants is to feel that you are willing to understand her.
How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
In other to understand one another, you must have a listening ear! You must be able to put yourself in the shoes of your spouse!
Stop saying you already know what they want to say! Are you the Holy Spirit? Let them talk! And Listen!
Listen with eyeball-to-eyeball contact. Put your phones aside. Show that you care!
After your lover has spoken, regurgitate the words back to show you really got the message!
Make sure you reply with sentences explaining what you thought they have just said.
Don’t just say ok!
Ok? Lol…
God bless you today!
Use REVIVE prayers below to pray on Understanding your lover or spouse!
Assignment For How To Understand Your Lover and Spouse
Ask your spouse to list three ways they feel you don’t understand them or three ways they feel you need to understand them more.
How To Be Honest With Your Spouse. Honesty! It is one of the secrets of a successful relationship and marriage! Are you aware that most relationships broke, and most marriages are terminated because one or both spouses were not honest? Oh yes!
Why is this so crucial? I will tell you! It is because honesty strengthens marriages by strengthening trust!
Trust is so pivotal to any successful marriage, that you can’t trifle with it! What makes trust real is honesty!
We have been looking at ten qualities that all singles and couples will need in their relationship or marriage
Trust
Communication
Respect
Love
Affection
Honesty
Understanding
Cooperation
Commitment
Fun
Today we continue with the next which is Honesty! How To Be Honest With Your Spouse
For singles, the greatest blessing you can have is to be in love with someone who is honest! It will eliminate unnecessary hassles and heartache. If you have not met anybody yet, you can begin to pray for this quality! God answers prayers!
You won’t have to discover shocking things after the wedding because your lover would have opened up to you before then.
It can be frustrating to keep discovering some new funny things every other day in marriage.
For couples, be honest in every area! Take a look at this scripture.
Eze 45:10 (MSG) Use honest scales—honest weights and honest measures.
A scale is a system used to measure. The weight is what you measure. The measures are the units that express weight!
God said everything must be honest! What this portends is that there should be total honesty in every area of your life.
There shouldn’t be honesty in certain areas while other areas are shrouded in mystery.
The problem with that is that one day, every secret will be discovered and at that point, hearts are broken, trust is shattered, and these are not good experiences for any relationship or marriage.
Php 4:8 (KJV) Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest…
Let this scripture regulate your relationship and marriage and you will have less heartache!
If trust is broken already and there are crises, take time to start building trust back by being honest!
Each lie told after a broken trust is like an arrow being thrown into a festering wound!
Decide to be truthful, particularly when you think about the spiritual implication!
Pro 6:16-17 (KJV) These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: [17] A proud look, A LYING TONGUE…
Joh 8:44 (KJV) Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
Notice the connection between lust and lies here!
Say with me, I am of God, and God is my father! I speak the truth at all times and I have a honest heart!
This is How to Be Honest With Your Spouse. Have a great day and may your week be blessed!
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We have a great time yesterday on the Singles’ hub and Couples’ hub! The compilation will be available soon!
The Hidden Benefits of Affection. The word “affection” naturally comes across as something tender, desirable, and with an air of fondness. I remember back then in high school when you use the word “affectionate” for a girl, you really love that girl.
You can’t be in love with someone without being affectionate, but you can be affectionate without being in love!
We have been looking at ten qualities that all singles and couples will need in their relationship or marriage!
Trust
Communication
Respect
Love
Affection
Honesty
Understanding
Cooperation
Commitment
Fun
Today we are looking at the next one which is “Affection!” The Hidden Benefits of Affection
Before I go on, a quick announcement. Today is that exciting weekly meeting for singles and married on WhatsApp!
Below are details of the meeting, kindly help us send fliers and community links to as many as you can so we can reach more people! Last week, was such a blessing from the feedback we got! And guess what? I will personally be taking both singles and couples’ sessions respectively. Below the page, you will see a youtube link to last week’s edition.
Find details and materials below:
SINGLES HUB
Topic: Let’s Talk About Sex Venue: WhatsApp Singles Hub Time: 7.00pm Community link:http://bit.ly/3VSuXpY Right Click on the Image to download and spread the word.
COUPLES HUB
Topic: Sex in Marriage: Learning from the Prostitutes Venue: WhatsApp Couples’ Hub Time: 9.00pm Community link:http://bit.ly/3VSuXpY Right Click on the Image to download and spread the word.
Back to our devotional. The Hidden Benefits of Affection
We looked at love yesterday. Is there a difference? Yes, there is. Love is very deep and it’s a commitment. Love is at the very foundation of any successful relationship and marriage.
However, affection can be described as love displayed. Affection is the resulting feeling arising from love.
For example, you should not fall in love with a same-sex, as you fall in love with your spouse, but it is possible to have affection towards the same sex. You can also have affection for siblings and parents. See an example
2Pe 1:7 (AMPC) And in [exercising] godliness [develop] brotherly affection, and in [exercising] brotherly affection [develop] Christian love.
Now bringing this into our relationship and marriage, we are supposed to have affection for our fiancé or spouse!
Affection will help you demonstrate your love to your loved one.
Affection is a gentle feeling of fondness and likeness, caring and kindness towards your spouse.
So, notice here that affection is a behavioral display.
For example, a parent disciplining his child is showing love, even though the child can’t see any love because he doesn’t understand. It is called tough love. However, in other, for this discipline or reprimand to be effective, affection must be displayed in the midst of that tough love.
This is what couples have to understand.
I learned this too. There must be a melange of affection and tough love before correction can be effective.
Start showing affection by fondness, playing, gisting, talking, touching, hugging at every opportunity, smiling, and whatever you can do!
