21 Ways To Love Your Wife To the Fullest. The following is a list of 21 useful ways to show your wife that you love her.
1. Serve as the spiritual leader of your household. As a single brother, pray more than play!
2. Take responsibility for providing for your family.
3. Learn to communicate your love to your wife using her love language. Know her love language.
4. You should do everything in your power to learn to speak the love language of your wife.
5. Have a good understanding of the temperament of your wife.
21 Ways To Love Your Wife To the Fullest
6. Do not make a comparison between your wife and another woman. Comparison traps can be dangerous in any marriage.
7. Put in a lot of effort and don’t be a slacker.
8. Always act with honor and morality towards her, as singles in courtship or as married couples.
9. Strive to maintain a small circle of close and highly accountable pals, who also treat their wives or fiancees well.
10. Don’t overlook her birthday, anniversaries, or any other date that she may perceive to be significant or essential.
11. Remark on the efforts that she has made to make you pleased. Whether it be through her cooking, her presents, or her improved communication.
12. Schedule regular dinners or outings so that you can spend time together in private.
13. Obtain presents for her that she can put to personal use.
21 Ways To Love Your Wife To the Fullest
14. When she does things for you, you need to lovingly say a simple “thank you.” This does not elude sex as singles.
15. Even in the smallest of matters, you must not take her for granted. Honour her.
16. Because she is prone to being sensitive to words, you should be careful with the phrases and jokes you use around her.
17. Put her safety ahead of that of your friends, families, and everyone else in the world.
18. Honor and praise her in private and in public for the good qualities she possesses.
19. Have faith in the accomplishment of her goals and demonstrate in tangible ways that you are behind her and supportive of her endeavors.
20. Do everything in your power to demonstrate that you care about her health and happiness. Help her out by taking care of the children and the house so that she doesn’t have to worry about those things as much as she does.
Where Is The Virtue In My Lover? Many people enter relationships and marriage expecting the other partner to be loving and sweet with little expectation on their part.
They seem to indulge themselves in their weaknesses. We permit ourselves to still linger in our shortcomings, where we are still dealing with our flesh. We expect our partner to be a shoulder we can lean on and a support system to carry all our burdens.
We expect them to be our solution to every problem and to have answers to all our problems.
We expect them to understand us when we are naughty, moody, and unpleasant.
As all these expectations seem wonderful, the reality is that there is no human being capable of fitting into that mold.
The Godhead, that is God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit is the only perfect one that can fit into that mold.
The Bible rightly says in Proverb 20:6 the last phrase, a faithful man who can find?
Pro 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Your search for a faithful man is going to be a long search. The faithfulness of character, and diligence in all things, spiritual and natural comes only when we embrace the virtues of God. When God the Father becomes our father indeed, God the Son becomes our meditation day and night and the Holy Spirit becomes our greatest ally.
The Proverbs 31 Woman paints an incredible picture of a woman of virtue, strength, and character, which happens to be every man’s dream woman. Verse 30b seems to be the most important verse in the whole chapter. I think the whole chapter rests on this verse where the secret of Proverb 31 woman hinges.
Pro 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
The proverb 31 woman fears the Lord.
It is high time we begin to look inwards and begin to develop our own virtue by the fear of the Lord. Whether man or woman, God is the only guaranteed source of our virtue.
An omelet is not better than the eggs that make the omelet. Instead of putting pressure on the other party for performance, let us work at becoming virtuous ourselves. Let us work at being loving, caring, gentle, kind, forgiving, a person of the word and spirit.
Whether in a relationship or in marriage. Let us work at being that powerful person. That person that will be a positive influencer in the relationship and marriage.
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married. Break ups in relationships or divorce in marriage are not the best things to look forward to or desire to experience. God hates divorce! However, it happens to a few, even though that is not God’s best for His children.
After broken relationships, separation, or divorce, there will definitely be hurt, betrayal, pain, tears, regret, and heartache. But make up your mind to receive God’s help. Who is at fault is not the issue but getting healed from every hurt. In the name of Jesus, He will give you double for your trouble. God will compensate you so much, He will make you forget.
Here are 5 ways to handle your ‘Ex’ so you don’t become a bitter person but a better person.
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married
1. Accept the fact that the relationship has ended Some people may be in denial, hoping and praying something will happen. That something will happen is not your prerogative. It takes two committed people to sustain a relationship.
