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Am I In Love Or Not? Love is so powerful in its attributes, sacrifice, indescribable kindness, and benevolence that God adopted it as His nomenclature.

There are different kinds of love, Eros, Philos, and Agape. Agape is the unconditional love upon which marriage is based. Only this unconditional love can guarantee a marriage that will last. In another way, you can also say there is lust, passion, and commitment.

Why is agape or unconditional love the ultimate? It is so simple, the frailty of man will ensure that your partner will often offend you or step on your toes, sometimes deliberately, sometimes ignorantly and sometimes to prove a point. It takes Agape to keep forgiving.

We started looking at ten qualities that should be in every relationship some days back.

1. Trust 
2. Communication 
3. Respect 
4. Love 
5. Affection 
6. Honesty 
7. Understanding 
8. Cooperation 
9. Commitment 
10. Fun

Today, we continue with the next which is Love

Am I In Love Or Not? How do you even love?

I will attempt, in an inexhaustive way to highlight some qualities that show love and that do not show love. This will go for singles and married except in a few cases, which will be noted.

Am I In Love Or Not?

  1. Pray for each other 

Do you pray for that loved one? Do you pray rather than condemn? Your deep-seated love will often be expressed in committing that loved one regularly to God. You become each other’s intercessor and genuinely watch out for one another. When you forget to pray or you don’t even pray for your loved one, that love needs “servicing!”

Am I In Love Or Not?

  1. Pay for each other

Love gives! The one you love is really the one you want to spend for, sometimes at your expense! Love is so much interested in making the other person comfortable. Do you say you love that person and you never bought anything for them? Your love is in doubt nine, not cloud nine! 

Am I In Love Or Not?

  1. Play with each other

Love wants to stay in fun with that loved one. Love wants to talk, gist, play, laugh together and spend time with each other. When you detest communication, when you hardly laugh, when you claim loneliness right in the midst of your loved one, that love is contaminated, that love has been compromised and that love has been negotiated. 

When last did you laugh together? That is one of the expressions of deep-seated love. That childish, innocent, hard belly laugh, till some drop of tear come out of the corner of your eye! That is love.

1Co 13:4-8 (MSG)
[4] Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, [5] Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, [6] Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, [7] Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. [8] Love never dies.

Signs there is no more love

Am I In Love Or Not?

  1. The butterflies are no longer found

When the wings of the butterflies have been broken, their jokes that used to make you reel in laughter now irritate you. The once-creative jokes are now dumb and stupid. Love has flown away to a far far land! 

Am I In Love Or Not?

  1. When the bedroom fire dies

For couples, sex used to be explosive and satisfying, but now you could be reading a novel while at it. The love is evaporated. 

For singles, when it is all about sex, with some sprinkles of manipulation that “there is nothing wrong, everybody is doing it” then you know that it is not based on love, but on sex and such relationships will not last. 

3. When love is based on money

This love can’t endure. What happens when he or she goes broke? Love evaporates.

Heb 13:5 (CEV)
Don’t fall in love with money. Be satisfied with what you have. The Lord has promised that he will not leave us or desert us.

There are more but I will stop here this morning! Use REVIVE prayers below to intercede true love back into your relationship and marriage. 


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