How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
Everything will work out for your benefit.
Stop the regret bile by wiping your tears. Since you love God and are in His will, all things will work together for good, according to the Lord’s word.
Despite all the demands, you refused to compromise and remained true to His will, yet it still did not happen. Listen, it is genuinely occurring, you simply are not seeing it.
God’s invisible arm is hard at work behind the scenes, manipulating events and coincidences to work in your favor.
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” (Rom 8:28, KJV
You can never lose when you believe in God!
How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
2. Forget about the past.
“Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history.” (Isa 43:18, MSG)
You were, indeed, dumped. You were, indeed, abandoned. Indeed, you believed, but it did not occur, and so forth.
God refers to them as “old history!” Because that is exactly what they are. What God is going to perform in your life will erase every unpleasant event!
Forget them, abandon them, and quit obsessing about what didn’t work. Keep an eye out for what is going to happen and allow your trust to be renewed in Him, who is faithful, capable, and will never disappoint!
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How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
3. Look, I’m trying something new.
“Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.” (Isa 43:19, KJV)
Yes, something new is happening to you! Believe it!
You must be vigilant. This is not the moment to respond with “absent!” Now is not the time to give up your devotionals or quit attending church.
It’s bursting at the seams! Do you not see it? There you have it! That is occurring right now for you!
How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
4. Seek Him through fasting and prayer.
“If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” (2Ch 7:14, KJV)
As you fast, get ready for yokes to be broken and burdens to be lifted. God said He will hear you from heaven, He will forgive you your sins and there will be healing.
It is time to get the title deed for everything you are believing God for in the next year!
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How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
5. Never stop believing
“When everything was hopeless, Abraham believed anyway, deciding to live not on the basis of what he saw he couldn’t do but on what God said he would do. And so he was made father of a multitude of peoples. God himself said to him, “You’re going to have a big family, Abraham!”” (Rom 4:18, MSG)
The devil may flood your intellect with doubts, but never allow them enter your heart.
Remember what Jesus said: “To him who believes, all things are possible.”
How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
6. Don’t ever get weary in giving!
“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” (Gal 6:9, KJV)
Some of the things you should never stop doing are giving, honouring God with your substance, supporting God’s work, and paying your tithe.
That scripture says there is a due season and that you will REAP if you FAINT NOT!
The key is not to get tired of giving. When you faint, you pass out! Then, the harvest is missed! That will not be your portion. Keep giving, keep honoring God.
6. Rejoice and again I say unto you, rejoice
“Rejoice in the Lord always [ delight, gladden yourselves in Him ]; again I say, Rejoice!
Rejoice, God’s people, no matter where you are right now. Rejoice in the fact that you are still alive. Listen, there are many people who married and then died!
The greatest gift is life itself. Your miracle will occur while you are still living. That door will swing open. You’ll get the job. Heaven will open its doors to you. Destiny’s helpers will appear for you. You will be remembered. His word over your life will come true!
Celebrate because your future is bright! It’s so brilliant right now that I need sunglasses to see it!
Continue to rejoice. And then there will be true joy. Blessed be the Lord’s name!
We, as a nation, have had many presidents and commanders-in-chief over the last few years. Each one is unique in personality, but also shares certain characteristics which make them who they are today. These characteristics are what make us love or maybe even hate certain presidents. Who knows, perhaps history will find one of these qualities in our next president?
A presidential candidate should be smart, strong, and charismatic. These are a few qualities you should look for in your ideal president.
10 Qualities of Your Ideal Presidential Candidate
Smart You want your next president to be intelligent and have an encyclopedic knowledge of the world. He or she will need to be able to think quickly on their feet and come up with solutions that others may not have thought of. They will also have to understand complex issues like global warming, terrorism, the economy, and more.
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Strong Your president must be strong enough to face any challenge head-on, even if it means standing up against his own party. He or she must also possess patience and persistence when dealing with problems that may take months or years to resolve. He must be healthy, agile, and quick-witted.
Charismatic You want someone who exudes confidence and charisma when speaking with the public, as well as being able to connect with people from all walks of life. Your next president must also inspire hope through their words and actions so that Nigerians will continue working hard for their country’s future.
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10 Qualities of Your Ideal Presidential Candidate
The following 10 traits are representative of the most important qualities in a good candidate.
1. He is sincere and authentic. He is not a rogue or criminal.
2. He is inspirational and has a vision. He knows where he is going and what he wants to do
3. He can inspire others with his sheer presence.
4. He has grit and perseverance
5. He can overcome adversity and obstacles that stand in his way
10 Qualities of Your Ideal Presidential Candidate
6. He is organized and strategic
7. He is respectful of others’ opinions and ideas
8. He is comfortable in his own skin so that he can relate to others’ situations on a personal level (and thus gain their trust)
9. He leads with integrity, honesty, and character so that he never compromises his principles or values for political gain or personal gain
10. He is principled, fair-minded, honest, humble, and compassionate
So go out there and vote for the above! May God help us all today and help us to choose a man after his heart!
