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There’s a reason God sometimes delays the kind of love you think you’re ready for. God is more concerned about your heart than your relationship status. Many people rush into love thinking it will heal the wounds they have faced, i.e, loneliness, rejection, heartbreak, and fear. The truth is, love doesn’t heal you. God is the only healer of body and soul.
When you don’t give God access to your broken places, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you. You will expect your partner to fill voids only God was meant to satisfy. That’s why some relationships feel like cycles of disappointment because what you’re really craving is healing, not romance.
Before Adam ever received Eve, he was whole, walking with God, working, and worshipping. It was in that place of completeness that God decided it was not good for him to be alone. He didn’t say Adam was lonely. He said he was ready.
Meanwhile, being healed before dating doesn’t mean you’re perfect. It means you’ve let God into the mess to allow Him to make sense out of your story, and you’re no longer depending on someone else to fix you. Relationships thrive when two whole people meet, not when two broken hearts try to make each other breathe.
God is not punishing you by keeping you single. He’s preparing you. Don’t despise the season of healing. It is the foundation for the love story you’re praying for. As Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.” Let Him bind up yours.
When you let God heal you, you stop chasing temporary affection and start attracting purpose-aligned love, and that’s the kind of relationship worth waiting for.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader who lives in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
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1. Respect His Role
Acknowledge his position as the leader of the home, not because he’s perfect, but because it’s God’s order.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
2. Speak Kindly and With Respect
Use respectful words and tone when speaking to him or about him, even when you’re correcting or disagreeing.
3. Appreciate His Efforts
Say “thank you” often – for providing, protecting, leading, and trying his best.
4. Support His Decisions
Even if you have your views, allow him to lead and trust his judgment. Please share your thoughts, but don’t override him.
Practical Ways To Honor The Man
5. Pray for Him Daily
Cover him in prayer. A man carries weight you may never fully see. Prayer shows you value and support him.
6. Don’t Compete With Him
Don’t try to take over his role or constantly challenge his leadership. Work with him, not against him.
7. Celebrate Him Publicly and Privately
Praise him before the children, friends, and family. Speak highly of him, not down.
8. Seek His Input Before Big Decisions
Let him know you value his opinion. Don’t just inform him—include him.
9. Be His Peace, Not His Stress
Let home be a safe place. Choose patience and understanding instead of nagging or criticizing.
10. Believe in Him
Even when he’s not there yet, show that you trust in who he is becoming.
These small actions speak volumes and help build a healthy, respectful, and loving relationship in which both partners thrive.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader who lives in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
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Today, I want to talk about something that doesn’t always get said out loud. What happens when you’ve caught real feelings for someone, and it honestly feels like a gift from God… but then God tells you, “This isn’t it.”
Maybe you met someone who checks almost every box on your list. They love Jesus, they’re kind, they make you laugh, they actually get your weird jokes (on time), they’re responsible, emotionally mature… all the things you’ve prayed for. And you’re thinking, “God, finally. Thank You. This is my person!”
But then something unsettles you. A gentle nudge. A whisper from the Holy Spirit. Or maybe a clear sense that God is saying, “No, not this one, and it’s confusing. Because everything feels right.
So what are you supposed to do when your heart says yes… and God says no?
1. Let Yourself Feel the Disappointment
First, be honest. Rejection hurts, even when it comes gently from God. So don’t fake a smile or pretend you’re fine. God can handle your feelings. He’s not afraid of your tears or your questions.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18 (NIV)
You don’t have to be strong all the time. You just have to be real.
2. Just Because It Looks Good Doesn’t Mean It’s God
This part is hard. Because when someone is mostly what you want, it’s tempting to talk yourself into believing it’s God’s will. But “almost right” is still wrong if God says so.
There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death. Proverbs 14:12 (NIV)
God sees the full picture.
3. God Isn’t Being Cruel. He’s Being Kind.
It might not feel like it, but God saying “no” is often one of the kindest things He can do. He’s not trying to ruin your happiness. He’s protecting your future.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you… Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
That person might be great, just not God’s great for you. He knows the road ahead. You don’t.
4. Don’t Try to Force What God Is Gently Closing
One of the biggest mistakes we make? Pushing through red flags because “we prayed about it” or “they love God too.” We try to write the story our way.
But forcing something that God is closing will only wear you out.
Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Psalm 127:1 (NIV)
Let Him build your love story. His version is better than anything you can try to hold together with your own hands.
5. Peace Is Often Louder Than A Yes
You might not get a booming voice from heaven. But you’ll know when you’re in step with God because there’s peace. Real peace. Not butterflies. Not adrenaline. Peace.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts… Colossians 3:15 (NIV)
If you have to constantly convince yourself it’s right… it might not be.
God sees you. He knows what you long for. He knows what you need. And when He says no, it’s not rejection. It’s redirection toward something fuller, deeper, and far more lasting than your feelings today.
So what do you do when God says no to your feelings?
