by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Jul 20, 2022 | Singles
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Handling Doubts About Your Lover. This is Part 2
Doubts will come, as long as you are human. Even Jesus Christ experienced doubts. This happened at the garden of Gethsemane when he was overwhelmed by the pain and agony he would be going through.
So how do you prevent unnecessary doubts?
1 Be sure of God’s direction before you take a step
That way, when doubts arise, you will easily identify the source and then you can deal with it. You will know that the doubt is coming to fight you out of God’s will and you will resist it.
But when you are not sure whether it was God or not in the first place, when doubts arise along the way, you are unsure of how to handle it, because inner conviction is absent.
2 Don’t be a in a hurry in your romantic journey
Don’t be hasty. Don’t fall in love senselessly. Be responsible and surround yourself with good friends and mentors.
3 Do not lgnore authority figures in your life,
While they are not supposed to decide for you, God can often speak through them to warn you about steps you are about to take. Do not despise or disregard their wisdom.
4 Learn to read and study God’s word regularly.
It brings you the wisdom that stabilizes your soul.
Handling Doubts About Your Lover. The next question is what if I am already in doubt?
1. Go back to God to confirm what He said in the first place.
There is nothing wrong with hearing God again.
God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this (Psalms 62:11 KJV)
2. Take time to stay in God’s presence and you will hear Him again.
Sometimes you might have to fast to get your mind quiet.
3. Stay away from every sin.
Ask God to forgive you if you are hooked up with masturbation, pornography, pre-marital sex, or some other sexual perversion.\
5. Learn to pray together.
When you don’t pray, unnecessary issues will arise often and destabilize you.
The last question is how can I be sure a decision is of God?
When a decision you are about to take or have taken is of God, you will have peace. It is an unexplainable peace that doesn’t seem to line up with physical reality sometimes, but the peace will be there that tells you all is well. When this peace is absent, never go ahead with that decision. This is the way of Handling Doubts About Your Lover
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:7 KJV)
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have the peace of God. I am guided by God’s peace.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, let there be restoration of all that I have lost.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Php 4:7 (AMPC) And God’s peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Ask you lover pertinent question about the future.
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Phil 4
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Jul 19, 2022 | Singles
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How to handle doubts about your lover is a skill you need, to have a successful relationship. Emeka and Sandy are seeing each other, but there is a nagging feeling within her that brings doubts every time. She didn’t know what to do with the doubts.
What do you do with doubts? Doubts will always come. You can’t prevent it. I think the first question is “Why do doubts spring up in a relationship that is looking so promising?
There are several scenarios that can elicit doubts. Let’s take a look at some of them.
1. Doubts can come quickly to shatter the delicate glass of romance when your expectation of a lover are unrealistic and are not being met
2. When your lover is not God’s choice for you, God will allow the doubts to rush at you in order to get your attention.
3. Conversely, when the devil wants to dissuade you about your lover, he can bring doubts, his aim being to make you miss out on God’s plan for your marriage.
There are more ways to identify doubts in order to know how to handle doubts about your lover.
4. When there is sexual compromise, the beautiful romantic story God is writing can quickly become one with nasty twists and turns. This is what sin does, particularly sexual sins, it seeks to bring confusion to the soul.
5. When you rush into a relationship with a lover without duly seeking God’s direction, every events in the relationship will be a spring board of doubt, simply because you are not sure.
6. When you shift the responsibility of finding out God’s plan to some prophet or seer, doubt will arise along the way and you will quickly drift off, since there was never a personal conviction.
7. When all respected people and authority figures around you are against the choice of your lover, doubts, like bandits, are waiting and lurking in the next junction of romantic journey.
8. When storms arise, and winds blow, and dusts rise to blur the romantic journey, doubts can quickly emerge from within the turbulence.
After knowing How To Handle Doubts About Your Lover, the next question then will be “What do I do when these doubts come? How can I guard against unnecessary doubts? How can I be really sure?
This is where we will continue from tomorrow! Don’t miss it!
Tonight, Tue 19th July, we will be having School of Relationship and Marriage and Pastor Sophia and I will be teaching you! It will take place on YouTube. You can subscribe ahead and click on notification bell to know when we go live by 6.00pm. Use this link HERE
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will not doubt. I have God’s Spirit in me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will bring His wisdom to your life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Rom 8:14 (KJV) For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Ask God for wisdom
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Rom 8
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Jul 18, 2022 | Singles
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Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? I will be fifty this years old this year, and I tell you, a lot has taken place in the last few decades!
My wife and I were campus sweethearts, falling in love while in school and getting married while she was serving!
Things have changed rapidly over the years. They changed so fast and everybody in my generation witnessed the unveiling of another era. As a matter of fact, some people are still caught in the analog years as their brains refused to cooperate with the present realities.
I recall with nostalgia, how there were no smart phones, there was no Facebook, no Instagram, as a matter of fact there was no internet while I was in courtship with my wife.
Let me make it worse, there were no emails. The first time I heard the word, “e-mail” I had already graduated from the University and the fellow who told me wanted to charge me three thousand to create email for me! I gladly declined. I was not about to pay for something I couldn’t fathom!