Who are you going to vote for? There are three top contenders, namely Tinubu, Atiku and Obi.
Tinubu, is the old guard, experienced, a crazy war chest of resources, underestimate him at your own risk. He probably understands “Nigerian politics” more than them all. He is also probably the only political mentor who contested with his mentees at the primaries! He is the undisputable kingmaker who now wants to be king! The originator of “Emilokan”
Atiku is the former vice president, who has been contesting for years to have a bite at the Number one spot at Aso Rock but has been unlucky so far. His influence comes mostly from the core North. He is a serial presidential aspirant for many years.
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Obi, though over sixty, is the youngest of them all. He is the new kid in town, the outsider, who has gained incredible traction among those who are tired of the mainstream political parties. He is never to be underestimated, because never in the history of Nigeria has there been renewed hope through the possibility of his emergence as the president of Nigeria. He is the leader of the “obedient” and many of our Eastern brothers believe it’s their time. However, his support goes beyond the east, surprisingly.
So Pastor, who should I vote for?
The entire populace is separated into these three major groups, and they are divided emotionally and politically as well.
Whom you vote for or who receives the most votes will be elected President of Nigeria.
Perhaps, this would also be the election in which vote buying will be mostly minimized, as occasioned by the present cash crunch in the country. Hopefully, things will get better from next week. This also seems to be that election where the three top politicians have no godfathers!
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This Is Who You Should Vote For
Whoever we decide mostly for will be foisted over more than 200 Million people!
His policies will be given due consideration! He will make the decision for us. He will be in charge of us.
His views and policies will either whittle us away or build us up. His intelligence and cognitive habits will limit us or cause us to fly.
He will make the decision for us. He will append his signatures to either benefit or harm us and future generations!
Who is that person that will not sell us? Who is that person that will not betray us? Who is that person who is truly a servant leader among them? Think deeply.
This Is Who You Should Vote For
Think before you vote!
Who you vote for has authority over your life through the policies and choices made at the national level.
Rom 6:12 (MSG) That means you must not give sin a vote…
Whoever you give the vote for will rule over you.
Vote your conscience. Vote for integrity. Do not vote tribe. Do not vote for regions. Vote competence.
Who is likely to get there with a mission not to steal, amass wealth and rob us blind? Who has the least corruption issues? Who is the shrewd one?
God knows all things, but who is likely to be fit in the next eight years? Who will you likely be proud of as your president in another eight years?
Unraveling The Economy of Sealed Things. There are sealed things concerning your relationship and marriage!
The attendant puzzles and enigmas that surround your relationship and your marriage are not hidden from you but for you!
These things are sealed, and they are not stumbled upon, nay, they must be pressed into and tinkered with in a deliberate pursuit of the divine!
Many are befuddled because they are laid back in the things of God, just barely scratching the surface and never diving into the deep!
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Unraveling The Economy of Sealed Things
There are sealed things! These sealed things hold the key to the next phase of your life, the specific instruction surrounding your destiny activation are encapsulated in the seal!
The seal has to be broken!
Just like the woman cannot bear children or be fruitful until her seal is broken, ideally by the husband within holy matrimony, there are some levels of fruitfulness that would never be engaged until you learn to break the seal in the place of prayers and worship!
Rev 6:3 (KJV) And when he had opened the second seal, I heard the second beast say, Come and see.
There are things you will never see until the seal is opened.
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Unraveling The Economy of Sealed Things
Perhaps, the misunderstandings and puzzles that have attended your relationship or marriage are “attention getters” to draw you into the place where seals are opened!
Perhaps, the misbehaviors of your fiancee or your spouse will remain a perpetual frustration until you learn to open the seal with your worship and prayer!
The seals are never opened with strife, fights, trivialities, and frivolities!
They can only be opened by the deliberate pursuit of the divine, that the humane may find his expression within the bracket of that which is written in the seal.
Without the seal opened, the equation is incomplete, the relationship and marriage become experimental and guinea pigs are made out of humans!
Will you pay the price to open the seal? To know why they don’t get married early in your family? To know why there is delayed childbirth? To know why there seems to be a limit on prosperity? To know why the women in the family never stay long enough with their husbands?
These things are sealed for you, not from you and each seal opened is a victory attained, not only for you but for you, your spouse, your children, and generations locked within your laps!
I challenge you this day, separate, and begin to lactate in the milk of the word, press further till you begin to masticate the meat of the word, and be drawn further into the chambers of God where you can begin to open to seals of relationship and marriage!
Are you willing to open the seals? Get into deep prayers and worship over that issue!
