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What exactly is true love? How do I know if a man truly loves me? How do I know if a lady truly loves me?

While putting in mind that there are so many definitions and perceptions of what true love is, it is pertinent to remind ourselves that true love can only be defined by Scriptural standards. Why is this so? God is love.

True love can only come from anyone that really knows God. A man that doesn’t know God is incapable of showing true love. He may be caring and nice by your own standards, but as long as He doesn’t know God, he doesn’t understand the dynamics of true love.

That is why we will be going back into the Bible to see the true definition of love.

And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her. And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was a virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do anything to her. –2Samuel 13:1-2 (KJV)

In our devotion this morning, the story of Amnon comes to mind. Verse one of the above scripture tells us that Amnon was in love with his sister.

Verse two tells us that she was so vexed with love that he fell sick. It was no longer a soul’s battle; it became rottenness in his bones.

From the above, one will naturally conclude that this is genuine love. What do you think? Was the love genuine?

For him to fall sick, he must really be in love! Isn’t that how some men come around you and truthfully tell you that they can’t eat again, sleep again because of love? Can we conclude about a man’s love for a woman by virtue of his being “vexed” to the point of sickness?

Look at a few translations:

Amnon was obsessed with his sister Tamar to the point of making himself sick over her…–2Samuel 13:2 (MSG)

Can obsession equal true love?

And Amnon was so troubled that he fell sick…–2Samuel 13:2 (AMP)

Can being troubled equal true love?

And he was so deeply in love that he became ill… –2Samuel 13:2 (BBE)

Can being deeply in love equal true love?                    

Amnon became frustrated to the point of illness on account of his sister Tamar. –2Samuel 13:2 (NIV)

Can being frustrated equal true love?

Well, before we conclude, let’s see what happened a few verses away.

Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her. –2Samuel 13:2 (KJV)

Here is the Message translation:

But he wouldn’t listen. Being much stronger than she, he raped her. –2Samuel 13:2 (MSG)

This couldn’t be true love! How would you rape someone you profess to love? Something is not quite right there. Sometimes all he wants is sex. That is not love! Sometimes, all she wants is your money. That is not true love!

To be continued…

God loves me. I will comprehend what true love is and operate within its boundaries. I am not confused. I have a sound mind. I receive God’s kind of love

I break off from all emotional bondage. Spirit of God, lead me and guide me in my relationship, I resist every spirit of confusion and manipulations.

Better is a dinner of herbs where love is than a stalled ox and hatred therewith. –Proverbs 15:17 (KJV)

Adjust your attitudes and start relating with the one who truly loves

Ezekiel 1-2


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