Affection is needed to keep the fire burning! These are some of The Hidden Benefits of Affection
Start today by asking your loved one to list five ways they want affection shown to them. Use REVIVE prayers below to pray Affection into your marriage.
Am I In Love Or Not? Love is so powerful in its attributes, sacrifice, indescribable kindness, and benevolence that God adopted it as His nomenclature.
There are different kinds of love, Eros, Philos, and Agape. Agape is the unconditional love upon which marriage is based. Only this unconditional love can guarantee a marriage that will last. In another way, you can also say there is lust, passion, and commitment.
Why is agape or unconditional love the ultimate? It is so simple, the frailty of man will ensure that your partner will often offend you or step on your toes, sometimes deliberately, sometimes ignorantly and sometimes to prove a point. It takes Agape to keep forgiving.
We started looking at ten qualities that should be in every relationship some days back.
1. Trust 2. Communication 3. Respect 4. Love 5. Affection 6. Honesty 7. Understanding 8. Cooperation 9. Commitment 10. Fun
Today, we continue with the next which is Love
Am I In Love Or Not? How do you even love?
I will attempt, in an inexhaustive way to highlight some qualities that show love and that do not show love. This will go for singles and married except in a few cases, which will be noted.
Am I In Love Or Not?
Pray for each other
Do you pray for that loved one? Do you pray rather than condemn? Your deep-seated love will often be expressed in committing that loved one regularly to God. You become each other’s intercessor and genuinely watch out for one another. When you forget to pray or you don’t even pray for your loved one, that love needs “servicing!”
Am I In Love Or Not?
Pay for each other
Love gives! The one you love is really the one you want to spend for, sometimes at your expense! Love is so much interested in making the other person comfortable. Do you say you love that person and you never bought anything for them? Your love is in doubt nine, not cloud nine!
Am I In Love Or Not?
Play with each other
Love wants to stay in fun with that loved one. Love wants to talk, gist, play, laugh together and spend time with each other. When you detest communication, when you hardly laugh, when you claim loneliness right in the midst of your loved one, that love is contaminated, that love has been compromised and that love has been negotiated.
When last did you laugh together? That is one of the expressions of deep-seated love. That childish, innocent, hard belly laugh, till some drop of tear come out of the corner of your eye! That is love.
1Co 13:4-8 (MSG) [4] Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, [5] Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, [6] Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, [7] Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. [8] Love never dies.
Signs there is no more love
Am I In Love Or Not?
The butterflies are no longer found
When the wings of the butterflies have been broken, their jokes that used to make you reel in laughter now irritate you. The once-creative jokes are now dumb and stupid. Love has flown away to a far far land!
Am I In Love Or Not?
When the bedroom fire dies
For couples, sex used to be explosive and satisfying, but now you could be reading a novel while at it. The love is evaporated.
For singles, when it is all about sex, with some sprinkles of manipulation that “there is nothing wrong, everybody is doing it” then you know that it is not based on love, but on sex and such relationships will not last.
3. When love is based on money
This love can’t endure. What happens when he or she goes broke? Love evaporates.
Heb 13:5 (CEV) Don’t fall in love with money. Be satisfied with what you have. The Lord has promised that he will not leave us or desert us.
There are more but I will stop here this morning! Use REVIVE prayers below to intercede true love back into your relationship and marriage.
Respect Can Turn Your Marriage Around. Relationships and marriages thrive because those involved are deliberate. Nothing just happens, as Bishop T.D. Jakes would always say. There is always cause and effect A dating and courtship situation doesn’t just morph into marriage like in a painting with strokes of the brush. A good marriage is not automatic.
We started looking at ten qualities that should be in every relationship
1. Trust 2. Communication 3. Respect 4. Love 5. Affection 6. Honesty 7. Understanding 8. Cooperation 9. Commitment 10. Fun
Yesterday we looked at the first two. Today, we continue with the next!
3. Respect
Respect Can Turn Your Marriage Around. Mutual respect is key in every marriage! I usually tell singles, that man that they can’t respect is the man they should never marry!
Respect should be both ways in marriage, but respect is more of an issue for the man!
Do you know when you respect your spouse, you won’t dabble in emotional affairs, not to talk of full-blown affairs?
It is disrespect to your spouse and the marriage covenant, and ultimately to God when you harbour, nurse, and pursue feelings, leading to affairs with anybody aside from your spouse!
Heb 13:4 (CEV) Have respect for marriage. Always be faithful to your partner, because God will punish anyone who is immoral or unfaithful in marriage.
Some ladies have perennial issues in marriage because they simply don’t understand what respect is in marriage.
They were never taught growing up. All they watched growing up is parents fighting and mum talking down at dad every time.
The modeling they saw growing up becomes tattooed in their brain and they unwittingly treat their husband even worse. They come into the marriage with attitudes, always defensive and unable to cooperate in marriage. Within, they struggle and feel that cooperating, adapting, and submitting to one’s is servitude or stupidity.
Conversely, some husbands are also unable to respect their wives. All they observed growing up is dad ordering mum around like a slave. All they saw was dad barking out instructions and sometimes “decking” mum with fatherly blows!
They come into marriage, with that notion. God help them if they marry a wife who is equally stubborn and recalcitrant! That marriage will not last!
The only hope then is a renewal of mind from the scriptures! Respect Can Turn Your Marriage Around
Both parties have to follow the word. They have to die to themselves! They have to be “stupid” for things to work sometimes.
It is not every statement that must be replied to. It is not every angry word you match fire for fire. That is why the Scripture says
Pro 15:1 (MSG) A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
It is not every utterance you must meditate on and expand till it explodes your relationship and marriage!
Let me stop here this morning! I will continue tomorrow. Use REVIVE video below to pray on what you’ve just read! Good morning!