Physical love, such as hugs, kisses, and holding hands, is highly valued by many women. Take the time to show her how much you care with simple acts of devotion. Non-sexual touches can be powerful and will communicate that it’s not only sex you want.
On the other hand, singles are to refrain from unnecessarily touching one another as this will continually graduate. There is a law of progression as it relates to sex that states what you did the last time will not satisfy you the next time you meet. So, singles are to deliberately draw boundaries in their relationships and put their bodies under them!
Learn to lovingly grab her hand, embrace her, and tell her you love her!
Three Foolproof Tips To Make Her Feel Special
2. Don’t be Boring, Keep The Surprise Button On!
Surprising your wife with kind gestures, such as organizing a date night, giving her flowers, or making her favorite meal. These are great ways to show her you care. That demonstrates that you care and you are prepared to go out of your way to make her happy.
Everyone enjoys surprises, even singles. Plan surprise gestures to show her your affection, without looking out for sex, which is usually the goal of most singles.
We must forget that a relationship that is sex driven is already being established on a faulty foundation, and there is no way that marriage will not be shaky at the end of the day!
Three Foolproof Tips To Make Her Feel Special
3. Offer a Helping Hand at Home!
Give assistance: Your wife is most likely juggling several duties, such as job, housework, and kid care. Offer to assist her with things that will lessen her load, such as cleaning the dishes, food shopping, or transporting the children to school. Little gestures like these may go a long way toward making your wife feel appreciated and valued.
As singles, help out with academics, careers, and in many other ways. She doesn’t need your help on the bed yet! Get that clear.
Curses do exist. But, the freedom from curses is far more genuine! While the devil is bad, God is loving.
We have been freed from the curses of the law because of the death and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ. We now have freedom. You shouldn’t let the devil rule over you once more!
Gal 3:13-14 MSG Christ redeemed us from that self-defeating, cursed life by absorbing it completely into himself. Do you remember the Scripture that says, “Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree”? That is what happened when Jesus was nailed to the Cross: He became a curse, and at the same time dissolved the curse.And now, because of that, the air is cleared and we can see that Abraham’s blessing is present and available for non-Jews, too. We are all able to receive God’s life, his Spirit, in and with us by believing–just the way Abraham received it.
More Errors About Love And Marriage
5. I’m not required to get hooked. I can simply have a few children and get on with my life.
Something is lacking when you think like this. Such thoughts are contrary to God’s order and standards.
A person who claims he or she does not need marriage but still sleeps around is attempting to obtain the benefits of marriage without the obligations that come with it. That would be immoral. That is not God’s purpose, and you can guess what the children raised in such circumstances will become.
More Errors About Love And Marriage
6. I can’t see God’s love me. He doesn’t love me.
You will never be forgotten by God. God will never abandon you.
“But Zion said, The LORD hath forsaken me, and my Lord hath forgotten me. Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.” (Isa 49:14-16, KJV)
I love Amplified Version of verse 16
“Behold, I have indelibly imprinted (tattooed a picture of) you on the palm of each of My hands; [ O Zion ] your walls are continually before Me.” (Isa 49:16, AMP)
Your image is inscribed on the palms of God’s hands, not just one, but both.
Trust in His affection. React to His love, and you will perceive His love more clearly. By obedience, you react to God’s love. Obedience to God increases God’s love and compassion in your life.
May you experience God’s love in a unique way, one that is tailored to your specific needs, one that turns your tears into laughter, one that turns your trials into testimonies, one that ministers specifically to your heart, one that melts away all doubts and replaces them with an assurance of His love!
1. I am not married because I am not beautiful You see, everyone perceives beauty differently. You will be gorgeous to your partner no matter how you appear when you first meet. Why do you believe you lack beauty? It’s most likely because you heard that from certain folks. Yes, that is what they believe. Regardless of how you appear, someone will soon compliment you on how lovely you are
Psa 139:14 KJV I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You will be fearful (ugly) to some and you will be wonderful (beautiful) to others!
When you meet your spouse, you will be beautiful.
Erroneous Ideas About Marriage
2. Due to my previous transgressions, God is punishing me.
God never uses the past to predict the future. Let’s examine the text of the Bible.
Heb 10:17 KJV And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more.
Not only will God pardon you, but He will also forget about it. He would remove it from His files. And pay attention to what I say: Don’t let the devil, who accuses your fellow Christians, hold you back from what God has pardoned and forgotten.
Here is what The Message translation says:
Heb 10:17 MSG He concludes, I’ll forever wipe the slate clean of their sins.
Don’t let the devil add anything more to what God has already said. Allow no one to insert a comma where God has placed a full stop.