You pause. You listen. You trust. And you let Him love you through the ache.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
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There is that space between “I’m working on myself” and “I think I’m ready to love someone,” but you’re also dealing with memories, soul ties, silent temptations, past mistakes, and the fear that you might not get it right.
I used to think I just needed to wait, pray, and stay busy. But healing and wholeness go beyond that. There are layers to it, things you won’t post about. Areas where it’s not about doing devotions or attending programs—it’s more about dealing with the stuff you’ve been ignoring:
That situationship you never fully healed from.
The attention you still crave from people who aren’t serious.
The guilt from compromising, even when you knew better.
That fake confidence you put on to act like this season isn’t hard sometimes.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” — Matthew 5:8
So yes, wholeness before romance. No pretense whatsoever. Rather, you are you, just growing to become the best version of what God has ordained you to be.
Areas of wholeness
Wholeness here means you’re no longer depending on people for validation. It means your heart has been checked, your boundaries are clear, and your peace isn’t easily shaken just because someone left or didn’t choose you. It’s learning how to guard your heart without hardening it, and that takes real growth, not just time.
Spiritually, it’s about more than reading your Bible or showing up to church. This is about whether your life is actually built around God, or if He’s just someone you run to when your plans don’t work out. If your connection with God rises and falls based on your emotions or your relationship status, something’s off. Being spiritually whole means your identity is rooted in what God says about you—not how lonely you feel, who left, or how long you’ve been waiting. You’re not searching for someone to complete you spiritually; you’re learning to walk with God daily, not just when it’s convenient or when life gets hard. That kind of stability matters, especially when emotions get involved.
Sexually, it’s not just about whether you’re sleeping with someone or not. You can be physically abstinent and still be struggling. Sexual wholeness has more to do with mindset, discipline, and how you respond to pressure, temptation, and loneliness. Are you having conversations you shouldn’t? Are you feeding thoughts and fantasies that slowly wear you down? Are you excusing small compromises because “it’s not that deep”? This is where honesty matters. Sexual purity isn’t just about rules—it’s about not giving yourself away in pieces because you’re tired of waiting. It’s about choosing discipline even when nobody’s clapping for it, because you know your body is not a bargaining chip—it’s sacred. And even if you’ve messed up before, sexual wholeness is still possible when you let God deal with the root, not just the symptoms.
Before bringing someone else into your life, there are certain areas you have to be honest about. Not because you have to be perfect, but because if you’re not whole in these parts of your life, you may end up carrying confusion, frustration, or even damage into the relationship.
Emotionally, it’s easy to think you’ve moved on, until something small exposes the fact that you haven’t. You may not be dating anyone, but your emotions are still tied to someone you stopped talking to months ago. Or you find yourself getting anxious, overly attached, or shutting down quickly because of unresolved issues from your past.
In conclusion
Wholeness isn’t about getting ready for someone—it’s about finally showing up for yourself. The emptiness you feel isn’t fixed by being chosen; it’s healed by letting God into the parts you’ve avoided. Love won’t save you. But God will. And that’s where real healing begins.
Are you a minister, pastor, church worker, or leader, and do you live in Ibadan? You are cordially invited to “Equip” a Minister’s Conference with Rev Femi Oduwole and Rev Gbeminiyi Eboda as part of our 9th anniversary convention.
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Relationships demand more than fleeting emotion. They require something deeper, sturdier, and often uncomfortable, which is tolerance. It’s not flashy, and it rarely gets applauded. Yet, the quiet strength keeps relationships from crumbling under the weight of human imperfection.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2 (NIV),
That phrase, “bearing with one another,” holds within it the heart of tolerance. It doesn’t mean putting up with abuse or neglect. It means making room for the rough edges of another soul, edges God might still be shaping.
For the married, this is often tested in the daily rhythm of life. How your spouse leaves the kitchen after cooking, how they process stress, or even how they express affection may not align with your preferences. But tolerance says, “I choose grace. I choose to love you as you are today, not just as I hope you’ll be tomorrow.”
Singles aren’t exempt from this refining process. Whether it’s in friendships, dating, or family dynamics, there’s always an invitation to practice humility and gentleness. Culture often encourages quick exits when discomfort arises, but Scripture calls us to lean in instead.
“bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”Colossians 3:13 (ESV)
The root of tolerance is love laced with patience. It is recognizing that others are works in progress, just like you. It’s resisting the urge to reshape people into our image and allowing God to do His work in His time.
There is also the other side: allowing others to tolerate us. That means being aware of our own weaknesses and accepting grace when it’s given. That’s humbling. But it levels the ground in any relationship, keeping pride in check.
For the single person waiting for marriage, or the married person weathering seasons of frustration, here’s a truth worth holding onto: Tolerance isn’t settling, it’s sowing. You are planting seeds of mercy, humility, and steadfastness that mirror the very nature of Christ. It won’t always feel rewarding in the moment, but it will shape your heart and your relationships into something deeply resilient.