If your ‘Ex’ is not willing, you can’t change that. Don’t try to put a comma where a full stop already existed. Until you accept this fact you are not ready to move forward. You have to let go of the past so you can enter into the new. Even God had to recognize the death of Moses before Joshua can succeed him.
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married
2. Reduce all forms of communication to the barest minimum All forms of communication should be reduced totally. This will help you avoid double dating and cheating on your new lover. All visits, calls, chats, and texts should be cut off. Some people don’t want to be committed to you yet want to enjoy your company. Please don’t allow this.
They will only end up wasting your time, get you emotionally vulnerable, and then hurt you more. Don’t keep checking their Facebook status to catch up on what is happening in their lives. Don’t get jealous when you see them with someone else. Let your ‘Ex’ be. Don’t beg to be loved. Some relationships just can’t work.
Handling Your ‘Ex’ As Singles And Married
3. Learn from your past relationship The best revenge you can give the devil is to make up your mind to become better. Don’t let the devil have the last laugh. You might have been cheated or outsmarted, just learn from your past.
It takes two to tangle, so there would have been one or two mistakes you made. Don’t be in a rush to enter another relationship. Don’t try to prove any point.
You are not running a rat race nor are you competing with anyone. Go at God’s pace. Ask questions, what went wrong? What were the wrong choices I made? The questions are not to make you depressed but to make you wiser. Learn human behaviors and tendencies. Learn how not to treat a lover. Learn that ultimately it is only God that keeps and sustains a relationship. Learn that above all God should be top of your priority list.
For people who have been married once, divorce is never the best option for you. God doesn’t want it. But if it has happened, well, you have to trust God to move on, once all hope of reconciliation is out or when there is violence and abuse involved. In addition to what we mentioned above, the key to moving on here is forgiveness. Bitterness will crush you more, so get healed. Don’t use the children to fight back lest you plant bitterness in the heart as well.
I pray God will give you strength in Jesus’ name. Do all you can to fight for your marriage. The consequences of separation and divorce are not what anybody should go through.
I pray that my God will restore that which is lost and fill your mouth with laughter again in Jesus’ name
How To Handle Disagreements as singles and couples. Disagreements are part of courtship and marriage as much as the biscuit wrapper is a part of the package when you buy a biscuit. In the natural, we display common sense when we throw away the biscuit wrapper and enjoy the biscuit which is the most important thing.
The start of a quarrel is like a leak in a dam, so stop it before it bursts. (Pro 17:14, MSG)
In our courtship and marriage, disagreement will ensue at one point or another. It is wisdom and understanding knowing how to throw away the “wrapper” and enjoy each other’s companionship because two are better than one and one will chase one thousand but two shall put ten thousand to flight. The rewards and benefits of marriage and courtship are too great to allow trivial misunderstandings to rob us of these benefits.
Essentially, in marriage opposite will always attract. You were attracted to her in the first place because she is not like you. She is a woman, and you are a man, a whole world of difference. I and my husband are very different. He is a Choleric while I am a Phlegmatic. He is quick, fast, and decisive while I am not. I take my time, and process things first before doing things. We first had issues in courtship because we both wanted each other to be like each other. He wanted me to be fast and quick, I wanted him to take things easy. We are still very different, but now we have learned to accept, appreciate and celebrate our differences. We have decided not to major in the main.
We have learned to allow God to work in our marriage and use our unique differences to bring blessings into our home and ministry. This is one of the reasons why you cannot afford to marry an unbeliever. When you marry a believer God becomes the center of your relationship and He gives direction to your relationship.
Here are 5 practical steps that will help you in handling disagreements in your courtship and marriage.
How To Handle Disagreements.
1. Accept your partner’s difference
This is not about resorting to fate and condoling the weaknesses of your partner. It is an understanding based on the fact that you cannot change any man. You did not die for any man including your partner so allow his/her saviour to do the job of transforming them. Accept the fact that because you are from different backgrounds, your opinion and reasoning will not be the same on all issues of life.
How To Handle Disagreements.
2. Allow God’s word to be the continual judge and umpire of every disagreement
Always learn to handle disagreements by doing what the word of God says. One of the most basic fundamental principles of a successful marriage is” Husbands love your wife and wives submit and respect their own husbands”. So whatever the situation, always ask yourself, “ Am loving my wife or am I respecting my husband in this issue”. Following this golden rule will resolve any disagreement.
How To Handle Disagreements.