Erroneous Ideas About Marriage
3. A woman can never surrender to her husband in a successful manner.
God commands women to submit to their husbands; it is not up for discussion. You will enter a season of unimaginable favor, an explosion of creativity, and the fullness of God’s blessings over your life when you submit to your husband. Why? because you are following God, despite the difficulty.
1Pe 3:1-2 AMP (1) IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,
(2) When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].
Cracking the Code: What Every Woman Wants. Someone once said that the most complex being God created is a woman. I’m not sure if I agree with that. I’ll let you draw your own conclusions and be the judge. People’s perspectives may differ based on their own experiences.
Every woman, in my opinion, possesses a key. And you don’t have to look for every woman’s keys. You only need one key, which belongs to your spouse! That’s all there is to it.
You’re set once you have that key. This key is not intended to be used to manipulate her emotions in such a way that you become the puppet master with all the strings.
We’re talking about knowing the password of your wife /fiancee and learning it, using it to please her, and seeking to understand the great help that God is or has brought into your life.
Our culture or environment may lead us to believe that marrying a woman benefits her, but this is not the case.
You find good and bring favor into your life when you find a woman. Good things will start to accumulate in your life!
That’s why I usually say to people, “You will not Shi-Marry!” Good prayer, bad English! Because good things will happen to you if you marry the right woman.
Cracking the Code: What Every Woman Wants
1. Every day, pray for or with her.
That is extremely important.
Thank God for your phonetics, but if you don’t know how to speak in tongues, you’re not prepared to face and overcome the challenges of raising a family.
Thank God for your bank account, but if you are spiritually bankrupt and unable to lead your family as a priest, trouble is on the way.
Cracking the Code: What Every Woman Wants
2. Tell her “I love you” on a regular basis, many times daily.
How is this on the list? That is extremely important to every woman. Women experience a wide range of complex emotions, which are frequently accompanied by self-esteem issues; they simply needed to be affirmed over and over again, especially by the one they love!
Allow no one outside to assist you in complementing your wife, lest she becomes distracted. How long do I have to do it every day? Perhaps as often as you can. Do it whenever you have the chance.
Your wife is a wordsmith. Your fiancee is a wordsmith. As a result, women generally speak more than men. A typical man speaks ten thousand words, whereas the average woman does twenty-five thousand! Isn’t that enormous?
She enjoys being tickled by words. She may be acting as if she isn’t having fun, but she is. She has that attitude because she wants more.
So when you tell her, “I love you,” she understands. She says, hmm…as if she doubts you. In reality, she doesn’t want you to stop, and she wants you to do it again.
I advise women whose husbands have hung the words “I love you” and tucked them away in some dormant closet to reawaken the experience by telling them constantly “I love you.” You want it, but it isn’t coming, so you give it to him often, and sow it as a seed, and you will eventually reap it! I will continue on this.
8 Reasons To Stop Stressing and Start Living. Bro. Zeru went on his knees without warning, smiling.
He slowly, romantically, took out a ring and proposed.
“Are you willing to marry me?
Sister Sube closed her eyes for a moment before landing a deafening slap on the poor brother’s face!
Sister Sube began.
“What have you been doing all this time? For all the endless vigils I had praying for a husband, for all the times I fasted, including dry fasts, for all the nights of desperation and depression wondering why God abandoned me, for all the times I thought I would never marry again because something was wrong with me, for all the times I nearly ended up with an unbeliever out of desperation, for all the times I thought I was not beautiful and something was wrong with me, for all the times I thought there was a generational curse and a warped lineage, take one more,” and with that, she gave him one more deafening slap!
Then she smiled. “My answer is Yes, I will marry you!”
By this time, Bro. Zeru didn’t know what to make of it, whether to cry or laugh.
Sister Sube pulled him up and gave him a hug. I love you too and I will marry you!”
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That story is humorous, but it also illustrates what waiting singles go through in their bid to get married.
But I want to tell you something this morning: Stop worrying!
Actually, when you worry, you are out of faith! That is why Jesus said
“Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met. “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.” (Mat 6:33-34, MSG)
Here are eight reasons why you should stop worrying as singles and couples
8 Reasons To Stop Stressing and Start Living
1. Your spouse is alive, breathing, and probably praying to meet you as well. It is not as if he or she is just about to be born. Rest in God’s arms, that He will cause your paths to cross.
Couples, stop worrying about how things will turn out. You are now married. God has you covered.
2. Your marriage is in the future, but it is in God’s past. In God, it already happened. It is a live match for you, but for God, it is a replay! It has happened. Have faith in its manifestation and stop worrying.
Couples, God provided before you began. Learn to stay in faith and enter into rest in Him.
3. Worry adds nothing to you except anxiety, depression and doubt in God’s promises. So don’t weary yourself unnecessarily.
Couples, enjoy your marriage rather than endure one another.
4. No matter how many weddings take place daily, nobody can marry your spouse! That is the reality! So, relax in God’s promise. It will happen!