Real Love Or Social Media Illusions? The present day singles are beleaguered with Social Media life and the pressure is intense.
From IG to TikTok, it’s a race to be relevant, to be an influencer and to make money!
Filled with all manner of sexually appealing content, the extent of unreal life can be overwhelming.
However, you are not going to live a social media life, you are not going to have a TikTok wife, and YouTube children. You are going to have a real human being as spouse and the reality goes beyond the world of social media. There is a difference between Real Love Or Social Media Illusions?
Take a look at the scripture:
Mat 6:2 (MSG) “When you do something for someone else, don’t call attention to yourself. You’ve seen them in action, I’m sure—’playactors’ I call them—treating prayer meeting and street corner alike as a stage, acting compassionate as long as someone is watching, playing to the crowds. They get applause, true, but that’s all they get.
Every time you seek attention and “likes” on social media as against pleasing God, you already got your reward for all you do! Every time you do stuffs for the sake of being noticed, you are defeating the original purpose.
It is important to take your root downward in God’s word, be an authentic person and be spiritual in your dealings with God and man!
Scrolling through a payer app, is not prayer, listening to a YouTube worship is not practicing God’s presence, and so on and so forth!
Learn to drop the phones for a while and be spiritually authentic! Connect with God. When the chips are down, TikTok or IG would be unable to cast out a demon!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I value God and his word. I prioritise God and I please Him always
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will leek you focused on Him and Him only
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Mat 6:3 (CEV) When you give to the poor, don’t let anyone know about it.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Spend time in God’s presence today.
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Matt 6
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Jul 17, 2022 | Singles
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How Do Men Decline Wedding Without Talking? This is our subject of discourse this morning.
Well, He has not said anything, but I think he loves me!
Don’t try that with guys! Guys are very logical, if a guy loves you he will verbalize it or show it. Men are natural hunters in the forest of love. They are pursuers, the pursuit gives them energy.
The only snag is that men allow the hunter in them to die after marriage, and it should not be so, because that in itself has contributed to a lot of crash in marriages.
So, a man will always speak up when there is some commitment there!
His silence should not be misconstrued. A man can sometimes frustrate a lady with silence and cold treatment with the intention to make the lady back out.
So, he doesn’t pick your calls regularly again
He doesn’t call you. He says he is busy!
Easily irritated at you.
He’s refusing to talk about wedding plans or simply avoiding conversations around that area.
He refuses to meet your parents and pastors.
The only thing he wants is probably sex.
Now, that is a defective and manipulative relationship
All the above attitudes and body language are indicative that he is not interested.
Whenever a guy is like this, don’t try to resort to begging him, because the reality is often that he has left several weeks or months before you start noticing the attitudes and tendencies.
If you beg him and the relationship ensues, it is usually for a while and that is mostly because the guy perceives that he has some benefits coming out if the relationship. However, wedding is far from his plans.
The next time a guy grows cold on you for months without any change, just know what he is saying. This is How Men Decline Wedding Without Talking
God bless you. Have a great service today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will not be confused. I have light and direction.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will lead you always in your relationship
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Pro 4:20 (BBE) My son, give attention to my words; let your ear be turned to my sayings.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Read a good book on relationships today
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Prov 4
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Jul 16, 2022 | Singles
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How to exit properly from an ex is the topic we started discussing since yesterday. We looked at one crucial way to fro that which is Forgiveness.
The next way to do this is emotional disconnection.
Emotional Disconnection.
The Ex with whom your soul is intertwined is difficult to let go. You have written off the relationship, you have broken up, and you thought you have moved on, but you discover there is a strong soul tie that binds you together.
From time to time, his or her thoughts pop up and and you are wondering what is happening.
The way to ensure a disconnection emotionally is to put a stop to all communication. Notice I did not say you should be involved in some bitterness of entertain the unforgiving spirit
You can control and minimize all communication without the coloration of bitterness.
Avoid the use of “Dear,” “Love” “sweetheart” and so on.
Do not visit an ex with whom you have been sexually active before because one thing can lead to another and before you know it, you are back to your vomits.
How to exit properly from an ex? Do not go and greet and stay overnight.
Do not buy special romantic gifts for him or her. You see all those small gestures, which on a good day looked cool, are the reasons why you are unable to move on.
Do not try to reach out on special days with gifts and the like. Those gifts can recall and bring back memories, and with the memories can come unnecessary emotional vulnerability.
Moving on means moving on.
How to exit properly from an ex? Distract yourself emotionally from him or her by getting busy in church, or by meeting new friends. Stay in the word regularly so that your soul can be renewed as well.
Why is it so important to know how to exit properly form an ex? The reason is not far fetched. If you don’t move on, you will not be able to go to next phase of your life especially as it relates to marriage.
May God bless you massively.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am able to decide for God and for good
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
I receive Grace and strength to make quality decisions in my love life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offence. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Colossians 3:12 – 14 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Make that decision that will make you better today
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Col 3