3. Grow in your relationship with God
The more we place emphasis on our relationship with God, the more our relationships with our fiance or fiancee, husband, or wife become better. This is because courtship and marriage require spiritual energy to make them successful. Once your priority is your walk with God and being led by God’s spirit, your relationship just enjoys the benefits of a spirit-controlled life. You know God is the greatest lover, He just teaches you how to love her better, and how to respect him more.
How To Handle Disagreements.
4. Don’t let things degenerate into strife
The ultimate aim of the devil is to get all disagreements to a point of strife, quarrels, abuse, fighting, and then what people now call irreconcilable differences. If you are a believer and you have the Holy Spirit, there are no irreconcilable differences, only differences you choose to make irreconcilable. Learn to forgive quickly and move on. Don’t allow the devil to fulfill his ministry of stealing, killing, and destroying in your relationship.
How To Handle Disagreements.
5. Be humble enough to see from your partner’s perspective
If you are not humble enough, you will be saying the same things, in different ways and yet you will not see it. It takes humility to see things from another person’s viewpoint. Don’t always insist on your own. It is pride to think your own way must always to the acceptable way. Be willing to allow your partner to have his/her way, especially if it’s not a matter of life and death. Even if it is, learn to talk to God about it, and allow Him to work things out. He always does a better job than you.
What Couples Know That Singles Don’t. Most singles anticipate marriage so much they fail to take time to adequately prepare themselves for the challenges ahead. The wrong mindset before entering into marriage and not correcting such mindset will lead to serious issues in marriage. It’s like when you want to enter a university. That feeling of, ‘yes, at last, now I am on my own, no more school uniforms, no more plaiting of the hair, no more principal, no more caging by teachers and parents, no more …. and the list goes on and on.
Really it’s a good feeling and a good place to be but there are also challenges. Rigors of day-to-day activities, missing the pleasures of home and the comfort of parents. There are also a lot of risks.
However, those that were well prepared and guided with a good mindset and remain responsible while in the university have great testimonies despite the challenges.
This morning I would like to encourage and prepare the hearts of our singles about marriage. What Couples Know That Singles Don’t
1. Marriage is hard work A lazy person spiritually, emotionally, financially, and physically may not be able to endure the rigors of marriage. As a lady, there is hard work in keeping your home, children, in-laws, and husband. Hard work in balancing personal life, with career, ministry, home, family, and husband. You become the managing director of the home and personal adviser to your kids and family on all affairs. As a mother you become everything from the cook, to the nurse to the children’s teacher, to the driver, in short, you become super and spider woman together. As a guy, hard work in being the spiritual, physical, financial, and emotional head of your family. Providing money is hard work. Ensuring you are a good leader and worthy example is also hard work.
What Couples Know That Singles Don’t
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2. Marriage is not just about feeling Marriage is about commitment and a decision to stick to a person you choose to live with till death do you part. Love includes feelings and feelings can be fickle. Situations affect our feelings. In marriage, you will not always feel loved nor will you feel like loving your spouse all the time. You will hurt and you will feel hurt.
3. Marriage is a lot of forgiveness. You need to start taking confessions now about being prompt to forgive. Jesus said we should forgive 70 multiplied by 70 times in a day. That’s such a high standard to follow, which we must meet up to.
4. Marriage is about the ability to stick it out through thick and thin. In marriage, we start from the lower rung of the ladder and keep going up. However, for some, the bottom of the ladder is really, really low. Whatever the bottom of the ladder is, we climb up. Remember, nobody climbs a ladder from the top.
What Couples Know That Singles Don’t
5. Marriage is first spiritual before it is physical It’s a terrible mistake to think your marriage is just physical. Remember, the source of a thing is the sustenance thereof. Marriage came from God so it takes God to sustain it. There are spiritual principles that sustain marriage if you will make a success of it. A lot of prayers, confessions, and spiritual warfare needs to be done. A lot of spiritual covering by mentors.
6. Marriage requires a lot of wisdom Wisdom is the principal thing, in all your getting, get understanding. As you are getting married, you also have to get wisdom. Wisdom is the engine of any successful marriage. Wisdom in knowing what to say, how, when, and why. Wisdom is knowing how to react. How to get what you what and not hurt your spouse.
What Couples Know That Singles Don’t
7. Marriage is balancing, the spiritual, physical, and emotional aspects together. All these three chambers of marriage have to be satisfied. There must be sexual satisfaction or fulfillment, emotional fulfillment, and physical and spiritual fulfillment. Maintaining this balance is not always easy but it must be achieved.