Couples, stay faithful to one another. Trust God to keep you together.
5. In God, your wedding is never late, it actually becomes the latest in town. When you are in God’s season and timing, you are never late because God has a purpose for everything.
6. The Lord is your shepherd. He will not lead you wrong. A sheep never worries. Not once! He only follows!
And even after the wedding, you keep following Him. He has the blueprint!
7. God will not bring you to the place of birth and not cause you to bring forth. In the same way, God will not bring you to the place of marriage and not cause a spouse to show up! Believe that!
And God will not bring you together and deny you of fruitfulness. He has it all figured out!
8. God is more concerned than you are concerned. It is just your ability to key into that faith and judge God faithful over your marital life.
The same goes for those who are already married.
Whatever you are trusting God for, business breakthroughs, the fruit of the womb, and more, they are in God’s past. They are already done!
I want you to stop worrying and step into faith. Faith is a realm of possibilities. Great things happen there! Trust God for the best.
8 Reasons To Stop Stressing and Start Living
He has not left you nor abandoned you. The devil wants you to believe that, but the devil is always a liar.
God has you in mind. He has it all planned out!
Let me conclude with this scripture:
“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” (Jer 29:11, MSG)
God knows what He is doing. The man may be confused, but believe me, God is not confused about your life. God knows what He is doing! He has it all planned out!
Rest in that. No more worries! Rest in His plan. Something great is working out for you. Believe it and you will see its manifestation! It is well with you!
I see God bringing you into the reality of His plans for you. I see God bringing speed into your life. I see a new day for you! Believe it and you will see the hand of the Lord!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married Let’s talk to the singles first! Flee Fornication! To flee means “to run away as in terror!” Where God asked you to run, don’t say “Let’s reason together! Run for your dear life!
It doesn’t matter if you are the head of the Prayer unit, that thing doesn’t respect your anointing! Just run. Before sex happens, you will always know, at least five minutes before. The voice is changing to bedroom voice, the room is becoming romantic, and you are all alone, staring into your eyes as if you have never seen each other before, you are smiling at each other sheepishly when nothing is funny, you are holding hands and goose pimples are appearing, and you are still sitting there saying you are in control? Dear son, dear daughter, you are already out of control. Things are about to fall apart where the center can no longer hold, and the next thing will be the arrow of God! So run!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Why would you visit him to spend the night? What were you thinking? Is his house a place for Night Vigils? or did he say his place is now a hotel?
The Scripture advises that you should not wake these hormones that are sleeping on their own!
Son 2:7 (KJV) I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.
Don’t indulge in oral sex either! How do you hold that thing in your mouth on Friday and still come to hold the Microphone on Sunday? Ha, fear God o! Stop poking at Grace!
I have said all of these to tell you, get back to God and consecrate your life all over gain. Get that fire back that you have lost in the place of compromise!
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Now, to the couples. Can you imagine? We are telling the couples, to do this thing o! We are telling singles, don’t do it! God will help us!
God desires that you have sexual pleasure as married couples! As in, have the most fun in that area! Some people believe they are more spiritual than God!
Let’s see what the scripture says!
“Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” Pro 5:19 (KJV)
Solomon is advising us in God’s word! That is, concentrate on your wife’s breasts rather than another man’s! When another woman’s breasts start winking at you, you’re moving toward adultery!
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe. Where? On the bed! Be thou ravished with her love! It means you should be in love with her.
Another translation can be found here.
“She is beautiful and graceful, just like a deer; you should be attracted to her and stay deeply in love.” Pro 5:19 (CEV)
Physical Intimacy For Singles and Married
Stay deeply in love with each other and keep your attention on each other. Stop letting unnecessary demonic squabbles ruin your sexual life! It is not safe for a man to be sexually starved due to quarrels, nor is it acceptable for a woman to be sexually neglected due to childish tantrums.
Forgive each other quickly and have fun sexually!
It is a decision you should make as a couple!
Do not use sex to punish your husband, dear wife. It’s not going to work.
Do not ignore your wife in order to punish her, dear husband.
Make a decision to enjoy each other!
Have sex first, then settle your differences later. Singles, stop using sex to end quarrels! There will be too many quarrels, deliberately! If you know, you know!
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is? I attended Sanni Luba Nursery and Primary School. I can still remember our school Bus picking me up every morning, back in the seventies. The last four seats at the back of the Bus were a no-go area for us, we have been seriously warned by the grandma who accompanied the driver to pick students up. Why? There was a hole/opening on the floor of that bus at the back, and you could literally see the road beneath the bus and it sped off on the road. I remember taking a look at that hole and wondering as a four-year-old what would happen if somebody jumped inside the hole while the bus was speeding!
My little mind simply imagined that if I jumped inside, I would cry and then they will quickly pick me up. I imagined that every day while summoning courage to do it one day! Thank God there was no opportunity to try that. The grandma sat just before the hole in the bus, preventing any adventurous kid from experimenting.
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
One of the foremost lullabies we learned in school is Twinkle twinkle little star by Jane Taylor.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star, How I wonder what you are Up above the world so high, Like a diamond in the sky Twinkle, twinkle little star, How I wonder what you are
To many of us, God is like the twinkle, twinkle little star. We take a look at our situation and we simply wondered if God existed.
Up above the sky so high, I know you are there, but then I wonder who you are to me! We are not exactly mouthing this song, but our thought seems to be recapping the song in our hearts when we survey our situation.
How can God be there, and I am still single? As if singleness is a disease o! How can God be there and my spouse is treating me like this? Where is my spouse? Where is God? Where is my financial breakthrough? Where is God? Where is my admission to that school? Where is God? When will my wedding take place? Where is God?
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Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
Oh God, I really want to know you. Show yourself to me in my situation. Touch me, heal me, strengthen me, mend my broken heart, let me just know you are with me!
Well, if we are looking for God to show up in our situation, we don’t need to look too far away. Jesus Christ said, if you see me, you have seen God!
In other words, God is no longer like the mysterious twinkle, twinkle little star, He is no longer far away, He has shown Himself to us in the person of Jesus. Jesus is God personified.
Then, the next question of course is, where is Jesus Christ? He lived on earth about 2000 years ago, he was crucified, resurrected on the third day, and went back to heaven!
Back to square one! Jesus is as far away as God Himself! How do you beat that?
But we know Jesus is the Word! The Word is Jesus. How far away is Jesus? He is as far as His word. How far away is His word? It is as far as my heart and my mouth!
“But what saith it? The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach;” (Rom 10:8, KJV)
In a more pragmatic sense, I only need to locate Jesus by locating His word, and boom, I have God with me!
The word of God read regularly is like interfacing with divinity. It is knowing the mind of God for your relationship or marriage.
That word will give you wisdom. That word will give you direction. That word will fortify you and shield you. That word will keep you in the right direction. That word will keep you away from evil men and froward men who speak frowardly. That word will keep you safe from strange women who flatter with their mouths. That word will keep your relationship. That word will preserve your marriage.
Never be far from it. Let it be your companion. Let it be in your heart and then it will be in your mouth.
Twinkle Little Stars, How I Wonder Where God Is?
Your husband is in the word. Your wife is in the word. That which you are looking for lies in the word. That great marriage is right in the word. Your job is in the word. Your visa is in the word. Your breakthrough is in the word. Your healing is in the word. Your promotion is in the word.
Hold on to it. Embrace it. Bind it around your neck. Incline your ears unto it. Put it in your heart and fence it around. It will take you up, it will promote you, it will change that situation.
If I were you, I will dive into that word, like a desperate fisherman looking for some big fish, and I will search and search, seek and ponder, mediate and cogitate until I come up with a bounty that will translate to joy unspeakable in my situation! Good morning!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
6. You send out confusing signals to multiple people
You are lying when you pick up your phone and simultaneously send the identical “love” text to seven different people, proclaiming your love. You give the impression that you are evaluating their spiritual condition before dropping the bomb. I’ll give you an illustration.
“Hullo Sister Sube, I hope your time in service today was lovely. I know this because I could see God’s splendor shining on you. I’d want to meet with you whenever it’s convenient for you. Keep in mind that God loves you, and so do I!” Now you send this to about seven sisters and wait for the green lights, this is nothing more than lust!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
REVIVE CONVERSATIONS now holds on ZOOM!Drop all relationship /marital questions, issues, and troubles ANONYMOUSLY, or just vent and pour your heart out. We will respond and judge the situation together by 9.00pm (Tuesdays and Thursdays) – https://khcng.com/vent/
7. You truly hope that God will permit polygamy in your thoughts.
You mull it over and truly wish God will simply approve that clause. Even though David had multiple wives and God still loved him, you may be thinking that it is not a sin. When you think in this way, you are already swimming in lust rather than merely standing on the side of the pool. You should read your Bible more often.
8. You discover that you frequently have sex in your dreams mostly with faceless people
If you frequently have sexual dreams, there may be a connection between those dreams and your current thinking. Actually, there is a demonic problem there that needs to be resolved.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? Part 2
9. When conversing or given the chance, you love touching people of the opposing gender.
Simply put, you like “tapping current!” That could be a lust problem! As of the last time I looked, speaking should be done with the mouth, not the hands, so stop tapping your fingers constantly!
10. It’s challenging for you to reflect on God’s word.
Finally, you have trouble reflecting or meditating on God’s word. This is due to the fact that you cannot think about two things at once. God’s word is either present or not. In actuality, reflecting on God’s word is one of the quickest ways to clear your mind of bad thoughts. Over time, your mind will be refreshed if you immerse yourself in God’s word.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue? This is a good topic to discuss on Valentine day. Lust will be in the air. It will be so easy to compromise, so you want to be careful who you are with today. This is not the day to connect with an ex that you were sexually involved with in the past. This is not the day to attend a poolside party. Keep yourself and do not lose your testimony because of Valentine. The day will come and go!
How do you know if you have a problem with lust as it relates to sexuality? Here are some indications. The list is not exhaustive, but here are some indications garnered from counselling times.
Before I go on, kindly be reminded to drop all relationship and marital issues, questions, vent anonymously on khcng.com/vent
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
1. You always want to preach to the opposite gender
You have been reborn. You are God’s child. You even proclaim the word of God. However, you are always trying to preach to the opposing gender. You will always be discovered with ladies as a guy. It is even more difficult if you are already married. You are never led to men as though the Gospel is unnecessary for them. You may be dealing with lust without realizing it, and the devil is assisting you in covering it up with religion. On the surface, a person is filled with fire and passion to serve God, but beneath the surface, lust is raging and ready to erupt at the slightest provocation.
2. Your whole group of buddies is of the opposite gender.
Another sign is if all of your friends are of the opposite gender. There isn’t a single person that shares your gender as a friend. You should examine your heart and inquire as to why it is this way.
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
3. You enjoy romantic films and songs.
You are born again and serve God, but you also enjoy watching romance movies in an addictive manner. You explain yourself by saying, well, it’s not technically pornography, therefore you’re fine. However, those scenes would imprint on your mind and cause major problems later on. When God says to keep your eyes on His word and not on romance movies, He means it! You are simply living the lust vicariously through the characters in the movies.
4. You enjoy reading romance novels.
If you’ve been addicted to romantic novels, you may have a lust issue. Eventually, everything you’ve read will try to overwhelm you with your ideas and even give your life direction. You’ll almost want to go to the beach and wait for that lovely man to materialize out of nowhere, racing towards you in slow motion and sweeping you off your feet! Get up!
The Ultimate Checklist: Is There Lust Issue?
5. You enjoy speaking with others and occasionally disguise yourself.
There is a problem if you have been caught impersonating someone on social media. Impersonation allows you to say whatever you want without being identified as the perpetrator. If you enjoy chatting with attractive women or men and asking them out, you may have a significant lust issue.
Yes, we all make mistakes. There is no human who has never made a mistake. Nobody is perfect. The best of men is still stained with the frailties of life and carnality of the homo sapiens.
On the heels of our mistakes and errors, the devil comes up with lies. One such lie is that you will never be forgiven! He tells you that your sin is beyond redemption and that you will not be forgiven.
Well, you want to know the truth? There is no sin that is beyond redemption. The blood of Jesus is so powerful and precious that He will wipe your slate clean and make you appear before Jehovah as if you never committed a single sin! Wow!
Rom 8:3a (MSG) God went for the jugular when he sent his own Son. He didn’t deal with the problem as something remote and unimportant. In his Son, Jesus, he personally took on the human condition, entered the disordered mess of struggling humanity in order to set it right once and for all…
Unmasking Deceit: Lies of the Devil to Avoid
The devil will continue to beat into your head that there are some sins that God would not pardon. He will then use that guilt against you to make you feel weak and to make you question your prayers. This idea, however, is at odds with what the Bible teaches. The Bible describes a kind, compassionate God who longs to pardon and heal individuals who turn to Him. Those who seek God’s compassion and mercy will always find it, no matter how far they have wandered.
It’s simple to think that our crimes are too great for God to pardon, yet this isn’t the case. We can be delivered from the depths of our sin and brought into a true relationship with God because the blood of Jesus begs for mercy on our behalf. No such thing as “going too far” or “sinning too much” exists. The sacrifice of Jesus can atone for even the most serious sins.
Unmasking Deceit: Lies of the Devil to Avoid
Consider the professional prostitute Rahab, referred to in Hebrews 11 as Jesus’ great-grandmother. There is hope for everyone if she was able to accept forgiveness and be used by God. What about Saul, who was once God’s greatest enemy? He was able to turn to God and repent, and God powerfully used him as a result.
Therefore, if your sins seem overwhelming, remember that God’s mercy is even greater. He only demands that you turn to Him, repent of your transgressions, and ask for His pardon. He is prepared to pardon, heal, and rebuild you. Don’t buy into the myth that your sins are unforgivable. Instead, put your faith in the gospel’s veracity and discover freedom in God’s mercy and love.
Don’t allow any unnecessary guilt to slow you done in your relationship or marriage!
On Tuesday and Wednesday, we have a valentine’s program. If you are in Ibadan, you don’t want to miss it. Details are below the page.
Busting Myths in Marriage: Truths You Need to Know. A lair is only capable of lying. The devil is the originator of all lies. He had been lying all along till now. He gently plants these lies in our minds in an effort to get us to accept and trust them. When we do, we open a door for him and give him permission to enter and wreak havoc. You must firmly deny all of his fabrications and mischief! You must be aware of his tactics. Through your prayers and meditations, you must be vigilant at all times!
…When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it. ” (Joh 8:44b KJV)
Amplified Version says:
“When he speaks a falsehood, he speaks what is natural to him, for he is a liar [ himself ] and the father of lies and of all that is false.” (Joh 8:44, AMP)
Here’ s one of devil’s falsehoods that you must disregard! Don’t accept them. Don’t make room for them in your mind. Get rid of them. Discard them. Delete them entirely rather than merely placing them in the recycle bin!
Busting Myths in Marriage: Truths You Need to Know
That You were made for nothing!
We’ll look at this particular falsehood first this morning. Does it ring a bell? You are a biological mistake, your parents and friends don’t like you, and you are just there are some of the thoughts that occasionally cross your mind. You are simply floating there. You have nothing to contribute. You are not useful. You lack any talents.
Well, you must vehemently reject that voice because it is the voice of the evil one. Why? Because lying is the only thing the devil is capable of doing. He lacks the ability to tell the truth!
What do we see in the scripture?
“Before I shaped you in the womb, I knew all about you. Before you saw the light of day, I had holy plans for you: A prophet to the nations— that’s what I had in mind for you.” (Jer 1:5, MSG)
Here, the scripture helps us comprehend that there was a reason for creation. God previously fashioned into you everything you would need to accomplish your purpose before you were even conceived. To put it another way, you are a task. There is a fantastic goal you are packaged to achieve. To find it, you simply need to get closer to God. The world is waiting for a gift you possess.
Busting Myths in Marriage: Truths You Need to Know
Whose report are you going to trust? Make up your mind to trust the Lord’s report!
Tell the devil to leave your life the next time he rants that untruth! Do not believe his falsehoods! You must not let your bad emotions suffocate God’s purpose for you. Abandon those emotions!
As singles and married, the realization of this truth is needed for you to be secure in yourself in that relationship or marriage! This realization becomes an anchor in your soul and helps you to love and be loved in the right ways!
What To Do If Your Romantic Partner Turns Cold. One of the most frequent questions expressed by a number of folks I counsel is the one mentioned above. It’s possible to avoid having a spouse who is hot right now but frigid afterward.
He has changed, pastor.
“Pastor, I had no idea he was this way.”
“Pastor, he was a leader in the fellowship before we were married, but he no longer attends church anymore.”
“Pastor, he was so lovely when we were courting, but now he beats me up!
“Pastor, I never met him; our courtship was far away.”
And so it goes on and on.
What went wrong along the road, though?
2Pe 2:20-22 (MSG) If they’ve escaped from the slum of sin by experiencing our Master and Savior, Jesus Christ, and then slid back into that same old life again, they’re worse than if they had never left. [21] Better not to have started out on the straight road to God than to start out and then turn back, repudiating the experience and the holy command. [22] They prove the point of the proverbs, “A dog goes back to its own vomit,” and, “A scrubbed-up pig heads for the mud.”
There is nothing as frustrating as starting out on a romantic lane and winding up on a lifeless unromantic corner! Here are a few things to keep in mind.
What To Do If Your Romantic Partner Turns Cold
1. Meeting someone at church does not guarantee that he or she is a sincere child of God or that you will escape all problems in your marriage. On the other end, a person may be very spiritual and yet very unromantic! That a person has finished the Book of Romans does not mean they understand what romance is! Always seek advice before getting entangled with somebody. If you are married already, ensure you have your marriage under mentorship and accountability! This is important!
2. Learn everything you possibly can. Get marriage assistance and free Christian guidance online to avoid marital disaster. On Kisses & Huggs Club, for example, we give free Christian counsel for singles and married couples, and you may get marriage advice through our daily REVIVE Devotionals, Daily REVIVE Conversations, Daily REVIVE Prayers, and a variety of other online resources. Don’t go into a marriage clueless and believing anything!
The reason your spouse is not romantic is not that they are wicked. They simply just do not know how to! They never saw it growing up. Whatever was not modeled to them had to be learned deliberately! And that requires some effort in admittance and willingness to change!
3. As a marriage counselor for many years, I can confidently state that some people truly love the Lord, yet there is a reversal along the path. This could be due to a negative influence, a change in surroundings, or the pressure that comes with it. Many people want to be committed to their marriage and really be romantic, but wrong influences show up along the way! You want to choose your friends carefully and make sure they are on the same page as you because they will eventually influence you!
